Why am I not very sexual active any more?

[glad*2*chat]

I have not been very sexually active for the past yr & a half. Since I gave birth to my daughter. My hubby always asks about 4x a week. But i sometimes fake headaches or toothaches or tiredness or anything I can think of. Recently it has mostly been 1x per week.
I am 31 he is 30.

Could it be something to do with the hormones?
What can be causing me to not want it?

When i go on my AF (per.) I can do very well without intercourse.
Sometimes It lasts 4 days but I fake it for 3 more days.

Anyone had this problem before & then found out what it was???

[pertykitty]

first of all faking to get out of sex isnt a great thing to do, your dh should know so he can be supportive. maybe you are tired, its hard to be a mom to a little one, working at home or outside. could be post pardom. id call your dr and discuss this. maybe you have just changed and sex isnt your main priority anymore (as with most moms when tired). be honest with your husband, im sure he must feel like **** too when you have a headache 3 times a week. having a child is a strain enough at times on marriage. the kids demands us, our dh demands us, heck the dog demands us. be true to yourself, talk to your dr about this.

[anxiousmomtobe?]

ARe you still nursing?

I think most women find they have a decrease in sex drive when they have a wee one in the house.

Talk with your dh, tell him you are struggling.  Maybe you two need some time away without the baby to reconnect and truly remember when you lovers and not parents.

Sex is more important to guys.  It often is the best way to get our love across to them.  

I would rather he did the dishes, now that makes me hot....

He would rather play.

Don't let this go unaddressed.

[sparkeler]

I think you really need to be honest and address this problem.  It's important for your husband to know how you are feeling.

I'm not saying that your husband will cheat, but I do think one of the reasons why men stray is b/c they don't understand why they are not getting it from home.  They take it personally & want to feel like they are desirable.    

A little communication is all it takes & just meet each other half way on this.  

[glad*2*chat]

thanks everyone....I have an appointment coming up Thurs. with my Dr. Just wasnt sure whather to ask the Dr. or not but I will. Thanks again.

[boosty]

fist of all, i would be honest with your husband. your not being so intrested in sex is very normal after giving birth and having a baby. sometimes it takes a long time to get back on track. hes lucky hes even getting it once a week. hahha. but be honest with your husband and explain to him that after a woman gives birth to a baby, her body goes through all kinds of temporary changes. like one could be depression. ones is your sex drive and emotions. its ok. give yourself that time to be ready adn get back on track because the more you fake it now and the more your run from it, the more yoru husband feels rejected and soon before you know it, you dont wanna have sex because you feel like you have to now. just be honest with him and try to compromise with eachother now. maybe if you guys create more of a romantic atmosphere. like you sure could start with a massage. good luck and let me knwo what you think.