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Vaginal Tearing during sex

I think, but not really sure if this is where I should post this.  But I have some questions that I would like to have answers to.  Recently my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time.  He is umm kinda big.  And I haven't had it that big before.  Anyway, when we first started there was no problems for entry but it started hurting.  It wasn't too big of a deal.  Well now I have tears...in two or three locations on the outside of my vaginal area.  It hurts to move in anyway including going to the bathroom for obvious reasons since they are cuts.  But I was wondering what I should do?  The pain is unbearable.  Almost like when I had my son and I ended up with four tears.  Thanks.
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Hey I had sex with a my boyfriend & a little after sex I didn't fell any pain until the next day I could bearly move or sit down & it hurts so badly when I pee
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awesome, now your boyfriend can continue to pound your vagina into a bloody pulp. until it resembles ground beef. thanks for the awesome tip! whew, glad you were able to figure that one out! yay
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if it were me, I would stop having sex. seriously what is wrong with you people?
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Hello all of you, I have just logged on because I had to diffuse some bad information and do some explaining from a soft tissue expert, who also gets vaginal tears due to large penis. Your vagina is membrane, not skin. It needs to be moist to heal. You can do this with any natural oil, such as shea butter or vitamin e as suggested.  Do not use baby powder or any scented or alcohol cream.  
It burns to pee because pee is uric acid.  I don't like acid on my cuts so I try to pee in the bathtub with some water diffusing the acid as it hits my cut. I put some epsom salt in. I wait to have sex because a penis rubbing on an open wound is bad.  When it heals, I have sex slowly to start, to stretch the tissue so it doesn't break.  Use lubrication. Its fun. Its not a disease, and your doctor knows nothing about tearing, but if it is *****, or has discharge this is a separate issue, and your cut is large and possibly infected. Go to a doctor, they have good drugs for this. Your cut will heal.  Take fatty acids to help the tissue in the future.  Another tip: Massage the outside.  Find where the pain is. Sex is good because there are lots of nerve endings in our vagina.  Lots and lots.  These don't like being rubbed raw, but it sure feels good sometimes.  When you have a tear, it hurts to be stretched or rubbed because of the nerve endings. If you massage the outside, find the spot it hurts and give it a massage, you will increase circulation to the area and desensitize the nerve. Voila. You will be good to have sex in no time.  Good luck!
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THE CURE: I had the same horrible problem of getting cuts when having sex and vaginal discomfort for about a year. I visit many different gynecologist and other specialists and no one knew what it was, some suggested it was thinning of my vaginal tissue, others a chronic yeast infection, some thought it was herpes (which I was tested multiple times and even a blood test which came out negative), some mentioned that it was just a technical vaginal problem, or a auto immune system or perhaps my partner was just too large. I was prescribed an estrogen cream wich was about $250.00 dollars a tube (Thank God my insurance was able to covered) then I was prescribed a steroid cream CLobastesol  I think it was called, the creams never help. The docs will say to lubricate as much as possible before sex which i did and I even try switching to multiple lube brands thinking I was probably allergic to some, but I was still getting the cuts. I was very depressed due to this problem, it was taking a toll on me emotionally eventhough my partner was always super supportive. I felt terrible and scare every time I was going to have sex, I stop having sex for multiple weeks due to this problem, it was awful loving my partner and wanting to be with him but I couldnt.  One day I cry out to God and ask him to please help me, then one day my partner and I went to the dollar store and we came across a baby oil- a generic brand called Baby Oil by Personal Care.  I use this as lube and bingo problem solved. I never never never got one cut again. Tip- I bought a small spray bottle and place the oil there for a more convenient use. Ladies I hope this help, I completely understand how terrible this can be. Sorry for my writing I'm ESL.  
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I have been with my boyfriend for four years now and he is pretty big which leaves me sore the day after but that is pretty much as painful as it gets. The thing I have two concerns: 1.) I get UTIs frequently after having sex and I would like to know if that is normal or how can I stop or prevent it and 2.) my vagina got a tear which hurts really really bad. It feels like I pulled a muscle or something from my anus to the outside of my vagina. Can anyone help me I have not gone to the doctor yet but I would really appreciate some advice
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I had sex with my boyfriend a few days ago and I believe I wasn't wet enough when he went in ans that caused the tearing. But I tried granola oil and that didn't help. There was some bleeding and a lot of pain. This morning when I went pee I passed out because the stinging was unbearable. Please help!!
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Hi, just wanted to say that the same thing has been happening to me recently. It *****. I was reading above and maybe try coconut oil? The stinging whenever you urinate is because your soar or even ripped alittle. Try to use the coconut oil down there frequently alittle goes a long way! That should help.
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I feel like the only one this has happened to. I actually ripped during sex and bled thru 4 pairs of pants. I had to go to the hospital and get surgery. Has this ever happened to anyone??
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Hi, thank you so much for posting your comment. This just happen to me a few days ago..so scary! I'm just wondering what the aftercare was like for you? Im really worried it will happen again as my bf and I have no idea why it happen! Any advice would be greatly recieved!!
This just happend to me a week ago. Had to get surgery and everything. I got 1 tear. Told me no sex or tampons for 6 to 8 weeks.. Scared to have sex again.. i really dont remember what happened but i bled soo much it looked like someone got murdered... plus my new bf is a lot bigger then what ive had. How is it for you now?? Can you have sex normally?
After the surgery have u had intercourse ever again?
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Your vagina is not accustom to that size you have to let him go in slow until your vagina get use tote size or else its going to hurt ur vagina is a sensitive organ that you have to take good care of if you find yourself urinating at least twice after having sex, its normal. If you have sex with him and find ur yourself in a lot of pain when he inserts it in let himbtake it out nd go to the bathroom turnvthe pipe on in the tub if u have one sit in it but the water has to be warm, it helps with the pain nd after your done dont wipe your vagina dab it dry and put some neosporin on it till it heals continue this process till it heals
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Hi, I posted already just to say thanks for the tip but now I am posting to say WOW...What a difference. Only used the "Unrefined" Coconut oil for 4 days before hubby and I tried it out. Absolutely no pain and no tearing for the first time in almost 4 years...very little goes a long way. Am taking the supplements also but am so very pleased...
Thanks again
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Did the coconut oil make the pain go away ? Because I haven't found anything to help and the pain is really bad.
If you have medicinal marijuana in your area any kush of your choice would help with the uncomfortable feeling when walking and sitting. And coconut does help also ease that uncomfortable feeling.
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Hello, was just doing a quick search for "exact same problems"...Very frustrated, menopausal  female here...LOL.....and I like my husband very much and cannot have sex due to severe pain and tearing. Bleeding from tears is not much fun either....very patient husband.
Thank you for this, am going to try...Hormones made me so sick, helped but too many other side problems and the risks!? Just....NO...so thank you, thank you for this comment. I hope it helps me as it has you.
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you're sure it not herpes huh? hmm Dr. Science, guess you missed the day in  sex school when they covered that condoms do not prevent herpes.
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tell your bf that if he wants to pound out a meat hole to get a gay man's butt or masturbate. otherwise, your body is not there for his pleasure and your pain.

when men masturbate they choke the **** out of their cocks and stroke the **** out of it too. and this is  how they get off. their penises get desensitized. duh!

when they have sex with their girlfriends they get frustrated because a woman's vaginal muscles cannot grip him as tight as his man hands can. so he pounds the **** out of her. pretends he doesn't know it hurts her, gets off and laughs at how stupid she is. she will blame herself and keep letting him rip up her vagina for years or decades.  

women of course go along with all this because they are idiots.
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It's caused by a cucumber going inside a hole the size of a raisin. 1+1=2
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it is unnatural to have sex with men.
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absurd
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Vaginal tearing.

Okay I had researched this like CRAZY and have seen a LOT of women with the same issue that I was having. Pretty much everything tore my vagina - it was like paper. If I wiped, I tore myself. If I put in a tampon, I tore myself.

It was painful and the only thing that helped was rubbing vaseline on the cuts until they healed - but they tore again right after.

I started taking rephresh pro-b and have not had a tear since I started taking it! Apparently it was an issue with my ph balance down there - I never had any real issues - no STDs, but I was having an excess of discharge, LOTS of bumps on my cervix, all of which have gone away!

This is the only thing that has ever fixed my issue! My discharge is perfectly normal and I don't tear down there at all.

If you're having this issue, get REPHRESH PRO-B and take it every day! Absolutely did the trick!
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I am sorry for your pain and suffering.  I am an attractive, petite (5'4") woman in my fifties, in good shape with excellent health.  I experienced monogamous, sexual relationships before my eighteen year marriage, and found after my divorce that there are many men who would wish to have a relationship with me.  (However, I find it difficult to find a man of integrity, intelligence and sweetness with whom I would like to develop a long-term committed relationship.)  Consequently, I have had several monogamous experiences with men over the past ten years (and could have more, if I were so inclined).

Almost all of my sexual experiences throughout my life were fairly positive.   Naturally, I preferred some partners over others.  The only time when I experienced pain was with two men who were relatively large.  My first true love was moderately large and quite long.  We learned that his pleasuring me before intercourse made all the difference, lubricating me (I produce ample vaginal discharge via orgasm), preparing my vagina for intercourse, and helping me to desire him more.  Therefore, our sex life was nice.  All the years in between, including during my marriage, I have had no particular discomfort until recently.  

I am now dating a caring man and good lover, but he is extremely large - broad in general and, when erect, long.  Without question, his size is exceptional.  It so happens that we have hardly engaged in intercourse because he is experiencing erectile dysfunction due to anti-depressants and other psychological causes.  However, we have attempted intercourse twice, but he could not maintain an erection.  Nonetheless, my experience was that, despite being well lubricated and very prepared for intercourse both mentally and physically, his penis was so incredibly large that I felt incredibly stretched as he entered and perhaps my vagina couldn't fully accommodate the breadth of his penis.  For the first time since my first love, I found that my vagina tore and there was considerable discomfort afterward for two or three days, especially upon urinating.   If and when he resolves his e.d. issue and if we continue to date, either my vagina and I will adjust or our sex life will be problematic, in which case I am not sure I can continue in this relationship.

Alas, this experience has validated something I'd already discovered - I prefer modest-sized penis.  It is more comfortable and pleasurable for me.  The medical community may claim that the vagina can accommodate any sized penis, but in my experience, that is untrue.

I hope this is helpful to some of you suffering discomfort during sex due to the size of your partner's penis.
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JD399!  This is my life!  Thank you so much for letting me know I'm not alone in this!!!!!  How do I go about getting past this?  Is there anything specific I should be telling my doctor?  Thank you thank you thank you!!!!!!
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Ok so im a lil embarassed to be on here
But anyways me and my bf had sex a few days ago , it was my first time and he likes to go at it prettty rough from front and back i only felt a a minimal amount of pain at entry that i associated with losing my virginity but as we switched positions i noticed the pain seemed to get worse even tho it was still tolerable ... Afterwards as i went to go use the bathroom the pee stung pretty bad down their but i thought maybe he scratched me with his finger but a few hours later the pain still hadnt receded so i looked in the mirror and noticed a slight split in at botton of my opening
Its been three days and i still havent tried sex again and my bf was getting frustrated so i told him what happened we are both pretty young im 18 and he is 22 we have noone we know to ask and no idea what to do . I really want to try again but im afraid it wont heal or will rip more
Bf is being extremely helpful and limiting what we do
Someone please help i have very old fashion family and i need help ! I dont know what to do  
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I have the solution!! I too had continual tearing out of the blue - like paper cuts. The solution is BioCeuticals Ultra Muscleze (it's basically magnesium) twice a day. I don't tear at ALL anymore. The tear that I had for over 12 months is now gone. No more 'papercuts'. YAH! to my Integrative Medicine doctor for giving me a cure.
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Same thing with me my boyfriend is large and when he goes in its like the outer labia near the entrance goes in as he s penetrating and hes rough and goes for hours. I end up with a blister in the same spot everytime. I sometimes have to open my lips so that he doesnt push in the outside inside.Freaked out its herpes but its always in the same spot and he has been checked for herpes and it was negative.IDK
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Need help with my problem...my bf is average sized and we use lube and arouse eachother before sex. However, during sex, especially trying to put it in, my vagina feels like its tearing and feels dry and i feel like i cant get his penis in properly, as though there is something in the way inside.  Hes not my first and im not his first so it cant be that and i relax during sex even though it hurts. Does anyone know what it could be ? Or would i be better of going to see my gp. It gets really embarassing for me and gets in the way of our sex life. Any ideas would help. Thanks
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Hello odarnit, could you share the name of the cream? did it work?
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