The feeling you get to pee while having an orgasm is part of your orgasm. If you don't hold it back and let it flow you will have an even stronger orgasm!
6/18/19 (Im an RN, BS) Millee, you really need to go to the library or go on Amazon & read books about the COMPLEX female anatomy & THE COMPLEX WAY IN WHICH WE ORGASM. Men have inly "1 button" to push & 1 way to *** ... & they're done. They are rather simple creatures, kind of like amoebas. Bleeding has NOTHING to do with orgasms. 90% of all women NEVER experience an orgasm with penile penetration. The penis is no where near the 4 areas where a woman can initiate an orgasm. Penetration feels great ... but for 90% it wont give them the big "O." The clitoris is a LARGE ORGAN -about 4" long" - that is located in our entire crotch or "saddle" area. Its very close to the skin & it is bifurcated & is on both sides of the vagina. FIRST PLACE & MOST COMMON FOR A WOMAN TO GET AN ORGASM/S: It takes a woman at least 20 minutes of EXTERNAL clitoral stimulation (the tiny, visible nub of that large organ) before she orgasms. Some "have just one & are done" - other lucky ones can have up to 20. A man SHOULD KNOW THIS, if he doesnt ...TELL HIM & also refer him to websites & the books YOU are reading (or dump him!). A man should orally & manually stimulate her ENTIRE crotch, not just the nub of the clitoris, to get her fully aroused. Once that happens & she cums (& possibly cums & cums again) & she's possibly finished .... then & only them should he dare try penile penetration. By that time, she will be VERY receptive to this & he can *** & then everybody should be happy. SECOND PLACE A WOMAN CAN ORGASM: The "G spot." Some experts say this is merely the back side of the clitoris. Others insist it's a separate organ. It can only truly be stimulated with fingers ... the penis just passes right on by. The G spot is
located about 2-3" into the vagina & has a distinct feel to it - rather spongy. The man (or partner) can easily find this with his fingers & begin to GENTLY stimulate it using 1 or 2 fingers in a "come here" motion. This orgasm FEELS TOTALLY DIFFERENT THAN THE EXTERNAL CLITORAL ONE. Again, it takes about 20 minutes before things start to happen. Most women state they feel like they have to pee after too much stimulation. That is because it is on the urethra - the opening where urine come out. IF STIMULATING THE G SPOT CAUSES PAIN ... STOP THIS IMMEDIATELY! If it is just annoying or scary ... keep going because THIS IS THE ONLY AREA IN WHICH FEMALE EJACULATION CAN OCCUR. ("Squirting") [Whoever said this is called "micturition" is 100% WRONG! Micturition is the medical term for urination or peeing! Big difference!] When a woman is about to have an ejaculatory/squirting ORGASM her vagina will swell & violently spasm, pushing any object out of it -penis, fingers, sex toy & then ejeculation/SYSTEMIC ORGASM will happen. What comes out can be as small as a trickle to maybe up to 1/4 of a cup of fliud. Again, tests have proven it is NOT urine/pee that is expelled. G spot orgasms are deep & systemic- felt throughout the entire body, unlike clitoral orgasms, which are only felt regionally - in the crotch area. G spot "O's" also cause intense shaking. THE 3rd & 4th PLACES A WOMAN CAN EXPERIENCE ORGASMS: NOTE: 95% of women DO NOT LIKE THEIR CERVIXES RAMMED JAMMED WITH ANYTHING & DONT LIKE THEM. TOUCHED. IT IS PAINFUL. Only YOU know if you are one of the rare 5% that gets off that way. However ..... There is a gem of an area at the very top of the vagina located right UNDER the cervix. This area is called the Anterior & Posterior Fornices (singular - "fornix"). Again, the average &
even above average penis CANNOT reach this area, let alone stimulate it correctly. This can be done with very long fingers or a sex toy. The orgasms experienced via either fornix, or both, has been reported as earth shattering & women actually make a very different noise when she begins to orgasm. It has been repeatedly described at gutteral, growling, raspy moaning & animalistic. Not all women have a fornix area that is sexually responsive, so dont be depressed or think there is something wrong with you if time after time nothing happens. Thats just how you're wired. Remember, men only have ONE ... JUST 1 ... way of cuming/orgasming. We women have 5 KNOWN ways - right now. (I did not discuss the uterine orgasm - #5 - as that is actually a post-orgasm orgasm. It is meant to ensure pregnancy occurs - "propigation of the species") Im 65 years old & part of the first generation to be taught "sex ed" in school in 1964. It shocks me that after all these decades girls/women know LESS about their bodies & the complicated sex act than my generation did! I suggest you read a classic, "Our Bodies, Our Selves," one of the first Feminist books published in the 1970's. I personally despise porn, but if you go to porn hub & watch ONLY "AMATEURS" OR "REAL COUPLES" (u HAVE to be specific) .... & not, not, not watch fake, phoney "actors" .... you can observe & learn how normal, common, boring, average, not-so-glamorous couples have amazing, fulfilling & UNselfish sex which may also include both deep, mutual respect & monogamous love. ~~~~
Fulfilling, awesome, mind blowing sex does not come naturally for probably 90% of all humans. It is a SKILL that must be learned & it involves both trust & vulnerability.
When I lost my virginity I didn’t find no bleeding either and it wasn’t as much enjoyable but when I masturbate I seem to rub my clitoroise a lot and when I’m on verge of have an orgasm insert a few fingers and I always *** and it is really enjoyable I love playing with myself but when I have intercourse no one can make me moan or orgasm the way I make myself do, it’s pretty weird isn’t it how you know how to make yourself orgasm but you will find someone in the mean time to give you great pleasure
Hey girly I too am. A clitoris masturbator I don’t need insertion nor do I like it. Did u feel pain during sex the first time. I’d be amazed if u orgasmed the first time through sex me personally I don’t orgasm through sex often don’t worry it’s perfectly normal as for the not bleeding part I hear some women don’t bleed the first time. I bled like two drops so technically I didn’t really bleed either. We’re all different but if your worried about it you can talk to your ongyn as someone who is a lot like u might I suggest having your guy stroke your clit as u guys have sex your much more likely to achieve organ best of luck
That pee sensation could also be squirting. (Google it) and its perfectly normal.
It is very common for women to reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal penetration. It is not uncommon for women therefore not to orgasm unless the partner is helping stimulate the clitoris. Plus then you had a lot of stresses there - first time etc. I don't know about you, but I can't reach orgasm when I'm stressed out or worrying about something.
It is also not unusual for women to not bleed. Many women tear the hymen (the thin membrane that blocks or partially blocks the vagina) when they are young by normal activity or by inserting tampons. So again - that's totally normal and ok. You were a virgin. Stimulating your clitoris through mastrubation didn't do anything as far as that goes.
Mastrubating is a totally normal and healthy activity so long as you are taking care not to injure yourself (simply by chaffing it or what not). Don't feel guilty about it.
Men often need a bit of a helping hand in learning what you like. Don't be scared to speak up in a gentle guiding fashion to show him what works for you. They like to please you.
And as said, above all, make sure that you are having safe sex ;).
I'm also 20 and when I was 15 I lost my virginity. I didn't bleed either or have an orgasm the first time. It felt good and all, but now that I know what an orgasm is, I can say that I didn't have one then. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years so we have a better idea of what each other likes. And I always feel like I have to pee after sex.
Hormones have a big factor on your sex drive. I had problems with my birth control, long story, but my hormones were a little crazy and I wanted to have sex everyday. I felt a little out of control.
I'm not sure what you mean when you say your partner said you were "all cooled down" afterwards. And since your masturbation only includes the clitoris, you may not know how else to get an orgasm. You know what you like that's why it's so easy for you to have an orgasm when you masturbate. When I lost my virginity I didn't know what I would like, I hadn't masturbated before. It took awhile, but i figured it out.
I don't know how much sex you've had since your first time but I wouldn't be worried if I were you. Try new things with your partner or whoever you feel comftorable with. Different foreplay, positions, whatever you want. You'll get a better idea of what you like and have more fun.
Regardless, always have safe sex and have regular gyno appointments. If your really stressed, see your doctor.
Also, every time i reach orgasm through masturbation, i feel an urge to pee.... does it make it obvious that what i had was an orgasm... i mean i can't really distinguish between an intense orgasm or an mild one.... i hope you guys are getting me...