Still hurting after almost 4 months

[Jah02e]

I had my little girl 3 months ago...will be four months the 14th of November. I can't believe it. Time has really flown by. Me and my DH has sex when we can make time for it. My question is regarding sex and it hurting. I had a second degree tear and it hurt pretty bad for about three weeks. I healed great and my DH says that he can't tell a difference anymore...like I am back to normal. But when we have sex...when he puts it in..it hurts...sometimes just for a second and sometimes the whole time and depending on the position. Sorry it TMI, but if I am on top or he is that is when it hurts the worst....I guess b/c of the friction. It sucks b/c sometimes I like it that way. If we do it doggy style then it isn't so bad..like I have more control. Is this normal? I am going to the doctor on the 14th for a checkup. Should I just wait until then to ask her or should I make an appointment now? I don't hurt any other time...just during sex.

[nanis]

Maybe you can use lube?That area is very sore after baby.Ask dr.I tore with my dd(7) & sometimes still hurts.

[HottKyChick]

I had a bad tear after my 2nd baby and it hurt very very bad for a long time probably 8 months or longer. He had to move really slow when we done it. The best thing for him to do was to use (sorry to be so graphic) His fingers with lots of lube first, gradually stretching me out before we started. Hope you feel better soon, I know how bad that hurts. :(

[Jah02e]

Thanks to you all for your advice and sympathy. I hate that it hurts, but your right about your vagina being tramatized by the whole event. It was worth it though. Sometimes I think I make it hurt when I think about it too much. So next time I am gonna try and relax and enjoy the moment, b/c we don't get a lot of alone time anymore and I know you all understand that:P Maybe I will try the wine...sounds good!
Thanks again!