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Ongoing vaginal wetness and leaky feeling 2 months after unprotected sex

I am in my 40's and not on birth control.  My periods are very regular, so I abstain during my ovulation times.  I had unprotected sex with someone I know very well 3 months ago.  Before then, it had been nearly 3 years that I had any sexual relations with anyone, due to my choosing. Immediately after having this unprotected sex, and since then, I have had this vaginal wetness and feeling like fluid is leaking out of my vagina. It feels like I'm ovulating every day, or like the semen feels coming out of you just after sex! It is clear and has my usual odor, and not a lot comes out on my panties. I have been to 2 doctors, including my gynecologist, which did a pelvic exam, pap smear, cotton swab, std cultures (at my request), urinalysis, etc, but he says that everything came out negative.  I know my body and I know something isn't right!!  I haven't had intercourse since that time.  I need to know if anyone else has experienced these same symptoms, and what was your diagnosis? Could this possibly be hormonal? This is a very uncomfortable feeling and I want to get it taken care of.  Thanks so much for listening and for any input!!
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I know this may sound like a strange question but...

Is it possible you are just getting aroused?  

Its been a while since you've been sexually active.  Your mind can do some crazy things to your body (even unconsciously). Your paps and exams all came back normal.  You arent pregnant. We can rule all that out.  

And well the process of arousal takes a few seconds in young women and up to several minutes in older women.  

You may be having fleeting thoughts or memories and than a long time later you notice you have wetness?

Just a thought...
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Thanks for your input, but no.  it isn't sexual arousal.  This wet leaky feeling happens even while I'm at work and sex is the furthest thing from my mind! LOL
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I was thinking the same thing...it's happened to me before.
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hormones, stress, who knows, but i have times where i am wetter than id like to be lol. if everything checks out fine with health i guess the only thing left to do is wear a pantiliner. sorry this isnt great info, all i had!! lol
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Good call on the possibility that the Acidolphus (sp?) which I love, too, might have caused a false read if you were checked for an infection. I would call the doc/lab to see if this could have caused a problem.

I hear you on the timing of this and all...and, I was thinking...what are the chances that this symptom of perimenopause could start the day after the, well, hopefully fun night :) Who knows?

Sounds like you are very proactive regarding your health, though...good for you.

Just another thought, too, hormonal imbalances can set off yeast and other infections...hmmm...maybe the night of passion for the first time in three years, as you stated, set off an imbalance. Hmm...just wondering.... (although, actual atrophy of this area would take some time)...The balance of hormones is soooo delicate. Pick up the books anyway, I think you would enjoy reading them. Believe it or not, I use them for my bedtime reading, and I am not considered "geeky" in anyway :)

Take care and thank you for the response,

Mary
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mary53, thanks so much for all of the information.  i am so glad that everything is ok with you now!  i would think that my problem is hormonal, BUT it didn't even begin until i had unprotected sexual intercouse 2 months ago.  it began IMMEDIATELY afterward.  i assumed it was just the normal semen leaking out, but it continued and hasn't stopped! also, it is not urine, so i'm not having a bladder leak.  i'm wondering if possibly a BV infection could have been overlooked?  i was taking acidolphilus when the symptoms first began, in case it was a bacterial infection.  acidophilus replaces the good bacteria, so i don't know if maybe the BV test was marred because of taking this over the counter medication, and that is why it came out negative for BV. i'm hoping and praying that somebody has the answer!
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Hi,

I am thinking that this might be a hormonal situation.

I had the same problem when I hit about 45. I was sent to a urologist (by my ob/gyn) and after a series of tests the doctor said he could not find any problems. But, I continued to "leak." It was not enough that I needed to use any protection but was bothersome none-the-less.

Two years later, I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer after an exploratory surgery (and bothersome cyst was removed...malignant cells were found). In no way am I suggesting a connection between a leaky problem and ovarian cancer, but I am just letting you know how it was that I figured out the problem since I was the one who had to figure it out...

I was sent to another urologist before we scheduled my hysterectomy (and ovary removal)...to see if a urologist would need to be on hand to do surgery on the ureter, since I was still having the leaking problem. But, again, nothing wrong was found. I had the surgery, the hysterectomy (no further cancer found, so no chemo) and the next day, my oncologist started me on bioidentical estrogen (I luckily found out about the crucial need for bioidentical progesterone nine months later and my quality of life improved dramatically). I noticed that after I was on a steady stream of the estrogen that my symptoms of leaking bladder cleared up.

Upon further study, I discovered that testosterone (which I started using about four months after the estrogen) can also be beneficial to help tone the muscles in that area. I obviously was having atrophy to that region once I hit perimenopause. But, none of the doctors ever mentioned the possibility of a hormonal connection...

I was fine for about 5 years with my routine use of bio estrogen, bio progesterone, and testosterone. I have occasionally used estriol or estrace in the vaginal region and that has helped immensely to stop the leaking that occasionally surfaced again and to decrease general dryness ( I know that sounds confusing, as in, how can there be leaking, thus wetness, and dryness at the same time). Both are bioidentical estrogens and also seem to treat the problem locally without adding more hormones to the system in general.

Lately, I have been having to adjust the dose of my progesterone since too low of a dose can be implicated with problems with the soft tissues (muscles/joint pain, pain in the legs from the soft tissues, and bladder problems). But, again, I have no ovaries to help me out with the production of these hormones.

Try to get hold of a few books that I wish I'd had when I was your age. Actually, I did have "Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom" by Christianne Nothrup and due to what I learned in that book, I was very proactive when my first bad pap smear came back...I had surgery for severe cervical dysplasia not related to HPV virus. I would not have known much without that book. And, I was able to ask for what I thought I needed due to the info I learned. THANK GOODNESS.

The main books I am thinking of are "The Wisdom of Menopause" by Northrup, and anything by Dr. Erika Schwartz,MD,  and also work by Uzzi Reiss, MD to learn about the impact our hormones have on our body and what to do when the hormonal levels fluctuate and/or decrease.

When you are in perimenopause, which can start as early as in the mid 30's, you occasionally do not ovulate, and so you do not produce proesterone...and, unless you have had many, many  children (an nursed them) over the years to help the body build up these critical hormones (and these days, this is just not happening),  you are going to have hormonal problems. This is the first generation where so many hormonal problems are coming to the forefront...

Best of luck. Knowledge is power, as I am sure you know...good to ask questions and learn all that you can. This whole area can be rather confusing.

I just posted on the Ovarian Cancer site (recent post from Mary 53 that you might want to check...it has to do with the recent report on breast cancer/hormones....)

Take care, Mary
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What did you find out about that leaky discharge.  I am exeriencing the exact same thing.  STDs have been ruled out.  I would appreciate your input.
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WOW! HEY ENJOY IT. I FOUND OUT AFTER MY DIVORCE AT 45 AND HAD NO CLIMAX WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 23 YRS THAT I WAS A SQUIRTER.  I *** EASYJUST BY A KISS.. YOU NEED A STEEDY PARDER TO ENJOY YOUR NEW FOUND WOMENHOOD. BUT ITS INPORTANT TO KEEP YOUR BODY CLEAN FOR THIS NEW ADVENTURE AHEAD OF YOU.. MEN ARE GOING TO LOVE YOU.. FINE ONLY ONE TO STICK WITH BECAUSE YOUR GOING TO WANT IT ALOT...I WISH I DID NOW ITS TOO LATE IM HEADING INTO UTERIN CANCER POSSIBLY STOMACK CANCER SINCE THEY DIDNT CHECK ME WELL A YR AGO.. DONT KNOW IF ILL BE ACTIVE WITH MY NEW HUSBAND .. WEDDING 1/18/08 I HOPE I MAKE IT ! 53 NOW!
JULIE
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Hey, I think you might have this. i had the same symptoms -- the doc told me that you can get bacterial vaginosis when the pH in the vagina changes -- intercourse can do this, so it makes sense you would get this after having sex! it's easily treated and not an std. besides an antibiotic cream, they also said to take acidophilus pills and to avoid using antibacterial soap, as it kills the good bacteria!

http://www.medicinenet.com/bacterial_vaginosis/page4.htm
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I have an ongoing vaginal wetness before sex which makes sex very unenjoyable most of the time . ... was just wondering if there was anything that i could do to help cure this
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you know sperm sometimes takes days to come out completely....it doesnt all come out rite after sex...it could have just been that....how long did your proble last?

and it also could have been that you had sex and after all the sperm came out you were starting to ovulate.before ovulating you get like an egg white colored mucus ( gross rite ) and that can last for a while too.
some times it has no odar at all.......some times it just happens to women ne where if they are or arent thinkin about sex
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i had this same problem 6 months ago i wasent having sex like that and when i did after words i started get wet alot i thought it was an std but the test for everything was neg even for uti... but months later it stop. the worse part for me was when i set down to pee before i could release my pee it ran out like water and it would do that all the time and if anything it was a turn off completly instead of a turn on i could be walkin in a whole lot would come out...... but to tell u the truth if it was not an std i dnt know what it was but i keep thinking it had something to do with my hormones something i dint like lol
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o yea and another thing im only 21 so it happens in all woman of age so dont worry.....
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I also am cursed with this over abundance of wetness. I hate it and i can't even enjoy sex anymore because all i do is think about it. I worry that my boyfriend wont want me any more, but he says it lets him know that i enjoy him. What he dont konw is that it is wet all the time for no reason. My doctor told me that some woman just make more than others and it changes as you get older and your body changes. I am 23 and i have had this problem for to years. I love sex but now all i think about is how wet i am. I just try to be honest with him and tell him i need to dry off because the felling is not the same for me when im that wet. Usually when we go for a while and i dry off a couple times it gets much better. I wish i knew a cure but i dont. I just tell my boy friend that he makes me wet and that no one else can make me that wet. Then atleast he feels good about it.
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The wetter the better! Don't fret about being too wet :)

Hehe sorry for the rhyming but it was just to make light of the situation. I'm a 30 year old woman who has had experience with many different men over the years. Bottom line in the wet dept. is that men love wet sex...too wet doesn't even exisit for them!!! Your boyfriend is not thinking about it at all as a negative thing and is certainly not gonna leave you for something like that!

Try not to be self conscious about it and just enjoy it! Young women tend to think too much before and during sex instead of just feeling. I used to be worried about not being clean down there or smelling bad if i hadn't showered all day and my bf wanted to have sex. A tip that i've learned over the years: Men don't care about all those little things that we are worried about...they are very good at just being in the moment and feeling the pleasure. We need to try and tune into our animal instincts more and tune out our critical analytical minds.

Besides it feels much better too wet than too dry and at least you don't need to spend money buying lubrication. If you were too dry like many women, it would be worse...dry sex equals painful and explaining to your man that just because you are dry doesn't mean he doesn't turn you on!


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I'm only 23 also, so this happens to a lot of people. It is not just a pre menopause thing. I was worried that my pH was way off for awhile, but i think it could just be the ovulation thing.  It really ***** always being wet though, I felt so abnormal, this forum really made me feel better- thanks guys!
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Hey garage the same symptoms did you ever find out what was causing the problem?
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I just had unprotected sex after 15 years with a man that said he hadn't in a year. I am 56 and going though menopause and I am usually dry as a desert. He had to use lubricate. Ever since then I can't stay dry. I am sopping wet all the time and it has now been 9 days. Clear no odor and does not get in panties but if I happen to feel down there it is extremely wet. I am going to Dr Fri cause I'm scared. Do you know any more? I have been reading about VD and such and most discharges from that have odor and color. At first mine reminded me of antifreeze. Slightly sweet smell. Now no smell. Get an itch every now and then on outside and every once in a while on inside. Please tell me if you know any thing. Thanks
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I just had unprotected sex after 15 years with a man that said he hadn't in a year. I am 56 and going though menopause and I am usually dry as a desert. He had to use lubricate. Ever since then I can't stay dry. I am sopping wet all the time and it has now been 9 days. Clear no odor and does not get in panties but if I happen to feel down there it is extremely wet. I am going to Dr Fri cause I'm scared. Do you know any more? I have been reading about VD and such and most discharges from that have odor and color. At first mine reminded me of antifreeze. Slightly sweet smell. Now no smell. Get an itch every now and then on outside and every once in a while on inside. Please tell me if you know any thing. Thanks
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