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Pregnancy Scare

So my boyfriend and I were fooling around. He was on top and fingering me. He was wearing pants (he was not "exposed" during this time) and I had on panties. I've been to a clinic and they say I'm not pregnant but it's always good to hear more I guess. I don't know... I mean, I keep on thinking that there are signs all around me. Not physical signs or anything, just, like, television. It seems like everything on TV talks about pregnancy or kids and it freaks me out to no end. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he tried comforting me. He reminded me that when we fool around he makes sure to keep his pelvis region a good distance away from mine and that he has remained in his pants so I shouldn't worry, but I still do. Help me!
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For you to get pregnant his bare penis would need to come into contact with your bare vagina - most likely through some sort of penetration. It doesn't matter whether he ejaculates fully or not - pre ejaculation is released just by the male being aroused so both can cause pregnancy if it's come into contact with your vagina from his penis. It also doesn't matter how long his penis was in your vagina for either - sperm can still be released.

As long as it's just kissing and no genital to genital contact is being made then pregnancy cannot occur. When things do progress to intercourse or such like then definitely wear a condom at all time just to be safe.
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kikat is completely correct, as long as your boyfriends penis stays in his pants, there is no possible way for you to be or get pregnant! If it ever does come 'out', put a condom on it right away... Best of luck!
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Well, I've been there. I know it's a scary feeling. First, it is very important, not just the distance amongst you two, but nor you or him touch yourselves or the other and immediately touch the other. If you have done that, it doesn't mean you'll get pregnant, but it's a better way to stay safe if you take care of that detail. How long or how many days did you leave between fingering and the tests? That is very important. Has your period been late? are you on time? What kind of tests did you take? If you have any chance, take a blood test; those are the ones that are more reliable (though the REAL yes or no will come out after 3-4 weeks after having sex, fingering or any like it...if that's so.)
Now, human mind acts in amazing ways. The fact that you are watching all around you baby stuff is normal. As you are scared and worried, your mind fixes such idea or thought in your mind, and when it does so, you eliminate any other 'attraction' factor... it means, your mind will always be attracted to those things that scare or worry you.  If your period/menstruation hasn't come and it's around these days, it may be "blocked" by your stress and anxiety.

To deal with this...
1. RELAX
2. Observe your body... is there any fluid coming out from you vagina?
3. Ask in women's help groups if you have the requirements for taking JAZMINE pills (it's natural)
4. Excercise.
5. Keep up the communication with your boyfriend, he should and must know everything that you feel and experience.
6. Let him talk, he might as well be scared as you are.
7. Don't rush. Fingering,and any other thing as well as sex must be done at their moment... maturity, level of responsibility, relationship stability and maturity, etc. , is important.
8. Take more precautions and think twice before doing anything sexual-related. (Sperms CAN go through clothes!! Beware of that!!)
9. If you really want fingering or so, give time between one session and another. This will make you enjoy more each session and avoid unwanted.
10. Try new techniques. Watching your partner masturbate while you do it, is very exciting and sexy. You'll have no contact, and you'll both enjoy!
11. If you are going to step into a sexual active life, get a gynaecologist. He/she will evaluate you periodically, give you birth control options (pills and so) and will make the best suggestions for you to be all ok.!

If you want to speak it up, please write to ****@ rocketmail.com
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The above poster is correct about our minds being powerful and can start to play tricks on our bodies. But they wrong about the fingering thing. Fingering DOES NOT and CANNOT cause pregnancy.
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I have never said fingering causes pregnancy. Perhaps I didn't explain properly... all fluids coming from penis (pre-ejaculation) have sperms, and because of the level of humidity of hands (when have touched other's fluids) may help sperms to survive, so when fingering sperms may be transported. The probabilities are VERY low, but it does happen. Few cases I've seen, one of them a really close friend of mine... but sperms have to be really tough.
Fingering itself will not cause pregnancy, he can't have sperms on his hands... (he can't unless he touched his fluids ATM). If fingering occurs just take care his hands are completely clean of his own fluids. That's all.
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Thank you so much, this helped a lot really :) just another question though, recently, I've noticed a little cervical fluid that is creamy and white. I read that it could be because of of pregnancy and that freaks me out A LOT. Its just a little so I'm not sure what to think of it. My period should come next week so I really am nervous...
In regards to how long after being fingered did I take the test, it was about 2 weeks after and it was negative. I would love it if you could help me out!
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Creamy white discharge from the vagina can occur in pregnancy, but it can also happen at various times in a woman's cycle as well. If it's thick and more lumpy it could be a yeast infection.

There really was no need to test, because fingering CANNOT cause pregnancy. Trust me on this one. If you've any genital to genital contact or intercourse then it could be possible, otherwise it's not. Try not to worry, you're not pregnant.
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Thank you. I did some research and it's just a part of my cycle I guess. :)
And thank you, but I'd rather be safe than sorry ya know? I guess searching the internet so feverantly has caused me to be so paranoid I think I should test for my own sanity. I'm gonna take another test on Friday just to be absolutely sure. Crossing my fingers my period comes on Monday!
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