What do i do about my friend??

[LisaLuke]

This probably isn't the right place to post this but you've all been extremely helpful when i've posted before, so here goes....

I live in a ground floor flat with my husband and the woman who lives above us keeps having sex, really loudly at various times of the night and day.  At the beginning my husband and i thought it was quite funny, gross, but funny and we didn't really care about it.  But now she keeps waking us up in the middle of the night about 2 or 3am.  My husband works shifts and he has to get up really early and i'm 30 weeks pregnant and finding it hard enough to sleep as it is.

I've known this woman for a long time, as our parents are friends and i have text her asking her to keep the noise down.  She says that she's sorry and then nothing changes its still the same.  

She brings men into her flat that she hardly knows, she has a 3 year old son and i think its bad that if i can hear what she is doing so can he.

What do you think i should do or say? I'm really struggling to stay friends with her and its making me want to move out and find a house, but we can't afford it right now.  I also don't want my baby to hear that when he is born.  Sometimes i think maybe i'm overeacting and its not that bad but i just feel like she is being inconsiderate.

[monkeyflower]

Well, you don't have to worry about your baby. No newborn is going to have any idea what that sound means. And as for the noise itself, you definitely shouldn't try to be too quiet around your baby, especially when s/he's sleeping.

Anyway, I don't think there's a lot you can do, aside from moving. You've already talked to her and nothing has changed. So if it really bothers you that much, then I'd suggest looking for another apartment. In the meantime, try to appreciate the fact that you're hearing people having a good time, and not fighting :-)

[LisaLuke]

I really do wish i could move but we own our flat, it's not rented so we can't just up and leave, unfortunately.

[lovethebops]

Before we bought our house, and had a baby, we lived in and apt. w/ downstair neighbors that we were not friends with...they never had loud sex, but they were very inconsiderate of anyone around them!! they would drink, do drugs, and stay up all night partying, and they also had a young son, often times he would be up with them:( It got increasingly worse, and the only solution we could find was to remove ourselves from the situation...we asked them several time to quiet down, but to no avail...It was hard, and money was tight for us as well, but I'm so glad we got out of there! It worked out nicely for us, and having our own place with no close neighbors has been a better environment for our child..Good luck to you and hope things work out well for everyone!

[anxiousmomtobe?]

Rent the flat and move.

Or complain to management and have her booted out.


Or just ignore her.  Wear ear plugs.

[sparkeler]

"Why am I being evicted"?

"For haiving loud sex!"

I doubt that is grounds for eviction.  I've never seen anything like that in my lease.

Wear ear plugs.  

[LisaLuke]

Thanks everyone for your comments, no sparkler i think your right about that lol.  I'm going to get some earplugs though, that was a good idea.

Its not so bad at the mo, i think i was just having a mad pregnancy day and needed to get it all out.  My husband and i looked at our money situation and we're going to have a look at a couple of houses today!