Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
Avatar universal

Will gynecologist tell my parents im sexually active?

I am 15 years old and have only had sex with one partner but he has had multiple partners. A little over a month ago, my pediatrician tested me for chlamydia and it came back positive. I told my partner and we both were treated.

Two weeks later, I went to the gynecologist and they tested me again. The test came back positive. Which confused me because I had not had sex since before I was tested and treated the FIRST time. So im thinking I somehow didn't take the antibiotics correctly or they tested me again too early. The nurse who called me from the gyno office told me not to have any form of sex until they got a negative test from me. They prescribed azithromycin again and I took it again.

But to get to the real point, I am going to be tested again next week. I had unprotected sex a week ago (6 days after treatment) with the same partner who gave me chlamydia. He told me he has been treated, but he won't get tested again for another three months. I am experiencing sore and swollen throat and today I noticed that I am spotting again. its very possible that I have it again and gave it back to him.

The question is, if I test positive for chlamydia again will the gynecologist tell my parents since this will be the third time and since they told me not to have sex and I did it anyway? I know what I have been doing is wrong and very irresponsible of me but if my parents find out, its quite possible they will kick me out and I obviously don't want that to happen.  
7 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
134578 tn?1693250592
COMMUNITY LEADER
Honey, look for a guy who loves you.  It does sound like that guy was more of a cad.  The old saying is, "When a guy gets f***ing on his mind, all his brains go to the head of his *****."  But even worse than someone who has been impulsive because he is horny, I think this guy was basically using you, and that he gave you the chlamydia again and again.  You can't mess with chlamydia, it really can harm your fertility.  He either didn't take his meds or he slept with someone else, and neither of those things is the action of a guy who worries about your well-being even more than his own.  That should be a given in a guy, if you are going to have sex.

As the others have said, a doctor is not allowed to blab to your parents about your condition, unless you are being abused or your life is on the line.  Take your meds properly, and keep yourself tidy for real love, and be patient.  Guys in your age bracket are very immature, and very selfish, you might need to wait until the males around you do some growing up.  It is worth a wait to find someone worthy of you being willing to give the gift of your intimate connection.  Value yourself, and expect the guy who you are with to value you just as much.  

(((HUGS)))

Annie
Helpful - 0
4851940 tn?1515694593
Yes, it is sad that you have learned the hard way about a man exploiting your feelings.

You are making the right decision in waiting until you are more mature and more grown up, meet the right person that loves you for you and not just for sex.

Wishing you a wonderful and happy life whatever you choose to do (not referring to sex)

Best wishes.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Thank you, that is very thoughtful advice. I will definitely take that to heart and try to be more careful about who I let sleep with me.l
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Just take care of your self you will learn that boys only care about sex and not you . When your older you'll see that a man that cares about you will always respect your decision and you'll know when it's real and not about sex don't let this one guy ruin your whole life I hope you get better soon your too young for this drama don't have sex till your mature enough
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Im not planning on having any sexual relations with this person again. It's just a terrible idea and im disappointed that this is how I had to learn my lesson.

I am going to see the gynecologist next week and am going to be tested again and treated, if necessary. Im planning on no longer being sexually active until im actually in a relationship with someone that I trust.

Thank you for your helpful advice!
Helpful - 0
4851940 tn?1515694593
dannita96 has answered your question with regard the gynaecologist telling your parents.

With regard to the chlamydia, you MUST do exactly what the specialist and nurse have told you.  If you do not do as they direct you, you are hurting yourself.  Chlamydia is a serious thing and can stop you from ever having any children in the future.  

You are under age to be having sex, but no doubt you will do it regardless.  That being the case, ALWAYS make sure the bloke uses a condom.  No condom, NO sex - simple.

If your partner is over the age of 18, you do realise that he is committing an offence by having sex with you.

Although he has said that he has been treated and now says that he won't get checked out for 3 months, how can you be certain that he in fact is still not sleeping around with other girls and women?

The first antibiotics are likely to have cleared you, and you have just got reinfected again.

If this partner is having unprotected sex with you, he is irresponsible and, to be honest, I would not trust him.  He does NOT have your interests at heart.  He is just out to get sexual pleasure from you because you are giving it to him as and when he wants it.  Do NOT be used like this.  Say NO.  If a bloke won't stay with you because you won't give him sex, he is not worth holding on to.  

At the age of 15 you should be going out with friends of your own age and enjoying life, learning new things and enjoying your youth.  You will be old before you know it and you will be of age quicker than you think, when you will be more knowledgeable and much wiser with regard to sex.

Sex is not the be all and end all of life.  If you can't keep a bloke without giving him sex, the relationship will not be a long lasting and happy one.

Your sore and swollen throat with your other symptoms may quite likely be an STD.  Make an appointment to see the specialist or your own doctor and get some blood tests done or ask the doctor to take a swab from your throat and from down below to find out what is causing these symptoms.  The sooner you go and get treated the better.  

Do exactly what the specialist and nurse have told you, and do NOT have any sex.

Book in to see the specialist or your doctor urgently.

Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
My best advise is that you should stop having sex with this partner of yours unprotectedly and follow the doctors orders they only care about your health and are trying to help you but how can they help if your not following their orders ? They can't tell your parents anything unless they think your life is in danger and they think your being pressured to have sex or are being abused
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Women's Health Community

Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
Bumps in the genital area might be STDs, but are usually not serious.
Chlamydia, an STI, often has no symptoms, but must be treated.
From skin changes to weight loss to unusual bleeding, here are 15 cancer warning signs that women tend to ignore.