i am 17 years old and ever since around the age of 8 or 10 my labia minora have seemed to grow, and have now grown appoximately 5cm long and still seem to be growing. I dont hurt at all down there, there is no sign of redness of wart like growths or anything like that. i only feel uncomfortable sometimes as i may rub on my undies.
lately the skin on my perineum has been growing also and kind of attached to my labia, it seems like all the skin down there just keep growing! its not sore only uncomfortable. the skin has not changed in colour. im worried that my labia should not be increasing so much in size. i have never ever spoken about this, but lately have been really worried it may be something. i have had a few sexual parteners however this problem was already occuring before i ever had sex.
i dont like letting my boyfriend touch or look at me because i am embarressed.
im worried that this may be cancer of some sort, i have researched and looked at all the symptoms of different types of vulvar cancers however, none seem to really fit my description.
im scared to see a doctor because im emarressed i know i shouldnt be but id like to know more about this before i go to a doctor.
please help me
it is normal to have your labia minor longer than the majora.
since you are sexually active, you can make an appointment with your gynecologist to talk about your concerns. if you feel uncomfortable talking to your doctor or nurse, by all means, find a doctor or nurse you do feel comfortable talking to.
many women, including myself, have labia minora longer than their majora. since i was 8 or 9, i worried about it. i even asked my mother about it. because she knew nothing about what was normal and what wasn't normal, she ended up saying something to me that made me feel like i was deformed.
it wasn't until i was in my twenties when i asked my nurse about it. she told me that my left labia minor was longer than my right and my labia majora, and that was normal and healthy. i was so relieved when i heard those words "normal" and "healthy". the emotional torture i went through thinking that there was something wrong with my body.
i'm glad you are asking about it here.
make an appointment with your doctor, and tell them that you know it is normal that labia minor can be longer than labia majora, but i want just want to make sure that everything is healthy and normal with me.
WELL, SARA, NOT SURE HOW OLD YOU ARE, BUT YOUR FINE, MOST WOMEN DONT KNOW WHAT IS NORMAL OR NOT, BUT EVERY WOMAN'S BODY IS DIFFERENT ESPECIALLY DOWN THERE, AND LABIA MINORA IS ACTUALLY SUPPOSED TO COME OUT OF THE MAJORA, BUT MOST WOMEN ARE NOT FULLY DEVELOPED BUT JUST REST ASSURED THAT YOUR FINE. WHEN YOUR GOING THRU YOUR PUBERTY STAGE, IS JUST A SIGN OF MATURING, AND YES, IF ITS GROWING THAT IS FINE, AND A BLESSING AS WELL, IF U HAVE MORE QUESTIONS LET ME KNOW!! IM JUST A REGULAR GUY, BUT KNOW MY VAGINA!!
can u give birth wiv large labia cos its realy ugly wat if the midewife or docter look at me funny wen giving birth help!!!!! cus im even thinkin bout aven an abortion coz im to afraid of wot will b said about it help !!!!
i am 14 and have the same exact problems you do.
it started when i was 8 years old and they have been growing ever since.
i finally got the courage to tell my mom and we immidiatly went to the doctor.
they checked it out which was a little embarassing but she had told me that i had tumors in my right ovaries and my kidney which is causing this and some other abnormal growths. i have to get these tumors removed this summer and they said when i do get them removed i will have alot more energy. also they have to trim down my labia where the growth started but im finally okay with that now because i know im not the only one with it.
its scary but going to the doctor will really relieve alot of stress and worry.
of course you can give birth with large labia minora! what do you think they will do - run away screaming at the sight of a vagina? this whole thing is starting to ruin peoples lives, it ruined mine for the best part of a year, when i tried to find people who looked like me. unfortunatly i did this by searching porn in a never ending quest, of course that just made me even more self concious. we are all different, the midwife will be concentrating on delivering you baby more than examining your vagina i imagine. please don't abort your baby because of self conciousness, you'll be a fantastic mother - don't let this idealogy of women ruin your childbirth.
I have the same thing. Once I turned 13 I started to realize that my vagina lips were larger than what I had imagined was "normal". Also one of my girlfriends I changed in front of saw it, and pretty much freaked out and told me how it was abnormal. It made me really self-conscience. I never asked a doctor because I know that it is normal & that theres nothing wrong with it, and i go to the gynecologist regularly and he never said anything about it. I also have been sexually active, now 17. No guy has ever complained or said anything bad about it (not to my face anyway). Some guys think the big labia is sexy and some guys think its disgusting or abnormal because they are uneducated. To this day, I am self-conscience about it..... but theres nothing I can really do.
It made me realize that in some countries, small labias are ugly & big ones are in...
I learned to love my vagina for what it is, but still am sometimes depressed about it.
Just remember, if the guy doesnt like it, or thinks its abnormal, he doesnt deserve it!
hi!! im so relieve im not the only one who has problems about labia.. i was 14 (and im 16 in present turning 17 this 2010) when i notices that my vagina is abnormal and was very worried i don't know wat to do... i can't tell it to my mom im so embarrassed and scared of wat the result would be... and i had another problems i got my period already but it stop suddenly and its been several months since i got my last period and i can't seem to tell this to my mom.. i feel shameful and scared..i want to go to a doctor to get check up but im so sacred &embarrassed that he/she would say i got cancer or tumor or can't get pregnant and i just can't accept that i don't know wat i'll do... please help
and do u know how to get menstruation again for age 16 to 17...
It is common for women, especially young women to have irregular periods. I am 29 and still have irregular periods. Either way, it never hurts to see a doctor. You sould have your first pap smear by age 18 anyway, one year early wont hurt. Also, nothing wrong with bug labia. I have two large lovely labia and my husband does not seem to mind. Trust me, if he loves you, he will love your labia:)
omg this is like my life story on this page! my boyfriend wants to have sex, but I keep pushing it off because I don't want him to see me...ever since I was about 7, they just started growing and I was like O.O so it is normal? it won't turn him off or make him grossed out?
I'm 17 too and I have a similar problem. I've never had sex but my clitoral hood is kind of large. It sticks out of the lips and it's uncomfortable. I don't know if other girls have it or not. I feel like such a freak and I don't know if any guy would want me. I try not to think about it because of all the other important things that I have to think about, but it still bothers me and I'm reminded of it everytime I feel it rubbing on my panties. Alright I can live with the awkward size but I can't live with thediscomfort. The last thing I need is to get a bad grade on my test because I couldn't concentrate in class because my vagina is distracting me.
Hi!! It's good to hear that there are lots of women with the same case as mine. But my only concern is that, my left labia minora is bigger than my right. Let's say, left labia minora is bigger than the majora, and right minora is smaller than majora - and the left minora - and just quite larger than the clitoris. Is anyone here has the same case?? Please help! Thanks!
I have the same thing, too. I always suspected it was because I hurt myself down there when I was in grade school (I was walking across bars, slipped and fell and the bar hit right between my legs) one labia minora is way longer than the other and has discoloration and some numbness along the outer edge with 'chicken-like skin' (bumpy) and it surpasses the labia majora (the lips) the other one is small and pink and smooth and I wish they were both like that. I plan on going to my gynecologist and asking her, because I am extremely self-conscious about my genitals. When I get my answer; I will definitely come back and letyou guys know what she says.
i have the same problem, my inner labia is about two centimeters longer than my outer labia. I am 17 and i have never had children but I hear this is common in women who have had kids. I am embarassed to let anyone see or touch my vagina and it has kept be from being sexually active at all. it also looks bad in bathingsuits and in some underwear. As I researched, I saw many other women who also had this problem, and i actually realized that my vagina is beautiful compared to some of the others! A normal labia can be up to four inches long. I also saw that there is a surgery called labiaplasty that is about 4-6 thousand, that will shorten the labia size. So after doing your research if you are still not satisfied with the way you look down there, research the very painful and expensive cosmetic surgery.
Ladys, there is nothing wrong with a large labia, actually is would say that there is nothing better than a large labia. Myself and most of the men that i have talked to about this agree that large labia's are beautiful! Trust me, your boyfriend will love your large labias and if he doesn't then he is probably a prude and the problem is with him. If this is the case I encourage you to let me know l and i would be delighted to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated!
I have the same problem to:s but i guess it isnt anything serious,because its not in the body its out of it..soo i guess even if we make an operation it wouldnt cost so much because they may just cut it? what do you think do you have any idea of the cost of the operation :S
wow i am so relieved to read all of this in a way... i am only 13 and my labia hangs down about 2 fingers and it is so uncomfortable because it rubs. Also, hey stick together which makes it sort of get in the way during my period. I just cannot tell my mom because we have a terrible relationship and I am terrified to go to the doctors because I am worried the doctors will tell my mom about them being longs... I guess I have masturbated, although I dont really know. I did it when I was younger but I didn't know what I was doing. I do it without thinking about it every once in while but not too often, but they are still all stretched out and gross. ughh someone please help!
wow the same thing these girls were saying was my problem since age 7-8 and up... i first noticed this when i would masturbate, i was molested by a family friend and only 3 people knows this not even my mom knows this... so growing up i thought it was my fault and thought this wasn't normal.... i hid it for years and then in 2008 i got sexually abused and was choked and beatened nearly to death which made me even more self conscious about myself... recently i found this site after breaking down to my boyfriend of 1 yr and 6 mnths which lives in Jamaica that i have something to tell him but i was too embarrassed which was the most secretive that i dealt with for years.... i finally told him that one of my labia is larger than the other and i never felt better and like an understanding boyfriend he told me he understands and loves it :D so girls don't be to hard on yourself
Yeah! I have this same thing going on with me! I accidentally discovered the shower head when I was so young I don't even know how old I was but it was around 7th grade. But I didn't know I was masturbating until I was like in high school and I was like, oh man...But I think all those years of masturbating, and at such a young age made them both stretch out! I have read a ton about Labiaplasty because I just can't even have sex again until this problem is taken care of. I'm too self conscious. But I read that often times since it's like if you had a 6th toe or something silly like that, things that happened out of your control, insurance will cover most of it, if not all of the cost. And I read that sometimes you don't even have to go to a plastic surgeon to get it done you can just go to your gyno and they may be able to do it. And recovery is not painful and it takes about to weeks. But if you want it to be all nice a pretty and be the way that YOU want it then I would go to a plastic surgeon because they do thousands of labiaplasties and so they can console you and advise you better than if you just go in to Roberta the gyno who doesn't know crap! LIKE MINE! :D
Wow. Reading this actually made me feel a whole lot better. I'm 14 & yet sexually active. I know I'm young. But it just happened. Well, usually when I have sex, I don't think about it. But once the guy ever wants to go down there and eat me out is when i worry. My Labia minora is long, and I hate it. It brings down my self-esteem. I'm not much of a shy person but thinking about it makes me feel so insecure. I think about how many girls have normal looking Labia minora's, like on porn tapes. Looking at them and thinking about it just makes me feel like a weirdo. Mine are atlease 2 inches long. Which I personally think is too long. I want to have sex without having to worry about how my vagina looks. Please help.
This was great to read! I noticed that I wasn't normal down there when I was probably about 7 or 8 years old. It has been in the back of my mind ever since. I'm 17 years old now, and not happy with my life. Just like any other teenage girl in high school I want to have a relationship. But I can't ever let myself get that close to someone because I'm worried about what they'll think and say to me about it...not to mention what the guy might do about it. Let's face it, it's high school and boys find it hilarious to tell their buddies about the weird stuff that happens to them when they're hooking up with a girl. I really would rather be called a prude, than have everyone at school know my deepest darkest secret. It kills me to watch guys I really care about and know I could have an amazing relationship with just walk out the door because I can't give them what they want and need. The thing that scares me the most is that I don't want this to be the way I live the rest of my life. I don't want to die alone and unhappy. I want to have a family and kids just like anyone else, probably even more. I would do anything to be able to have the surgery to fix it, but I can't afford it on my own. I don't know how this will work out, but it's atleast comforting to know I'm not alone.
I do no treccoment the operation! It is painful and it is very expensive. Furthermore the possible side effect of never regaining feeling down there is far worse than having a large labia.
I too struggled for years with this in my mind becaus my husband said I was a freak! He had been with other woman who did not have that, and I had never kown it was not normal until I married him. It hurt me badly and ruined my sex life for many years. I finally divorced him becuase we would not enjoy eachother sexually.
6 years later I remarried a great guy who had several partners in his life time before he met me and he loves my body and says I am perfect. :)
SO don't go throug wth the surgery! Just find a man who loves your body!!
I could really relate to you. I feel the same way. But the thing is, I try not to think about it so much just because it will get in the way of other things. I've realized here, reading everyone's side of the story, to accept your body as it is. If a guy would leave you just for that, then its his loss. Find someone who will love you for all of you. (:
It's ok im 13 and i dont have a flap thing that comes out of the "Majora," What ever it is i dont have that and it makes me feel akward cause everyone else has it. i dont ask random people butr i'v asked my sister and some of my close friend like WTF i dont have a normal vag?
Like is this going to effect my sex life in the future? i thought mine is normal till i looked it up and your suppose to have a flappy thing in between the majora, are you suppose to grow into it?. am i exsplaining this right? im not shure i just feel like , a alien or sum shitt.
i am suffering for that issues too.. my labia minora was getting bigger..i noticed it when i was in grade one.. but i dont even mind it cause im too young for that, but when i reached 17 to 19 i felt that im different among others.. i compared it to my friends but its really different.. so, I felt so worried about this sooner because i think it will embarrass me if i meet my future husband soon.. So i told this to my closes friend, and she suggested that we will go to a doctor..so we went to a doctor and she said why should i worry my labia minora is normal we have a different looks of our labia minora or *****.. and she said that im going to have a surgery for it there is a tendency that our sexual sensation will be damage, we cant feel any pleasure in times of sexual activity...
My gosh! That is exactly my situation. I don't know why I'm now 17 and have noticed it for a few years. My boyfriend doesn't seem to care and he even says I have a normal even good looking vagina. Why does this happen though? Is there something abnormal about one side being bigger then the other?
I too have had this shameful problem..all a while I thought that it was because perhaps I started having sex at a young age. I haven't had a female check up in almost 7 years because of how embarrassed I am..What made me most self couscous was when I had my last baby about 7 years ago and the nurse who was placing the catheter in looked at me and without having any regard to my feelings said to herself " what? well i guess everyone is different" it was the way she said it and her facial expression..i was mortified. So now I am researching for a surgery to have this fixed because it is no longer a cosmetic thing for me but lately it is really uncomfortable during sex and with it rubbing on my under ware it becomes very irritable. Reading all of your comments makes me feel more confident to go see a gynecologist ASAP
Why are you all saying you are abnormal?? You are the most perfect you that you can be. If one person doesn't like it then that is their own problem, as the proud owner of lovely large labia I can honestly say that no-one has ever had a problem with them except maybe to enjoy them too much.
Masturbation does not cause your labia to get bigger, nor does sex because honestly how many porn stars would then have labia down to their knees or beyond? The current porn image is very sad for the lovers of huge labia that have posted here... so feel sorry for them that only women with tiny lips are shown most of the time!
Love your bits, ladies - most men will not notice anyway
I was sexually abuse as a child, and ever since it hasn't been normal. Now I live with the burden, for the rest of my life. When I was 16 I had my first boyfriend and my first. He was disgusted and repulsed. He made fun of me, told all his friends, and they would make jokes about me. Call me a ****, everytime they would see me. I was so embrassed and despressed, I thought I was so alone. So I thank all the strong women, who are proud :) You've made me love myself for the way I am.
Oh and now, 19. I have a wonderful boyfriend who love's me, treats me well.. and living in another state and loving life :)
Yea, I'm 13 and have noticed I'm not "normal down there" and I know poeple say its sexy but to me its horiible, it rubs like hell and hurts, my right is bigger than my left, I don't know what to do, I want a labia reduction asap because its making me depressed and is causing thrush down there so yea, if anyone has some infomation that can help, please tell me, and I also live in the uk so the nhs might be able to help but I don't know how to tell my mum? Any help???
My right labia minora is like 5 cm long I know it is normal and I wouldn't mind if it wouldn't be so uncomfortable! I haven't told anyone and the jerk of my partner told me I wasn't normal because he slept with someone else before meetin me... It was hurtful him comparing me is disgusting I hate the man in so many ways but anyways do you think I should tell my doctor? I mean I'm going into labour in two months and I'm embarrassed of it... What should I do please any advice email me ***@****
wow!!!!!!!! just this morning i was bathing and realized that my libia and clitoris is constantly growning even though im not having lots of sex, im 23 btw and i feel like i have to stay with my current boyfriend because no one else would like me like this! i have never gotten and bad comments (well to my face) but it makes me realll self consious
So many of you women just don't get it. Most men find protruding labia to be sexually stimulating. For many men, the longer they are, the better! Prominent labia are made for oral sex! They virtually cry out "Taste me, taste me!" Women with polite unobtrusive labia are boring in that area by comparison. I mean without labia there's nothing down there with which to play.
The labia reductions performed by quack surgeons are a shameful waste. It's criminal the way these quacks prey on women's insecurities and actually make women less appealing to men.
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Hi! I am really self conscious about mine. I just turned15. Mine hang around2inches too. I was just wondering has a guy ever said anything about it. Do you think if I were to have sex with a boy my age he would flip the **** out? I'm just really scared and I wanna have sex but I don't want them grossed out. I don't want them to freak out. Any advice? Do you think they will care?
please do not abort, my friend is a doctor and I saw your comment and brought it up with her. She says she has seen a lot of women with the same "problem" as you. She says she wouldn't even call it a problem. Every women is different. It is no different than having bigger breasts than other girls. Be proud of your vagina ;D
Sarah, please don't give yourself a cancer scare. You would have at the least, a lump (s), open sore that won't heal, and other things you have not mentioned. My opinion is that you are simply still growing but the perineum skin growing and attaching made me think, hmmm. Really you need a good gyney that you are comfortable with. Good luck hun, i'm sure it is something either normal or just a hormonal thing that meds or a minor procedure can help. Don't worry about your boyfriend, he he doesn't love everything about you, he shouldn't be there. (Advice given to my from my favorite cousin when i had similar problems haha. ) Good Luck.
Hello, my name's Emily (23yrs). I could'nt help but notice how many of us are freaking out about the appearance of your lady parts. I would share with you all the knowledge I could gather since puberty hit me as I was around 12. Hopefully, my dad (parents divorced, other story) had prepared himself for it (special regards to you, dad), was very comprehensible and did everything he could to teache me what is going on and to deal with it (not to mention I was scared AF to go talk to him). My BF mom also was a great help in some things my dad couldn't help. So, lets get started with my own list about "Down-There Awareness"
1) your body is CHANGING! It means that you may look differently than you did a year ago, there is nothing wrong with that. You will experience a so called "growth-spurt" a gain quite a few inches rpidly. The same can happen down there, it can evolve rapidly. And it will continue to evolve until your death. But your face will also get wrinckly in the end, so just take it as a whole. We are growing up, and all our body is changing (except for the size of our eyes btw).
2) if you have CONCERNS about waht is happening within you underwear, talk to an adult you trust. For most of us, it will be our mother. But if you feel more confortable talking about it with your aunt, older sister, school nurse, doctor, gyneacologist (if you have one), or even a male (e.g. your dad), then just go for it.
3) women come in different shapes, sizes and colours. Your face does'nt looks the same as your friends, so why in hell should your lady part look the same ? Each of us IS DIFFERENT !
4) try to understand that feeling uncomfortable about your vulva is common. It's a part of our body we don't really know. So get to KNOW IT. Hand-held mirrors can help you to look at it. Touch it, get to know what is agreeable and what not. Once you know yourself better, some of you anxiety may be gone.
5) There is a difference about feeling uncomfortable and beeing uncomfortable. If your lady parts do not feel achy, itchy (more than a few hours), sore etc, there should not be worried about it. But if you begin to feel PAIN "down there", it is best to talk about it to someone you trust and see a doctor to avoid yeast infection, lices and so on.
6) now about SURGERY. This is actually the point which really annoys me. Think about labial aesthetic surgery (labioplasty) as a real one, it's not just like "let's cut this bit, and this bit, a few stiches and it's done". If it is called "surgery", it means it also bears quite some risks with it. Don't take it wrong, labioplasty can be a good thing, for those who are in need of it, but only if it is medically needed. As long as your labia don't threaten your health, why would you ungergo such an operation ? The wound can not wound and open up again (huge pain), you can get serious infections or bleed heavily, and allways remember that anesthesia can rarely lead to death. In addition, some other minor consequences can apply : loss in sensation, skin contour irregularities, colour irregularities, scars, asymmetry, allergies, or swelling. And last but not least, any complication in the healing process may induce further surgery, wich can lead to the removal of ALL THE LABIA. So, in my opinion, the risks are far too high in comparison of what you can gain. I would'nt risk anything about my lady parts. Even if I sometimes wish they were more even and symmetrical, I got used to the way the are.
7) Try to understand that there is no "normality" in the apperance of your vulva. It can not look abnormal, it only looks different thant others. But we are all different, so that should really, really not bother you. Never think of it in terms of "ugly, abnormal, disgusting", it will only ruin your self-esteem and make you afraid of something that is perfectly normal.
8) If you think about it, nature has given us eyes to see, And mine are different than yours, but both of us can see perfectly. Our skin may be different in coulour, but it protects us both from the sun. Your hands may be smaller than mine, but both of us can perfectly carry things around. So, when it comes to your lady parts, think about it in that way. Yours may look different than mine, but we will both be able to enjoy sex, bear and deliver a child. Nature has given us the body we have, and it has been built to function perfectly. If you happen to be pregnant and wonder if you will be able to give birth, then "simply" ask your gineacologist (I mean, you should visit him anyway to follow your pregnancy, so just ask him all you want to know). And never think about abortion becaus of aesthetics, this is silly, like stopping playing the piano because you don't like your hands.
9) when it comes to talk to a doctor/nurse/gyn, remember that they have a hell of a knowledge. And that they may really already have seen some sh*t going. They have experience. TRUST THEM, you can. Really. And if a friend of yours says something you are not sure about it, seek professional advice.
10) INTERNET ! Oh god. Another huge thema. Please reckon that internet is ambivalous. If you have to make a presentation about puppies for school and search for pictures, it is indeed a very good tool. But if somebody wants to build a bomb a downloads instructions about explosive devices, suddendly, it is not that great anymore, is it ? So, I may not be able to restrain you from searching your "symptoms" in google, but please, please ... be VERY VAREFULL with the informations you find. For example, if you search "headache", you will find that it is a common sympton for cerebral anerysm. But you might only have forgotten to drink enough ... So, always bear in mind that "symptoms" can be caused by multiple causes. If your mons pubis has grown, don't freak out about "cancer" ! And be aware about all the "trolls" going around the web. These are people who enjoy to annoy others by any mean. If you give them the oppurtinity to ruin your self-esteem, don't be surprised some of them will. You shall be warned.
If you still have some concerns, seek the advice of a trusted adult and/or a doctor.
And also remember : each of us had to go through puberty. You are not alone having questions, and wondering what is happening.
And don't think boys have it easier. I have a brother, and I assure you they go through some sh*t as well.
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