I am 66 and my husband is 62. Due to a misunderstanding on both our parts, we stopped having sex about 8 years ago. Our love never stopped and we always hold hands and enjoy being with each other but just didn't have sex. Now, at our age, we've "rediscovered" each other's desires and have resumed having sex. The problem is not only the dryness which I will be correcting with a lubricant after reading comments on your forum but also I am so small and tight. My husband says I feel like a virgin to him but it really hurts when he tries to penetrate. Will this correct as we continue to enjoy sex together again or is there something else that I need to do that will help?
The lubrication will certainly help as those of us of a certain age find out that after menopause and as we continue to age, we simply run out of juice, so to speak. If you are not embarrassed to ask your pharmacist, have him/her recommend a lubricant for older women. They DO exist.
Also, your husband needs to proceed VERY slowly...........penetrating further only if there is no SEVERE pain. After 8 years, we don't regain our virginity, but those muscles in our vaginas have atrophied a bit and like any athletic event, they have to be slowly and carefully coaxed back into "fighting form!"
If, after several attempts trying different lubricants and your husband exercising loving patience, the dryness is still causing painful intercousrs, see your OB/GYN. There are medications for this exact issue and they will restore your bodies natural lubrication. Your doctor can also give you some much better advice than I can about how to get the vaginal muscles to relax or stretch or do whatever they need to do so sex isn't painful.
This is absolutely NOTHING to be embarrassed about, this issue is NOT uncommon, and it CAN be fixed.
It may take a few more weeks before everything is working the way it use to...........but it will have been worth the wait.
And I am so happy that whatever the misunderstanding was got resolved. You're both too young too give up the joys of sex!
OH, I just thought of something else you might try. Perhaps if you got a vibrator (NOT a dildo) and when you are alone and very relaxed, give yourself a few orgasms. That MAY help both the muscles (the painful tightness) and the dryness. You can purchase vibrators at stores such a Wall Mart or most larger drug stores or online. You do not have to go to one of the "Sex Toy" stores, which many find too embarrassing.
I wish you both the very best!
That is so sweet... I hope my husband and I can enjoy life together like you do at that age! Could be that you need more foreplay, then try just taking it slow, then if there's no pain, you can pick up the pace. God Bless you both! - Blu
Glad to hear that you have found your sex life again.
It does not matter how old you are as long as you both enjoy it.
You are doing the right thing in lubricating. Not only you needs to be lubricated, but your husband too.
Make sure also that there is a lot of foreplay and for your husband to caress and massage your erogenous zones. When you are well lubricated and ready for penetration, he still will need to go in gently.
Also I would advise you to see your doctor because he can prescribe a hormone cream for you to apply down below. Lubricant wise, there are different ones available on the market so it is a question of finding the one that suits you best, but again the doctor may have some advice regarding that.
The best thing about having sex at our age, is that we do not need to use protection and there is no worries of getting pregnant.
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