Really tight down there

[flyygurl23]

I had this question before but it seems a little different now. I had said when me and my boyfriend have sex my vaginia area is tight, but now it is so tight that it feels like I am a virgin it kind of hurts can someone help me because I  don't know whats wrong with me

[paranoidpatty]

Is it too tight because it's too dry or just tight period?  If it's too dry, try some lube.  

[pixijal]

Try getting really into it, having a lot of foreplay prior to intercourse...and relaxing.  Don't allow penetration if your not fully aroused.

[free spirit]

I found the following by googling vaginismus:

Sounds like you have vaginismus, which is a spasm of the muscles surrounding the vagina that closes the it. This condition causes penetration to be difficult and painful, or even impossible. It can result from past sexual trauma or abuse, other psychological factors, or a history of discomfort with sexual intercourse. Sometimes no cause can be determined. In order to confirm that this is they cause, you need to see your doctor. You can read more about it here
http://www.sexwithoutpain.com/vaginismus.htm

[flyygurl23]

No I had no abuse and when I get wet I am like a water fall but it still hurts no matter how relaxed or how aroused I am I just don't know what is wrong with me.

[gooberwatts]

Hey I am like that too... I have only ever been with my hubby, but I know that when we first started to have sex we would do it more that once a day and I was always really tight. I thought that it was just because I was new to it and I would loosen up.... But here it is almost 5 years later and I still have problems with being to tight to insert "it". I have never needed to use lube... once we get into I am plenty wet enough... When it is really bad I try different positions... Him being on top or from behind are the ones that I have found to really help. I am pregnant with my first baby now, so hopefully after I deliver the baby I will loosen up. If u ever find out anything that u think will help let me know!

[free spirit]

flyygurl,

The spasming of the vaginal muscles does not mean it has to be caused by abuse. Sometimes it just happens. There are a whole lot of nerves down there and sometimes things just don't work right.

Find a good gyn, some one who will listen to your concerns.  Sex shouldn't hurt.