Vaginal Tearing during sex

[silentobserver]

I think, but not really sure if this is where I should post this.  But I have some questions that I would like to have answers to.  Recently my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time.  He is umm kinda big.  And I haven't had it that big before.  Anyway, when we first started there was no problems for entry but it started hurting.  It wasn't too big of a deal.  Well now I have tears...in two or three locations on the outside of my vaginal area.  It hurts to move in anyway including going to the bathroom for obvious reasons since they are cuts.  But I was wondering what I should do?  The pain is unbearable.  Almost like when I had my son and I ended up with four tears.  Thanks.

[Jenni6485]

There isnt much you can do.. Keep them clean with baby whipes or peroxide to fight any bacteria, and use neosporine at night time. During the day feels all mushy and grose, so I wouldnt use it during the day. :-)
I'd refrain from sex until they heal.. you dont want to irrate what's already irritated, you know? It shouldnt take more than a few days for the pain to go away.
Dont be afraid to ask questions... You can't shock us. :-) We've heard everything. hehe.

[AndiJ78]

I would consult your doctor, if it is that painful you need to be seen. I am leery of suggesting treaments involving neosporin and such as some people don't react well and that is not an area that is generally safe to use neosporin.

When I had my boys, I had a 3rd degree epi with one and a small tear with the other. I was simply told to use the peri bottle and rinse with warm water frequently throughout the day and anytime after voiding.

Still, I would feel safest advising you to see your doctor and as the PP mentioned, avoid sexual activity until you are fully healed.

Andi

[verusshka]

I am so glad to have found this site. I have been with my boyfriend for more than 1 year. I had gotten tested for everything last year and our relationship is monogamous. This week I found a vaginal tear, however, I was also worried it was herpes! This has been the worst pain and it has not healed. I am thinking about going to the doctor just in case to rule out herpes. Any other suggestions? it is very nerve wreaking not knowing exactly what it is! Never had any  hx of anything. It hurts to go to the bathroom (urinate). Can underwear also cause the tears?

[oceans3]

my friend had this same problem. (although he's not even that large). anyway, i heard (maybe even here on this forum) to put desitin baby ointment on the affected area. she tried it and it worked. i also dont reccomend putting all sorts of things down in our delicate area (sometimes it can make it waaay worse) but you should contact your obgyn for an appt. this is VERY common. (tears, not being large..lol).

[mandymoo1983]

use some lubrication that will probobly help like ky jelly or something.

[corykis okay]

im not sure of peroxide down there either..OUCH
avoid soaps, warm bath, air dry, some hospitals use a heat lamp for tears, but you have to be careful with that.
If he is "big" lots of lubrication!!

[JoAnnaRF]

Any other ladies here ever hear of Sits baths? Well you could try it. I was given this large bowl type thing (After 1st baby in 1989) that was placed over the toilet seat. Hot water filled it and was constantly replinished as the cooler water trickled into the toilet. This was very soothing (and clean) for a severe episiotomy and trying something simular might ease your pain.
It may also seem old fashioned but I also suggest Vaseline. It can help ease the friction and keep the cuts from tearing further. You should consult with your doc and try to figure out ome compromising positions with your boyfriend that will accomidate both of you since he isn't going to get any smaller and you aren't going to get any bigger. However, over time, I do believe that a woman's body will learn how to adapt to her mate.
Hopefully sooner than later.
--J

[logansmomma]

I have been experiencing the same thing for the last 2 years (since my son was born) and was growing rather worried about it.  I asked my OB to look at a particular spot I had on my perineum which was rough and white and shiny.  She also noticed I had some lacerations by my vaginal opening up by my clitoris.  She did a biopsy of the white spot and it came back to be something called "Lichens Sclerosis."  This is basically a thinning of the vaginal/vulvar tissues that can cause easy tearing even when wiping yourself dry, which is when my cuts seem to occur.  The vaginal cuts are a part of the LS and the treatment for it usually includes a topical steroid cream and topical testosterone to "beef up" the thinning tissues.

[bostonbella]

to anyone that has had a vaginal tear from sex...please help.  did it burn to urinate like the next day or did it take a few days???  also how long did it take to heal??  (i got tested for herpes yesterday but the wait for results is so upsetting).  i did have really really rough sex with this person so im hoping its a vaginal tear. there are two one on each side of the inner vaginal opening. thanks to anyone that can help-im so upset!!!!

[CD86]

Wats up everybody! Im knew to this whole forcum thing and need some advice.. Recently I had sex with a guy friend and we had rough sex! We did in fact use protection but i have a short cut/tear on the space between my anus and my vagina (the perineum). How does rough sex cause these things? we had sex a few days ago and it was kinda sore yesterday but today i took a shower and put vaseline on it and it feels alot better (for those who are wondering what to do). He is pretty big (if u know what i mean)  and i know i had to tell him a few times to let me scoot down while he was on top bc i could feel alot of pressure on the outside? Why is this?

[Poodle65]

I too have had the vaginal tears due to intercourse. But my biggest concern was the area outside the vagina...just below the vagina.  Where a woman can tear when she has a baby.  I noticed it was slightly torn in that area.  I went to two different doctors and both said it would heal on it's own and that no stitches were needed.  It's been several months now and I have not had sex since.  The area is healed and no longer is sore...but it never closed back together.  Is it too late to get stitches?  I am afraid that I will be too big now or that it may tear more in that area.  The doctors don't seem concerned but I worry about this.  What do you think?

[anniebaugh]

My MD recommemded using Crisco...just regular Crisco for all things vaginal. It really works. Stops the pain and itching of all sorts of things - including yeast infections while waiting for the Rx to work. Also, I have found that with vaginal teas, using wet folded toilet paper after urination stops the pain...lots less irritation.

[lluuccyy]

me and my boyfriend have sex quite alot, i sometimes feel sore afterwards and it hurts when i have a wee but it doesnt happen often, but tonight we had sex as usual, my boyfriend noticed afterwards their was blood on the sheets it was a small amount though, i checked myself and i havnt got a sign of blood on me and he said he hasnt got blood on him either, i've looked on the internet for ideas from where the blood might of came from but its no help, i think it could be tearing i dont know. the soreness i often get is around my perineum area and when im sore it often feels like that part of me has split. i havnt got a clue if the blood came from my perineum being split, got any ideas anyone?

[migity]

vitamen E is a miracle...i recently have gotten and tear and its annoying cuz it hurts when i start to have sex and then afterwards i am super sore ....
but i use vitamen E and it helps alot and has been reccomended in naturalist health women books..
its sooths......
cheers.

[petite25]

My boyfriend and I had sex today which was our first time together, only my second time having sex period though.  I'm very petite and well, he has a large penis,  not long ways though.  Anyways at first he had trouble penetrating me which hurt because of my size but after he was in everything felt great and there was no pain.  I then went to take a **** and saw that I had torn my perineum.  There was also a small cut on the inside of my labia minora.  At first it hurt to even sit but the pain is now gone and I'm just wondering how long it's going to take to heal, and when I have sex with my bf again am I just going to rip again?  This is frustrating because he's leaving wednesday for military training and will be gone for a week.  I was hoping to get together tuesday before he left but now i don't see how that's possible due to my tear.  I don't know what to do!  I finally find a GREAT guy and now i'm going to be terrified to have sex with him again for fear of ripping even more!

[BettinaDavid]

This is embarrassing, but I was rubbing my vulva up against a guy over the weekend (not having sex), and now the inner lips of my vagina are red and painful. I am pretty sure it is not an infection, but from chafing. What should I do? It burns..

[Kraiz]

I just got married on 7/7/07 I'm 25 and was a virgin. we have been married for a month now but the other night he got irritated at me cause i went to visit my sister and he waited on me in the truck, and i think i may have kept him waiting too long, and when we got home, he told me he wanted to have sex so when he wants it i give it to him, but he was very rough with me and it felt like air had gotten up in there and it felt like his penis what using my cervix as a punching bag. when i woke up the next morning, from my belly button to the bottom of my vagina, was hurting like it was bruised. do you think this is the case?? he has never done this before, and he was very apologetic to me, and said he didn't realize he was too rough. I told him i was never gonna have sex with him again if he was upset or mad.

[[e-mail]]

I have a few vaginal cuts on my perineum too. Is it possible for an untreated cut to cause infection? I mean, i had the cuts from rough sex (not knowing until i felt symptoms.) I started to have blisters, pain with walking and sitting, pain when urine passes over the blisters and cuts. I went to my doctor and the possibility of it being herpes came up. I am completely freaked out and waiting for test results.
But can something so small like cuts from rough sex cause something so full blown?
I also have been taking Valtrex for 3 days and it isnt working. the only thing working is the lidocaine jelly that I apply like every 2 hours.

Please help me!

[pussycontrol]

i believe i have tearing, I had sex about a week ago, it was my second time, with about a year in between. i was kind of pressered into it by friends. I am very small down there suprisingly so, and i allowed this to happen, for the first week i was just sore, then something else happend six days later, it just out of nowhere started to throb, and then came the burning during urination. It has to be vaginal tears i can't think of anything else it could be. I'm going to try the vasiline

[krinkle07]

I had sex for the first time 2 nights ago. I'm assuming my vagina wasn't wet enough and that i was tight.  My partner's package is quite big aswell so i'm sure this had a part.  My vagina has a tear in it, and that night it was bleeding a lot, like my period.  The next morning there was no blood at all and it hasn't been bleeding since.  It obviously still stings when i pee because i have an open wound, and i could visily see the tear when i was looking in the mirror.  I'm thinking that it'll just heal on it's own because it has compleely stopped bleeding, do you think it will?..I'm really scared to go to the doctor and i'm really convinced it's going to heal on its own in a few days or so

[KD94]

I have had vaginal tearing several times in the past eight years generally from rough sex combined with dry condoms. Just this past Sunday while having sex I noticed that all of the sudden it felt like someone had lit a fire in my vagina. The condom had absolutely no lubricant and had torn which I believe to have caused the friction. Later I found three tears with a little bleeding and it burned like the dickens to urinate. Since this has happened on previous occassions I did not visit the doctor but I did have a herpes test in the past and the results were negative. Just some friendly advice during intercourse keep some kind of lubricant whether you are using condoms are not and that should help reduce any future vaginal tearing.

[polly313]

I need help.....I had sex with my boyfriend and after sex  i went to use the bathroom and something fell in the toilet. It looked like some kind of vaginal tissue. Can you guys help me?

[JJjumper]

Try baby powder for the area.  It keeps things dry.  I tested negative too- during a sore.  I believe that once you tear there it remains suceptible.  I had rough sex and tore for the first time in my late 30's.  Now each time afterward it happens after having had rough sex again.  I think the combination of constant moisture helps attribute.  The baby Powder helps the mositure and if you can ever take the pain- some new skin -like a liquid bandage - on the tear will keep it closed and dry.  It hurts like a ----- though-so it is not for the soft hearted!!

[ukme]

hey...i have just read all your guys advice there is so much to take in..i had sex with my boyfriend the other night after 8 months of no sex..(i have been away..long story)..but everything was okish him entering me was a bit sore so we used some lube then after that everytime he entered me it made me wince...the sex was rougher that usual and i was in a lot of pain afterwards...i could barely sit up..then next day i was throbbing badly i checked out with a mirror the area and saw that i have like a friction burn on the outer side of my vagina and a small tear on the other side?...whats the best treatment for this?...its also agony to pee..how long shouls it take to heal?....in a lot of pain still 2 days afterwards...help!!

[pinkpink]

i'm kinda freaking out a little. my boyfriend andi had sex last night and i was drunk so my pain tolerance was a litle higher and i remember it hurting and i didn't really care at the time and then i woke up this morning and i'm bleeding pretty heavily down there and it's my period...i looked at it in a mirror and i'm bleeding from the inside of my vagina. it doesn't hurt that bad but its very sensitive..any ideas if i tore something badly or what happened? because we weren't very lubricated and i'm thinking the friction caused some rips or something...

[pinkpink]

i meant its NOT my period*

[PR88]

most people get tearing after sex and hurting while peeing as their cuts. usually its because no enough lubrication was used before and during sex. get some proper lube or use vaseline... if tearing still happens its best to just keep it clean. try not to use scented soaps and perhaps apply a little vaseline to the area as its gentle, isnt scented and softens the skin.

[sssaaarrraaa]

me and my boyfriend had rough sex a few nights ago, and at the time it was hurting... and just today it started to hurt and burn while i was peeing... is it because i have vaginal tearing?
this has never happened before, so i have no idea !

[aisha_shereese]

hi, i'm really annoyed by my situation. In the beginning i thought i had a yeast infection or something...turned out i'm perfectly healthy in that department but i still have a slight discharge; however my doctor said it might have be an allergic reaction to condoms, soaps/detergents, or certain types of underwear.......so i did everything she said i should do, not wear underwear to bed, not wear tight clothing ....sooo i did all that its been about a week; there is less discharge but i'm very sore :S(when i got a PAP she said the muscles r fine/it looks healthy; but it was painful for the first time ever; the size of the instrument(i forget the name) is pretty big ssoo the bf is in that range :S) the doctor said it's normal..but take my time with sex BUT my boyfriend is really really big :S and we tried but all he could get so far is the tip in lol ...it's hurts alot if he tries any further but if he fingers me it's okay :S (to try to loosen it)
So does any1 have an suggestions??  or been in a similar situation; i've been with the bf since feb. and i've never experienced this be4
thanx,
aisha

[Christinacloty]

I'm reading this page and have been very re-assured that other women have experienced the vaginal tears that I have.  The main thing I want to point out to everyone is NEVER USE VASALINE!  It's almost like science fiction that turned out to be true, but petroleum jelly is just what it says it is - petrol !  That's right, gasoline by-product, you shouldn't use this on any part of your body, and especially not your lady!  Stick with the vitamin E oil mentioned above.  That is what I am going to try!

[Christinacloty]

one more thing; you can try un-petroleum jelly from any health or natural foods store for a lubricant instead of vasaline.  Or you can use good oils; canola oil, jojoba oil, olive oil.   Jojoba oil is healing for the skin anyway, so any extra you get down there will be good for the little tears.

[extremely upset]

Hi there.  i thought i was the only one with this problem, but it seems taht there are a lot of women in the same position as I am. 5 months ago, my husband and I were trying to have sex. As he was about to enter, I felt this wierd pain. I checked it out using the mirror and saw a tear right below my vagina enterance. A friend of mine thought i should rub polysporin on it, which I did. It looked healed few weeks later, until we tried doing it again, and it tore again. This happened several times. I went to the doctor, but unfortunatley, he was not very helpful. So, we didn't have sex for 3 months, since I was too scared to do it. A friend of mine once said that she had the same problem and thought that i should rinse it with warm water, since that worked for her. So for the past 3 months, taht's what I kept doing, as well as applying polysporin. Last night, we tried to have sex again, I mean...he hardly entered, and I felt the tear. I rushed to the bathroom, to check it out. The tear was not as big as it used to be, but still.....After all these months, I hoped that I was fully healed, but I'm not. I'm sooo scared and frustrated...I don't know what to do...my next hope is to go to a different doctor and maybe have it stiched.....I'm really worried.......

[zjan]

just curious and wanted to learn from this forum. what would cause you if the vaginal tear left untreated? would that put harm to our health like having those disease like bacterial/viral infection down there?thanks. hope i could get some info.

[babyjunk]

I'm having the same problems with my sexual partner, we use condoms and lubricant (ky jelly) and I get this bump that feels like a cut when I urine.....I've never had this problem before in my life!  I don't know if it's the condom or the lubricant??? It happens everytime after sex with this individual...I've been putting vaseline on it this time, it helps with the pain a little.....and it's in the same place of my inner vaginal lip, the right side....Help!

[st88]

Ok this doesnt have to do with having sex. but getting fingered, could that also tear.? im not quite sure if it is tore or not, but its been kinda iching (not that much) and burning...mainly after i use soap..or peroxide. It all happened after this guy fingered me alot more then i had been used to. Is this something i shoul dworry about or not. please help me :(

[LindaJem]

I had sex with my friend (very large) on August 31st and I was on top.  I could feel a little pain but was okay then we switched positions with him from behind.  It became a little rough and started to hurt.  After it was over I could feel the change in my vaginal area.  It felt like it was swollen and uncomfortable.  The next day I looked in the mirror and could see the tearing.  Not only did it hurt in that area but it also hurts around my anus (no we didn't).  The pain has lessend in my vagina area but its hurts a little and itches in my anus area.  Has anyone experienced that scenario with tearing.  I am going to call my doctor tomorrow or go to a urgent care center if he can't see me soon.

[Hiya2u2]

I've been to doctors and have had several tests.  Everything is normal.  I battled little vaginal cuts for a year and it looks like I finally figured out what was causing them.  My husband and I have been married for 17 years, together for 19, so we didn't like the change our sex life had to take.  It's been a frustrating year and way too many trips to the doctor offices.

My problem appears to be an allergy to glycerin, an ingredient in many personal lubricants.

Astroglide now sells a lubricant that is glycerin and paraben free.  Why would they make a product like that unless there was a need?

http://www.astroglide.com/products_astroglide_free.asp

I have been using a product called Slippery Stuff with great success for the last two weeks.  My normal color has returned and no longer am I red, raw, sore, or getting little cuts during intercourse.

So for me, it all boiled down to a glycerin allergy.  I wonder if I can get a refund on all those doctor appointments and tests?  They were no help whatsoever and I solved the problem myself.

[Hiya2u2]

I forgot to say that my doctors kept telling me to use more lubrication, but it only made things worse.  You know, there is a point to where you can't use any more lubrication and sex becomes pointless as you're too slippery to feel anything meaningful.

So it's not the amount of lubrication, it's the kind of lubrication!  Read labels and use glycerin free products.  Also, avoid using any soap around the vaginal area as most of them contain glycerin as well.

[sheesha]

I am 48 and my hubby is 25 (been together 8 years but with last year apart. Sex has often been painful or uncomfortable for me but now the pain and tearing is unbearable. Dr's said it is because of my age and prescribed premarin cream to replenish estrogen directly to the tissues; it does not seem to have helped any, but may be because I am afraid to use it often? There has to be something else we can do.

[29812sweetheart]

Friday  afternoon, i had sex with my boyfriend and when he first entered me it hurt( it felt like it was dry friction , i hope that make since). but i had sex that morinig and it didn't hurt. Afterwards, i had this burning sensation( it feels like an itch,ecept its not) when it was over.the net morining it still hurt. it started to burn  when i  urinate, hurt to wipe my vagina(inside my vaginal lips, it was kind of red ,probably from the sex being dry), and when washing my vaginal area it, stung like crazy. and i knw that females drip a little, but mines was like if i had to urinate and i didnt go right away, it woud drip, sometimes when i didnt have to. it hurt to walk a little. when i told my boyfiriend this, he said' "oh yeah i forgot to tell you it had felt dry" so he didnt tell me. and then this wednesday(oct. 3) i found the tear in my vaginal lips,( think it is two), but i kind of figured it was a vaginal tear because i had one when i lost my virginity. but it started to get better thursday. it dont hurt when i urinate, wash, wipe, or walk. but i becareful not to wash or wipe too hard.i believe it will heal on its on. it did last time.  

[Locita]

I have not thought about vaginal tearing. My husband is 24 and I am 23. Whenever we have sex, I get the vaginal tears. Omg does it kill to pee. So after sex, I would go into the tub with warm water and a soapless vaginal cleanser to sooth it. At first, I thought it was an infection. But when I went to the doctors, the tests came up negative for any std's or vaginal infections. I only started to notice after sex where the bleeding was coming from. I do look over my vagina in the mirror to inspect it. And I did have some tiny tears. I even had to take some narcotical pain killers just to keep my mind off the pain ( i have a low tolerance) but those tears hurt as you all know. I'm not a virgin and I never had kids yet. Just thought I'd post this for more information.

[Tdanfo21]

hello, last night me and my girlfriend had sex, and when she was about to orgasm, i kinda pushed it upwards and in too fast(i had a studded condom on) i think i tore he labia minora and it started to bleed alot! and now it really hurts her to urinate and such so what would be the best thing to put on her tiny tare??

[EVCook]

Random question (and probably posed in the wrong place, but...):  I can be having a *great* time with a guy, no problems with personal lubrication, until he puts a condom on----any and every guy and any and every time a condom is used.  Surely each of these guys have used different types of condoms with different types of spermicide, and yet I suffer from an IMMEDIATE drying up, and almost nothing can fix the problem.(note:  I find lube to be very unpleasant, and it always seems like we need to use a ton and by the end I just feel like a mess).  Even more so, I'm still feeling the affects the next day---itching like crazy and dry for at least the next 24, if not 48 hours.  With all of the different types, I'm sure it can't be a reaction to every type of spermicide--is it really possible that I could be allergic to all?  Maybe its the latex?  But I've never had any kind of reaction to latex gloves before, so I'm not sure about that either.

Thoughts?  Comments?

[hocuspocus]

hi! im new here. i am currently experiencing what i have been reading on this page. while having sex last night i noticed that it was painful and i was bleeding (it wasn't my first time) i think there's been a rip between my vagina and my anus. it's still bleeding until today. what can i do about it??? will it heal on its own? i need help! thanks!!

[fractal]

Interesting topic, so many causes/cures/unknowns. I too have had this problem for a while. No disease, no yeast, always lube (glycerine free, just because I find glycerine stings, especially post-rip). I think my skin is just thin, I can essentially reach down and simply pull myself apart and have the same effect.
I only tear at the vaginal opening base and at the top of the anus opening. so, basically where thin skin stretches.
And, no, having sex every 2nd or 3rd day only, to allow healing up is not an acceptable option.

35, on birth control (nuva ring now, but various hormonal forms since age 16).
I'm going in for my annual gyno visit in 1.5 weeks, and will bring this up with her. I do wonder, with what I've managed to scrape together from the internet, if I'd be a candidate for a topical estrogen cream, even though I'm not menopausal and yadda-ya.
Will post post-doctor results, in case any one else finds useful.

[neckrochylde9]

same problem with perenium tearing,  no one wants to tear and heal, over and over, or give up every and any position that causes these tears, seems to me that the gynos just don't understand or care  how much impact this has in a sex life, i thing, that almond, olive, e, or, jojoba oil stretching and rub in the area can fix it, I tried it for a while and it helped, but I was not dilligent, and so it happened again. I am going to make it a habit and hope for the continued improvment, after that it's going to be an insistent visit to the doc to have about 1 cm snipped down there, thats all i need.

[puggsley2]

Could vaginal tearing be worse in the partners of circumcised men?  I wonder if the lack of foreskin to ease entry could cause tears unless  lots of lubrication is present.  Anyone done any research on this?

[lala27]

wow. new to all this as well and boy do i feel alot better. You know sometimes I feel like I'm prolly the only person having these vaginal problems, but I guess not. My hubby is a "big boy" and I have always had pain afterwards. Well not always, but most of the time. The pain doesn't start until afterwards. It is soooo awful I just go straight to the hot bathtub waiting on me and soak for about 30 min. I'm so sore that I can't walk. SOmetimes I have to go straight to bed and sleep it off. Boy talk about the tears and tears!  I have them everywhere. Its a good thing we don't do it all the time. I have lots of time to heal before the next encounter. The thing is even though it hurts so bad I still love to do it. I just wish I could enjoy it afterwards too!

[oBee]

I have been sexually active for about 4 years, and have just started getting tears the last year....my first bf was big and i had no problem with him at all, my last boyfriend was HUUUUUUUUUUGE (haha) and thats when the problems satrted...i thought maybe i had herpies (herpes) or something but i got tested and i was okay for everything.  they told me it was a certain type of yeast infection that thins the vaginal walls as opposed to giving more of the "cottage cheese" side effect.  They went away for a while and now im with my most recent bf (soon to be fiance) and he isnt big at all and i get them ALL THE TIME i tried diflucan (the perscription for yeast) and monostat but they didn't help..since this problem has started i only wipe with Tucks, its for hemoroids but its sooo soothing to the area as well as cleansing...i only wash with a Ph balanced body wash (Dermalogica Body Wash) and I am super careful about everything i do down there....but i still get them. I recently went to my gnyo and he took a look and tested me AGAIN and said i was fine & just needed lubrication...but something just isn't right...i am only in my young 20's...does anyone have any advice!!!!!!!!!!?!??????? I'm deathly afraid of the thought of children for this reason...if i tear from 2 fingers, i dont even want to know what would happen with a baby coming out =(....i just wish there was a medication that could like thicken the skin down there or something =(

[mirpar]

i have a question.... me and my fiance had sex and i guess i wasnt well lubricated...... and now i off and on bleed....i think i have a tear in or around my vagina....it dont hurt when i have sex but after the sex is done with..and i do bleed a good bit..  its very annoying.... i need advice on how to treat it....how long should i refrain from sex? what ointment should i use? should i wear tampons?

HELP! ANYONE!! lol

[R3D050]

H3Y WHiLE GETTIN FINGERED I EXPERIENCED TEARS BELOW MY HOLE...AND AND 1 ON THE SIDE ITS KINDA SWOLLEN THERE!!! AND I HAVE LIKE 3 OR 4 BUMPS THAT IRRATATE ME LIKE A DIPER RASH...I TRY TO CLEAN IT AND LUB IT UP WITH VASILINE.....BUT ITS STILL THERE!!! I DONT KNO WAT IT IS PLEASE HELP ME???

[mishi24]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one out there with these problems. I've always had a normal sex life until my son was born. The nurse in charge of me did this continual stretching thing on me and caused all sorts of tears. It took me 6 months to heal from giving birth. Now with every sexual encounter with my big hubby...I get massive tearing. These aren't little tears either but they look like someone has lashed me. I was told I had Sclerosis a chronic (unfixable) condition, but that it could be improved with a topical. Well it's never worked and the condition seams to be spreading...now I'm getting internal tears. These lash open almost immediately upon beginning intercourse and feel like someone is rubbing salt into open wounds. Simply put, sex is no longer enjoyable on any level.

My suggestions are to find an OB who will listen to your problems...and make sure to have sex the night before your appointment so they can see fresh wounds! Also for immediate pain control, use some Vaseline; it will keep it from hurting during urination. Vitamin E is also good for helping them heal faster. Also, I've found no over the counter lub is good for you, natural saliva irritates things a lot less. If you’re not happy with that, then use water based lub’s only. I hope this helps some of you.

[pinkdragon]

I think i have the same problem, a year ago i started to really hurt after sex so i went to the doctors gyno and a sex clinic to try to find an answer as to what was causing the swelling and pain. A few months later i discovered a tear and realised that was what hurt really bad so i started using more than usual amount of lube but it still sometimes hurts as some lubes dry out after a while, I'm quite small and he's quite thick and i thought that this combination was quite bad for a couple. I don't get why this only happens occassionally though,
I think the longer you leave between sex the more likely it is to tear again.

[khrys70]

can someone please message me about this too? can you get tears on the outside? becuase i just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time too and he is also large and i was scared i might have an std...becasue when i urinate its painful and burns and when i recently looked at it i have a red tear like a cut or an open wound and it is so painful...what is that? do i have an std? or a tear?

[CS856]

I have the same problem. Doctors have told me that it happens to many women and that it's entirely normal. I've been sexually active for a few years and also got told to use more lubrication, but my fiance and I have never had this problem before with each other or previous partners. We have sex on a fairly frequent basis and use water based lubes. He's an average sized guy and the doctor told us to wait more time in between encounters. We waited until everything healed and then a couple more days just to be safe, made sure we had lube, and it STILL happened. I'm starting to think this may just be something I'm going to have to live with. I'm also in my early 20s and the thought of tearing every time I have sex scares me. I don't believe the doctors can't come up with something to help!!! Any advice would be great, we're getting married soon and I don't want to spend the rest of my life with this problem.

[1234736]

I was wearing a tong that was to tight on New Year’s night.....it was rubbing a lot down there.  When I got back to my hotel room I wiped myself and there was a bit of blood. I had a bath and went to bed....the next day I saw a few cuts in the inside of the vigina (vagina). I freaked out and went to the doctors.....they tested it for herpes and any other STD......it came back that it was nothing but cuts......they are almost healed but the tissue is still very sensitive......I had sex with my boyfriend the other night and a part of the tissue turned dark red.....I hope I don’t get a blister from it. Any advice to make the tissue stronger???
Anyways I just wanted women out there to know that it really can just be cuts and not an STD.

[mincey]

Hi I really need to fix this problem as its wrecking my relationship!
PLEASE HELP!!!...

First of all im 18.. i have been sexually active since i was 15 i have slept with 3 people one being my boyfriend (now) of 1yr.. i am on the birth control pill i have been for since i was 16. In about september/ October of 2006 it started to hurt after sex, My vaginal lips woud get swollen and quite tender, and a bit red, we used to have sex once a day tho this changed to twice a week.. I skipped my period for 2 months in november and december. In between those two months i started to get really itchy down below, stinging a bit, a swallen vagina and really watery discharge with occasional cheesey lumps it was a creamy light yellowy/ greeny colour it was really painful and irritating.. i told my mum and she said it might be thrush and to get canasten cream at the pharmacy.. he gave me a 6 day treatment to which i used an applicator to put the tablet like things inserted in  my vagina.. i only used 3 because it cleared up.  about a month later i started to get the same thing again so i used the other three. now its gone.. i had my first period just frinsh since the time i skkipped it.. and last night i had sex with my bf for the first time in a while and it hurt me but i didnt want to say anything because hes getting angry, and its now a day later and im still quite swollen and i have 2 tears near my vaginal opening between that and my anus.. its really tender and stings.. and afterwards i have sex it burns
Any ideas whats worng??
i am sick of not being able to have sex like i used to and enjoy it!
i have never had a papsmear
and my partner doesnt wear a condom..

[ecca32]

I have suffered with vaginal tears for 5 years, without being able to have sex with my partner.
Finally this seems to have been sorted, through using my dilators once per night in the shower, training my muscles not to cramp up which seemed to pull the skin in, making it tear on entry.
I also recommend getting your partner to do perineal massage once per night if you can (or as often as possible). There are oils you can buy to do this with, e.g. Zita West products.
I'm now looking forward to being able to have sex again. I know how much it affects you psychologically and makes you feel so less attractive not being able to have or give sex to the person that you love. I hope that you ladies get better...its a long road but worth it in the end. I still tear but I don't notice it as much now and the pleasure outweighs the pain. Hope that this helps you.

[fma5293]

i had sex with my boyfirend, of a little over a year, on sunday we were on our sides adn when he went to insert himself he was a little off adn he inserted himself pretty hard he slitely tore the bottom of my vaginal ogening....it doesnt hurt to urinate or to be fingered but when i wipe it is just a ittle sore.. i thik that is becaseu the toilet paper is dry..but i want to know if it would heal in a few days or if i should tell my doc..the problem is the only people that know we had sex are us adn a few friends..my guardian is uptight about this stuff and i dont want my doctor to tell her..i was a virgin till sunday and know im scared i made a mistake at haveing sex at 15....its just a little tear..should i keep putting vaseline on or try neosporin or something different?please help

[navy_here_i_come]

ok i stayed home from school today bc my mom is in flordia and my dad was at work and had my boy friend come over and we ended up having sex and when we got out of the bed there was alot of blood and i dont know what to do im not a virgin i havnt been for about a year or two but anytime i go to pee it hurts sooo bad i dont know what to do i know that i am torn but i cant find anything to do for it does anyone have any ideas??

[joanne_crofton]

i had sex with my boyfriend the otherday it was ok at first but then went kinda dry and he puleed out and in suddenly and i felt a pain hich went away a few seconds later. Next day I was passin water and it felt like that burning stinging feeling like when u have thrush and it is raw skin. I got a shower and examined myself and saw a round kinda ulcer type cut in the opening of my vagina. Is this what yours all look like??? please help. It looks like it has been ripped open into what my mum described as *looks like you have been burnt by a cigarette!! please help anyone x

[rosiebird9]

For the past year I've had every nerotic worry you can imagine about sex related problems. Every lube i try stings like crazy, until i thought i'd found one that didn't... an it turned out i was alergic (allergic) to it. v. painful rash. and that is what had caused my tearing i think. because i've been having regular sex with my bf for a year now, an i never teared before this rash. it mush have made the skin very tender, or thin or whatever, but yes it hurts. every single damn time i have sex. and i used to be verging on nymphomaniac - ish - ness!! which i enyojed! and now i'm just scared. Which as you guys have said. Craptacular. (well. you didn't use that term.)
they do heal. in about 3 days, but without toughening up the skin or softening it, (depending on which is better for down there i suppose!) it will keep happening. i actually had a huge breakdown about it last night! I've seen a doctor. she said when you get a fresh tear we'll have sombody look at it. oh joy. But i don't think i'm going to bother now. I'm just going to try the vitamin E, or ask about glicerin free lube, or the topical steroid cream sombody mentioned! although that sounds like a last resort!
Thankyou to everyone that has helped. You've put my mind at rest. MWaaH!!

[Lucky81]

Have we figured out what to use for these cuts.... I have cuts on the road to anal and at the tip of my clit... Every time I use the bathroom it hurts like heck.  When we were having sex about 5 days ago. It was no pain, everything was find.  We did anal and regular. The next day, my behind was in so much pain.  I let him finish back there can someone also tell me was that a reason for my pain, anyway Now Im walking funny do to the pain and small cuts.  PLEASE RESPOND ASAP/

[trac777]

An autoimmune disease called Behcet's Syndrome's initial symptoms closely resemble the herpes virus, causing vaginal sores, cuts, fissures, and folliculitis (ingrown hairs). Other symptoms develop years later, so it is very important that you find out just what it is that is causing your symptoms. Don't be too quick to brush it off as nothing, Behcet's disease affects people of every age and every race. It is not contagious and it does not run in families. It is important you see a doctor who know's enough to help you. Ask them about Behcet's Syndrome, if they don't know enough to tell you what it is, they won't be able to tell you if you have it or not.

[bigmikesgirl]

I am 48 years old, have had a hysterectomy, partial, back in my 30's. In October of 07 I had major surgery and had all the usual testing for HIV, Hepatitis, etc..because I am heavily inked. The question is, having had no other partners in the past 4 months, other than my new partner, I have been concerned about the fact that he is so very large that he tore me when we had sex. I ended up with a urinary tract infection that was treated but am still trying to heal the tears. He has been fully tested, I could not be the day he was because of the antibiotics I was on, but his results came back a resounding negative, so, the question is, since he tested negative, won't I also test negative?  How do I heal the tiny tear that seems to cause me so much grief? Much more so mental than physical, but I am now afraid to have sex with him again. We have not been with any other partners.

[Nat22]

I had sex earlier today and he was fingering me and got aggressive. It felt like he hit bone and when I went to the bathroom there was blood and pain. I am supposed to be starting my period soon and don't know if the bleeding is mostly from the possible tear or my period starting. I also recently had a yeast infection and thought it cleared up. Lately when I pee it is very painful after the flow. Not during or before. I'm confused

[cm1971]

I, like many of you, have suffered with vaginal tears for some time.  I searched a lot of sights and it seems like there are a lot of us out there and no relief.  I used neosporin, peroxide, and tried natural herbs with no relief.  My gyno finally suggested Premarian cream .625.  I used twice a day it and after a week they were gone and have not returned.  She explained to me that vaginal dryness is many time the reason and until you take care of that it won't get better.  
CM

[shadren28]

I am also very small and the tearing started a few months ago with a previous boyfriend who was honestly hung like a friggin horse. Months later, the tear is recurring with my new boyfriend that I am intimate with 3 or 4 times a week. Sex is very painful for me if I don't take it easy! I don't have herpes, thank god, but the fact that it won't heal is very frustrating to say the least. I'd like to have intercourse as frequently as I want, but I can't even handle my new boyfriend's rather small penis! Thanks so much for all the advice ladies it was helpful and very reassuring that I am not diseased!!

[terrified25]

hi everyone, i've been reading through all your posts and i'm relieved to know that i'm not the only one who experiences vaginal tearing. Normally with sex i tear between my labia and my perineum. i get a slit on either side because i'm very small and my boyfriend is very large (thick and long). i had sex with my boyfriend on friday night, saturday morning, and sunday morning. i could feel the tear immediately during intercourse because i was dry. we did use lubricant, but my the time we used it, it burned because i had already torn. i had to go to a check-up with my gyn yesterday and she looked at the tears and said she she should swab me for genital herpes so now i'm really scared. as i mentioned before i am very small (even for my gyn appts. she has to use the small speculum.) i've never had any std's and i only have one partner. i haven't gotten the results back yet and so i haven't been able to eat or sleep and i've been crying my eyes out over here. but i get the tears almost all the time with him.... i know that you aren't doctors and only the test will show the truth, but is it possible that she could be wrong?

[TinyMia]

hi, I also am very small i read all the posts and I just wanted to say that I have been with my baby's daddy for 5 yrs on the 19th of may and I don't know what it is but sometimes I rip but I notice that when I'm more turned on I don't rip and when I'm not really in the mood, or tired,or sad, or even when I just get out of the shower  that's when I get the most rips

[Sallycinnamon1007]

Hi there, I'm only young (not underage might i point out) and I’ve always had trouble with pain during sex. With my first sexual it became a big problem and led to us breaking up. Now I’m with a new guy and I don’t want to let him down. I'm only petite and he isn't so to say and the first time we did it I got a tear. It hurt a little but it wasn't until the 2nd time that I realised I must have done some damage because I was in a lot of pain and I even bled on his sheets. We ended up not doing it and decided to wait a couple of weeks for the cut to heal. We ended up waiting nearly 8 weeks last night when we tried again I could feel the tear appearing again so as not to make it any worse we stopped and didn't do it.... again. I have some bio oil which is packed with vitamin E and intend on buying some lubricant. What else can I do to help? We'll both be going to university in a matter of months o i want to make ti owrth his while.

[Mjccje]

I have what I believe is a tear inside the lips of my vagina, like right on the side of the actual vagina entrance. It looks like if you've ever skinned your knee, when it starts to heal how it gets that white, thin skin over it? It's killing me, I've never dreaded peeing so much in my life! I just want to know if anyone else's tear has looked like that, with the white skin over it? I, as everyone else with a cut or tear down there, am terrified of any alternative explanations (STD's?) But I don't see that being the case.

I'm going to the store to get something to put on it for the pain, and I've been taking the rest of some antibiotics I had left over from a UTI a few months ago. I'm keeping it really clean with aloe baby wipes all day long, so I'm hoping it gets better!!!!

But I'm nervouse and want to know if anyone else can relate?

[vika22]

Oh, I can relate. I had protected sex with a longtime partner a week ago -- he's not huge but I may have been a bit dry -- and that night, I felt some small discomfort and stinging upon urination. The pain (though it was pretty mild) persisted and got a little worse before it got better. It still hurts a bit to pee and wipe. I can see that the skin on the inside of my right vaginal lip is redder than the surrounding area and looks irritated. But I don't have an open sore. This happened once before with the same partner but that time, it was a day or two of discomfort and then it was gone. Ive spent about 2-3 days freaking out over potentially having herpes but after reading all these posts, I'm guessing we all have the same annoying frustration: We seek pleasure but instead we get pain. No fair!!! (If men experienced even the slightest sense of what women go through....imagine. The world would be a much different place.)

[pkt729]

Well, I can understand what everyone is talking about. I didn't start tearing until I got really sick. I only have had sex 9 times since getting sick. I think tearing can also be caused by illness, rapid weight loss, and sex. I have only been married for just over 2.5 years and I do not like the painful burning and itching. I am glad I am not a parent. I have been itching since mid-February. I want to be better. Waah :(

[catttty]

Hi everyone,
I had sex with with my new boyfriend for the first time two days ago.  I'm not a virgin but it's been a while since I had sex. He is extremely large and we used lube but it was still extremely painful. He had problems entering and when he did it was excruceatingly painful. When I went to the toilet the next day wiping near the back of vagina there was blood, I looked and I can see a small tear. It was two days ago and it looks as if it's not healing. Should I try and let it heal or go to the doctors? Also I don't know how to explain to my boyfriend that we can't have sex until I'm healed I feel to embarassed to say he teared me. :(

[Tina333]

Two months ago sex with my boyfriend tore the skin at the bottom of my vagina. It didn't hurt at the time but was stung after when I went to the toilet. After a week it only partly healed so I went to the doctor who gave me sone antibiotics to help it heal. It did, we didn't have sex for 6weeks to let it heal properly but after having sex last night it ripped again in the same place. Its quite a large tear and I'm not sure what to do now. My boyfiend does have a very wide penis and i'm worried the doc will tell me I just wont be able to have sex with him now :(

[lala831]

ladies ladies laides. you are all my God Send.  I have been having these vaginal tears for a while.  I haven't really tried anything just all in good time i guess.  I would check them daily because i just LOVE SEX! so once it looked normal again i waited just a little while longer. telling him that i had a "broken vagina".  I would go ahead and have sex again and the tears would come back.  Different positions didn't really help with it either. hmm I have heard that you can get a sergery if it keeps re-occuring, just a little snip and stiches.. is that true??
also.. anytime during sex when we tried to use a lub, it was sting like none other.  Its really messin up my sex life. any vitimans, baths or something that i could use?

good thing i have an oral fixation tho!

[cleanandclear]

  I recently had very very rough sex with a guy who i date.  AND he is very very big.
We have had rough sex before. but i think the massive amt of alcohol consumption dulled the pain that night.
I woke up the next day with a huge scabbed rug burn on my back and my knee and
my vagina hurting really bad.
When i looked inside and saw the cut i freaked out.
Its on the inner right side of the lips kinda near the top.  
i dont think it has bled at all
i looked up every std i could find and read all the symptoms.
peeing is the worst
and even showering trying to clean it is very uncomfortable.
im hoping its a tear but
I am going to go to the gyno next week
because i guess im not entirely sure if it is a tear or herpes or something

I want to put off going to the gyno for a few days because im scared it will hurt too much to have someone poking around down there.

anyone know how long they take to heal??

[Geema7]

I am dealing with this problem now too, and am SO frustrated! I first had sex with someone new about 4 weeks ago, and got a tiny tear. He is pretty big and i've only ever been with small to average size men so I just figured it was a first-time thing with him. But the next time, about a week later, the tear ripped again a little bit. Then 2 weeks later (which was yesterday), I figured I was all healed, and tore majorly again - always at the bottom of the vagina like on the perineum. Really, the pain isn't all that bad - I only notice it for a second when we're having sex, and then yes it's sore for a few days afterward, but not anything I can't handle. My main problem is the bleeding! It bleeds horribly!! The first time it stained the sheets, the next time we had to use towels, and last night it bled awfully bad and went through the towel and ruined the sheets completely. If it weren't for the bleeding, I could handle these tears with no problem.

I have read here about some surgery to get "snipped" a teeny bit so that this doesn't happen - anyone know what that is called? And if it's fairly common like if I mention it to my doctor would it be an option for me?? I really don't want sex to ruin our relationship, but right now it's looking like it is. I can't deal with all the bleeding every time....and I certainly don't want to not have sex! I don't know what to do!! Can anyone tell me about this little procedure, or the name so I can look up info on it? All I can seem to find about tears online deals with tearing during childbirth which is not my issue. Help!

[muffins2424]

I had a burning sensation after my boyfriend and I had sex one night and it didnt go away. It hurt so bad to pee and to walk. It made me cry every night because it hurt so bad. During this pain I would leak a watery substance, I thought all of this was just a UTI so i went to the doctors and it was herpes. I told my boyfriend about it and he got checked and he didnt have anything...come to find out he went down on me when he had a cold sore and now I have genital herpes for the rest of my life and he has nothing..It makes me so upset because he is the only one I had sex with up to that point.. Now I feel so embarrassed and dirty and Im not one of those girls.

[darklemon]

I have been sexually active for over a year and I have been in pain everytime I had sex except for 2 times. I've only had one partner and I'm his only partner. We lost our virginity to each other. I think he's pretty thick but I have never really slept with anyone else so I don't have anything to compare it to. But anyway I've been seeing doctors the whole time and it seems no one can help me. I have yeast infections alot because of immune system problems. I ended up getting really irritated down there from a yeast infection that didn't go away for 3 months no matter what I used on it or took. Now I've had the irritation constantly without relief for about 6 months. I tried stopping having sex for 3 months but the iritation persists. I'm tired of not being able to do it as much as I want and never being able to enjoy it fully. It always hurts when he enters and after he gets moving it feels better but remains sore. I don't normally check myself down there but when I had sex with my bf last night, and it hurt again after not doing it for like 3-4 weeks, I checked myself and I think it's torn at the bottom. I pretty sure the skin at the bottom of my vagina isn't supposed to be split so far that neither side touches the other. Also at the end of the "rip" on both sides it looks real swollen. At first I thought I might have a cyst and that's when i noticed that the skin looked split. i don't know if this is the cause of most of our problems or what. I've probably been having this for awhile. I remember a while back seeing some blood after we got done. It was one of the few times we did it during day time. I normally don't get to see anything like that because we do it at night and I'm always on top so he ends up soaking up everything with his underwear when we get dressed. We have always done it in a car since my parents don't approve of me and him having sex (i'm 18) and we are too young to get a hotel...or at least that's what they always tell us. The two times it didn't hurt were the 2 times we tried a different position. Then it hurt everytime after that while using those positions. We can't do many positions because we both have muscle problems. I'm sorry to write so much but it seems I have a lot of problems and I just hope that someone can point me in the right direction because my doctors aren't doing jack. I want to enjoy sex like a normal person. I don't want it to be painful for the rest of my life. I'm always scared now when we do it because I know that no matter what, it's going to hurt. He can't enjoy it too much either because he doesn't like hurting me. Do you think it could just be that I rip everytime? Or is it something more serious? What can I do about it? I'm alergic (allergic) to alot of things so I don't think I can do most treatments. I think that's why I have stayed irritated so long. I think all those creams that my doctors give me are just making it worse. I know that the irritation isn't helping either right now but I've had this problem with sex alot longer than the irritation thing. Also just to be safe my doctors tested me for STDs and I came back clean on all of them. Please if anyone can help I'm desperate. I want so much to have a normal sex life.

[pumagirl]

I really frustrated because I have never had very goo luck with the whole sex thing...it gets madening after awhile. I beleive I have a vaginal tear on the out part of my vagina, im not absolute about this but from reading all these responces thats what it seem...I've tried vagisil and the burning and pain go away if I just leave the area alone, after a day of two I started to get mad the pain was persisting so I tried neosporin and HATED IT! It didn't seem to help when I first tried it though I thought it would help block infection....I've read keeping the area dry is good but its sooooo uncomfortable and I want it to go away!Doea anyone have any rememdies for this particular area besides vasoline (petroleom?) hmm

well anyways thank you

[bb1211]

I have a question if someone could please help me figure this out. 10 days ago I had unprotected sex with a guy I didn't know very well at all. He was the third person I had ever slept with. After we finished having sex he told me he had been with 40 people (he's only 21!) I couldn't believe it. I have had slight pain and stinging when I urinate ever since. Five days ago, I noted a small lesion in the area between my vagina and anus. I went to the doctor and she did a culture. She said it could be herpes or it could be a skin tear. I am freaking out. The fact that he's been with 40 people leads me to think there's a very good chance I have herpes. If it were herpes, wouldn't there be more lesions? And if it is a skin tear, how long until it goes away? If someone has experienced something similar please let me know!

[PreMFT]

Summary of Suggestions
(So I have looked over everyone's posts and so far suggestions for vaginal tears are the following):
*use vitamin E on the tears and surrounding area to help it heal faster
* have your partner massage the perineum to prepare it for more "rough" stimulation (can use vitamin E, Vasoline, or Zita West product "Pre-conditioning Down Under" as one lady suggested)
*wait to have sex until the tear(s) is(are) completely healed (hard at times as that may be) in order to avoid deeper/more painful tears
*If tears persist see your doctor to be checked for STDs and or Behcet's Syndrome (a non-contagious condition characterized by vaginal tears in its initial stages) and ask about Premarian cream .625 as a possible medication for tearing

I myself have had tearing down there on and off for over a year, it definitely helps to wait until you are completely healed and really be mentally "in the mood" when sex is initiated because if you are not 100% into being intimate mentally, at first you my be physically ready, but soon that lubrication may decrease, your vagina may tighten and continuing with sex at that point may increase your chance of tearing further (a lot of foreplay can help maintain that important sexual arousal). Vitamin E has helped in healing in my experience and does decrease pain during urination.

Hope this is of use.

[candace86]

I had sex with my boyfriend on saturday (4 days ago) and we had extremely rough sex, and i tore really bad around my vagina and my rectum.  I also have some tears or really bad soreness around the outer part of my vagina and clitoris.  it hurts to walk sit, move, anything.  it hurts the most when i have to pee, it burns so bad i feel like im going to pass out from the burning.  its too the point now where i dont drink anything so i wont have to deal with the pain of having to pee.  my doctor gave me pain meds to hlep with the pain which helps a little but its so uncomfotable.  i need something for instant relief.  the pain when peeing didnt start till monday, which seems weird but i just want to know how much longer this should last.

[hitori]

My bf and I have sex regularly (abt twice a wk) for a year now and everything was perfect... until recently, my bf was alittle too rough while fingering me before sex and I felt my skin (the skin in between the end of vaginal opening and anus) tore alittle. And the act of sex itself further worsen the situation. No matter how it heals, sex will somehow cause slight tear to that area.

After using more lubs, no more more than two fingers action, and tone down in our rough sex, the skin no longer tear. But one thing keeps bothering me is the skin has been stretched (looks like excess skin) due to the tear and I cant seem to find a solution to get it back to its original condition. Kinda sad about it... I seems to suffer an episiotomy without having childbirth. My problem started less than two months.. hopefully there is a way to solve the excess skin problem!

Help is greatly appreciated!

[hitori]

Pls ignore my typo mistake (To:Sandy).

[ss365]

I've skimmed through this entire forum and found a lot of useful information, however nothing exactly pertaining to what I am experiencing. I'm 24 and have consistently had sexual relationships since I was 16. My boyfriend and I have been having sex (without condoms) for about 2 months now. He is a significantly bigger than most of my prior lovers and lasts significantly longer, but I didn't expect to have any problems. At first everything was fine...better than fine...perfect, but a little over a month ago, I started having some problems with lubrication and it was causing me some pain right at the entrance and internally on the left side of my vagina (not sure if it's a consequence of my birth control or if I just wasn't fully warmed up or what) . So, I purchased some Astro-glide and that seemed to help at first but before long I was having pain on the inner left side of my vagina again for the first few minutes of sex every time, but I guess I would begin to loose sensation as we continued and it didn't hurt enough to stop. Being in the "honeymoon" phase of our relationship and spending time together constantly, we had been having sex at least once sometimes 3 times a day, though this slowed down slightly (though not altogether) when I started feeling uncomfortable. Anyway, the last time we had sex, 6 days ago, I was a little tense and sore when we began, but it was tolerable, until we changed positions and suddenly I was in EXCRUTIATING PAIN. I just about screamed and cried and felt like i could pass out, it hurt so bad. So we stopped. But it still hurts 6 days later. It's slightly better than it was as I can at least gently put a finger or 2 in without too much agony, but I am overly frustrated. I went to my gyno 3 days ago, however at the time I was more adament about the pain i was feeling just at the entrance rather than further inside (since I couldn't even get inside to find out if it hurt) so she didn't do a full pap exam. She said it could be yeast, took come cultures and is testing me for Herpes/Gonnarhea/Syphilis, just in case. I'll get those results back tomorrow hopefully, but for now I am just frustrated and confused as to why I still have this pain, and I am wondering how common internal tearing is and if anyone has any input/experiences/reassuring thoughts on that. It's putting a strain on my relationship, not because my boyfriend isn't understanding (he very much is) but just because I'm so stressed and worried.

[vaginaltear]

My boyfriend and i have really great sex, but my vaginal walls can't handle it. on the inner right side of my vagina, theres what seems to be a vaginal tear, i would think it would be something of that matter because it only hurts after the first couple of times we do it, after a day or two, i feel okay enough to have sex again, but it's the same thing every time, i'm sure that i have sufficent secreation amounts, i'm only 18 years old. My boyfriend is thicker than anything i've had before and i'm assuming it's just a tear. It's really quite a dissapointment in the bedroom. i'm wondering what i can do to fix it, or prevent it. the pain is bad, but not piercingly bad. i don't think it's anything serious, there's no blood. please anyone who has any answers let me know, this problem is truely tearing me apart!

[Faith52]

So heres my story.. Im 19 years old and i have recently been experincing these vaginal tears.. They are long and look like paper cuts, i noticed them about 4 months ago. Its usually two in the same spot, they seem to heal then they come back again.. Im super scared and feel so alone! I've read thru most of the comments you guys had to post n it made me feel a little better. I totally freaked when i started reading up on herpes.. So last night i went and had a culture done... Waiting is total hell. I wont kno for another 10 days.. But if i had Herpes wouldnt it be more then just one or two tears? I noticed them after i had sex a few weeks ago n they look nothing like blisters? The doctore said it could be a possiblity that it is herpes but from the  looks of it, it didnt look like it "yelled" Herpes.. I remember having the same cut many years ago in the same spot? But that was wen i was not sexually active?? Can i just have sensitive dry skin?? Im scared anyone with advice please help.. Thanks :(

[beck_fsj]

Im having the same problems............  with little papercuts.  

I read on a website where a girl was having a similar problem and she had finally found a doctor that told her that because the cuts are vertical (and because they leave behind scar tissue) that it makes it easy for the cuts to reoccur. (which makes sense)    She had gotten a surgery done to fix this  (if you wan to read her posts go here: http://www.womens-health.com/boards/gynecology/5498-good-news-vaginal-tearing.html) - where they have cut away the scar tissue and sewn it back at a diagonal it sounds like.    I think this surgery is a little extreme - as no one seems to know exactly what it is that CAUSES these little cuts and tears in the first place.

Im wondering if its connected to the depo shot at all.........   ?????  Is there anyone else here that is using it? I have been on it for about two years now..........     I found a site that claims there were tests done that found thinning of the vaginal wall while on the depo (with monkeys lol)  http://www.thebody.com/sowadsky/answers/quest114.html

Any information would be appreciated.  My doctor advised me to stay on the depo as I havent had any other side effects and she has never heard of this happening before.  She is treating me for a "bacterial" infection but I feel the perscription for that may be kind of useless.  

[oopsatear]

I made the mistake of not stopping my husband when I first started to feel pain during intercourse.   Now I have an external and several internal vaginal tears.  No more rough sex for us.

My grandmother gave me a lot of advice that sounds good.  I would just like to know if anyone else has had success following some of her recommendations.  

Here is what she recommends:
1.  She said that for a few days immediately after having a vaginal tear that it's important to keep the area with the vaginal tear moist and lubricated with a plant based oil like avocado oil, organic extra virgin olive oil or organic jojoba oil that has plenty of antioxidants to condition and soothe the skin.  
2.  She said that for a few days after having a vaginal tear that I could soak in a warm tub with oatmeal to ease the skin.  She said Aveeno colloidal oatmeal bath powder in the store is good.  After getting out of the tub she said I could apply Witch Hazel pads like Tucks pads to soothe the area.
2.  She also said to wait until my tear it is completely healed before attempting to have sex again and then completely lubricating my vaginal area and his penis with oil the next time we do have sex.  
3.  She said to make sure that I'm completely relaxed and in the mood for sex before we try again.  She said that vaginal lubrication and relaxation of the vaginal muscles is important to prevent new tears.  
4.  She said to eat foods that help the body to repair itself.  She said that there are particular foods that need to be eaten every day. She said that these are the best foods to eat to heal the vaginal tissues and that I should eat them raw or juice them.  She said that it is best to eat a wide variety of the foods that heal the body so that I could benefit form the healing power of each individual food.  She said that I should eat at least 6 of the following organic foods every day.  Parsley, Capers, Red Onions, Red Cabbage, Rhubarb, Kale, Broccolli, Cherries, Raspberries, Blueberries, Cranberries, Red Grapes, Strawberries, Apples, and Red Wine.  (She said that the Parsley should be eaten daily by drinking the juice of 3 bunches of organic Parsley mixed with the juice of 3 large celery sticks everyday for breakfast.)  
5.  Finally she said that I need to "tone" and strengthen my vaginal tissues with epsom salt.  She said that this prevents re-tearing.  She said every few days I should put 1 cup of epsom salt in my bathwater and soak in the bathtub for 15-30 minutes, but no longer than 30 minutes to strengthen the vaginal tissue.  She said Epsom salt is best because it has Magnesium which relaxes the tissues while it strengthens them.  But she said that if I was in a pinch and didn't have epsom salt that I could use 1/2 cup of table salt but that I would need to soak for 30 to 45 minutes.  She said that an epsom salt bath is especially good right before resuming sexual intercourse.  

Again, I'd like to find out if anyone has had success with any of these home remedies.  

[reethenurse]

currently, i am experiencing the vaginal tear situation. ive had little tears before, but this is the worse by far. my bf and i had too much to drink and had to much fun on saturday night. i woke up sunday morning feeling like ****.and then my period started, so im in double pain! but i am feeling slightly better compared to the other days. a few things that i found helpful was *using Vaseline and baby oil in the area affected* frequently washing the area to keep it clean*using baby wipes instead of toilet tissue which can aggravate the area and make it worse* placing a warm towel between your legs to soothe the area*

* i also noticed that a lot of people had trouble with the burning urination problem. one thing that works, is peeing standing up! when you stand up the urine goes straight down into the toilet instead of trickling down your vagina and burning the tear when sitting down*

[Kizi]

I am having this same problem, but I am 55 so I am sure age is a factor.  Last January when this happened, I went to the doctor.  She was going to prescribe some estrogen creme but for some reason she forgot.  She tested me for herpes and it was negative.  She did prescribe some cream that was expensive to heal the tears and reduce the pain.  My husband and I use a lubricant but I think the thinning of the vaginal wall is the main culprit.  

[Ultraviolet447]

Hi evryone.. I have just joined on here and I thort your discussion on the vaginal tearing during sex was interesting, since i have had a slight tear myself not long ago , during sex with my fiance. it has healed somwat now, thanks to the Savlon cream i put on it! mind you its now bin at least 3 days (with the help of Savlon cream being applied), that it has healed somwat pretty well. Of course intercourse has been put on hold untill I'm sure i can perform again, but nevertheless just because you cant have sexual intercourse doesnt mean you cant do other things to your loving partner...(ie oral sex and masturbation etc). For those of you who say that it stings when you have to urinate ..may i suggest that you lean slightly forward,so that the urine doesnt trickle over the cuts if you know what i mean ..it does work... it did for me!!

Anyway I dont want to sound too self righteous, about it all, but just thort i'd give you a heads up on the whole matter. I know it can be frustrarting, but just rememeber tto be careful and not go at it too hard.. after all were not porn stars!! he he

[sweetiegurl142003]

I've had a sex a few times now, and the past two times with this guy, I've torn the perineum. Is there anyway I can prevent this from happening again? I let them heal on their own, and I don't have sex before they heal, but they are painful. Is it possible it's just the position we use, is it going to tear every time? Any suggestion are welcome.

[T1985]

I am 52 and the last two times my husband and I have had sex, I have a burning feeling on the outside on my inner thigh back to my buttocks. The first time it was on the left side, this time it is on the right. It doesn't burn when I urinate, it just feels like I have a sunburn and hurts all the time. Has anyone else experienced this? Help please.

[tfar10]

This has helped a little but i haven't had any kids and I'm still experiencing tears.  My tears are at the opening of my vagina and I have vertical tears in between i guess my labia major and minor...? I shave also and my pubic folicles are even sore. My boyfriend is also quite large and we just started having sex im not used to using condoms either.. i know : ( bad.  help!!

[afrolatina860]

Today I went to my Gynocologist after experiencing two weeks of terrible vaginal itch and tearing (PAINFUL). My doctor informed me that most women experience vaginal dryness whenever there is hormone changes such as stress, birth control, weigh gain or loss or anything time which the hormone change. Therefore a result of vaginal dryness is vaginal tearing because it itch; has he illustrated if you have dry skin it itch therefore it's the same case with our genitals. Doctor instruct me to wear good cotton panties not victorias secret panties which only have a small strip of cotton. He also said for me to not bath roommate; because hard water would also be attributing to my vaginal dryness. My doctor sent me home with a prescription that will help heal the tearings which I have from my severe cratching. Well ladies I hope this help.  

[C_baby]

Night before last my bf and I were having sex. It was pretty vigorous and he slipped out inbetween a thrust. It felt like he slammed right into my clitoris. There was a sharp pain but it didn't last very long. We continued on, there was no more pain. Afterwards we noticed blood on both of us. It was a good bit of blood. I knew from the color that it wasn't my period. I used a baby wipe to clean the area and that's when the pain came back. I checked it out with a mirror. There is a tear, more like a pea sized hole and a bruise on the inside of my labia. It burns when I pee. I've put peroxide ok it with a qtip and neosporin. The whole appears to be getting smaller but not the bruise. And it still hurts. Does anyone know how long this will take to heal? And if it will be safe to have sex again soon?

[thetunapooders]

This morning when me and my boyfriend were having sex with a condom (we dont usually and this may completely unrelated) and his shaft somehow slipped out and got caught on the labia or the hood i cant really tell for the entire region hurts right now, anywhoot it started bleeding for about 20 minutes until it slowed down, now it drips every so often. I know I have to keep it clean and there is not much i can do however the vein going down above the clit to the labia has turned bright purplish blue and is inflamed, much larger than usual.
is this a result of the blood loss or is something worse?? I dont know what to do can anyone help?

[zoepix]

Hello Everyone,

I can't begin to thank each and everyone one of you for your posts!  I have had this tearing problem for almost 15 years (since my son was born).  All these years I thought it was associated with my episiotomy and now I learn that it isn't, as a lot of you have claimed to not have any children. I really thought I was the only one with this problem.  I have been to many doctors and none of them seem to care or offer any real help.  I wouldn't wish this problem or the pain that goes with it on anyone but still it is comforting to know that I am not alone and that I am not broken.

Part of the issue is that now everytime I tear, I swell and then get a yeast infection from the wound so then I have to wait for the infection to heal.  The other problem is now it's psycological, I want to have sex but I know how much it is going to hurt so I can't, I don't produce any lube and I can't relax no matter how much foreplay there is.  It doesn't seem to matter how long I wait been intercourse I tear, now the area is so weak from the constent tearing I think it is permanently damaged.  It is a visious circle and I am totally fed up with the whole thing!  

I have tried everything expect the surgey which is looking like my only option at this point if I ever want to have a normal sex life again.  I have been researching it and apparently they remove a small piece of skin at the edge of the opening to remove the scar tissue which is what keeps tearing.

For all of you that have just started experiencing these symptoms my suggestion is you find a good gyn and try whatever you need to to fix the problem.....it will get worse..the more it tears....the weaker the tissue gets and the more scar tissue develops.

For those of you interested in the surgery I am going to get a consult in a few weeks and will post back my findings.  If I go ahead with the procedure I will let you all know how it goes and if it helped.

Good luck to all!

[well_one]

This forum has been so helpful! I went through the same things as many of you - going back to my GYN over and over for this painful, itchy condition I got after every time I had sex with my (now) husband. My tear is unfortunately a little bit inside the vagina, making the surgery impossible. However, my GYN gave me some Premarin cream to apply topically, and it seems to help some. It apparently builds the tissue strength up. I've been using it for a few weeks and things are slightly better.

[deemma]

heres a tip I fiugared out the hard way, lean foward while urinating, often its just the urine running in to the cuts/tears that causes the burning, if you wipe (carefully) before you sit back up, you should have no urine running down towards the hurt area, tada, less pain, so one less problem at least. (or till you forget to do it lol)

[danielle10141]

so i had sex the other night with this guy who is a lot bigger than anyone ive had sex with before. i was pretty intoxicated and while we were doing it i felt a bit of pain but i figured it was just because i hadnt had sex in a while. In the morning i went to the bathroom and there was a tiny bit of blood and it hurt to pee. I figured that was all fairly normal, but then i noticed that the skin between my vag and anus was torn. not all the way to that muscle by my anus but about 1 cm and deep. its weird lookin and feeling and im worried its not going to heal back together. do i need a stitch? im afraid anyone who i hook up with now will think its gross because i definately do... pls tell me if i need to c a dr to get it stitched because i cant have this huge rip forever....

[Maggie72178]

My God ladies... reading this brings me a lot of comfort. I too have had rough sex with my boyfriend and he is big down there. He is a maniac and seems to unleash on me.  Well, after a day it hurt for me to walk, sit, URINATE which is the worst part, and even sleep... It is the worst pain ever... Going to the doctor tomorrow for some serious help.. I appreciate your comments and thoughts.. Keep em coming.

[mickeymouth]

So, I'm 17 and I've been getting vaginal tears for the past couple months because the boy I've been with is big, I'm kinda small, and we're both a little rough. The first time we had sex back in January, I didn't really notice the tear- I thought I might've just been sore because it's been a while. Mind you, i have a high pain threshold. But now every time we do it, I tear and bleed which is scary.
It doesn't hurt to pee, but I have to pat dry so i don't get irritated. My guy hasn't said anything about it though I know he's noticed. I don't want to stop having sex, but i do want to heal OBVIOUSLY. The tear is small but I'm concearned it may get bigger.
I wanted to go to planned parenthood because i don't have the money to make a gyn appointment sometime soon-but how well could they really help me at planned parenthood? Not that well I'm guessing.
I don't like the idea of putting petrolatum jelly on my open wound, but i have this all natural Badger brand body balm stuff that I'll give a try in the meantime.
Thanks for all your helpful comments, I feel a little better about it.

[nmlee]

I've been with my gf for almost two years, and we have a very healthy sexual relationship. We noticed that after she got on the pill and I stopped using condoms, that she started getting small cuts around her vagina lips. After much looking on the web, I realized that the main culprit, is LACK OF LUBRICATION. If you think about it, nature made it so that males are supposed to ejaculate quickly, thus the female body provide lubrication, but not tons of it. Nowadays, with the whole "sex must last longer," people are having sex longer than the female body can sufficiently lubricate. Especially when the sex is rough, there is a ridiculous amount of friction going on down there (imagine giving your skin an indian burn for ten minutes+) Friction in itself, generates a lot of heat, and that heat causes any lubrication/liquid to quickly dry up. Thus, it is important that when you first get these tears, to give yourself ample time to LET IT HEAL, otherwise you are simply reopening the same tear over and over again, and scar tissue may develop which can be a severe problem later. Forget what your partner says/feels/wants and your own sexual desires - it is important that the skin is healthy down there and not damaged first. Once the tears heal, invest in a LUBRICANT. A lot of people are used to watching porn and no one ever puts lubricants during porn (but they always put it in before), and so many people (mostly guys) think it is unnecessary to put lube. THIS IS WRONG - IT IS NECESSARY TO ALWAYS USE LUBE. Also, condoms are usually lubricated and provide a protective barrier, but it is still good to use lube. For those who do not use condoms, the penis and skin can absorb/wick away lots of lubrication and moisture, and thus YOU MUST USE LUBE AND AMPLE AMOUNTS OF IT. If you have sex for a while, you should re-lubricate every 5-10 minutes, as lube does dry up. This is the only way to prevent tearing of the vagina and vaginal walls. Also, for those worried about STD's and herpes, it is usually the case that your vagina does not have ample lubrication and tears; however, it is still very important to get yourselves checked out to make sure.

Hope that helps! Now go buy some lube and enjoy some pain-free sex!

[polishcuite87]

wow reading all this really helped me out! i was rly worried and scared i was the only one w/ this problem, but i feel tons better about my vag tare knowing it will heal, and i will start using lube to!

[Bea839]

Girls, Channel 4, UK have just broadcast a program featuring a girl with similar symptoms to many of you (broadcast channel 4 Weds 29th July 09, 8pm "Embarrassing Teanage Bodies".

She was having pain after sex, inflamed vulva and lots of little cuts. She'd been to 3 doctors and none of them helped her. In the program she showed her problem to a doctor who referred her to a sexual health professional. After ruling out sexually transmitted infections by doing a full sexual health check the specialist then referred the girl onto a dermatologist (skin specialist). He diagnosed Vulvodynia (pain and inflamation (inflammation) of the vulval area with unknown cause). This can also be known as Vulvar Vestibulitis when it is in a more localised area around the vestibule or Vestibular Adenitis. He prescribed her a special soap and cream to use every morning (unfortunately it didn't say what the cream was). Anyway, they followed up with her later in the program and she said her condition had massively improved and she was now experiencing virtually no pain at all!

For those of you who have also described the more severe / deeper tears of the perinium they also featured another girl who had suffered a bad tear during birth. The doctor referred her to a specialist who gave her a simple 15 minute operation to reopen the wound and stitch it up better again. Again, this was another success story with the girl reporting that her situation got much better afterwards!

I think the moral of the story here girls is to persevere! Do not take "no" for an answer and do not let doctors tell you to ignore it. It is not normal to experience pain like that and you shouldn't have to put up with it. If they try and turn you away demand to be referred to a sexual health specialist or dermatologist. Or seek another opinion from another doctor if they will not give you the referral you need.

I hope this message gives some hope to all of you. So many of the posts on here are from girls desperate to find a solution with hardly any featuring positive messages of success stories.

I have just recently started to experience these syptoms (symptoms) myself and I am booked in to see a senior specialist at the Sexual Health Centre next week.

Good luck everyone! By the way you may be able to see that program online if you're interested. Go to www.channel4.com/programmes/4od and search for "embarrassing teenage bodies" or try this link:

http://www.channel4.com/programmes/embarrassing-teenage-bodies/4od#2929573

Bea xxx

[student_nurse]

     Every time I have sexual intercourse it is VERY painful; painful to the point of not enjoying it. I noticed I would have little tears on the outside tissue of my vagina and a larger, deeper tear at the opening. I started to become concerned so when I went in for my annual I asked about it. She told me there are several different things I could do to help prevent this.
     First is to use a lubricant. When there is not enough lubrication the tissues becomes irritated, which causes pain, redness, swelling, and tearing. She also said it would help to not only use a lubricant during intercourse but also applying it once or twice a day. This also helps to keep the vagina moisturized all the time not just during intercourse. I tried different types of lubricant and found most to be very irritating; however, I found one that is produced in the UK that is all natural. It is a vaginal moisturized as well as a lubricant (www.yesyesyes.org).
     Second is to use a vibrator. This is to help stimulate the natural release of vaginal secretions. You can do this as foreplay to ensure enough lubrication or just on your own. There are several studies that discourage the use of vibrators to the point of organism. If a woman uses a vibrator every time to organism then it can cause her to not be able to reach one while engaging in sexual intercourse. This is because the human body, the penis, is not capable of producing the same stimulation.
      Third is physical therapy. I know what you are thinking how can physical therapy help down there? I thought the same thing. The pelvic floor muscles are the muscles that surround the vagina and anus (responsible for other things as well). For some women these muscles are too tight and do not relax enough. Not being able to relax these muscles is what causes the tears. There are physical therapists that specialize in teaching women how to relax these muscles and many OB/GYN offices either have them on staff or work very closely with them.
      There is just one more thing she told me that is very important. If you continue to have sex knowing it is painful, for what ever reason, you will subconsciously view sex as painful. This will cause difficultly in arousal and the release of your natural vaginal secretions. I hope this information is as helpful to you as it was for me.

[faridaprincess]

i hv had sex with many men this has never happend b4,im 43,my current bf is very very wide,we hv been active 4 seven months
i got a tear at the bottonm of 1 of my pussi lips,very bad pain plz help...london england

[adb711]

Ok so I hope this helps everyone with vaginal tears as much as it did me! I have had a problem with vaginal tears for 4 plus years off and on and what i have chalked it up to is hormones. I had them really bad while on birth control, 1 week before my period every month and again after having my son. i have been to 6 different doctors for this problem as well and was placed on a few different steroid creams and premarin cream as well. i'm 24 years old and have never had an std and have been married for 5 years. Recently out of frustration and this effecting our sex life I decided to venture out and went to a locally owned health food store, and totally glad i did! they were very knowledgable about vaginal fissures and sold me emu oil and a zinc supplement.

I'm not sure if the zinc supplement has had much to do with my progress but the Emu oil has been amazing!!! i apply it 2 times a day morning and nite as well as use pampers sensitive baby wipes instead of toilet paper now. Have only been using it for 3 days but i'm not kidding when I say that I had instant relief from it and it has been amazing! i no longer itch/burn and it doesn't hurt to go pee or to have intercourse which is such a huge relief! I will continue using it and let al of you know if I still have the same relief from it.

I should also mention that I have had 1 child and with his birth had absolutely no tearing or an epi so that was not the reason for my tears, i fully believe it's just a hormone thing and none of my doctors has any insight or explanations either.

I understand how frustrating this is for all of you, and how painful so I wanted to blog this incase it can help some if not all of you. Make sure to get 100 percent emu oil and let me know if it works for any of you.

[Gha1211]

I have a tearing/pain problem too... can I buy these creams over the counter or do I need to see a doctor to get precription??? thanks

[adb711]

Hi everyone,
I wanted to post an update about Emu Oil and majorly helping with tears! I have been using it for exactly 2 weeks now and I have not had another one! This has been wonderful for me and I should have had at least one tear open up last week because I started my cycle which always causes them, but it didn't happen. I did some research on the website for the one I bought and it's also recommended for anal tears, which I had as well and they got worse everytime i went to the bathroom. Apparently it's also a natural anti-inflammatory so that is why it helped so fast with the itching and burning. I did read on someone elses post that tampons could make this problem worse and I agree I have tried every brand of tampon and switched to pads only and it has seemed to help as well. Good luck to everyone and I really hope all of you try this, it has been my miracle cure, I did tell my doctor about it in hopes that she might suggest it to other patients of hers.

[stevieN]

Hi. I discovered i have a small tear. it is bleeding a bit but not heavily. will it heal by itself or should i see a doctor?? also how can i keep it clean? any help would be great!

[charlie1940]

I found a warm salt bath wonderfully soothing.  During the day I apply Bactine spray for its anesthetic & antiseptic effect, then pat dry and apply zinc oxide.  This routine finally seems to be working.  I think I will try the Emu-oil.

[blondey28]

Hi there,
I have hopefully got a solution to vaginal tears. I had them on and off.. but pretty much 'on' for 3 years. I went to many doctors who didn't know what on earth was going on and gave me little support. I went to a naturopath who did a spit test which measured my hormone levels. When the result came back my hormones were at the same levels of a women going through menopause and I am only in mid-20's! I had been on my pill for around 10 years and felt it was probably best that I went off it so I have, annoying I know but I'd rather not tear :) . I have been using progesterone drops in the morning to help maintain those levels but have actually found what has healed it the best is a low dose oestrogen cream called ovestin applied topically at night and vitamin e oil in the mornings. I am no longer tearing and the skin down there feels stronger and more flexible. I spotted for a couple of days on the oestrogen cream but like I said before, a small price to pay to have normal, pleasurable sex again. I will stay on the oestrogen cream for about a month then see how it goes but the skin had recovered after 2 weeks and I am so much more confident with sex again!
So currently I:
1. Use non-soap cleanser when washing
2. Take progesterone drops in the morning
3. Use Ovestin cream topically sometimes morning and always night
4. Use vitamin e oil occasionally in morning
5. Off the pill
I feel that all of these above have contributed to me getting better :) Yay!