Sex Doesn't feel good.

[leighann87]

I am 18 and had sex for the first time when I was 16. I didn't have sex too often then and everytime I had sex it didnt feel good. I just thought it was because I didn't do it often and I wasn't stretched enough. Now I am with a guy and we have sex. A lot. We do it all the time and sex still doesn'tm feel good at all. I could just lay there and not make a sound. Or lay there with a blank expression on my face. But I dont because my man would probably cry.

Is something wrong?
Or do I just have a whack vagina?

[April2]

Maybe you just aren't ready to have sex yet? Most teens aren't, I'm afraid. And most teen boys just aren't experienced enough or mature enough to know how to really please a woman. Most women need men to take it slow and not just jump into things.
Also, it's hard to enjoy sex if you're worried about being caught, worried about getting pregnant or just in a hurry and can't take the time, or in an unromantic place. Women need romance. They need the wining and dining. They need the friendship, the talking and just having fun. Sex isn't everything. It's only a small part of what makes a relationship. Maybe you should back off from the sex and just focus on really getting to know each other and doing fun things together. Do you all do that? Or do you just meet for sex. That would be a turn off for me right there. Like I said, sex isn't everything. Yes, it's nice and important but there are some things that are more important, especially for someone as young as you. I think you need to do something for yourself that will make you feel good about yourself, something you can be proud of.
I don't think there's anything wrong with your vagina. Remember, sex is between the ears more than between the legs. In other words, it's all in your head. If you're not enjoying sex then your mind is elsewhere. Maybe you should give sex a rest for awhile and find out what you really want. Just a thought.

[leighann87]

I dont worry about getting caught because I am in college I have my own room. Im not worried about getting pregnant because I have been on birth control for several months and we still use condoms. Our relationship isnt based on sex. Before we started dating he was my best friend for a long time. We go out on dinner dates and everything. We do lots of fun things together.

[lovemypillhead]

maybe your guy isnt...uh....doing it the right way for u?

it's funny because women expect men to know exactly how to have sex and be all good and know whats up and how to please them, etc....

but, hell--it takes practice!  and lots of it!  seriously.  

he is probably learning as well as u are.

OMG id hate to be a guy.  TOO MUCH PRESSURE in that area.

Good luck tho. I am sure it will be ok. I dont think ur vag is whack. I dont think he is either. I think he is inexperienced.  ALtho, if u act like u like it and act like it feels good and he never knows the difference then he's gonna keep doing it that way and NOT change because he thinks u like it and it feels good. soooo, sorry but u gotta tell him.

In a nice way, of course.

[leighann87]

I think I have female sexual dysfunction.