TOo early to tell

[pinksugar]

Okay I need advise. I posted about two days ago about how
I have been having unprotected sex wiht my boyfriend lately well for the passed 4 weeks  "withdrawal method". i took a test today and it came out negative. Was it to early to take one? I have been having abdominal pain, and cramps and i have not being able to use the bathroom for 5 days ( constipated to be exact) i dotn know what to think. Did i take the test too early. Any one have any suggestions, advise???

[poetgirl1979]

It could've been too early. Are you even late for your period yet? Also, my guess is that the abdominal pain/cramps is from being constipated, not pregnancy or such. I'm no medical expert, but it seems the most likely. Use protection, withdrawl is NOT effective at all, if you're gonna have sex, use protection. You WILL be pregnant within a year if you keep using the withdrawl method. Try taking some kind of laxative/fiber (Metamucil)for the constipation, I bet once you have a bowel movement, your stomach will feel better. God bless and good luck!!! =D

[JoAnnaRF]

Ditto to everything Poet said.

[pinksugar]

Thank you so much. I had to come to work but i feel so bad, I dont even think i will make to 12!
I will take your advise and go buy that as soon as i get off work. Thank you

[cutiemama]

There is no gurantee that you will get pg within a year if you use the withdrawal method. While it's obviously much safer to use a condom to prevent against stds and protect against pg, I used withrawal with my husband for the past 15 years and the only times I ever got pg was when we actually tried to get pg. For us, this method has worked marvelously. Try to avoid doing it mid-cycle if you want to try to avoid getting pg.

[JoAnnaRF]

I'm really glad that the withdrawel method has worked for you. But the fact of the matter is, it IS NOT an affective form of birth control. In fact it is NOT a form of birth control at all. So please do not encourage anyone to use it using your own good luck as fact. You have been lucky. Most who use this as a method of birth control are not usually as fortunate as you are. Any OBGYN would agree to find a safer method with proven statistical affectiveness.
I just felt the need to point out that your advice is hazardous, and should be taken with a grain of salt by anyone considering this as a method of BC.
--J

[Blankies]

I agree with JoAnnaRF.  Some girls fall pregnant very easily, sometimes on the first time they have sex.  I've been using condoms but sometimes when we don't have we fall back on the withdrawal method.  I've been lucky so far but it's not worth it; to feel depressed and nervous till you have your next period and even then, my sister had 3 periods before finding out she was 3 months pregnant.  I've been so worried a few months ago I scared my period off by 2 weeks!  Its scary ladies, you can fall pregnant using the pill, a condom...anything.  You need to talk to your partner about this, because in one moment of bliss your whole life could change.  I told my boyfriend two nights ago we should make a golden rule: NO CONDOMS NO SEX!  Think about it, can you and your partner care for a new life?  Will it really be fare to the child?