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Unwanted hair

Hi!!
I have one problem that really embarrases me and often causes very bad mood and even depression.
The thing is that I have a huge amount of unwanted hair on my body.
I've been living with that for a long time. sometimes I even wanted to simply give up and end my life... :(
I'm 19 years old. I have realy nice boyfriend. He knows about my problem and supports me a lot. He says that my problem doesn't bothers him at all but still I don't feel very comfortable when having sex.
I'm tired of shaving and bleaching hair on my face... :(
I haven't been to a doctor... I'm quite a shy person and I have very little free time. :(
So, I'm browsing in internet to find some suggestions and other girls who have this problem...
Who knows how to threat this problem???
I've read that hormonal medication might help but I'm kinda scared of it... I'm young and I really don't want to stuck my body with medicine too much...
Are there any other options??
And how effective threatment is??
I know every case is different but I really need some hope to live my life very happily.
Thanks in advance
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Hi, I'm 19 too. Ever since 3rd grade I've had dark hairy arms, lots of leg hair, some stomach hair, unibrow, upper lip hair. In 9th grade my mom took me to get my upper lip waxed, and I immediately felt a huge relief. I didn't have to constantly smile to distract people from the hair there, and I could wear lipgloss without drawing attention to my lips! I highly suggest getting your face waxed, and when you see stray hairs after, just pluck them as they come in, It's easy, and the ladies that do it for you are very professional and don't make a big deal out of it. They've always seen worse!
I bleach my arm hair at home every month or so, it stings a bit but it only take 15 mins.
I shave my legs 2 or 3 times a week.
I epilate my stomach and armpits, keeps them away longer even though it hurts the first time you do it, it gets better though!
and i pluck around my areola, the really long hairs.
Not too bad, i dont feel overwhelmed or anything. In fact, I feel more confident and at ease when I've done these things.
Anyhow, life's great, just enjoy it! :)
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To phillygirlnj - waxing is not that bad actually. I was made fun of at age 13 for having a mustache, so I did the stupid thing and started shaving it. When I was about 14 I started waxing, and whenever I couldn't wax, I shaved my upper lip. Now, I can go a couple months before needing to wax again, and it really doesn't even hurt any more. It's pretty cheap too, if you get the Veet hot wax with reusable strips. From what I remember, Veet hot wax costs about US$22, but that was last year this time, so not sure if the price is the same.

As for my problem.... I seem to have inherited the hairy gene from two not-so-hairy parents, and my 3 brothers have somehow managed to avoid it too. I have dark hair growing rather thickly on my arms, which are really pale in skin tone. I have hairy feet (which I wax/shave), and I have to pluck the little line of hair between my pubic hair and belly button with tweezers. I have mini sideburns, thank goodness though they're light in colour, but I still know they're there, and now my boyfriend has seen them too. He's really great with my insecurity about all this unwanted hair, but I still get really embarrassed about it around other people, and even around him sometimes during sex. I'm just not sure what to do with it all, I definitely don't wanna start shaving my arms, but I can't afford lazer treatment either. Someone mentioned hydrogen peroxide... how well does that work? Is it easy to apply and what not?

Thanks in advance for the help!
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I have been suffering with this very same problem since i was 17, it was made worse by shaving..... I have been to the doctors and do not have polycistic ovaries and have no increased hormone levels blah blah, but the doc has put me onto a med called spironolactone i have just started taking it is supposed to stop anymore hairs from growing and hopefully stunt the ones that are already there.  I would love to go and get laser too but i am also imbarassed by this, it is such a horrible problem to deal with, as it is all consuming,  sounds funny but nice to know that others out there feel the same..  
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Bleaching is a good option... I always bleach hairs on my upper lip... I'm afraid to wax them because I don't want them to grow even darker and darker... :/
Laser removal is very expensive... I'm a student and don't have a lot of money... :D :D
I'm looking for some kind of medicine or something else that could fix the problem itself not only the visible consequences. :/
I'm simply tired of that war against all those f***ing hairs... :(
By the way, my mom has the same problem.. So I guess I have inherited it from her... :(
It unfair.. My sister doesn't have this problem... :( Why me? :'(
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Live_now - I don't know if I'd feel comfortable taking advice from someone who doesn't even take the time to read over a post for spelling and grammatical errors.

Ravishing_Beauty - I personally just stick to bleach or waxing because I feel they are the safest options for me.  Threading is also an option for small areas (upper lip, eyebrows, etc), and is supposed to last longer than waxing, but is still only a temporary fix.  If you really are seeking for a long-term or permanent process, you could always look into laser removal.  Just be careful because there is always the chance of something going wrong.  My cousin used to shave her arms until the hair on top became super thick and she just wanted to get rid of it.  She went in for laser surgery and they burned her skin - now she has a horrible white scar on the top of her arm.

Just make sure you do your research and find a good doctor before you try anything drastic.
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I live in Lithuania.... :D :D :)
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what conntry you live in den?,.....
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To cazy:
Yeap, I have acne...
I haven't noticed hair loss... Earlier I had more hair but I've been dying them a lot lately so of course I don't have as much hair as I had before... :)

To Live_now:
Well, I have never heard of such option.. as I understand such hair removing is avaiable in usa??
Well, I 'little' too far from my country.. :/
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hey... jst reading you comment there and wanted to let u know that im a beauty therapist! listen to cazy and go to the docs, find out if u have p.o!!... if not u can try eliption...removing hairs permently using a needle and electro currents.  this treatment can only b effective if u follow all you treatments and attend regulary!...it can be carried out by most beauty salons.  it can take up 2 a year r more 2 all the hairs r gone...DEPENDING ON THE AMOUNT OF HAIRS... also there are medical conditions...that can cause asnormal hair growth. neways wothout goin into great detail, make an appointment with your doc and make sure u dont have p.o...becuz sumtime wen u treat the hairs and u have p.o it can make it worse!!... gd luck!! hpe u take this advice.xxxx
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it could be polycystic ovaries it causes hair to grow due to a rise in male hormones tell your doctor and have an ultrasound scan just wondering do you have any other problems like hair loss on your head problems getting pregnant or acne because those are other symptons i have polycystc ovaries i only have the irritating face hair and none of the other symptoms if you dont want to face your doc yet try going on nhs website first
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