I'm starting to think that me and my wife will never have sex again. I just don't get it. She had a vaginal yeast infection for, well, no one really knows how long. Suspecting at least a year. First doctor didnt catch that it was a yeast infection and told her to just use lubrication.
Second doctor thought it was some infection relating to somehow wiping from the anus to the vagina and gave her a pill for that.
After that didn't cure matters, we were referred to a specialist in Hershey PA. We have seen this specialist three times. First time there, he took samples, said it was a yeast infeciton. Prescribed a form of sporanox. She was on that for roughly 1 month. We went back, he said to keep taking it, no real signs of improvement.
Came back 2 1/2 months after first visit, he said the yeast infection is gone. No way that yeast could be living up there, he said, with the dosage she was on.
So he said to start using lidocane (spelling?) on a cotton ball positioned at the opening of the vagina. And he said he believed that lubrication would be help the inside friction. He said that she should try this for 5 weeks and that 70-80% of people see improvement by this method. He also said that the people that dont see improvment then have an injection of some kind of steriod once a week into some area of the vagina.
That is where we are. I tried to finger her last night, and the same pain is still there. She's only done the cotton ball thing for about a week.
We are just so frustrated. From me fingering in her and getting the reaction of pain, i just dont see how lubrication will solve matters in there. I can't find anything on the internet about the recovery process after a bad yeast infection. It seems like what i've read is that when the infection is gone, pain should be gone, or at least weakened. Am I wrong in that assumption?
He looked under a microscope to tell us that he believes the yeast infection to be gone. Is that enough proof? Could it still be there? She has no pain on the outside of her vagina, he said it looks healthy, no swelling, no different colored discharge, no lumps that i can feel, no strong odor, pain just inside her vagina (burning), and pain a middle finger length's in.
I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance. We dont have sex obviously. I just try to pleasure her with oral and my finger. We want sex. We didnt have pleasurable sex on our honeymoon because of it. Has anyone ever gone through something like this? Or know someone that has? Frustrated beyond belief. I have trouble applying myself completely at work and at home. Because if this isn't fixed, and if we have trouble conceiving (she is 23), what is the point??? We repented to God for having premarital sex. Is this his way of punishing us? I'm so sorry. We were wrong.
Thanks for any replies,
A very concerned and worried husband