Vaginal Irritation

[doremi2308]

Okay, so about a week ago I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend, and he did ejaculate outside of me, and now I'm irritated down there. I noticed this a few days ago, because at first it stung a little when I peed. Then it started getting annoyingly itchy, the kind of itch that won't go away no matter how much you scratch it, and I put some monistat on it and that seemed to help. The monistat does help with the pain sometimes too. But after the itching went away, the pain got a bit worse. And at one point I did start bleeding, and it's not my time of month, and the bleeding lasted for like 2 minutes. Now I notice a small pea sized lump on the clitoris hood. It's red, kind of raw looking, and it's tender to the touch. Now I'm just wondering, is it some kind of infection? I'm not pregnant am I? And how do you get an infection anyway?

[Kim1989]

well your symptoms have nothing do with a pregnancy but anytime your having unprotected sex you run the risk of getting pregnant or getting an std. you could have an std, yeast infection, allergic reaction ( i keep hearing some women can be allergic to sperm) you need to go to the doctors

[doremi2308]

But the problem is that if I let my parents know that I did it with him... They would kill me and him. They don't exactly approve of those things. I mean my 25 year old brother has two kids and they yell at him constantly for it. And me, well I'm still young... And the pain is getting unbearably worse...

[Kim1989]

ok well you can either suffer or go to the doctors really your choice

[doremi2308]

It's weird though cuz it doesn't hurt when I'm in the ocean or in the pool or the shower or anything. Only when I hafta pee. And he says there's no way it could be an STD. And I'm not going to the doctor so maybe if I'm lucky it'll go away on it's own. And if it's fatal then it's fatal.

[Kim1989]

i really doubt its fatal. and whos he

[doremi2308]

My BF. He says there's no way it's an STD and that I'm probably over reacting or something. He's such a moron sometimes. I should've just left things the way they were when we broke up 2 weeks ago.

[Meliii]

i think its really naive of u to not go to the doctors it could be something bad so you should go to the dr. if u have a planned parenthood in ur area u should go its totally confidential and u dont have to give ur real name.. because if its   causing u pain when u pee it could be an infection and if u dont get it treated u may not be able to have kids later on... AND NEVER AGAIN HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX!! bf cheat and they lie no matter how much trust there is just b4 u think of having unprtected sex again go to a clinic and get tested u and ur partner... or take ur bf and both go get tested!

[Meliii]

why did u break up?? if u dont mind me asking...

[doremi2308]

I broke up with him cuz... Well I really don't know. I have a temper issue, I get it from my parents who constantly fight, and sometimes he just really pisses me off. So I thought maybe I could relax if I broke up with him. But I felt really bad and decided I still loved him so we got back together 12 hours later. Now I'm regretting getting him back... I blame m family for my indicision. I mean, my brother's bipolar. And I was diagnosed with mental **** when I was a baby. So... Anyway, I don't plan on doing anything, except kissing and whatnot, with anyone until I'm married or at least 18-21 years old.

[Kim1989]

when you two broke up he prob had sex with some gurl so i would get tested if i were u

[Meliii]

why dont u go get tested because he could of had sex with some other girl. guys r such assholes!!!!... trust me after u had sex its gonna take alot of u to make sure u dont but its really hard!!!  especially since u guys already did the deed and hes ur bf...

[doremi2308]

He wouldn't. He was always the extremely shy type... It's just that day I wasn't exactly myself. Sometimes I zone out, or it's like I'm in a fog and don't really know what I'm doing. It's funny cuz I stopped drinking months ago. But anyway, he wouldn't risk getting another girl pregnant. Moron doesn't carry around condoms. And we're still... well we're just teenagers so I doubt he would risk it.

[Meliii]

u have no idea.... guys can be very stupid and immature especially at that age... men never really mature!!  well dont do anything with him!!!

[Kim1989]

its not about getting another girl pregnant its about get an std

[doremi2308]

I know right. Though he's usually accusing me of cheating on him... Another thing that pisses me off. So I never thought to consider the other way around. And I know what you mean. Moron is still as immature as any 5 year old. Actually, I think my 4 year old nephew is more mautre than my bozo bf. Anyway, the pain has gone back down a bit so maybe it'll stay like that. Would taking Tylenol or Advil help with the pain?

[Meliii]

maybe a litlle ur still young dont stress bout him tooo much worry bout ur health more!!

[doremi2308]

Okay, nevermind the pain shot back up and the tylenol isn't helping. Though I might just be a little more sensitive then before cuz I got toasted at the beach today. My whole body feels like I've been in the oven. I'll see how I feel tomorrow.

[Kim1989]

you need to go to the doctors its likely not to go away its going to get worse

[girlygirl803]

believe me, I totally know what it feels like to be a teenager and sexually active, and then on top of it have something like this come up! as difficult as it may seem, you really need to go to the doctor to have this checked out. And I'm sorry to say this, but if you're too afraid to go to the doctor and have it checked out, then you don't need to be having sex. I won't give you the whole having sex requires responsibility lecture because I'll admit there have been times when I've screwed up royally but it's definitely something you need to keep in mind. Like others have suggested, if you're worried about word getting back to your parents, a planned parenthood is the best way to go. Very confidential and can definitely help you out if there's something going on . . .but you shouldn't just wait for it to go away on it's own. Also, ditch the boyfriend. Just from your posts i can see you don't think very highly of him and do you really want to be with someone you consider a bozo. And also don't underestimate men, they may have the best intentions at heart, but men are programmed differently than women and as shy as he may seem, you never know and it's better to be safe than sorry.

[AmyNAz]

I think that I'd rather be in trouble with my parents at this point than have pain and a possible infection.  You are old enough to have sex, you are old enough to suck it up tell your parents to take you to the doctor!!  Besides you should be able to go to the room by yourself and I don't think the doctors can tell your parents anything.  I would definitely get it checked out!!!

[doremi2308]

Actually, the pain has subsided for now. It's gone back to a itching a little and it only stings slightly when I pee. The stinging reminds me of when I was a little girl and I used to get rashes down there and it would hurt like hell for about a day or two when I peed. I would go to my mom and she would tell me to put that weird Johnson and Johnson baby powder on it, though I always ended up eating it. Anyway, putting some of the Monistat supply we have there seems to help a little. Though that weird lump I told you about is starting to bug me. It's not really tender anymore, and it doesn't hurt, but it's solid and it kind of itched for a minute.
And I love him, I do. It's just my mom taught me everything I know about men, and she doesn't think highly of any guy because of the a-hole she's married to. They always fight and I guess it kind of ruined any expectations I have for guys. That and I'm really cranky right now cuz the sunburn is making me freeze and it hurts so I'm stuck wearing tube tops and halters for the next week.

[fibromama]

If you are grown enough to have sex you are grown enough to tell your parents whats going on with you.  Its like I can do the deed and Im a big girl now,,but OH OH somethings wrong and ball up into fetal position.  C'mon you had sex unprotected now you have to deal with the consequences.   Sorry to be so harsh but harsh sounds like the kinda dose you need right now.

[doremi2308]

I'm only 14. My parents would disown me. They'd shun me. It really wasn't even my fault that we did it... But whatever. I know it's not a great thing to do, but usually I avoid the consequences when I can. I'm a coward, a big fat/skinny coward who hides in my room typing what I like to think are going to be great novels, though they never will be. Anyway, the pain has disappeared and the lump is going down and I only have a slight occasional itch. Seems like whatever it was is going away. Now I just gotta wait another day or two and make sure I have my period.

[Kim1989]

if your not ready to handle sex then you dont need to be having it!

a lump that itches sounds like it could be like some type of std to me. and it might very well come back. you need to go to a doctor! grow up! you need to other wise it might be something important. your parents dont need to know! say you dont feel goo and you _______ and you need to have it looked at or something.

you live near me so im guessing you need a physical for school!? right? your supposed to get one every year...well at your physical bring it up. they cant say anything to your parents without your concent!

[doremi2308]

My parents don't get me physicals, we only need them if we go out for sports or something, which I never do. I'm totally anti-sport, aside from roller blading or ice skating. And I know I'm an idiot, I have plenty of people telling me that 24/7. Stupid ex. But anyway, my mom's sometimes afraid of getting me to a doctor for a check up or something cuz I almost died a few times when I was a baby because it turns out I'm allergic to a few things that the doctors gave me. Plus a heart murmur.
But yes, I know I'm not a smart person, I get yelled at for that too because my brother is some intelligent straight A NJIT college kid and i don't have his intelligence. I know I really shouldn't have let things get that far with my bf and I did and I regret it...

[Kim1989]

i thought everyone (at least around my area in jersey) needs a yearly phsyical as the requirements for school. someones acidemic intelligents has nothing to do with common sense intellgents. all im saying its that clearly your worried enough to come onto a webisite about it, ask a question and ask for help. so why dont you seek it!

like i said if you got sick does your mom take you to a doctor or just you sit there and suffer? why dont you go to the doctors and when the bill comes tell your mom you werent feeling good and (i dont know make up something) then it would be too late for her to do anything or stop you and you wil have already been checked out

[doremi2308]

How exactly am I supposed to get to the doctors? Besides, we go to Medemerge and it's a pay up front kind of place. And usually when I get sick, unless I'm like throwing up constantly or unless I'm sick for over a week, she lets me sit at home and feeds me Tylenol or something.