Uncomfortable sex and bleeding

[roseypeach]

I have noticed sex is getting more and more uncomfortable for me (entry is the worst part) and I had a burning sensation inside my vagina after the last time. I also noticed bright red blood (just a slight amount)on my husband--obviously not from him--afterwards. I checked myself also and found no more. This is the first time I have seen blood after intercourse that wasn't period related.

I am getting worried, this has never happened to me before. I have also noticed since we aren't having sex as often it feels as if I am closing up or something. He has even made remarks about it feeling tighter. (Sorry to get so specific, but I am genuinely concerned). I read that the vagina loses elasticity during menopuase, but I have just started experiencing frequent hot flashes and occasional night sweats so I can't believe this would apply to me already. I am still having periods, though my last one I only spotted most of the time. I am almost 39 and my grandmother stopped having periods at my age.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you using a lubricant?  It does sound perimenopause related, and you will need something besides natural secretions at least for a while if that is so.

[spade22]

Hi Rosey,

if you are experiencing hot/cold flashes, a change in your periods, it is hurting to have sex, and you have a history of early menopause in your family it is possible you are in the early stages of menopause.  Why not go to the doctor and get a few tests run to see if this is what is causing your symptoms?

Also, as the previous poster suggested, using some lubrication during sex would be beneficial if you are a little dry.

[roseypeach]

Yes we dlid use lubricant the last time, but I still had that irritating burning feeling inside afterwards. I had an appt set up with a gyn but my insurance will not pay for it. My husband and I are sitting down this week with an insurance man to find better insurance. Thanks for your advice.

[VickiInVegas]

Are you sure you just dont have a yeast infection?  An infection there can mimic those symptoms you are describing.

[roseypeach]

No, I don't think so. I have had plenty of those and this isn't anything like what I normally experience. I appreciate your help though. I am changing insurance companies this week and sometime before Christmas or soon after I will be going for a complete check up with a GYN in town. Will let you all know what I find out. Thanks again for all of your help and suggestions.