Severe Vaginal burning after sex.

[Narusegawa]

For four years now, I've been having an issue with vaginal burning after sex.  I've been to my doctor countless times about it and she isn't doing much.  After having a pap smear done, it came out that I had bacterial vaginosis.  After taking the gel insert meds for the five or six days, the intense discharge smell went away.  But about a week after that I went to visit my boyfriend (he is clean) and about the day after we had sex the first time over that visit, the burning started again.

Overview
- I have sex with my boyfriend and urinate right away afterwards.  The next day I'll eat a few cranberry tablets.  (The juice is too acidic for my system.)

- I don't have a UTI.  (I've gone through that test about ten times now.)  This is not vulva burning or urinary tract burning.  However, it burns in the vaginal area after I urinate and feels as though it continues to the inside of my vagina.  It is extremely painful.  Pressure and heat sometimes helps.

- It only happenes after I have sex.  The extreme milking that happenes during sex produces a huge amount of discharge from my vagina.  I asked my boyfriend if that was normal and he said that it was.  (The past partners he had been with were no different.)

- I have a feeling it has something to do with the high constant amount of discharge I've had all of my life.  Ever since I was little the high amount of discharge was normal.  But now, I've become alergic to it somehow.

I'm 20 years old and can't have a normal sex life with my partner.  My doctor tells me to practice abstinence.  Why should I do that?

Help!  Thanks. :)

[beentheredonethat4]

Men also carry Yeast and other STD's, both of you should go to a  free heath clinic, get tested and treated at the same time. Then let you partner know that  if he's messing around with another woman; without a condom (sometimes with), this vicious cycle will continue. In my 20's I went to my gynecologist every month and he never told me, until years later, (and after his nurse hipped me to it) that I was being re- infected by my BF . That insurance card money and test fees will have you going in for services forever, thus the free clinic, who's mission is eradication of communicable disorders,  not your pocket/money/insurance allotment.

[kilolow25]

Hi, this was an issue for me many years ago when i was a teenager. I never said anything but it felt like knives cutting me with every glide when he and i had sex, we dated for years. No doctor saw an issue and could not explain. He and i broke up and ran into each other about 10yrs later.  Same thing and it was an unreal experience....painful. Come to find out I was allergic to his pre secretion & sperm (semen).  No partner before or after him was an issue and I never dated him again because he was the issue.  Ok, He may not understand you, tell him to do his own research b/c it's real; not to be mad but a team player. To help you through it & to not make you feel to bame.  b/c he doesn't feel any pain he may make you feel as if the issue is being over exaggerating.  Go to WWW.GYNOB.COM for good info.  Good Luck :)

[jaiabird]

I've experienced the same symptoms as many people have in this forum - burning during and after sex, frequent yeast infections and UTI's, sometimes bleeding during/after intercourse. After literally 10 years of struggle with this, I can now report that I am on the other side of this, and I would very much like to share with you what worked for me in the hopes that some of these solutions may work for you.

For treatment, after the fact: While I started out using traditional Western medicine (prescription antifungals and antibiotics), they actually stopped working for my body after only 1 or 2 rounds. Out of necessity, I turned to herbal and homeopathic treatments. Boiron Yeastaway worked amazingly well for the yeast infections, combined with a no-sugar, no alcohol diet. D-Mannose worked well for the UTI's combined with a no-alcohol diet as well. My body also responded extremely well to acupuncture for the UTIs.

Being able to treat the symptoms physically offered physiological relief, but I psychologically, I was a mess because I didn't have a clue *why* these infections kept occurring and felt completely powerless in the situation. Three different boyfriends struggled through this with me, one taking it personally, one blaming me entirely for the issue, and one accepting it completely but wondering if perhaps we had "different priorities" because I didn't seem to prioritize (painful) sex. After 10 years of this, and after finding the man of my dreams, let's just say I was highly motivated to prevent these symptoms from returning. Here's what I found:

(I'd like to preface by saying, this is what worked for me, my heart, and my body. If this doesn't resonate or you're already doing it, please keep on seeking your personal solution, because I believe its out there.)

What I needed was: love, patience, tenderness, and respect.

I've been with a LOT of partners who moved through things apparently more quickly than my body is capable of, and I always thought something was wrong with me physically or emotionally. Turns out, all I needed was a little more foreplay, time, and love. Foreplay that feels purely functional (i.e.purely to produce vaginal lubrication) doesn't (personally) get me there. And I can tell if someone's going down on me just to get me wet because they move faster and more mechanically. Loving foreplay is slower, softer, tender, and much more creative.

I've also been with a lot of partners who viewed sex as an act of pleasure for themselves, rather than as an act of love that they share, let alone give. While many, many men I've been with have valued me and my well-being, when they got going, it was clear that their top priorities were themselves, their personal pleasure, and bringing themselves to climax. In some ways, this is understandable, because the physical sensations can be quite consuming. But sex is a shared act, for mutual benefit. A man who genuinely prioritizes mutual benefit can focus through his personal pleasure and attune to you, your needs, your desires, and your heart.

I recently have had the opportunity to experience sex with a man for whom sex is an act of shared, mutual love. He is deeply attentive to me, my body, and my heart. Because of his attentiveness, I feel safe with him. Feeling safe softens my body and helps me lubricate much more fluidly. My current partner also spends ample time (and I mean like 30 minutes) loving me before vaginal intercourse is even up for contemplation. He does this a) for my own pleasure's sake, and b) to help ensure my body is well revved up before going in any deeper. When things do get to that point, he always asks for permission to come inside, with no strings attached, because he regards it as an honor to enter a woman's sacred space. If I do give him the green light, he goes in suuuper slowly, with lots of love, and lots of tender patience.

While we're having sex, if things start to burn, we just add saliva or coconut oil and things are much improved. If I notice that the dryness seems to come back a lot, I check in with myself and see if I'm holistically in the mood still for sex. It's taken me some time to learn how to respect my body and stop intercourse if my body is no longer interested in it. My current partner is the one who helped me learn how to respect my body; he always wants me to stop if things feel bad, and is often more upset than I am if I report that I was in pain after we finish. He is deeply, deeply ok with me saying, "Hey, I love you, and I think we need to stop for tonight." For him, this is a sign of respect, courage and love. I love him for this.

I hope any of these ideas help you all out.... you all deserve to experience a loving, pleasurable, and deeply gratifying sex life.

With much love,
J

[sksulli]

I have been with the same guy for 5 years.  No problems until 2 years ago.  Whenever we would have sex, I would burn and itch afterwards.  I thought he might be cheating on me.  Sure enough, he was.  Here we are 2 years later trying to work things out.  After he admitted to cheating on my, I went and got tested for EVERYTHING.  I told the doctor about the itching but everything came back clean.  It has progressively became worse.  I have a mild itch all of the time.  If I let him *** inside of me, it is horrible.  Here's the kicker though...It DOES NOT GO AWAY.  I have gone 3-4 months in terrible agony.  If I duche with plain yogurt, it gets back to the mild itching.  ANY thoughts are appreciated.  It is not a UTI, but feels like a horrible yeast infection but no more discharge than normal and no smell.  Doctors can't find anything.

[Vernee30]

Sound like Trich... Sweetheart please get checked.. And regardless of him getting mad it's ur body and health protect yourself,

[meowalong]

I'm so glad I'm not alone. I'm 20 too and have the exact same symptoms that you're having. I started having the symptoms so bad that I actually (once) started peeing a little blood because of irritation. It was terribly painful! But the vaginal burning was the worst.

Turns out that the pill literally made my hormones so out of whack that it threw off the pH levels in my uterus, which affected/irritated my bladder. Also, the excess of hormones changed the pH of my urine as well, irritating it further. This was two years ago. I've never had a UTI, but was tested for it several times. Also went to a urologist, who said everything was fine. Apparently all of my symptoms were related to BV, which recurred for eight months or so, until I got off the pill.

Now, I have an IUD (inserted 8 months ago) but started having the same symptoms a few days ago :( However, I think it has to do with the fact that my boyfriend and I have lots of sex, and the pH level of semen is around 7-8, which probably upsets my (fragile) uterus. I think I have BV again :(

I hope this helps anyone reading. I'm going to see my doctor next week, because it's extremely inconvenient to have these terrible burning sensations. The only thing I can do now is apply pressure, drink water and cranberry juice, and wait it out. I'm going to get an ultrasound as well to see if I have any cysts, because it hurts during sex as well.