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Pregnant by fingering?

I'm a male and I fingerd a younger girl like 13 years old but she looks like 15-16 with her body and build, and I didnt know if I could have possible gotten her pregnant because like a few hours or an hour befor I went over there I had masturbated and clean myself off by whipping everything I saw off, but I cant remember if I had washed my hands, but now im worried cause were both really young and past few days I have just been feeling like I want to puke. I havent told her what I may think just incase im wrong about it but she doesnt like have her period till later this month around the end of the month, I would guess which is 2 weeks away and just am really nervous about it for what my parents, her parents, and what the law might do if she was. Please help me out cause im just like having a nervous break down over it. Thanks.
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no, she wont be pregnant.
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How old are you? You mentioned what "the law" would do if she was pg, so I'm curious. You should read a book on sexuality education, and should also find out what the laws in your state are regarding sex crimes. In some states, a 17-yr-old is considered an adult. If you, for instance, lived in Texas- this is considered aggravated sexual assault of a child...and the judge wouldn't care how old "she looks."
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Dont be worried sperm dies after ten minutes of being
exposed to oxygen so as long as there was oxygen shes
not pregnant dont even sweat it.
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Yea im not in texas but since i did just turn 17 in june thats why i am worried about the law cause i am close to 18 now and can be tried as an adult. Thanks for yalls input i feel alot better now. I think im was just kinda wiggin out on it because i mean i havent really been with a girl so since this is the first thing i did its just like O.O and got my nerves all shot up. I appreciate it alot and thanks.
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oh and if anyone else has comments please put them up cause even thought i have had yall that already commented on this subject the more the better just so if people have situations like me will be able to get more advise on the subject.
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if from what you described is indeed accurate you can relax. she's not pregnant and if she pops up pregnant, you can be confident its not yours. you didnt have sex right? or is there more? i believe sperm does "die" when it hits air but i do not know how long after. i think you are more worried and sick over her age than the incident so just chalk it up a a lesson learned and stick to girls in your class or where you frequently go that you know they are your age. how did you "hook up" w. her? what were the circumstances?
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whom ever this girl is.. If she does say that she is pregnant than its most likely someone elses child. Unless your related to GOD and a miracle has just happened. But apart from that theres no way you can get someone pregant with a finger
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Nope - she cannot get pregnant by fingering. However, if you continue to put yourself in compromising situations with girls then the next step that you will most likely take is to go all the way with her and have sex.

Once you are an adult and you decide to have sex it is important to be ready. You must wear a condom the whole time! Make sure the girl is at least 18 too.

Maybe it's the mom in me that wants you to wait until you find the girl that you are going to marry. It really is NOT worth the risk of getting a girl pregnant and possibly getting or sharing STDs.
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I would stay away from 13 year olds. If your 17 you should start looking for someone more your age. 17 is too early to start sexual relationships, but 13 is way too young. Doesnt matter how hold they look or act. The fact is 13 is too young & you dont want to get yourself in trouble.
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(Kjsk) Thanks, I will post an update I guess at the end of the month cause even though I feel alot better after reading everyones comments I think I will still feel shaky till the end of the month comes around.

anyone else has comments to the subject please put them up and thanks again.
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(Kjsk) Nope didn't have sex, no theres no more, lol yea I mean when i am just out by myself i think to myself about the age but when she comes over to my aunts house were i usally stay at on the weekends its just like that all seems to disaper cause i see these other younger girls that look like there young but she doesnt but yea i just need to cut ends but schools started now also so i wont be able to go over my aunts really anymore so that will help with me keepin my distance and what not.  I just meet her at a cook out one night and we were swimmin in her parents pool and started chattin and everything and we started hittin on eachother and everything and then a while latter she told me her age and i was just like damn...

(Peena) Heh yea i went and talked to my sister the other day about it all cause she actually just got pregnant with her b/f and i think just having her in that state too just put some stuff in my mind and just freaked me out a little bit. Yea what you said is exactly what her and her b/f said.

(Itsme25) Yea this was definently a reality check for me. I havent had sex yet thats one thing i dont think i would be doing regarless of this situation if it had never came up but yea i understand where your comming from. Lol yea ill be wearin a condom and more than likely gona see if shes on birth control too. Yea ima do my best to wait till im married but you know what the say "stuff happens" not to say ima let myself be like well i can just use that saying and its ok. Yea and def dont want any STD's or anything of the sort.

(Jm9783) Yea why i think i was stuck for a while on it jm9783 is cause i use to be a bigger boy and now im down to 170lbs lost 47lbs over a year from last sept. and now more girls notice me more and talk to me more cause really right now im not looking for a relationship im just looking for attention thats all really. Yea and def dont wana get myself in trouble at all especially with all the things i have going for me right now with school and college comming up here pretty soon.

I would like to thank everyone for there imput and ima take it all to heart. I really do appreciate it for taking the time and helping out with my delema.
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sounds like you are back on the right track (you wandered off a bit) but i think you'll be ok. i wasnt sure at first/in the beginning but your last post made me realize what you were thinking. congrats on losing the weight and like you said, you feel good about yourself but just focus on the verbal attention (wow, you look great...and so on) just cuz ya lost weight doesnt mean you have to fool around w. girls.i was in your situation when i was young too. i hung around the older boys, 17, 18 and i was about 13, 14. i always told them i was older when i was not. im 36 now but i do remember it all like it was yesterday. just stick w. the girls in your own class or where ever you hang out (you know what i mean). focus on grades, sports, music, whatever you like to do and worry about all this sex stuff later..much later. you'll be glad you did and so wont the girl you decide to date. take care of yourself and glad you let us know whats going on. look out for your sis too ok?
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oh i forgot to congratulate you for not having sex yet either. way to go boy!!!
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dont feel shakey (shaky) at all! you have nothing to worry about (unless you did indeed sleep w. her and your not coming clean w. it out of fear). if what you say is true, you can rest easy..seriously. even if you had a big glob of "it" on your finger and inserted your finger in her you'd still be ok. i get the feeling you are more worried about the age situation and it may come back to bite ya.  has the girl called you at all? does she want to get together w. you again? is she worried she may be pregnant? its all still fresh in your mind. give it time it will all calm down.
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(Kjsk) yea and no I told you the whole story lol if I was afraid to tell anything I woulda lie about her age or somthing or not told yall I had masterbated even though I mean come on we know everyone does it and if they say they dont... you know there lieing. Lol I love how you said "it". Yea i just got off the phone with her just a few hours ago cause I told her maybe when shes older we might be able to go out if we still feel the same about it and she seemd fine with it. Can you send me and e-mail cause you have helped me out so much and i would love to just chat with ya and if i had any more questions or concerns we could just do it like that or if you have like aim or somthing. My e-mail is ***@**** and put a subject that i would know if you do sned me an e-mail so i know its not some junk mail. Oh and she wants to see me and all cause she misses just bein around me but i think she has more of an attraction to me than she would a guy her age anyways because of the age and i can drive and so on. You know how that is riight? Eh she hasn't even thought anything about it. Just I suddenly thought of it and it just got me paranoid from there. But yea please do send me an e-mail i would love to hear from you and you have been a great help to me truely. oh and also send an e-mail to ***@**** incase i dont get it on yahoo. Oh and I messed with her like umm the 4th of this month I think it was and the other day she does cheerleading so she tends to get hurt and said she was sore and i manifested that into my head if you can imagin and my sister was like was she hinting at somthing or did you just come up with that  on your own. i was like i came up with that on my own. She has a hurt wrist atm from cheering. Well i have to go to bed cause schools in 7 hours and i stayed up till 12:30 last night just to wake up at 6 this mornin and it was crucial. please send me an e-mail. ttyl.
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im glad i was helpful to you and youre feeling better about the situation. im also glad you "cut the ties" as best you could with the young girl. i would love to help you out (because its my nature) but unfortunatly youre not supposed to post email addresses here. ANYTIME you wanna post here on the forum, i will be here and so wont many others with awesome advice. take care of yourself and dont hesitate to post again for whatever reason. be good!
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I disagree with the comment of "even if you had a big glob of "it" on your finger and inserted your finger in her you'd still be ok.".  

I don't think it's very likely that in this particular case the girl is going to get pg, but if you're introducing a big glob of semen to the vagina then YES pregnancy can happen!  I know you said you wiped your hands and so that's why it's highly unlikely in this instance.  But be warned that even though the outside of a "glob" is exposed to air, and in theory that would kill those swimmers, the inside of the glob is NOT exposed to air and those guys are very much viable.  There's millions of sperm in one ejaculation and it only takes 1 sperm to make a baby.  So no matter how the semen gets introduced to the vagina, they can still swim.

Although rare, a woman CAN get pg by simply having semen at the entrance of her vagina - they're not called "swimmers" for nothing.

Just be sure to be educated about every aspect before you go fooling around with more girls - PREFERABLY your own age!  You've probably lucked out this time, but stop playing with fire.  You can go to www.babycenter.com and read the articles under Conception to research fertility further.  

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(Kjsk) Yea I still think about it from time to time but when ever I do I just come on here and read what everyone has said and it relieves me some. Yea, she still calls me and all but time will tell. Yea didnt know about the e-mail thing on here sorry. Yea hopefully I wont do anything to get myself into a situation to get me back to this point of asking everyone what they think will happen, I wont hesitate and ill check up on this forum convo to see if yall have anymore oppinions on the matter.

(IWantToBeAMom) Thanks for your opinion on the matter.  Yea there was no "glob" on my hand.  Yes thank you and thanks for your advice and knowledge on the subject.

Yea if anyone else has any input on the topic please post.  I will probably send a post latter on at the end of the month/begining of the month to let yall know how everything is and all. I guess just sit back and wait huh.
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i kind of said that comment to make you realize that you really have nothing to worry about. however, i am a teacher of education but not sex education and since this is a forum where people (young and old) look for advice similiar to yours,the statement could be misleading.i just knew you didnt have "it" on your hands as you stated you wiped it off so i knew that wasnt your case. yes, i guess it could happen(anything is possible) but pretty darn rare. i wouldnt worry waiting. just go about your daily business and check in again. take care.
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(Kjsk) Today my nerves have kind of calmed down a bit and I just got off the phone with her cause she still wants to talk to me and all. What kinda made me shakey (shaky) again is that she told me her boobs hurt.... I dont know if maybe there just sore or she did somthing in gym the other day or cheerleading but its got me nervous all over again. Any idea upon what this might be?
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first off, stop looking up things on the internet it will scare you all the more. second, yes, breasts hurting/soreness are a sign of pregnancy but also a sign of getting your period. thats why many woman dont know if they are pregnant or not because often the symptoms are all very similiar. however, i can tell you she's getting her period and thats why they hurt. i wonder why she felt the need to divulge that her breasts were sore to you? also, just out of curiosity, how do you know she even really gets a period? she's what? 12? or 13? how did that even come up? i dont fool around w. a guy (well, not anymore im married) and then say to him... im getting my period in 2 weeks?    
i hope you are not home from school because you are sick from worry! school just started and you dont want to miss too much. (teacher talking here). anyway, you do sound like you are a nice person and i wouldnt want you to be mean to her or blow her off especially after you fooled around with her. just make it really clear to her that you can chit chat here and there no problem and be there as her friend but the age difference is too much. explain that you found her attractive and thought she was much older and thought it was ok. she should understand but i can guarentee that she is thriving on the attention that you are giving to her. you also may be thriving on the attention too because it works both ways. you are older and it probably feels good to be helping someone younger like "big man on campus" you know? and to have someone younger looking up to you and you know she finds you attractive or she wouldnt have went w. you. plus, you are giving her the "time of day", you probably come off as protective, now how attractive is that for a young girl? my concern for you is that the more you talk to her the more you place yourself in another situation that is very likely to occur next time you see each other. how do you really feel about her? are you attracted to her still? be honest.
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(Kjsk) Ok I will stop I was just trying to find out more information for myself to try to prepare myself for bad or good and get a feeling for what other people are going threw with the same issues, but I will stop.  I really dont know I mean I was about to get off the phone with her anyways cause mom came up here and was like alright time for you to go to sleep and she goes out of no where. My boobs hurt. I said "Yea what were you doing?". Then she came back with "Oh I was in the locker room with some boy yada yada yada" I went silent then she was like "you know im just kidding right?"  She will refer to her week of having her period as a time she gets to eat anything she wants to cause she can. Plus she'll get pissy with me and will be like dont mess with me im on my period so thats how I know about that. She is 13. It came up because my uncle, cousin, and I all have a raw since of humor which most people dont find funny and get mad at so thats when she told me she was on her period and not to make her mad.  No I have a slight fever 97.4 but my stomach, head, neck, and back are all sore.  I went to school today for the first period and I was like I just cant go threw a whole day of feeling like this at school so I called mom and came home.  Yea today was my busy day but me being sick actually worked out for me being home today cause there was 2 page bibliography for renglish I didnt do, work book pages in spanish, quiz test and homework in socialstudys I didnt do either cause I was looking up everything online last night. What subject and grade do you teach?  Yea im sure shes loving the attention from me with also like i said a few posts up since I am old and I can drive she wants to hang on to me more cause Im sure when you were my age you liked older boys... which girls dont (exception of few). Actually when she mentions boys I dont make myself sound jelous or anything for the simple fact itll seem like maybe were an item or somthing. I have also told her from when I first met her she could go out with other guys and when she gets older there might be a possibilty. We have gone back and forth on that subject. Well like right now since I dont see her. Im not missing the attention from her. Even when I talk to her its like I dont really care for it its just being in person is what I like so as long as like I dont go over there or anything I should be straight.  Eh how do I feel about her? Im not really for the relationship right now but there was only one girl I did go out with for a while that broke up with me cause it was supposible my fault her grades droped... lol bs, but me and her have been talking and she said sorry about how she realizes how much of a B!#%% she was being to me and now were talking again. But yea im just for the attention really so for how do I feel about her? Umm nothing thats keeping me locked or anything.  Im still attracted to her somewhat I guess but I think thats cause of her body and build.  She got mad at me the other day cause when we were talking on the phone she was like you never call me beautiful and dont act like you do cause you dont. "It makes me upset that some dude can call me beautiful but you cant, I know you said its like one of your cheerished words but I guess you dont cheerish me that much" (I had told her i dont use the word beautiful like i wont use the word love) Oh but her whole family is kinda kuku for coco puffs. Moms on aint depressent meds, her aunt is on it, her grandmother is on it.... so i think its a chemical imballance that runs threw her family. Hit me up when you can on here. Going to my football game now woohoo should be sold out tonight. Playing our rival school which are ranked number 1 and were state champions so should be great! Ttyl.
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(Kjsk) Yea I am trying not to talk to her I just don't want to not pick up the phone or anything cause I know I will see her again sooner or latter cause my aunts house and I use to hang out alot with her cousins. So I am just trying to stop talking but I dont want to make it to the point where she wont talk to me ever again. Maybe you might have advise on best approach cause I am just a nice person and I have a problem of just being an ass to some one like if I didnt pick up when ever she calls. Yea hopefully thats what it is since she is young its just her period being irregular or somthing. Cause yesterday I was just reading up on alot of stuff about everything and it was saying boobs being sore were a symptom of being pregnant.  No she doesnt think she could be pregnant at all. I told her I have been kinda depressed like these last 2 months for some reason cause im usally a pretty cheery person and I can take a guess why I'm kinda like that this month and im sure you can take a guess too. I've kept it all to myself so far cause just incase I dont want her to be worried about it for as I read up stress and all can make you be late or even skip your period.  I'm home today sick from school which sucks but at the same time it doesnt cause i forgot alot of homework I didnt do yesterday cause I was looking up everything on the internet.
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attention..she's looking for attention. try hard to not talk to her. you already very kindly told her why its best not to. you will perpetuate the situation. also, her boobs are probably hurting/sore because her period is coming. that is a sign/symptom that we get the pleasure of having. i think i asked you this but im not sure. is she thinking she could possibly be pregnant? did you tell her you were worried or did you keep that to yourself?
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You there Kjsk?
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im here. i sent you a long response one but i guess you didnt get it? i will try again later ok? hope all is well.
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back to the girl and her statement when you were on the phone with her. she wants you to compliment her. i dont know if you have complimented her in the past but she is looking for it now. maybe you've said, gee,that top looks pretty or geeze, your b----look huge in that top. either way, it seems that she wants you to say things, anything about her you know...chest. thats why she brought it up by saying they hurt. she wants you to comment on them even if its derogitory. she is looking for attention.
i do think its good that you were looking up info. on the internet to make you more knowledgable but too much info. can scare you. it can get the better of you. also, you doing your "research" you'd find that sore breasts are a sign of her period coming.
her comments about other guys is so typical and they are to make you jealous. plain and simple. she wants you to realize other guys are looking at her so you should be looking at her too.
ya know, its really weird. when i was 14-17 all this kind of stuff that you are going through was going on in my life and seemed soooo complicated, such a big mess. now its all so easy to read/to see through. its like, how could i not "see" it all back then when its all so clear? experience and age thats why. someday you will see it too. maybe you already have?
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(Kjsk) Hey sorry I just checked it and got it thanks im reading it now. I never checked it cause I figured I wouldent get a response on there from it. Hmm I guess we will start chatting via e-mail then ^^
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hi, hope things are going well. no email ok? just post here if you have and questions or concerns. besides you will have a lot more help/advice from those who have been there. take care.
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hi ,my gal touched my penis and gave some hand job where i did not came out still ,but after 2-3min she just inserted her hand into her vagina and started finger f***.Does this act has any chance of getting Pregnancy?
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