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Pregnancy at 43

Hi

I have a healthy 13 yr old boy and a 11 yr old girl.  I had always wanted more kids but my husband did not want, now after he has lost his brother he is anxious for more kids.  I have visited the Gynaecologist who has examined me and said both my husband and myself are both healthy, we both do not have any medical problems in the past and present and we both do not have any down syndromes in the families of the past.

I am welcoming the idea of having more kids but am scared of the fact that after 43years of age you have 80-90% of Down Syndrome chances....I have a heavy flow for 2 days and it carries on slow flow for another 3 days, will this effect the growth of the foetus.  I am scared and have faith in Jesus, yet I would love to know your advise....I have started taking Folic Acids since the past 4 days and will be doing fertility tests...till then I would love to have your valued response.  

Sophie
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Thanks Hart-to-Hart, you sound so positive.  Yes I will take your advise I work in the mornings and also am a choreographer in the evenings, I have not yet missed my first period and am waiting for this week, do you think exercising will harm me at this stage when I am planning to get pregnant and do not know as I am waiting endlessly for answers.....thanks all the same.  I will check with the doctor the earliest time I can take a break from work etc...but then I hope it happens....keep me in yr prayers...Thanks again
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If you are fit, you probably won't even get the complications.  The only thing is, if you are really concerned about Downs, be sure to talk thoroughly with your doctor about what it means and what the odds are.  An option is to use a donor egg, but that is probably not necessary for you, you just need to know your odds and options.  Good luck!!!!!  Annie
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Hi SHF,

according to the articles on the following webpages:

http://www.amazingpregnancy.com/pregnancy-articles/543.html
http://www.marchofdimes.com/professionals/14332_1155.asp

the chances of a women who is in her early 40's having a child with a "genetic defect" such as Downs Syndrome is "less" than 10%, and not 80-90%.  It is much harder for a woman in her 40's to concieve (conceive) but leading the healthy lifestyle that you are is going to improve your odds.
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I am 43 and 15 weeks pregnant.  I was told we have a 1 in 22 chance(that's like 5%) of Downs but after they do the ultrasound nuchal test they can estimate better--- I'm at 1 in 395 now which is like a 34 year old, less than 1/4 of one percent. After next u/s I'll know more too.

You can always do amnio if you have an issue with Downs to know for sure although it has a risk too to the fetus, I skipped it.  I will say you have to really want a baby to do it now because it's quite tiring! And stressful! I had  2 m/c's due to bad eggs this year before this one, which is hte most common problem--- 2 out of 40 eggs are bad (at least that's what they say).  And your hormones may be low. So it's uphill battle but I think it' do-able if you're not menopausal and are very committed.  GOOD LUCK!!!!
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I am 43 and ttc my first! There are many good websites on this topic if you google pregnancy over 40. Good luck!!!
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That sounds so exciting starting the baby stage again, don't let fear get in the way of making your fam bigger:) I have a friend w/ 10 kids so shes now in her 40's & her children r fine :) I know it will be a little nerve racking but u know we all worry so much w/a pg no matter our age so don't let this stop u by being an added worry!!! Let us know!!! LOVE & PRAYERS Also I do hair so I see lots of ladies older that r pg & all is fine :) Plus they say u r so much more laid back w/ babies when u r older & enjoy em even more!!!
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Hi!!! I am 37 and am pregnant with my first! I'm pretty excited but worried about downs. I'm going to have the amnio done asap and am not worried about miscarrying due to the test. I do know it's very important to have a doctor that is very experienced on doing these tests and have chosen one that does 50 a month! 43 is nowhere near too old! I have a girlfriend (46) that gave birth 7 months ago to twin boys and they are perfectly normal and adorable. She went through IVF and it never worked and had decided to adopt and guess what? she got pregnant the good old fashioned way!!!!
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I'm 35 and pregnant with my 3rd.  I had the Down's scare, but all went well with that.  

Florida.. you dont have to jump straight into the amnio if you dont want to.  They have a quad screen (blood test) that checks your level for Downs... if its normal, the odds of downs are low.  

i opted to skip the amnio unless it was a necessity.  i had the quad screen come back normal. (that put my odds at having a baby with downs at 1 in 2000 or so)  during my normal ultrasound, they found abnormal nuchal thickening on my baby's head and that made my odds go down to 1 in 150.  since the odds of having a baby with downs was greater than the odds of miscarriage via amnio (1 in 200), i had the amnio.  its not a pleasant procedure.. mentally or physically.  

if you have the quad screen and its normal and have your ultrasound and its normal as well, you can save yourself the odds of miscarriage via amnio.. just a thought.  good luck on whichever you choose!

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just look at the actress gina davis!! about 50 if not yet with 2 little ones! good for you guys!
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i am 42 years old i have 3 kids and they are old now. My youngest daughter is 16 years old. I just got remarried and my husband is younger than me. He wants a baby but I have high blood pressure and I take diovar 80 mg 1 tab. Is there any chances that I can get pregnant at this age please let me know? I really want baby.
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