Sex toys and Pregnancy

[LITTLELADYBUG]

Okay this may sound weird but last night I got out my dildo and it has been so long since I have used it I think I may have gone too deep. It hurt now I'm cramping really bad... Can this cause problems with the baby or pregnancy?

[mslkpage]

I'm trying not to giggle, because I know you're worried. But I can't help thinking, "Bug, you little freak!" I have never heard of sex toys causing problems with a pregnancy. What if you called your dr. and said that you did some serious 'BD'ing' last night, and are having some cramps? How far along are you now?

[LITTLELADYBUG]

I am 14wks and I heard before that if sex causes cramping during pregnancy then you shouldn't do it for a while. :O what would I do without it. I go to my dr next week maybe if I am still cramping I will say something then.

[monkeyflower]

I sure would make a point of talking to your doctor; I'd hate to see you needlessly suffer an entire pregnancy without sex! I seriously doubt you have anything to worry about, but I guess it's better to be safe than sorry. If it were me, I'd probably call today and talk to the nurse or the doctor about my concerns.

[ateague]

I can definately see how sex toys can cause problems, sometimes, a sex toy can be bigger and longer than the human penis.  Therefore, you can do more damage than from regular sex.  I've had my husband go way to deep a couple of times and it can make me bruise a little on the inside, so I kinda' know what you're talking about, but I've never done that while pregnant.  I'd definately talk to the doc. to make sure everything's alright and be careful in the future!

[LITTLELADYBUG]

Thanks You. I will definately watch what I do with my toys in the future. I will talk to the dr. too.

[jaxgoodgirl38]

I can not believe you would risk your preganncy for such things!
I work in a busy doctor's office - I have been an OB nurse for nearly 18 years and i am always amazed at the risks people take.  Aren't you grateful for this miracle baby - call your doc immediately and stop playing around.
I have seen numerous babies killed because of careless mothers who try to pleasure themselves various ways

[gonza]

You have really seen babies die because of a women using this device while pregnant?

[mslkpage]

It's not like she was bungee jumping or slam dancing in a mosh pit- she was engaging in a perfectly normal, private activity. Geez, I seriously doubt anyone has terminated a pregnancy with a dildo.

[luv_babies]

Thank you! I thought that post was a little outa line. Even if there is serious risk to "playing" while pregnant, I'm sure if Lil Lady Bug knew it was such a big no no, she wouldn't have done anything!
Lil Lady Bug-- I'm glad you asked that question because I'm not pregnant yet, but I was wondering also for future reference!

[LITTLELADYBUG]

Thanks for the support ladies.

[clinique_diva]

JEEZ, IT'S NOT LIKE SHE WAS USEING A BROOM HANDLE, WHATS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A PENIS AND A VIBRATOR? ARE U SAYING THAT WOMEN WHO ARE PREGNANT SHOULDNT EVEN HAVE SEX THE WHOLE 40 WEEKS?????

[AndiJ.78]

Until you get in to see your OB, I would abstain from any "activity" down there. The first step they took with me when I was having issues with PTL was "pelvic rest" which meant no sexual activity (alone or with dh) When that didn't help, I went on full bed rest.

I would say to avoid anything that vibrates until you clear it with your OB. There is a concern with the vibration and placental abruption. I have never heard of it with toys, but why take the chance, right? If it is a non-vibrating toy, just be careful!!

Andi

[oceans3]

i have NEVER posted here because i have never felt comfortable. however, when i was pregnant, i was terrified to have sex with my husband and terrified to please myself. i read too many books including.. "what to expect when you are expecting". i have learned to stay away from such books while pregnant because it only scared me more! i read that this kind of stuff during pregnancy could lead to a miscarriage so i never risked it. i will be honest and tell you that my husband and i had sex once during the whole 9 mo. and i think i was about 7 mo. the entire time i worried about the baby and if id lose it. i pleased myself and O'd once! and thought for sure i was going to miscarry regretting every moment. i got crampy and i was scared. i dont know, i dont think you should have dusted that thing off and gotten it out. ya just never know but as everyone has suggested, let your dr. know and talk it over w. them . those things can go in further and cause cramping. i wouldnt do it anymore but thats just me.

[oceans3]

what a dope i am. i thought this was the maternal forum!! i know ive seen "ladybug" over there more often and thats why i thought that. im "still home"

[oceans3]

PS: im not trying to be all high and mighty, i do own "one" myself, however, as i stated, i was too scared to use it(even the real thing) while carrying a baby. dont get me wrong, it reared its ugly head after the baby was born!!

[monkeyflower]

Vibrators, dildos, and all sexual activity is perfectly safe during pregnancy unless your doctor specificially states otherwise. And then, your doctor would make a blanket statement, like "No orgasms", or whatever. Your body (I swear) doesn't know what caused your orgasm, and vibrators are perfectly fine. I don't know what the other poster was talking about, re: miscarriages she sees all the time in her office, because there is no documentated link in the medical literature between sex toys and miscarriage. In other words, I totally doubt her info, and can only assume she's speaking from her personal bias. Really, I swear, the fetus is ASTONISHINGLY well protected.

[JoAnnaRF]

I totally agree with Monkeyflower.. It is absurd to imply that sexual satisfaction is some sort of crazy, selfish, uncaring act! Some may feel it is scary and choose not to partake, and that is a personal choice, but unless your doctor has given explicit instructions not to have sex, then it should be fine. I have had 5 children, and yeah, I continued to have "fun" with my husband from beginning to end. The last trimester, I did find that having "fun" did encourage Braxton Hicks, but that was the extent of anything out of the ordinary, and that was actually a pretty normal occurance anyways. The baby is very well protected in mom's belly and unless you are having painful contraction type cramps and bleeding, I wouldn't worry. Ever heard the saying, "If Mom's happy, EVERYBODY'S happy?" This is true in every sense.LOL
Take care, and no worries!
--J

[oceans3]

that statement cracked me up (if moms happy then everyones happy). there MUST be a mug, bumper sticker or something that states that!! too funny but TRUE!!!

[jaxgoodgirl38]

I thought this board was so poeple could hear from others with experience or opinions. I didn't see anyone else say they had nearly 20 years of experience in this field.  There are many DOCUMENTED cases of foreign substances killing the baby.  Anything that produces excess heat in the vagina or adds to the flow of electricity in an unnattural manner HAS BEEN linked to fetal demise.  I would love to continue to give my opinion as far as womens health.  Do people want to hear theh truth or not?

[oceans3]

first of all, that is why i was so afraid to use "one" or to have intercourse while pregnant.
anyway, what do you mean you thought this board was for woman who had opinions and experience? IT IS! isnt that what we have been doing? sharing our opinion and experience? i felt you contradicted yourself.
go on..  please..if you have 20 yrs experience, share it w. us. no dr. here.

[monkeyflower]

It's fine to state your opinion, and it's fine for me to disagree. I keep pretty current on the medical literature regarding sex (including sex toys) and I can assure you that sex toys are NOT harmful during pregnancy. "Heat" and "electricity" have nothing to do with it.

[JoAnnaRF]

Most tend to shut down and stop listening when someone is yelling, and demoralizing them! To be honest, given your rudeness, I could care less how much experience you have in an OB office. I think you have some other agenda, other than to help or lend advice. Namely ATTACKing someone who didn't deserve it. So no I don't care to hear anything you, in all your infinite wisdom, have to say.
Have a nice day!
--J

[mslkpage]

I think that Jax's opinion is based on her own moral beliefs (ie-masturbation is wrong) rather than documented medical research. I'm sure you can find some extreme bizarre cases where a pregnancy was lost, but not for the most part. There are some sex addicts that escalate their behaviors to dangerous levels, but the majority of people are engaging in perfectly safe, normal behavior.

[maryheather]

Ladies---I will add a personal experience here.  This truly happened to me, with my second pregnancy.
I was diagnosed with placenta previa--(low-lying placenta, causing increased risk of c-section)--and I was in my 71/2-8 month of pregnancy.  No doctor had addressed prior to this incident whether or not sex/masturbation was safe.  My husband and I used a vibrator..external only---and then during the night I woke up and had hemorraged.  I'm certain that it was because of the underlying issue of the placenta previa, however, it was the vibrations that caused the bleeding--proven fact by one of the country's best medical systems.  I'm not saying don't pleasure yourself, or don't use anything--I'm just saying that anything is possible, and just check with your DR to make sure that all is normal.

[dandeelyon]

I have 12 years experience in the health industry as well as assisting in two separate high risk pregnancy monitoring programs. As if that means anything.  I realize that isn't 20 but I'm sure it's enough.  I am guessing that mslkpage is correct about it being your own personal moral views.  If you would like, I would be very happy to post article after article that states that vibrator use during pregnancy is not harmful.  

As long as there are no other concerns with the pregnancy (ie, placenta previa, bleeding, etc), a vibrator is safe.  If your physician says that you are free to be sexually active, you may use a vibrator because they behave the same way as a penis.  If it is battery operated, you do not have to worry about any electrical charges that the plug-in (do they even make those anymore) variety would have.  

If you are concerned, ask your dr.  They have really probably have seen just about everything so don't be embarrassed.

I hope everything goes well for the rest of your pregnancy.

[coffy28]

i'm trying to get pregnant, but i still use my vibrating dildo can this lower my chances of concieving?...b/c most of the time i use it right after my husband and i have sex for that extra umph.

[stranger23]

i have been reading up on the subject of vibrators and pregnancy as since becoming pregnant i cant get enough and i wanted to know its safe im classed as high risk because of the big size of my first baby and having emergency c-section, i have found that there has been no studies into the subject but some people believe its harmful as can introduce infections and others believe that its fine, i think its down to how you feel as you know your body more than anyone, keep your toys clean and stop when you feel you need to, i honestly am staying away from the actual vibrations until i have spoken to my doctor just because of being high risk, with my first child me and my partner were at it the whole time right up till when i was induced and never had any problems.
the people that have seen women loose pregnancies due to toys and intercourse i think you should contact a scientist who is researching this subject because no one has found any evidence to prove miscarriage can be caused by intercourse or toys!!  

[Kim1989]

if your classed as a high risk then i would say no. they say your not really suppopsed to have sex if your a high risk. but if its due to only your babys being large then eh maybe its not the same thing. but yeah just talk to your doctor