am i ok?

[xoxohisgirlsxoxo18]

I have loved this boy for 3years and he has asked me to have sex with him but i am afraid of getting pregnet b/c i'm not on the pill and we would fool around but that was it it wasn't anything like the real thing,, and i want to really bad but i'm afraid of getting pregnat and the thing is that i'm young and my parents would be very mad at me. And love him with all my heart and i want to but i'm afraid of getting pregnet.. so will you help me and tell me if i will get pregnet if he uses a condom and i'm a virgin.. i want to but i'm not on the pill and i don't want to get pregent... so will u help me??

[ThePrincess07]

The only way to be completely safe from gettin pregnant is to not have sex at all, but if you feel that you are ready to take that step be safe in all the ways possible by using condoms, and even when he wears a condom make sure he pulls out before he cums.....just be safe......                                                
                                              Princess

[spade22]

Condoms are not only good at preventing pregnancy but they also prevent STD's!  In addition to condoms, you could go on the pill for additonal protection. Two forms of birth control should do the trick.  Good luck!

[TMJN]

Depending on your age, you might be able to go to a free clinic, planned parenthood, or even talk to a school nurse about how to get on the pill without involving your parents.  However, you still should talk to you mom about how you are feeling and get her to take you to the doctor.  Being on the pill can be for more than just pregnancy prevention.  It can ease cramps and the length of your period.

Think carefully before you act.

[April2]

Can I give you my opinion? You and your boyfriend sound very young. If he's pressuring you to have sex then he doesn't really love you he just wants to have sex. For most teenage boys that's always on their minds. Please don't be in such a hurry to give away your virginity. I know in this day and age sex is no big deal anymore, but it should be. It's so worth the wait. You want to wait until you are with someone who you plan to spend the rest of your life with, someone you can trust with your life. You don't want your first time (or anytime really) to be in the back seat of a car somewhere or scared and worried about being found out. How can anyone really enjoy sex that way? It will not be very exciting I can tell you. It should be something special, something planned. If your boyfriend really cares about you then he wouldn't be pressuring you to have sex. I'd hate to see happen to you what happens all too often with teens. He gets what he wants and then goes on to greener pastures, if you get my meaning.
Listen, I speak from experience. I had sex too young because I was curious and all my friends were having sex. It was horrible! My boyfriend at the time was in too much of a hurry and didn't take his time with me and wasn't gentle enough. (Sounds like most teenage boys). I broke up with him shortly after. Now I have a daughter myself that I found out this winter (at age 14) was pressured into having sex with her "boyfriend". She wasn't even allowed to date yet! They just saw each other at school and functions. We thought we were watching them closely but they still managed to sneak behind our backs. This boy was 2 1/2 years older than her and was prepared. He had a condom. She said she immediately regretted it and wanted him to stop but he didn't. She cried and cried that night. My heart was broken for her too. This actually really traumatized her. She was not ready for such an adult responsiblility like this. She now wants nothing to do with guys and has taken to wearing baggy clothes hiding her figure so that she's not attactive to boys. We already had her in counseling for depression and other things but this set her back big time. I'm telling you all of this because I don't want you to jump into something you're not ready for. Please really think long and hard before you make this big of a decision. Like I said earlier, it's worth the wait.
By the way, most teenagers think they can't tell their parents anything and their parents couldn't possibly understand. Don't forget, your mother was a teenager too and there's probably a lot about her you don't know. Instead of trying to make such a big decision at a time you are probably not ready for, why not work on your relationship with your mother. Being the mom of a teenage girl, I can tell you that I long to have a closer relationship with my own daughter. It's not easy being the parent of a teen you know. Someday you will understand when you have your own kids.
Think long and hard about all of this. This is not a decision that should be taken lightly. I  wish you the best.