Whenever I had a male doctor giving me a pelvic exam there has always been a female nurse in the room? Was there a nurse in the room also?
Yes it was wrong, or at least stupid, especially calling you 'sweetie' in this day of sexual harassment claims. It's all in the tone -- fatherly or sleazy? If the latter, I'd move to a different doc and maybe even write a letter to the licensing board. Would not exaggerate anything, but say what happened and that it made you feel uncomfortable. That way there is a record, if he's doing this to anyone else and gets a complaint.
My mistake, it was lori40 on 9/13/07. Check it out. Very similar to yours. Great advice offerred.
I responded to your question previously about the dr appt. However, your story has changed quite a bit. Is this another exam or another dr?