Worried about vaginal lip length and odor/discharge!!

[beautiful_starrs]

I don't mean to sound grosse with this post, Im looking for some advice so please bear with me!! :) I am twenty years old, and have dealt with minor to moderate odor and discharge for many years, at least 3 or 4. The discharge is a whitish color and is enough to bother me, maybe about a tspoon every day. I dont ever get through the day with a dry panties. I also have odor that's enough to make me self conscious about my body. It doesn't smell "fishy" just kind of like BO from sweat or something, it just doesn't smell clean or nice. It is like this no matter how often I shower or wash, within thirty minutes of getting out of the tub it smells again. I am a very clean person so this really bothers me!! I have dealt with this for so long because I am shy I guess from asking the doctor about it. Also, my vagina lips are too long; this is my biggest thing I have about my body. It literally kept me from having sex for a year longer than I would have waited had I felt "normal". They are very noticeable when I wear a thong or bathing suit. It is rare that I will go swimming due to this! My lips measure about 1 1/2 to 2" in length-I am not sure what a "normal" size is but I know mine are not. This has bothered me ever since I realized that they were not right and now me and my boyfriend of three years just broke up, and I am more anxious than ever of being with someone new. I have a 15 month old so I have gone to the Dr regularly before, so I know I don't have any stds. Anyone know how abnormal these things are, or how much surgery would cost to fix my lips? ANY ADVICE? THNX SOMUCH!

[hawaiiangirlie]

i know exactly how you feel. i have big lips too, and ive had them since i was young, lets say, since i discovered my vagina! haha i thought it was normal but i was still ashamed of them. i'd hear girls in school, making sick jokes about "big lips"...callling it "teryaki" and "beef curton" and thats when i started to get VERY insecure. i was in a relationship for 3 years and and whenever we'd make love, i was ashamed of him seeing me. i mean he saw, but RARELY.  i was ashamed ashamed ashamed. that was almost 2 years ago and i'm presently in a serious relationship, we're a lot more open and he helped me not to feel too insecure in the beginning, until one day he asked me, why it was like "that"? and i near lost my soul. i was so hurt. i know he didnt mean to hurt me but he did. the thing that made me hurt worse was the fact that he had been with an AMOUNT of girls already, so the fact that i had to be the FIRST to stand out made me just wanna crawl up and hide. he said its not a bad thing, he just thought it was from having sex with a lot of  people. so im still very self consious, but i know i can't change it. but if i could....I WOULD.

[sunseeker]

Here's another comment from a guy....IMHO there is no such thing as an ugly vagina,  different maybe but never ugly.  Since (most) women arn't in the habit of looking at other womans crotches, you're probably just comparing yourself to what you've seen in gym class showers,  or maybe sex ed books.  Be at ease that you don't have anything down there that is deformed.

As far as discharge, I'd say go see a doctor. They would be the best ones to test for a problem.  You mention its not a "bad" odor, so maybe thats just the way your body works.

BTW, A female friend has commented that she wears pads 24/7 because she's always wet down there.

[beautiful_starrs]

Thank you guys SO MUCH for all the great tips!!! You have really made me feel better and encouraged me. I agree with oceans and really appreciate the male feedback as well!! :) Thanks for caring-you guys rock! :)

[oceans3]

where did you come from??? LOL. all of a sudden vaginal lips are being talked about and men come out of the woodwork! see poster, you have nothing to worry about!  nice to have a mans perspective on these things.

[jhawley]

As a male, I can tell you that I have never once heard another male comment negatively about the size of a "woman's lips."  If they comment at all, it is a positive reaction.  For a man, no matter what a vagina looks like, it's just great to see one.  Relax and whatever you do, don't have surgery to fix something that is not broken and which, in fact, many men will find extraordinarily attractive.

[AnnieBrooke]

I once asked my husband about this when a poster on the Women's Forum talked about her labia being "too big," and I asked if a man would ever think a woman's lips there are too big. He laughed and said "Never in a million years."  Apparently if a guy is in the happy position of seeing a woman's labia in person, the last thing on his mind is the size of her lips.  All labia seem to be created equal in men's minds.  

As for the discharge, ask the ob-gyn to do a culture.  Maybe it's not yeast, but it could be something, and wouldn't it matter to you to know?  Don't be too shy of the doc, he or she has seen so much that your question won't even register a "1" on the surprise scale.

Good luck, sweetheart, you are not misshapen or even unusual!  And GUYS DON'T CARE.  

Annie