So what do you think?

[sarah42nd]

I've been watching all these talk shows and they have all done the usual relationship, find out what your mans really thinking shows.


Well on all these shows they ask the same question? When is it okay to have sex with someone when you are or are not in a relationship with them?

So it could be anyone , you know some girl you ment at the club or knew for a week ( etc). Well most people said they have the 3 time rule. The is rule that if you see the person 3 times, could be 3 times in a year or 3 times in a week or even 3 times in a day.  



well I was wondering what do you girls think about this, and what id your "rule"?

[babylove2006]

Could you explain alittle more?

[glad2bamom]

?

[PGB]

The way it sounds you could see someone three times in Wal-Mart, meet in the parking lot, and do it in the car.  Please tell me this is not what you mean.

[JJety]

"When is it okay to have sex with someone when you are or are not in a relationship with them?"

If you're not in a relationship, then no sex.  If you are in a relationship, then it's when you know they can completely be trusted and you're in love - preferrably after knowing them for several months.

[glad2bamom]

I re-read, and I think (?) she's asking when it's appropriate to have sex with someone new.
Personally, I don't ever intend on having sex with anyone else!!
I know that's not what you meant, though.

To me, sex is literally giving part of yourself away.  I know that others on here are far more liberal than I am, and to each his own.  But, I wouldn't give myself to someone unless I was
A)  Deeply in love and committed to him
B)  Old enough to understand my actions and the potential consequences
C)  Mature enough to accept whatever consequences there may be
D)  Responsible enough to know that there is FAR more to a thriving relationship than sex.  Lust and passion will wane...and all you have left is each other, and the feelings you have for the person that he is.  If you like who you see when you look at him, and if you consider him to be more than a sexual partner, like Your Best Friend, then I would have sex with him.

I will teach my daughter abstinence, and I will use my own personal mistakes as part of my conversations with her.  I wish I would've waited for my husband.

Oh well.  That's all for Sermon #130.  Have a great day.

[babylove2006]

Hee! Hee! Yuo crack me up! I hear ya girl!

[babylove2006]

Wow! I really like what you just wrote. I agree totally!

[sk2006a]

what if you meeting someone really hot while installing cable.  do they HAVE to give you beer first?

[glad2bamom]

In most trailer parks, beer is NOT a pre-requisite.

[sailors wife]

i sure wish you ladies had been around to talk to me after my divorce....does the first time rule apply if you did know them before that one drunken night in your friends bathroom HAHHAHA

[babylove2006]

I know someone who had sex with her cable guy because she did not have enough money to pay. She said she would do whatever and he said he would take care of her bill. :)

[sarah42nd]

No see what they said on the show is when is it okay to have sex with anyone ... On the shows they would ask people in do polls and stuff . Most people answered the 3 rd time you see themm. So yes it could be  the 3rd time you saw that at walmart or mcdonalds.

[JJety]

I know that's not you saying it, but that is ridiculous.

[PGB]

YUCK!!!!

[babylove2006]

The things that some people do. I agree, Yuck! :)

[sarah42nd]

I know it's crazy. I mean seeing some guy at wal-mart 3 times and then having sex with them . I mean seriously.

[sarah42nd]

They also asked another question. They asked all the guys if they could marry someone that they had sex with on the first date .

Surprising.some of the men said they couldn't because she would be too easy.

But then a man got up and said I could because WE both had sex together and if I did it on the first date to . I couldn't judge her for something I did too. It would be a double standard.

[babylove2006]

Its a good way to get AIDS. If you know what I mean. Not very safe.

[sarah42nd]

Thats exactly what I was thinking . Its crazy.

[mslkpage]

In all the shows that I've seen, the "3rd time" rule generally applies to the 3rd date or 3rd time hanging out. I suppose there are a few people out there though that will boink someone after seeing them at WalMart 3 times. There's not a whole lot of places to shop where I live, so if that were the standard, the whole town would be boinking each other.

[babylove2006]

Now I like your other post. That one guy is right. You can't judge someone for doing the samething you do yourself.

[sailors wife]

what if they met at target? would that be more high class haha. i missed that show but are you saying they had sex AT those stores? why did they meet there? interesting dear watson!

[sarah42nd]

Yea, It was on the Greg Bernant* Show, Trya ,Montel (ithink) and Dr. Keith  Show. I think thats crazy.



Yea. I agree with that guy too.

[babylove2006]

I know, I live in a small town too. We don't even have a Wal-Mart. We do have a grocery store though. Oh Great! Lets go to the store to get a man for supper instead of food.

[glad2bamom]

It sounds like one of those teenage "sex games".  You know, whatever color bracelet you have on your arm, lets the guys know what level you're willing to go to.  So, they see the red one, and know that you'll give them a BJ in the bathroom.
What is the world coming to?
(rhetorical question, not necessarily in need of an answer)

[PGB]

See, now you're getting too classy for me.  We don't even have a Target where I live!  We are lucky to have a Wal-Mart!

[sarah42nd]

:) Well thats very true.. Well  I don't know if tehy6 would have sex at the store. Maybe maybe not.  From the show they basically just said 3 time rule. 3 dates,3 times of running into each other (club,store), or 3 meetings.

[sarah42nd]

I agree with you. The funny thing is most of the people( guest and the audience) on the show ranged in ages from 25-45.

[PGB]

I know you said it didn't need an answer, but I thought I would share what I overheard my grandfather say once when I was a kid.  By the way, he was a deacon in our church for 42 years, he told someone (can't remember who he was talking to) "The whole world is going to hell in a handbasket."  It stood out in my mind because I had never heard him cuss before!  I was probably 7 or 8 at the time and I am now 33.  He is probably rolling over in his grave!

[JJety]

"What is the world coming to?"

You know my answer.  ;-)

[sdp4314]

How are you feeling?  Any news?

[PGB]

I sent you an email this morning!  How are you?

[sailors wife]

ya but my handbasket is lined with leapard fur and has a hemi!! ill beat ya all there. what number sunscreen will i need??

[AnnieBrooke]

The stupid things they will ask (and the stupid answers they will get), on talk shows.  I wouldn't take that as advice.

[sdp4314]

I'm good...now I gotta get ready for Thanksgiving...ugh!

I didn't get the email though.

try again....spresnell%hotmail.com

[shygirl1981]

promiscuity nowadays is so unsafe.  growing up in this era has jaded me.  std's spread like wildfire, and people give it up so easily. I didn't realize it until recently, but I've always  viewed sex as being dirty.  and nowadays it is dirty. people sleep around, get std's and its nasty! I think I struggled with self esteem issues when I was younger, and everytime I had sex with someone I felt awful about it. I felt dirty. It wasn't until I had sex with someone I really deeply loved that I figured out that it's not dirty. It's meant to be private and intimate, and as glad2bmom said, you are giving a part of yourself to someone else.

[sdp4314]

No wonder I didn't get it...I typed my own address wrong

spresnell43  at hotmail dot com

[kenziesmom]

So, right now in any given Walmart, there are a lot of people seeing a fellow customer for the 3rd time.  Do they just have a mutual eye brow raise that says, "meet me in the parking lot for a little lot loving in 3 minutes" (seeing as 3 is the magical number here)  That's a lot of lot loving.
  
What the **** is wrong with people?!!?

[AngieEMT]

Just a thought from personal experience. My mom used her own bad choices as an example in her speech. Back-fired big time. I took it more like a free pass. If she did it, why can't I. (Not the best choice I know!) Lucky for me I was infertile then or I might have to be starting to worry about what my own daughter was doing right now. (Unfortunatley - I am still infertile. :( )

[kenziesmom]

I hear what you are saying.  BUT, don't you think being honest about it with your kids (when they are old enough, of course) is best?  If your mom said she didn't have sex before marriage, and you found out she was lying, wouldn't you have been more upset?  Just curious.  My daughter is only six, so I have a while before I have to tell her anything, thank goodness!

[JoAnnaRF]

I guess I'm old, or maybe old fashioned, but I have never heard the 3 time rule. No wonder Wal-Mart advertises with a Big Ole SMILEY face. LOL

[AngieEMT]

I don't know. The world is such a crazy place anymore. How do we protect them from everything (including their own bad choices)? I just know how I took it. Every kid/person is different. (I would have figured it out on my own eventually -  I was born 7 months after my parents wedding - at a healthy 7lbs. 10 oz!)Best of luck!