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hot_latte

Mar 20, 2011

I am so glad I found this website. I had a very long session with my boyfriend (who is large) last week without any foreplay. I was a little sore the next day, but like a dummy, went and had sex with him again that night. The next morning, it was all I could do not to scream bloody murder when I urinated. It was like I had razor-blades and shards of glass coming out of me instead of urine omg. The pain was so terrible that I went an entire day at work without drinking anything (and I am never seen at my job without my coffee). I went to the ER the day after the pain started and was diagnosed with a UTI (urinary tract infection) and prescribed antibiotics. The meds didn't start working right away though, and the pain was so intense that I ended up going to see my OBYN the day after my ER visit. Just to make sure I was given the right diagnosis. My OB said it was a UTI as well, after checking me out. I was told to start drinking lots of water in order to flush my system & to keep taking the antibiotics. The intense pain I wa feeling internally has gotten better over the last day or so, but I still feel a searing, burning sensation around the opening of my vagina when I urinate, unless I am taking some sort of pain-killer. I'm assuming that I have a tear down there somewhere too, because when I touch the sore spot carefully with my finger, it hurts a lot. I'm wondering how long this is going to take to heal now. It makes me never want to have sex again.

amw010

Apr 17, 2011

To: anyone who can answer this!

I just need a cure I have had the same symptoms I can tell its a tear or chafing because I can tell some skin is missing. Its also become inflammed and its really hard to urniate. The person I had sex with was very big but using. Lubrication did not help. Its been more than a few days and I been using a lotion but I think that's making it worse! Please help.

Jewelss8692

Apr 29, 2011

To: everyone

I started dating this guy 3 months ago and it took 2 months to get used to his large penis, I could barely get the tip in the first time, about an inch the second time. We just went very very slow each time and used lubrication. (it was so difficult to relax each time after, because I would anticipate pain) I finally just put my mind in relax mode. Luckily I only saw him at the time 2 days a week, and it did take 3-5 days to heal each time, but slowly I adjusted. I did tear and it took 3 or more days to completely heal; seriously. Don't have sex until those tears heal and you don't need to put any lotions or anything on them. I am glad I have finally adjusted to him, but the passion is missing a bit. I havn't seen him in 10 days, so I am wondering if it will hurt again.
To the last post (.....stop putting lotions or anything on yourself, I don't think you need that. Don't have sex until you heal. If not better each day, see a DR. Hope your feeling better everyone. This is group therapy for sure.

Jewelss8692

Apr 29, 2011

To: everyone

Also, you can not manifest any STD in one day, so keep that in mind everyone. Just wait a week to see if the pain goes away and the tear/s heal. It should get a little bit better each day (just a little!). I know it ***** though, I have been very supportive to my new guy since he is so sweet and nice, but I admit I wish there was more passion. It's the too large of penis issue, I am still working on this. I am used to fun and playful easy sex.

whitney813

May 18, 2011

To: bostonbella

i have something to say too. So me and my boyfriend have been having sex for a while even as best friend while we gave people sighs we were gonna get together. Well one day when he had rough sex he poppeeed my cherry, though it didnt hurt (the rough sex) i understood why i bled. But recently when we have rough sex and he gets aggressive, i start bleeding again and i dont know why. I'm scared to go to a doctor cause my guardian and my mother doesnt know my sexually active (i am 19 years old) Can someone help me?

tub_1234

May 25, 2011

To: anyoneee

i got fingered this past friday, and he was going pretty rough, after awhile it got pretty dry... :/
i grabbed a mirror and i checked my private and i noticed a blister-more or a tear looking thing right on the outside of my vaginaa...
it burns super bad when i pee!

i've been using "vitacilina" cause i heard it's almost like neosporin..

im terrified to go to a doctor!
can someone just please let me know what i can use to heal this thing!

please help, asappp! :(

katienew

Jun 23, 2011

im 16 and just went to my OBGYN and i have a vaginal tear it's very painful and hurts to urinate. so get it checked out the give you medicine and tell you to massage neosporin on it. and USE lubricant when you have sex. stay of sex for about a week and be gentle for awhile!

millib

Jun 25, 2011

To: any one

Can u please describe how your perineum cuts look are they pink???

cowgirl0312

Jun 26, 2011

About a week or two ago, I had two tears. One on each side. As soon as I noticed them I knew exactly what they were and that they were from sex. The first thing I did was run cold bathwater (just enough to sit in) and sat in it for about 30 minutes. The irritation went away but still hurt to use the restroom. I repeated the bath once a day. Also using baby wipes instead of regular dry toilet paper for comfort. I also avoided any kind of sexual activity. The tears healed up within 5 to 6 days.
Just take it easy and be careful how you move and you'll be fine!

Jenn_Ren_Jekins

Jul 11, 2011

To: Anyone

Alright, well, embaressing as it is I am concerned. I read above some of the treatments, but I'd like to learn more.

I have only had sex one and that is with my betrothed. We tried having sex about 6 months ago and I am pretty sure I ripped from the bottom of the opening down a bit. We didn't really try it and I haven't really thought of it, but it keeps getting irritated and hurt. We never took a "break". After it "healed" it would only come up a bit depending on the activity. Now I am feeling it seem to come undone and want to know what to do. Should I not have sex for a couple of weeks and let it fully heal because it never did? Or should I consult my doctor? And just because I'm paranoid, I'd like to also know that with the cut being completly healed am I endanger of public toilets? I'm terrified of STD's

babyj727

Jul 17, 2011

I had recently had intercourse with my boyfriend and well I was half asleep when he decided to have intercourse. It felt like he kind of forced it when he was trying to enter and well it was uncomfortable. The next day when I went to the bathroom, it kind of stung and when I went to wipe myself there was a little bit of blood on the tissue. There is a little scratch and it is very uncomfortable. What kind I do? Do I need to be seen by a doctor?

50ntite

Aug 03, 2011

I have found that if you sit in warm to hot very salty water a couple times a day helps to shrink and get rid of the tear. Kinda like a cancker soar in your mouth you gargle with salt water its the same effect.. I had to stock up on epson salt cuz it comes is handy,

A_ava22

Aug 22, 2011

I'm also worried. My boyfriend of a year and I were having sex. I had just got back from a 2 month vacation with my family, and it had been awhile since we had done anything. I started getting pain during sex.. however I just thought it was normal. The next day ..instant pain. Sitting, standing, too tight of underwear, and to go to the washroom felt like I was peeing razor blades.
Examining the problem myself I notice a very red "tender looking" circle around the inside of my vagina? I need help on how to clear it... for my period is coming soon :( I'm worried about extra pain, and tampon issues.
PLEASE HELP!!!!

mandygrl987

Aug 31, 2011

To: Anyone that can help!

After reading about 50 comments I noticed that alot of the tearing is due to the guy being large or from rough sex. I have been freaking out because I have been so sore and it feels and looks like I am chafed on the outer side of my vagina. I also noticed 2 tears from the opening of my vagina down to my anus that are extremely sensitive. It has been about a week and a half since we have last had sex and it is still sore, but I realized that I haven't been doing the correct things to help it heal. However, the last couple of days I have been using baby wipes to clean it and have not been wearing underwear to bed because it seems to just irritate it more. I was thinking of using desitin (diaper rash cream) to see if that would help at all because my chafing reminds me of a diaper rash. Sometimes sitting is uncomfortable because of my underwear and I feel like the only time that I am comfortable is when I don't wear underwear and I don't have anything rubbing against it (can't really do this during the day/at work though!) Does anyone have any ideas for how to make it less irritated and to heal faster??

Aliev

Sep 07, 2011

Iv had sex quite a bit of times; big and small sizes. But this guy I have been seeing takes steroids so it's huge... He's ripped me twice in 1 weeks. Bleed alot. I'm worried that my vag is gunna stay huge... I dont want that. And now I'm having an itching/ tingling feeling. Idk if I should be worried or what to do. I was told I have the most mild case of Hpv. Please help!

Oballswifey

Sep 26, 2011

To: silentobserver

I have the same, problem and after sex with my fiance I use vitamin e oil it heals it immediatley every time.. Put it on for about two days or until goes away..trust me health and nature is the way..u can even use aloe vera but the vitamin e works quicker...my source: personel experience..

stayhealthy101

Oct 05, 2011

I had the same thing happen to me. Except for my bf was fingering me really rough and he has long nails and he cut me. So my vagina tore near my urinary track ball. It was big and swollen. Everytime I went to the bathroom is burned. SO WHAT YOU DO IS GO TO A DRUG STORE BUY BABY WIPES, DESITIN AND PANTY LINERS. WHEN WASHING DO NOT USE SOAP TO CLEAN YOUR VAGINA. USE THE BABY WIPES. EVERY TIME YOU USE THE BABY DONT WIPE YOURSELF DRY BUT PAT YOURSELF DRY. THEN TAKE A BABY WIPE AND WIPE YA SELF CLEAN. DONT BE SCARED. NEXT TAKE THE DESITIN IN PUT IT AROUND THE EFFECTED AREA. REPEAT THESE STEPS EVERYTIME YOU USE THE BATHROOM. WHAT SHOULD BE ABOUT 3-4 TIMES A DAY.

stayhealthy101

Oct 05, 2011

To: vaginal tears

k182

Oct 09, 2011

Hi there over a year ago i had rough sex with my bf i split all the way down to my anus and was too scared to go to the docs i thought it would heal on it's own but it hasn't is it too late for stitches it brings my confidence down and i'm really not wanting sex please please help!

me001

Oct 11, 2011

Ladies, please go to the doctor! This isn't something you should take chances with! I had a tear (up and not down) after one experience with my then boyfriend. I didn't realize it that night, but bled like crazy the next morning. The doctor prescribed a medicine to help the wound heal and suggested I refrain from sex or using tampons for 6 weeks. That being said, please don't put anything down there that a doctor hasn't approved. You don't want to dry it out - it's supposed to be moist. and, harsh chemicals can mess with the proper balance your body works so hard to maintain. I know it may feel weird or embarrassing, but please, see your doctor (preferably a gynecologist). She knows best.

Firstgurl

Oct 20, 2011

To: U

Its bn a while i had sex,but i had it recently with my boifriend....eva since then....i feel pain anytym am urinatng...its always painful

lulub89

Oct 25, 2011

To: bostonbella

I got tested on the friday for everything, am awaiting the results and then had sex that afternoon, and the next evening i had very sore tears by the opening of my vagina, it looks like a yellowish bump, i have been using thrush cream on it to sooth the pain but sitting down irritates it and if i urinate i need to lean forward so it doesnt drip down and touch the cuts? I am worried it is herpes?

desertjeep

Oct 25, 2011

To: oopsatear

i would agree with your grandmother. i use epsom salt and white vinegar in the bath tub when I get torn down there. I have had the surgery that snips you and still get tears occasionally after rough sex. the vinegar helps soothe the inflammation. i also take uristat (UI medicine) to help with the stinging after using the bathroom.

mellow88

Oct 25, 2011

I've been having tearing problems for a long time and I never really looked into it. However after reading all these post, it's nice to know that so many women are having this problem. Definitely give it time to heal.

I've been with this guy for a while and he is quite big as well and I would have tears each time I had sex. I noticed my perineal skin is quite fragile and the scar tissue causes it to re-tear.

I think I discovered a cure by accident. As I would get frustrated from re-tearing, i tried everything to prevent it from happening. I don't know what it is but I did use hydrocortisone cream for a few days with combination of Meladerm, which I was using to lighten my genital area. I noticed the skin became a lot healthier and more elastic. The next time i had sex it did not tear! I thought maybe I was lucky this time, but after a few times, no tears!

I hope this kind of helps for those who always tears when having sex. This made sex life sooo much more fun again!!!

alwayssmiles

Oct 29, 2011

To: anyone with suggestions

So, i have been having sex with my boyfriend. And at the beginning of our relationship my vagina never tore and then after i came home from the beach in august it has been tearing and it will heal for a few days and then it will go away. However recently when we have sex it will tear but then it hurts to sit and i feel like i have weights in my uteras that are just pushing down to my vagina, that only last for about an hour tops. Is there anything i can do to get the tearing to stop? Like medicine or cream?

Pumpkin1011

Oct 30, 2011

To: logansmomma

thank YOU for that advice, I will go to doctor and see if she will give me some topical testosterone to beef up my thinning tissue. I too have experience tearing during sex for the first time in years. I'm 55 and this never happened to me before, I was thinking it had to do with my BF going at it for HOURS! lol.....
good luck to everyone who has same problem!

Pumpkin1011

Oct 30, 2011

To: logansmomma

thank YOU for that advice, I will go to doctor and see if she will give me some topical testosterone to beef up my thinning tissue. I too have experience tear during sex for the first time in years. I'm 55 and this never happened to me before, I was thinking it had to do with my BF going at it for HOURS! lol.....
good luck to everyone who has same problem!

MG1973

Nov 04, 2011

To: EVCook

This is long past your inquiry and hopefully you are not still suffering, but I felt I had to respond because I went many years with the same discomfort. You may not be allergic to latex but may have a latex sensitivity. Gloves making contact with the skin of your hands is nothing compared to latex rubbing on finer, more sensitive membrane. Try non-latex condoms made from polyisoprene. and if you need, buy an all natural lubricant. Hope you're feeling better!

MG1973

Nov 04, 2011

To: EVCook

helpplease505

Nov 08, 2011

Hi I need help. :( I had sex with the guy I'm seeing and after I was sore and hurting. That has never ever happened. When I used the bathroom it burned and u found just small blood marks. So I know I have cuts but its a week later and I still have them. It hurts I can't sleep and I rarely wanna go to the bathroom any more. I'm scared to go to the doctor. I don't know if its cuz I haven't had sex for awhile or what.

helpplease505

Nov 08, 2011

Hi I need help. :( I had sex with the guy I'm seeing and after I was sore and hurting. That has never ever happened. When I used the bathroom it burned and found just small blood marks. So I know I have cuts but its a week later and I still have them. It hurts I can't sleep and I rarely wanna go to the bathroom any more. I'm scared to go to the doctor. I don't know if its cuz I haven't had sex for awhile or what.

TheBoss14

Nov 09, 2011

Me and my bf had sex and igot a vagina tear it hurtz like hella when I pee :( how long wud it bee before it heals and what should I use to help heal it comment bck plz

zoeyevans

Nov 16, 2011

To: everyone

Help me I had sex last night with my boyfriend and I think he ripped me :( how long does it take to heal, and what can I do to make it healll ? :'( in so muchh pain

Recovered714

Nov 16, 2011

To: BIRTH CONTROL was the culprit!!!!!

Im 22 years old and am monogomous. I also always get tested for stds regularly because im a smart girl. [: I have been with my boyfriend for about two years. in the beginning of our relationship i went on LUTERA birth control and about 2 months into taking the bc i realized a tear at the opening of my vagina. i shrugged it off for a long time and figured it was because my boyfriend has a wider penis then my exes and because hes usually rough. but the tear got worse and worse. i would examine it from time to time and see that it would close up a couple days after sex but would reopen every time we had sex again. i finally went to the doctor and ask for an std test and a blood test for herpies (herpes). i came out negative for everything but was still very confused. i asked my doctor if the bc and the tearing could be related but she told me she had never heard of such thing. but the lutera was also causing terrible mood swings, insomnia, and anxiety. Also my sex drive dissapeared and i produced no lubricant during sex. So i went off of the bc and after my cycle and hormones went back to normal (about two months) No more tearing!!!! im back to normal on all ends and am so relieved. My boyfriend really wants me to get back on bc since we have been using the pull out method. But im so scared now of bc because it toltally messed me up.

agpharmacy

Nov 16, 2011

To: Hoping the comments help!

This has been happening to me for what seems like forever! My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year, and lately the burning has been hurting so bad we don't even do it at all, because it brings me to tears. I've been trying to think of everything that it could be, and we've both been tested and I know it wasn't an std. It just seems to hurt from the time we start sex until about 20 minutes after, and especially when i urinate! Lately, its been hurting any time i urinate, so I looked and saw 2 very tiny vaginal tears, which is exactly how it feels! i'm gonna try hydrocortisone cream for a while & PRAY it works. I hate not being able to enjoy sex at all!! I dread it and im hoping this can make it good again!

tmc277

Nov 21, 2011

Burning while you pee is not normal! If this is happening see a doctor. It could be a Urinary tract infection, yeast infection, or worse sign of an STD. If anything is out of the ordinary see a doctor ecspecially if your young and not in a monogamous relationship. You never know what someone else might be doing.

MetalPipe

Nov 22, 2011

Hello, I am 18 years old and I have a similar problem. I've had sex with this guy a couple of times and he would tear me and it'd heal so I wouldn't worry. I had sex with him last Thursday... But now... I'm getting swollen from the entrance to where it connects to my anus, and it's very swollen. I also have a cut near my Labia minora... It also feels like where they connect near the entrance ripped also a little bit. I've been using peroxide and neosporin but the pain is just getting worse. It hurts when I swab Q-tips down there to clean it (Also a green-ish mucus comes out when I swab the Q-tips) and the one tear bleeds whenever I try to clean it. The pain is starting to get un-bearable... I start to cry because it hurts so bad, and feel like I have to vomit the pain is so horrible. Sometimes I just drop the Q-tips because it hurts so bad. I'm really scared because now it's getting worse to even lay down, let alone sit. Also on my right inner lip there seems to be a bump, I'm thinking from drying it out from the peroxide and everything... But should I still go get checked?

vyoleta

Dec 03, 2011

so i've seen so many problems here but does anybody who had those problems can answer if there is something to help for this vagina cuts??? i've seens lots of doctors and they don't know what to say to me. I have this problem for 2 years and i can't have sex whit my bf i have a psihologycal problem i am scared that tear can open every time.:(((((((
sorry my english is not to good.

sophie011

Dec 16, 2011

I've had the same problem /: like during sex as it goes in it bleeds straight away and I always get a cut :S I know I should keep it clean but why is it actually caused /:

anida23

Dec 30, 2011

To: confused

i have been looking through numerous websites on where abouts u are suppose to tear after first time and from what iv gathered, the muscles between the vag and the anus is not suppose to tear, or is it? Or is the angle wrong, is there something wrong with me?

i push through the pain i get, which isnt too bad but after about 5 mins of trying i need to stop, we have been doing foreplay for years now so i thought that wouldnt be a problem

seriously confused/worried

ShellyDolittle

Jan 04, 2012

To: There is an answer. Here is what I've found and it works wonderfully to PREVENT the tears

We buy the 100ml bottle of Pjur Woman Bodyglide 100ml / 3.4oz bottle at

http://www.pjurusa.com/category.jhtm?cid=130

Remember that a small drop goes a long ways. I even use it for chapped lips. The great thing is that it never gets sticky.

I also found that taking a coconut oil supplement seems to have strengthened the skin. I take 1000mg gel cap per day and get it from Puritan's Pride on-line. I also used the topical coconut oil cream on the tearing area for a few weeks to be extra cautious. I still use it on occasionally as a lotion on other parts of my body.

http://www.puritan.com/coconut-508?searchterm=coconut&rdcnt=1

We seldom see tearing once I healed, took the coconut oil, and watch to use the lubricant if I experience dryness.

It is wonderful to be tear free even after robust and long lasting lovemaking. The only time I've experienced any tearing, and that was very minor, was when we were having particularly robust lovemaking and he slipped out and thrust up along the top towards my clitoris. We just need to be careful when we get overly active although he slipped out the other night with no tearing at all.

I hope this helps you. Feel free to send me an e-mail directly if you have any further questions.

***@****

Shelly

cmt922

Jan 10, 2012

To: sophie011

have you ever found a solution/answer? I had this same problem a year ago. Tested positive for HSV 1. However, after no symptoms of HSV for an entire, I got blood work redone and found out I was negative? All the while, I get the same cut everytime my boyfriend and I of 2 years have sex multiple times a day/consecutive days. Currently, I have one of the worst cuts I've had in some time and it's so closely resembling my first herpes outbreak it is making me nervous. Any medical advice out there as to what to think/start asking my doctor?

Mcoast

Jan 18, 2012

To: All

Why should vagina tears?

jessie2289

Jan 18, 2012

To: whitney813

You need to tell him passionate sex is fine but he cant go at it like a jackhammer cause it hurts. He should worry about your pleasure not just his. He is probably going to hard and tearing you. How about you get on top and control the pace if he can't do it right. You have all the control your the girl!

jd399

Jan 20, 2012

To: Everyone who is tearing

I tore a lot. And when i say a lot i mean every single time i had sex, i would tear so badly i couldn't wipe myself off after going to the bathroom. I thought maybe im overreacting and making something out of nothing, but i went to my Gyne just the same. It turns out i was born with a think vaginal wall on my right side which prevented my skin from being able to stretch properly which caused my tearing. A small operation to remove the hardened / thick excess skin was the answer and for the first time in my life after the surgery, i don'y tear during any form of sexual intercourse. It rocks! So go get it checked out, it could actually be SOMETHING.

PoshNIEL

Jan 27, 2012

To: younglover

when it heals do your hole close back up ?

astronot

Jan 29, 2012

To: all the women

Hello all of you, I have just logged on because I had to diffuse some bad information and do some explaining from a soft tissue expert, who also gets vaginal tears due to large penis. Your vagina is membrane, not skin. It needs to be moist to heal. You can do this with any natural oil, such as shea butter or vitamin e as suggested. Do not use baby powder or any scented or alcohol cream.
It burns to pee because pee is uric acid. I don't like acid on my cuts so I try to pee in the bathtub with some water diffusing the acid as it hits my cut. I put some epsom salt in. I wait to have sex because a penis rubbing on an open wound is bad. When it heals, I have sex slowly to start, to stretch the tissue so it doesn't break. Use lubrication. Its fun. Its not a disease, and your doctor knows nothing about tearing, but if it is *****, or has discharge this is a separate issue, and your cut is large and possibly infected. Go to a doctor, they have good drugs for this. Your cut will heal. Take fatty acids to help the tissue in the future. Another tip: Massage the outside. Find where the pain is. Sex is good because there are lots of nerve endings in our vagina. Lots and lots. These don't like being rubbed raw, but it sure feels good sometimes. When you have a tear, it hurts to be stretched or rubbed because of the nerve endings. If you massage the outside, find the spot it hurts and give it a massage, you will increase circulation to the area and desensitize the nerve. Voila. You will be good to have sex in no time. Good luck!

witchygirl

Jan 31, 2012

To: whitney813

Are you on birth control? Or anything like that? What it may be is your getting scarred and tension up during sex, with this your estrogen levels might be off causing the walls inside you to be thinned. I had the same problem and it turned out they had given me a birth control that was completely wrong for me, had alonst triple the estrogen I should have! If your on bc I highly recomend switching to another

tauras20

Feb 04, 2012

thank all of you for comments and advice it has given me hope because as all of you i had sex and ended up with 2tears from my vagina to anus also on the side near my clitoris...... painful not to mention embarrassing stuff. i went to my doctor he gave me antibiotics because it turned into a track and yeast infection, everything is messed up in my nether regions. the meds helped the inflammation and infection but the cuts wont heal, does anyone know how long the average women takes to heal down there? becaUse i miss the days of not being in pain or worry about the next time i have to urinate. Help

sammistraightedge

Feb 09, 2012

To: help

i was having sex with my boyfriend and he pulled out and tried to ram it back in but he ended up tearing the very bottom of my vag it hurts and bleed like crazy will it heal on its own im also 17 and dont want my parents to know iv been having sex so i cant go to the doctor

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