how soon trying to get pregnant after miscarriage

[mb2006]

I've read in my prgenancy books and on forums and I've been told by doctors to wait 1 to 3 cycles before trying to get pregnant again after having had a miscarriage recently. But there doesn't seem to be any research to back this up...no one can tell me if there's a medical risk if I get pregnant sooner. Does anyone know? I am 36 years old and had a m/c on my first pregnancy last month and I'm eager to try again. If it's for emotional reasons that people say to wait, well getting pregnant again will make me feel better as that was my goal, but I don't want to have an increased risk of another m/c by getting pregnant too soon. But time is an issue b/c I am 36 and just starting to have children now. I know this all may be pointless if I don't ovulate again soon, but hoping thinsg get back to normal soon. I had a natural m/c and my hcg levels are almost back to normal or zero. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

[mellymel]

i had a friend who mis carried her first pregnancy she was about two months. She waited two cycles before trying again, and did get pregnant but around her 5 months later things went wrong and she lost the baby. The doctor told her she should had waited a little longer to get pregnant so her body and cycles could get back on track, but she wanted a baby so bad she tried again when she felt like she could do it.  So i guess the best thing to do is to wait a few cycles and once everything seems to be back on track and the doctor gives you the okay you can try again. Best of wishes i hope i helped some.

- Melissa

[mb2006]

Ok. Good to hear your friend's story as I was about to try sooner than even getting my first period after the recent m/c. I had planned to wait one cycle but then decided this weekend not to wait just b/c I am so eager to get pregnant again, but now I guess I should wait at least one cycle. It's just that I read some women's stories how they got pregnant very soon after a m/c (less than a month after), so maybe it's variable but best to wait at least one month. Thanks for your comment.

[ourlittlepenut]

Dear everyone on board,
  This is my first time writing on this, but I have read so things and I just lost my first child. I want that back I want to feel it growing inside of me. We only made it to 12 weeks, and i am still really upset by all if this. But now I find my self upset that other people have children, because we lost ours. I am just ready to try again but my doc, says to wait 3 months before we try again. Is that true? I wish we could try sooner.

[mb2006]

Where did you read or hear about the 50% chance of having another miscarriage b/c I have not read ot been told that in my research on this topic. If anything, I've read there is not an increased risk of having another miscarriage after having one, and it goes up only a little after a 2nd, but perhaps the risk goes up a lot more if after 3, 4, and 7 m/c. The risk for the general population for having one miscarriage is 1/5 for women below age 35 and 1/4 for above age 35, though not sure if even greater risk for over age 40.

My dilemna now after having had one m/c is how long to wait to try to conceive again and that seems to be so variable, but I've decided that common sense is to wait one cycle and not much more given my age of 36 and so increased risk of other problems (i.e., fertility issues, genetic disorders with baby, etc.) if don't try soon.

[kimberley_82]

I am a mother of one and Have had 7 miscarriages, Yes 7.  Yes, after you have one miscarriage you have a 50% chance to have another.  After a miscarriage depnding on how far a long you are you should at least wait 2 cycles.  After a miscarriage ask your doctor and don't feel shy when you should try again.  No matter what some one says you can still be pregnant before your period is late.  I was told by my aunt once when I was younger that some woman can have a miscarriage once a month with out evan knowing it.  I researched this and it is true.  One out of every 3 or 4 pregnancys end for many reasons in miscarriage.

[BabyOnBoard(wishing)]

I too had a m/c...I was eleven weeks.  It was extremely hard, especially because I had started bleeding the week before the m/c.  I went to the hospital thinking that the pregnancy was over, and they gave me great news.  I saw the baby moving, everything looked normal, the baby's heart rate was 155 (which apparently, when it is over 100, your chance of m/c is about 10%), everyhting was normal, except for the bleeding.  I proceeded to see my obgyn and he too said the heart rate and size and everything was fine.  Then four days later, the same thing happened.  I started bleeding again, went to the hospital, but this time I thought it was nothing again, cause I had been reassured by both the hospital staff and my obgyn, but the baby's heart stopped bleeding.  I had a DNC and they told me to follow up with my doctor in 6 weeks, and that I should get my period in 4-6 weeks.  Well, I did follow up, and avoided trying to conceive until I spoke to my doctor.  When I did speak to him, he did an exam and said that I had to eggs ready to pop and it was possible to have twins that month.  He told me if I wanted babies to just try right away. Not to wait.  I went home all excited, thinking that it would happen right away.  It didn't:(...I thought I might be pregnant, becasue it was 9 weeks after my m/c and I still hadn't gotten my AF.  I took a test only to find out that it was negative.  I thought OK, it'll happen nect month.  Well, this is next month and I know my AF is coming.  It sucks.  
Now that I know I can try again, with the blessing of my doctor, that's all I've been doing.  I got pregnant the first time trying, but now when I really want it, its not happening.
I say try right away...I'm kicking myself for not trying the first few weeks after my m/c.
I guess it'll happen when its meant to happen, but it becomes such a roller coaster ride.

[mb2006]

To Baby on Board, thanks for sharing your story and sorry about your loss and troubles. Stay hopeful as I do hear about so many successful full term pregnancies after a first miscarriage. I appreciated hearing that your doctor told you not to wait as I kind of went against everyone's advice and started trying before my next period (which I haven't gotten yet). When I first saw that I was ovulating by an at home test last week, I didn't try to get pregnant though it was tempting b/c I worried about possible miscarriage risk if tried too soon. But then 2 days later I said the hell with it and my husband and I had sex so don't know if I missed the window of ovulation time or I'll have problems getting pregnant again this time. It took me 2 months last time and you said on your first month trying, so that's good I think to know we both are fertile and hopefully decreased chances of problems conceiving, but remember healthy couples with no prior difficulties often take a few months to conceive anyway. It's easier for me to tell someone else that, but believe me I'm very eager for it to happen again too, so need to remind myself these things. Good luck and let me know if you get pregnant again soon!

[mb2006]

Update: I did get pregnant again about 3 weeks following the early m/c but then now 2 weeks later just had another early m/c. I'm sad and the midwife was kind of upset that I did not wait but I never learned any real info/research to support waiting. But here I am with my story that ended in another m/c perhaps b/c I did not wait long enough or maybe just by chance again as 1/4 women over age 35 have a chance of m/c each time. Although I hate to wait even longer now, I guess I will to try that approach now before trying to get pregnant again.

[MOM@21]

I'm new to this sight, I just lost my baby on Friday July 7th. I found this on the march of dimes webpage. Hope this will help clear things up.

A woman should not attempt to become pregnant again until she is physically and emotionally ready and she has completed any tests recommended to determine the cause of the miscarriage. Medically, it appears safe to conceive after a woman has had one normal menstrual cycle (if she is not undergoing tests or treatments for the cause of her miscarriage). However, it may take much longer before a woman feels emotionally ready to attempt pregnancy.

Many women who have experienced miscarriage worry that they will miscarry again. Fortunately, the great majority of women who have had one miscarriage will go on to have a successful pregnancy the next time, as will 60 to 70 percent of those who have experienced two or three losses.

[countrygirl30458]

hey
im 21 years of age and had my first miscarriage at 6 wks and 4 days it was the hardest thing for me to accept. they couldnt find the heartbeat. i want to try again asap i really want one that i can love, hold and charish for the rest of my life. what do i need to do? someone please help me thru this, this really hearts.

[moetp]

Well I am 21 years old and I have a 2.5 year old daughter. I was pregnant last month and I was so anxious to know because I was a few days late. I was indeed pregnant and so excited. The next day or so I began to feel severe abdominal pain. The pains sudsided the next day but came back the day after that. I went to the doctor and they said I was fine and the pregnancy was ok also, it was the change of my body that was causing my pain they said. I knew that was false. The next day or two I m/c. I was about 6 weeks pregnant. The strange thing was that the bleeding lasted only a 5 days like a period. Now I have been waiting for a period and nothing. I have the breast tenderness and some feelings of sickness in the mornings. Today I took a pregnancy test because I just had that feeling and both tests I took were positive. I am so scared and confused. Could I actually be pregnant again so fast? I am going to make a doctors appointment.

[Tara26]

I m/c also 5 weeks ago, and had no period yet.
I too think I'm pregnant again.
Done 2 tests both negative at 4 weeks (last week)

All my symptoms have come back too, I feel same as last time.

Does anyone think I am and that I just need to wait a week or two?

[Allie1980]

Hi Everyone---

I'm 25 yrs old and wasn't even trying to get pregnant, but my husband and I had sex one time without a condom in June, and I got pregnant....  We found out on July 13th we were five weeks...  However, we went on vacation this last week, and I miscarried...  We went to the hopsital on July 21st.  My hcg level was only 153...  the OBGYN said she thought I had already lost the baby...

Before I even knew I was miscarrying, I remember seeing something funny in the toilet.  Once I saw a large bloody clot, and later in the day I saw this bean-shaped pink fleshy ball thingy that kind of looked like a sponge.  Did I pass everything?  Do you think that was it?  

I didn't even have a chance to be referred to an OB doctor before I miscarried.  Should I set-up an appointment with an OB doctor anyway?

[scaredt2death]

I recently suffered a miscarriage on the 27th of July and I was just six weeks and six days pregnant but the effect of that loss has made me a puddle of emotions.  I too have been looking for the answers to how soon do I wait and though I haven't found any research to back up waiting two or more cycles or three months I have found consistent suggestions to wait at least three weeks to allow my body to adjust to the change in hormone levels and to assure that my body has cycled everything out of my system.  I would like to start trying right away but I am contemplating waitng until my next period has begun so that I have some dates and so that I will know that my body is prepared to move on and care for the next pregnancy.

The one question or concern that I have that I haven't been able to find any info on is weather I perhaps caused my body to reject this pregnancy by changing my eating habits and vitamin intake to rapidly.  We didnot expect to conceive so quickly so my eating habits were attrocious and I wasn't taking any vitamins.  The moment we found out I started eating the required amounts of vegetables and protien and taking folic acid and calcium supplememnts. Any comments?  I am open to here anything.

Also my bhcg level is still at 684.  Doesn't that seem odd for a true miscarriage?

[Keeping Hope Alive]

To Allie1980.  Yes I think you passed the baby.  The same thing happened to me and the midwife said by the way I had described it I had miscarried naturally.  Definitely call your doctor or midwife because I had to see my midwife two weeks after the miscarriage.  I'm feeling great now but am just waiting to be on a normal cycle so we start trying to get pregnant again.  Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss,

[foxygirlpa]

hello everyone i just had a miscarage it happen to me two weekes ago i when to my appt and we were looking at my child all of a suddin the hert stoped and my baby died i was 9 weeks so they asked me if i wanted to have the misscarige natural or if i wanted a dnc and i told them that i couldnt go another night sleeping with my unborn child dead inside of me so i had a dnc now im wondering how long should i wait for me and my husband to try again this was our first pregnancy and we both want a child so bad i hope someone can help me out thank u

[mel49ers]

I recently had a miscarriage, my first one. I was about 5 weeks.. I swear if I hadn't taken a pg test, I would not have known though, my only symptoms were heavy heavy bleeding and pain in my lower back. I am 35, with 2 healthy children.. age 5 & 12.. So this was a horrifying experience. I guess I never dreamed it would happen to me (not that I'm that special).. but it just caught me completely off guard.  Now I wonder, since it was not painful (physically) and I only bled for 2 days.. if I should wait to try again or not. I don't want to wait, but the thought of experiencing a m/c again is terrifying.  I keep thinking, if I hadn't of known.. I would have kept trying just thinking it was a menstrual cycle.. Any suggestions.. should I wait or carry on as normal?? I feel fine physically..

[stillwaiting7]

Hi...I am new to this so sorry if I spell everything out..I had two losses last year. I found out that I was pregnant and lost my first baby at 14 weeks. I did not know I had lost the baby until I had some bleeding. They diagnosed my baby with a fatal umbilical cord problem. I was told by my OB to try again in three months. I like alot of you was so afraid and excited I just wanted to get out there and try again. And try is what we did I got pregnant on the 3rd month. We were so excited but only told a few people. I lost that baby at 10 weeks due to a blood clot in my uterus. I had a D&C on both. I ended up in the hospital a few weeks after the last D&C with massive blood loss with complications after the pregnancy. I was told then to wait at least a year (in my case). I would like to recommend to anyone trying after a loss to wait a few months to let your body get back to normal. Even though your heart is aching for a baby..It has been just over a year and we feel safe to try again. Good luck to you all who have been down my same path.

[luvbug02]

I had a misscarage in the very beginning just lik eyou if i hadnt taken the test i wouldnt have known because i miscarried the next day but my doc said to wait through one normal cycle and period then you can try. BABY DUST to you

[SarahWegs]

HI everyone..
I found out I was pregnant on my birthday 6/30 and found out that I was m/c on 7/5.. My doctor told me to wait 2 cycles at least. Which I don't know if any of you are like me or not.. But that's hard. He told me to use a "barrier" method. I'm afraid to take birth control because I was on the Depo shot and that was the issue for me as to why it took 3 1/2 years to get pregant. So I didn't want to use a contraceptive. And we didn't we have been together a few times since the bleeding stopped on the 12th. Any how. I am now at 4 weeks after my m/c and am wondering if you can be pregnant? I am feeling all the feelings that I did when I found out I was pregnant. Is that possible? I took a test today and it was negative. Should I wait longer or has anyone had these feelings also?
Please let me know. Thanks!

[mellie43]

Hi, I'm new to this forum. I am 43 and was pregnant up until Monday of this week.  Started spotting a little brown/pinkish on Monday.  HCG level was only at 25 on Tuesday and by Tuesday afternoon, cramping and bleeding started.  Miscarriage is still continuing as I type this.  Wondering when we can try again?  With my age as a factor, time is running out.  My Day 3 FSH was at 8.57 a few months ago and since I just got pregnant, I at least know that I still can get pg.  Just don't know why this pregnancy had to end.  I was only about 3 weeks from conception date.  Any commments would be appreciated.

[HannahJJ]

I was reading the board and thought I'd share my story.  I found out I was pregnant in February.  I hadn't missed my period yet, but my 2 yr old son told me he saw a baby, so I went and took an early pregnancy test.  It was faintly positive, and we were excited.  Unfortunately, I got a faint positive, then a "negative", then a positive, then a "negative" (all with the same brand of pg test).  My husband was going to be out of town the following week, so we were just going to wait until he got back from class for me to see the ob/gyn, since we could only be "more pregnant" in our minds.  Unfortunately, that following weekend we miscarried.  I, like so many of you, didn't want to wait... and we conceived again in April (on our anniversary, no less).  I know it sounds crazy, but again, my 2 yr old son said, "I see babies".  So, again, I took a pg test, it was faintly +, took another, and another, and got a strong +.  That weekend I had a m/c.  I went in to see my ob/gyn two days later.  She told me we had tried too soon.  Basically, you need to let your body get your hormones and everything else back to "normal" before trying to get pregnant again.  I guess the reason I never really gave much thought to that was because my mom had a miscarriage right before she had me, and I think I turned out just fine... ;)  Seriously, the doctor told her I was a pseudo-pregnancy because he didn't believe she could've (should've?) conceived again so soon.  My ob/gyn didn't give me a specific time period to wait, so I really don't know just how long one should wait.  She told me to let my cycle get back to "normal" and try again, and that would probably take 3-6 months.

[trying for mths]

i am so sorry to here about everyones sad news. i have been trying to get pregnant and i am having trouble. my husband leaves for iraq on november 3 and he wants us to get pregnant before he leaves. any suggestions?

[clem7468]

Hi everyone. I m/c at six weeks on June 26th.  Up until Aug 11th, i spotted everyday.  Now, I'm not spotting any longer, but there are no signs of my AF arriving any time soon.  I was told by my dr to try again as soon as we felt we were ready.  We're ttc right now so wish us luck.  My dr says conception after miscarriage is up to each person and how they feel.
Good luck to everyone.

[SarahWegs]

Okay so to add to my story.. I had my first af on 8/12 so I guess I'm ready to ttc.
Baby Dust to All!!

[donnandy]

Here I am again.  Had a m/c at ~8wks. in Mar.  Found out I was pregnant again, had a m/c yesterday at 5 wks.  Not sure what caused my first.  Am convinced I caused this one.  I wore a girdle to work on Mon. b/c I had a bulging tummy.  Felt uncomfortable all day and notice spotting on Tues. afternoon.  It progressively got worse Tues. night so went to the E.R. on Wed. morning and doctor said my cervix was open.  I never would have done something so stupid if I knew I would have harmed my baby.  Now I have guilt and grief to live with forever.  I don't have the courage to tell my husband or family (nor my doctor) what I did.  I want to try again right away.  But am not sure if I should.  I have not had any bleeding since the d&c yesterday.  Please forgive me for my actions, but would someone please tell me if I deserve to try again.  Please respond to my e-mail. Thank you.

[lizzliz]

hi every one sorry for your loss, i had a miscarriage at 7 weeks but didnt find out till my 13th week scan, it has been 9 weeks since my miscarriage and have tooken numerous tests all coming back faintly positive, can any one tell me if im pregnant or not

[antoniab]

Hi, I'm in the same boat you are with a husband in the military. What base are you at? At Fort Lewis, we have an infertility clinic.
After two years of trying, we were able to get in (easily, in fact, as soon as we asked I had an appt in a few weeks) and were able to have IUI done. I got pregnant first try, however we lost the baby, had a D&C on June 29, and I just had my period again, and a positive Ov test today.
They make us wait 3 cycles to try again, which is so hard since I'm 40.
But it's amazingly affordable with the military. They only charge you for what they cannot do in the clinics there. (We had to pay for a sperm wash, b/c they don't have the equipment... cost us $162.00 for an IUI! Invitro is more, of course, but they can even get you donor eggs for a price.)

So if you're on base or with Tricare, consult with them about seeing a fertility specialist. The doctor also told me that if my hisband were  called overseas, they would freeze the sperm for me to be able to try if he had to go on mission.

Hope that helps you some.... I know how hard it is, but there's hope! Take care.

[JamieImp]

Hello All,

I am new to this site.  I miscarried at 6 weeks back in July, and I had an ectopic pregnancy in March at 7 weeks.  It took my husband and I 18 months to get pregnant the first time and we finally did it when I bought the OV watch.  Not sure if everyone has heard of it, but it has helped us get pregnant both times, and now I am going to start using it again tonight because my period finally came after this miscarriage.  The watch really works and I highly recommend it to anyone who is having trouble getting pregnant.  You wear it at night when you sleep and then it tells you the 2 days before you ovulate and the 2 days after.  Good luck to all!

[classicaloa]

I found out i was pregnant about a week ago, and my boyfriend b.day was 5 day aways so i wanted to wait to see the OB because i wanted to surprise him with ultrasound picitures.  However, the morning of my appointment, which was his birthday, 23th of August, i woke up bleeding and miscarry. I dont know what to do with my self and CANNOT understand why this happen.  

Im ready to try again ASAP, what should i do, this is killing me and my boyfriend, we were both excited about my pregnancy

HELP, i cant take this feeling

[lizzliz]

hey sorry for your loss i know your doin alot of thinking of why did this happen,but your jus gonna bring yoyr self down if u keep thinking about it, i think you should wait one or even a few cycles to get your body back to normal.and jus wait the right time will come for you both.

please could you help with my situation
xx

[Crlnduf]

I was 8 weeks when I miscarried. I have neverfelt that helpless in my life. I am still trying to work thorough emotions of losing the baby. After a week of bleeding it stopped and me and my husband had unprotected sex ..it has been three weeks and I still have my pregnancy symptoms. The very very sore boobs,    (they feel very heav and are very lumpy) the heart burn , the nausea and to add to the mix I feel light headed and get a lot of headaches. The Doctor did one of those pee in a cup pregnancy test and that came back negative. I am wondering if I could have gotten pregnant That soon or is it just left over hormones. Could someone please let me know if this possible or if it is just wishful thinking on my part. It is just absolutely agonizing.

[tipperary]

i went for my 12 scan on 09/28 and was told my baby had died. i am heartbroken but my dotor does not recommend a dnc and wants me to wait to miscarry naturally which he tinks could take anything up to 6 weeks. i have lost all feelings of beimg pregnant and hope to m/c as soon as possible so i can have some closure. has anyone else went through this and does anyone know how soon after can i try to conceive again or do the normal rules apply

[Nje]

Hi everyone.I had a m/c 8 weeks ago now,I was 12 weeks pregnant and had a missed m/c.This week I went for a check up at hospital and ended up having a d&c as a small amount was still inside of me.Its been 3 days since I have been out and really want to try to get pregnant asap.I already had my a/f a couple of weeks ago as well.Just wondered if anyone else has gone through this the same,as on a lot of sites they do tell you to wait (although I had the miscarriage 8 weeks ago and a small d&c 3 days ago)...Many thanks

[Amber87]

hi everyone. im 19 and i also just had a m/c in early august. I was about 2 months. But now, all of my symptoms are coming back, the breast tenderness, the nausia, sleepiness, and even the mood swings, but the thing is...i did bleed a tiny bit a couple days ago that may have been a period but if it was, it was the TINIEST one ive ever had it only lasted one night. but, i also bled like that in like the second or third week of my pregnancy, so im not sure, i took a urine test but it came out neg. but the doctor said it would b too soon for that and to get a blood test, but does ne1 think maybe its just way coincidental and could just be a light period?

[Amber87]

hi everyone. im 19 and i also just had a m/c in early august. I was about 2 months. my boyfriend and i wanted the baby so bad, i couldnt do anything for weeks, But now, all of my symptoms are coming back, the breast tenderness, the nausia, sleepiness, and even the mood swings, but the thing is...i did bleed a tiny bit a couple days ago that may have been a period but if it was, it was the TINIEST one ive ever had it only lasted one night. but, i also bled like that in like the second or third week of my pregnancy, so im not sure, i took a urine test but it came out neg. but the doctor said it would b too soon for that and to get a blood test, but does ne1 think maybe its just way coincidental and could just be a light period?

[mummab]

i have just miscarried my 6th pregnancy,at just 5 wks.we have 3 healthy and happy boys,our daughter was born @33.5 wks. with a congenital kidney disorder and died a half hour after she was born,so 6 months ago we decided to attempt concieving once again.i was a bit shocked to find out that i was pregnant again,i suppose i didnt let myself get too excited because of the pain and grief of loosing my little girl.my husband was over the moon with the news.life was looking good again.i started bleeding two days before fathers day here in oz.i knew what was happening,my husband was and stil is mortified,he was still holding onto hope.its four days later and i just feel so angry now,at every one and every thing!!does any one have advice.we plan on trying again straight away.

[bbbunch]

Hi all.  I had my first m/c yesterday.  I do have 2 healthy,
beautiful kids (6/4) and got preg w/both of them and this baby first month coming off the pill.  I "felt" different this time, (though only 5 weeks, I had been experiencing a lot of symptoms of pregnancy), but I was unusually crampy.  I think I knew something wasn't right but was just dismissing it as being paranoid.  Now I feel stupid because we told everyone (including our kids) and we had to tell everone about our loss.  I feel like we are being "watched" now and everyone has advice and opinions on how long we should wait.  It is difficult to hear.  By the way, mel49ers - I think you were absolutely right...if you didn't take the test, you would just think that it was an unusually strong period, but leave it at that.  And donnanny - my dr told me that there was absolutely nothing I could have done to stop my m/c and absolutely nothing I did to make it happen (unless I was smoking crack...that is a direct quote).  I am going to go ahead and assume that you, like me, were doing nothing of the sort, so please please please do not think that wearing a girdle to work was enough to make you m/c.  The day before I m/c - I felt unbelievably bloated and uncomfortable too.  Take care and good luck everyone.  Remember the lord will not give us more than we can handle, and that which does not kill us makes us stronger :)

[anxietymo]

Hi im new to the board. I had a miscarriage Apr 26 06 @2:00am I was 19 weeks . My husband and i were devastated . They made me push my son out then they allowed me to hold him for a while and bond (which was totally my choice)  then we had a ceremation service for him. There after my period was very funny sometime spotting a day or two, I had 2 periods in June then july and aug i begin to have a regular period. My breast were swollen and leaking milk . My dr told to allow 2-3 menstral cycles b4 trying again ,But not w/o saying my HARMONE LEVELS WERE LOW .However it's been determined that i have a incompetent cervix which will require a cerlage (stitches) for now on ,which is also by the way considered as highrisk . My husband and I are working on a child now naturally w/o any infertility drugs ,so it should be soon when I'm expecting my little one. Giving birth to my son was one of the most remarkable feelings I've ever had and I cherished every moment w/him:) Tymil James Horne

[aimee123]

hey everyone i thort i should shear my story with you all. when i first found out i was preg it was a reall shock to me and my boyfriend as im only 17 but after talking about it to family we decided to keep baby i was 7 weeks when i misscaryed. my doc sent me for a scan to make sure i didint need to go in for a D N C after my bleeding stoped i new thort to go to the docs to go on the pill or anything but when my period was late i new i was pregnant again i had 1 period b4 i fell preg again i went for a scan when i was 5 weeks and everything was fine i started having lite bleeding when i was 7 weeks so my doc sent me for another scan everything was fine after i passed the 12 week mark me and my partner started getting used to the idea we were having a baby at 17 weeks i started bleeding again my midwife told me not to worry about it and that lots of women have brake throw bleeding 2 days later my bleeding got heavyer and i started having cramps i went to the hospital and the docs told me i was having a misscarg and there was nothing they could do to save baby. the thing that upset me the most was they didint find baby even after i went for a D N C there was no sign of a baby the doc told me that the baby could have died a while ago and that it had been desolved. the doc told me to wait 3 months befor i tryed again and that could have been a reason why i lost this baby because my body didint have time to heal. but im still waiting for the tests to come back so ill keep you posted.

[kavl85]

I'm 21 years old and my husband and I became pregnant on our first try in the first week of July. We didn't expect it to happen on our first try, doctor warned it could possibly take months. Needless to say, we were surprised but so happy and excited. This was my first pregnancy ever and I began to spot at exactly 5 weeks pregnant. At 5 1/2 weeks I was bleeding heavily. I went to the doctor 2 days before I would of been 6 weeks to get bloodwork. Later that day they confirmed that I had miscarried. I know it was early but was so devastated.I wanted to try again immediatley. My doctor said wait at least 2 months but we didn't want to. I waited for one normal period and this month we tried very hard so I'm waiting to find out if I got pregnant this month (first try since the m/c). Now I want more than anything to get pregnant again. I also find myself jealous of others who have kid(s)now that I m/c. We just want to get pregnant asap. I know that I am young but my husband is more than 10 years older than me so the sooner the better.

[missc28]

Hi,

I'm ttc but had a miscarriage in April (twins) at 18 1/2 weeks and I just had another miscarriage 2 weeks ago (blighted ovum) I was ovulating a few days ago but now I'm having some dark, dark brown spotting anyone else experience this or know what this could be. I have been feeling a little lightheaded.

[jennijenjen]

Hello everyone. i am a 26 yr old mother of 2 (5, 3) and i found out that my new husband and i were pregnant with our first on
Aug 6. we were both so excited, i think he more than i. we went to our first dr's appt together Aug 14 and determined i was 10 weeks. On Sept 2, at 12 weeks, i started spotting, with no cramps. i laid down for the day and it went away. it came back the next day heavier and brighter red. on sept 4 we went to the emergency room because i couldnt wait thru the labor day holiday to find out if something was wrong. we went thru 5 hours of tests and anxious waiting only to find out the baby had never made it past 6 weeks. It had died before i even knew that i was pregnant, and now my body was getting rid of it. I agonized for days wondering what i did, what was i doing when i was 6 weeks pregnant? Was it my fault? i looked at text messages on my phone from july, thinking "i was pregnant whn i read this" Truth is, everything happens for a reason, i know that holds no comfort, but in my case, i have gained a unconditional trust and love for my husband who was so strong and there for me and deeply concerned about how i was, even though i know he was dying inside. Our baby will come in time, as will all of you who have lost an angel along the way. I love you all, and i truely feel your pain. -Jennifer Rodriguez

[back40]

Does anyone know if a cycle counts from a miscarriage to your next period or if it doesn't begin until you start your next period.   Thank you.

[Babycakes1]

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[elona19]

hay everyone I had three miscarriage and I am only 19-years old. Me and my husband we are trying really bad to have a child. After my first miscarriage 6-weeks I got pregnant again after three month and I was again 6-month and had miscarriage. The third time We waited for six month and my babe hart just stoped when my docter was looking in ultrasound I was crying because I was almost three and half month, and now Im really scare to get pregnant because I don't know what it would happend to me or my babe. I really do not know how long do I have to wait before trying to get pregnant again.Can somebody tell me if they had the same experiance. thank you!

[jamieanne13]

HI!  I am new to this site so bear with me...I am 25 years old and my husband and I decided that we were going to try for a baby in the middle of august.  we found out on sept 7th that we were almost 4 weeks (I caught it really early!)  We were sooo excited and told everyone because we thought nothing bad would happen to us (of course as I am sure everyone did)  Well around sept 14th I started spotting.  I called my Dr and went in and got HCG levels drawn...they were only 69.  They told me not to worry and that I was just not as far along as we originally thought. They did HCG levels again and they were 149. So I was convinced that everything was okay. on sept 23rd I began bleeding pretty heavy. I went back to the dr again and my HCG was down to 19.  So we lost the baby and wehn I went back on Oct 3rd, my HCG levels were back down to neg. My husband and I are obviously very upset, but we are still looking forward to trying again asap.  When my dr office called me to let me know my #'s were neg. they said "remember to wait 2 cycles before trying again"  but the way they said it, you could tell it was just a random thing they tell everyone.  Can we try sooner?  We both are looking forward to being parents and I have read about many who have tried right after and were successful with healthy babies. Also, I jsut feel like I am ready, I have that feeling that it's time to start trying again. Any comments or insights would be very helpful to me.  (sorry for such a long comment!)

[touwanna]

i had a m/c in jan 05 at 14 wks and was so desperate to try again that we started straight away i got pregnant in feb 05 without even having a cycle and gave birth to a healthy 8lb 11oz baby girl in nov 05 but i found out i was preg again 6 weeks ago and miscarried last wed at 9 weeks so now im desperate to try again and im going to try asap again and hope that it happens as quick as before.

[Emzilou]

i know this is an oldish message but i felt i had to post after reading one of the comments.
I ahve one child and recently (a month and half ago) suffered a misscarrige at about 5 weeks. I have spoken to my docter and he said to wait one cycle we carried on as normal and i have jsut had my first period, but there is also no HARD evidence that waiting gives you a better chance of concieving. Also soemone wrote after one m/c you have a 50% chance of m/c again this is rubbish after one m/c your chances of having anthor one are the same as a woman who has had healthy pregnancys and never m/c before. i know this as fact. Bf is a dr of science. I jstu felt it important to let people knwo this as there would be a lot of terrified woman worry that its going to happen again and actually odds are anthor pregnancy will be perfectly normal.

[venkaS]

Hi i am 20 years old and i just had a M/C on thursday 19 Oct 06. i was only 7 weeks and 6 days.  It was soo hard for me, but for some odd reason i am kinda calm and all i can think about is getting pregnant again, i know that it is really soon i haven't even seen my OB yet, i am going on tuesday, and i know that they are going to tell me to wait until 2 or 3 cycles, but that is such a long time. and my husband and i want a child soo badly, my hcg levels are still in the 3thousands, should i wait until they go back to completely zero? also i order som OVULEX fertility pills, does anyone know anything about them, and do you think i could get prengant agian before my next cycle, and do you think i will hurt my chances of having a healthy baby, if i get pregnant before my next cycle

[trod75]

I just recently had a miscarriage on July 4. I was 7 weeks pregnant.  I have two kids already but I have never had a miscarriage before. I have talked with some friends and everyone has told me if they did a DNC. But when I went in to Labor and Delivery, they told me that my body would get rid of it itself. Has anyone had a miscarriage that the body got rid of it itself and still got pregnant a few months later. I just want to make sure. I know that the doctors are probably right but I just want to hear from someone who has went through it.

[Jewlz23]

I also had a miscarriage on July 4. I was 5 weeks preg. I have one child and have also never had a m/c before. My doctor told me also that nature would take it's course and that I wouldn't need a d&c. I only bled for 2 days and spotted for a few more and my levels are back down already. My doctor told me that I could start ttc again when I felt ready. I hope this might help.

[CeCe1]

I just wanted to say that it is COMPLETELY FALSE that you have a 50% chance of having a second miscarriage.....I have gone to two specialists and they said if a Dr. told you that, then they have not done any research.....

Just wanted to let you moms know that....So keep on trying!!!! Oh, and you do only have to wait for one cylce to start trying again. I did, and have a healthy baby!

[triggerdave]

Hiyai'm 30 and i have 3 children from my first husband,me and my new partner wanted a baby together,i got pregnant after 7 months i was so happy,i gave up smoking and drinking but just before 19 weeks pregnant i started bleeding.I went to the hospital and they told me the baby was dead all i could do was cry.They gave me a tablet to stop my body thinking i was pregnant and sent me home.The day after i got a pain  in my tummy so i went to the toilet,about 20 seconds later i gave birth to a little boy.He was perfectly formed but he was really tiny.I really want another baby but so scared it will happen again. When should i try again? It has been 2 weeks since i m/c.

[mrsdavis]

I just recently had a m/c i was 6 weeks and 3 days... I have never been so devastated me and my husband wanted this more than anything... I started bleeding and went to the hospital and they told me i wasnt miscarrying the baby my cervix was closed just how it should be i went to my ob yesterday and she said it looked like i lost the baby b/c my hcg levels were at 54 but maybe i wasnt as far along as they thought. how long should my husband and i wait before trying again it took us 6 months to get pregnant after coming off of b/c pills. and we want a baby more than anything in this world.. I am sorry for everyones loss and i know what yall are going through.. I will pray for each and everyone of yall and pls pray for me and my husband.. Thanks

[meka2007]

Hi everyone I had a premature birth 3 weeks ago I was five and a half months the baby did not make it. how long should I wait before trying to conceive and at this point am I still very fertile? Me and my boyfriend has had sex about 4 times since i lost the baby with no condom now i feel like i should of waited longer if i am pregnant could there be health problems?

[naynali]

hi.well i had a m/c aboute 5 weeks ago.i already have 1 girl butsadly this happened and i was 9 and a half week pregnant.i really do want to try again i do.we didnt have sex till about  3 weeks after that happened and i still havent had a period yet.like i say  it happened 5 week ago.do yu think there chances you can concieve  that soon?

[uRloved]

I just want to say you are all on the right track.  It is wonderful to hear that you all are willing to try to conceive again after a having a miscarriage.  I know how tough it can be since I've had 3 miscarriages within 3 years.  My first one I was 10 weeks pregnant and I had to have a d&c which was the most horrible experience in my life.  I cried through the whole process.  Just knowing that I was experiencing all this pain and not be able to hold or know my baby...  I am a born again Christian, I mention this as reference for what I am about to share.   Once the doctor and nurse had left the room I just laid there crying.  As I laid there I looked out the window and all I could see was the sky and I heard a voice saying "I'll see you in heaven".  Suddeny this peace came upon me and a comfort that no words can describe.  Knowing that my baby had a soul and that one day I would see her or him in heaven gave me also an assurance that I too was going to be in heaven when I died.  For all of you mothers that have lost a precious one know that your baby is alive right now and there's hope for you to meet your baby.
I know how hard it is to questiion why, why can't we have our babies.  I wish also that I would have my baby to laugh and play but that's not how it happened.  God showed himself faithful at comforting me and my family.  
My doctor recommended I wait 3 months before trying to get pregnant again, I waited 6 months.
The second time I miscarried the week after I found out I was pregnant, I was 7 weeks.  This time I passed everything in the emergency room.  I was fortunate to have a friend who had miscarried 3 times and was still trying to get pregnant.  She also happened to be with me the night of the miscarriage I know that helped in he healing process.  I felt that if she was able to overcome it so could I.  In other  words her strength and faith helped me.  I waited a little over a year this time I went to a high risk obgyn he gave progesterone to help me not loose the baby and he also put me on bedrest since I was cramping and bleeding lightly.  At 8 weeks he did an ultrasound and said that there was an empty sac... a baby had never developed.  All the tests were saying I was pregnant I had all the symptoms of pregnancy but the baby never developed.  I chose to not have  a d&c an let all the tissue pass naturally with pain medication beacuse I still suffered the same pain as with the other miscarriages.  I could not believe I had had a third miscarriage.  Hopes and dreams shattered again?  My husband and I still prayed and believed God once more.  So in March I found out I was pregnant.  I made an appointment right away and I was 6 weeks.  The baby's heart rate was very low but it increased the following week in my next appointment.  I decided to take it real easy avoided all stress and strenuous work.  I also started cramping and having discharge at about 8 weeks but the baby was fine.  Thank God for my husband he took over all the household chores and took care of me.  My doctor wouldn't put me on bedrest she said I was fine but I knew the symptoms too well as to ignore them.  So I would just lay down as much as posibble my job let me work from home.  At 3 months I was finally put on bedrest because I was having contractures.  It was very painful but the baby was still doing good.  Today I am 51/2 months I could feel the baby move already and I just can't believe it.  We will be having a baby girl in November.  We named her Kaileigh Joelle It means "Beloved, the Lord is willing".  I leave you with this God is willing ask him and he will answer.  Don't give up trying,  I really hope my experience comforts you and gives you hope in some way.  God bless you and comfort you and your family.  If you are looking for a good book to read I recommend "Supernatural Childbirth" it has tons of encouraging stories of women who were told they couldn't conceive and they did and also of women with multiple miscarriages who also were able to conceive and give birth to healthy babies.  Please if you are hurting turn to Jesus He truly cares!    

[MyloandBear]

I have miscarried twice in 9 months.  The first time I was 4 1/2 months along ( 16 1/2 weeks). I went through labor and delivery.  I experienced very hard contractions, at first 10 minutes apart then 2 minutes apart for 5 hours until delivery. After delivering our baby I had to have a D&C.  We conceived again 7 months later, only to lose this baby 7 weeks into the pregnancy, on July 29th, this time a D&C wasn't needed.  I encourage you, If you have miscarried twice in a row or more, have tests run.  It's worth it, it really is.  Also have them watch your hormone levels.  Sometimes it takes awhile for your hormone levels to drop back down to pre-pregnancy levels.   There is hope.  I have a friend that has had 6 miscarriages and she now has 4 beautiful children.  She had tests run, found out that she had a blood clot disorder, with medication she was able to carry the other pregnancies to full-term.   So be encouraged.  Also "Supernatural Childbirth" book is excellent.  The Lord is Faithful even in the midst of the storms.  He will calm the waters, may not be on your time table though.  But continue to trust GOD ruthlessly.    

[renee78]

I started spotting on Monday & had an ultrasound that showed that the pregnancy wasn't viable. I was supposed to be about 8 weeks, but the scan showed 6 weeks 1 day, no fetal pole or heartbeat. Anyway, all I've had so far is continued spotting, although on Wednesday something came out which I was wondering if it was the pregnancy sac. It was kind of smooth oval time shape, about 5cm long and 2cm wide. It just wasn't like a normal clot. Does anyone else think that this was the pregnancy sac and am I going to have some proper bleeding? I thought that when people miscarry it's supposed to be like a normal period with cramping? I haven't had any cramping at all. Also I'm wondering if I should just start TTC straight away or if I should wait. I'm 28 but my hubby's 44. We already have a little girl who's about 22 months.

[BeachBunny Baby]

Hi everyone.I too had a miscarriage two weeks ago.This is my 1st one after 5 mths of TTC.I'm sorry to hear of your losses and pain but am a firm believer in perseverance combined with healthy living(but that's a whole other topic)to obtain my goal.Sense I am eager to start trying again,say yesterday,my question is this,how long to wait and how common is it to get pregnant strait away from a miscarriage?I mean with in a months time with no in between period.And then of course how safe is it.The Internet offers little on this topic.My Dr. said 2 months and that was strongly influenced my 38 YO body.I'll be 39 in Dec.I have no children yet and was obviously crushed when this happened.Hay we can't all meet Mr. right straight away.So i was wondering if the standard 3 month waiting period had to do with the emotional stress vs. the physical side of things.Also I'm baffled why so many American women are having miscarriages.It doesn't seem to be the case in other country's.Could it be the food and stress levels?I'm ready to shop at my local co op exclusively.
Best of luck to those of you still trying and congrats to those who have succeeded.What do you think?

[Mommy_of_3angels!]

I am a mother of three beautiful little girls but I have had three miscarriages.
No reason why and with my second miscarriage tests were performed on what the doctor removed in my D&C procedure! Nothing was wrong with the fetus/amniotic sac!  Following the second miscarriage I very quickly became pregnant.  My doctor prescribed PROGESTERONE vaginal suppositories for me to insert every night at bed time until and if I reached 16weeks!  I have to say that yes it worked and now we have our three year old daughter.  Progesterone after talking with many different women was the key to stopping their repeated miscarriages. There is no known reason for why women miscarry but one speculation is a lack of progesterone.  Unfortunately I just tried for my fourth baby and we miscarried again at only 7 weeks.  I had just started the progesterone and will try again.  I guess once you have had so many miscarriages your prone to repeat it.
My doctor also advised me to wait but not for health issues or harm to the baby but merely to have a more accurate due date.  After having a miscarriage your cervix is still open and it can be very easy to get pregnant again.  Good luck to all who are trying and remember to never ever give up!

[SoniaRyan]

Hello ladies!!
Sorry to hear about your losses. I know it is very tough and many women have that same question "When is it safe to try again? or, if I do get pregnant does it increase my chances for another m/c?"
I recently had a missed m/c baby died at 8 weeks and didn't find out until a ultrasound at 12 weeks. It's been 5 weeks since my D&C. When I was in the hospital I asked my doctor that same question. He said when ever your ready.  He told me there is no higher risk in getting pregnant soon after a m/c. He also added most women are more fertile right after a m/c. Due to the cervix being open, soft and low. He also said most doctors will tell you wait 1-6 months to save there own skin (just in case).Most women will no have more then 2 m/c 's if more there may be a problem which will result in many tests.
I myself have been ttc 2 weeks after the d&c. Having weird preggo signs, but I know I still have hormones left over from my last pregnancy. So, I'm not building up my mind. If no period by week 7 I may test. I wish you all the best good luck in ttc. Baby dust to all

[triggerdave]

It has been 6 weeks to the day i found out my baby was dead.I started my period this morning.All i want to do is cry but i have to stay strong for my other children and i dont want my partner to see me upset.I smile at my partner and say lets try for another baby,but deep down i know i should still be pregnant.My partner saw me crying this morning and asked me what was wrong,i told him nothing was wrong but everything is wrong.I should be 25 weeks now with a big tummy and a big smile because  i should have a little baby inside of me and i should be the happiest person on this earth because i was going to be a mother again.I was going to do a pregnancy test this weekend,think i will save it for next month.

[lasexynena]

well......im 16 yrs old, i had a m/c four months ago, the same day in which i got married....my husband wants to become a father, i dont think my body is ready, cuz my periods are crazy...but can someone tell me or help me on this? i've been trying to get pregnant, but nothing happens, i went to the doctor last week, the doctor said i was ok......but do some one thinks is okay to keep trying or should i just leave this in peace?....i know im just a gurl, but i know i want to know how it feels to be a mom......can some one give me an advice?

[lasexynena]

hey i wanted to ask you about the watch that you were talking about!  where can i find it? im sorry if is an stupid question, but im new at this. can you tell me?plz

[MOMTOHUNTERG]

I TOOK 6 PREGNANCY TESTS AND THEY ALL SAID POSITIVE.  I HAVE A 11 YEAR OLD SON.  I WENT TO THE DOCTOR AND HE TOLD ME I WAS ABOUT 3 WEEKS PREGNANT.  I HAD NOT MISSED A PERIOD YET, BUT I JUST HAD A FEELING I WAS PREGNANT SO I GOT THE TESTS AND I WAS.   ON JULY 16,2007 I WENT IN TO HAVE MY HCG LEVEL TESTED AND IT WAS 48  SO I HAD TO GO BACK ON FRIDAY AND GET TESTED AGAIN AND IT DROPED TO 27.  THE DOCTOR SAID I WAS MISCARRING AND TO COME IN ON SEPT 4   AND MY BODY SHOULD HAVE ABSORBED THE PREGNANCY BY THEN.  I STARTED BLEEDING AND BLEED ABOUT 4 DAYS AND ITS OVER.  I AM SO SAD, I JUST CRY WNEN I THINK ABOUT MY BABY.   SOME PEOPLE TOLD ME THAT IS WASN'T EVEN A BABY YET I DIDN'T EVEN GET A HEARTBEAT,  THEY THINK I AM CRAZY TO BE SO UPSET BUT I FEEL EMPTY.   I WANT TO TRY TO HAVE A BABY ASAP.  WHAT DO YALL THINK.  

[ilovemyboo422]

[ilovemyboo422]

I am 16 years old and already had a miscarriage.i was 8 weeks when it happened.i already passed a one cycle and me and my b/f think that we want to try again.I am now a week late on this months period.does anoone know what I should do?

[Lyne37]

Hello from Canada:When I did a miscarriage at 16 weeks. It was a boy. The doctor ask me to wait 3 months to try it. And then I waited. I was upset and not able to see any baby around me. So I started again after 8 months and got pregnant. Did another miscarriage but I was 3 weeks pregnant. So we deceided to start again without waiting and I took us 3 years... and then I got pregnant and I started to bleed my first 2 months but I was stopped at work and stay in bed with my legs up. So I give birth finaly. And then my husband and I knew how long I took the first time so after I left the hospital we try and try since your hormones are so high. I took another 3 and 1/2 years to got pregnant. My mother was not like that at all. When it was time for a baby, she was getting pregnant that night... Good luck to everyones

[MOMTOHUNTERG]

I WOULD WAIT A LITTLE WHILE THEN TAKE A TEST.  WHAT IS YOUR HURRY, YOU HAVE PLENTY OF TIME TO BE A MOM.  YOU NEED TO ENJOY YOUR TEENAGE YEARS FIRST.  GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!

[gigi2006]

to all those who want to know how long you have to wait before trying to get pregnant again.

in june I had a D&C done. it means the doctor had to remove the water bag and fetus after you have a miscarriage. I was very hurt because I did want to have a baby. The doctor told me I had to wait 6 months before I could try to concieve again.
My older sister said its good to wait because her sister in law had a miscarriage and got pregnant 3 months later and had another miscarriage.

[Dragongirl1969]

Hello everyone, I am very sorry for your lose (s) I too just went through a miscarriage at 6 weeks I started spotting so I went to clinic and got an Ultrasound the baby’s sack was present so the doctor ordered an HCG test and asked me to come back in 2 days to check my HCG levels again. When I went back to get the results I was told my levels where on the low side so the doctor ordered another Ultrasound only this time no sack was present. The doctor told me he needed to schedule a D&C but that is was not urgent unless I started hemorrhaging (I wanted to kill him) so for 2 weeks I had to wait for them to take what ever was left of my zygote (baby). I have 2 children which I had a hard time to conceive, with my first I tried to get pregnant for 2 years and nothing. On one of my trips to Mexico I heard about a woman who massaged (more like adjusted) the uterus so women who had problem conceiving could get pregnant. I had tried the normal approach so I went with this lady for the miracle massage, I had one normal period after that and before the next period I was already feeling sick. I went to doctor and got my Positive Pregnancy result. With my daughter I had tried to get pregnant for a few months and nothing so I asked around to different people to see if they knew anyone in Los Angeles who massaged the uterus and they told me where to go. I never got my period after that. I wanted to have my last baby before 32 and get my tubes tied. Unfortunately I was not able to have this baby to term, it could be due to my uterus but my thought is to find the lady I went to for my daughter here in Los Angeles and take some herbal supplements for menstrual problems. I have heard it helps! I will hope to try after my next period if everything goes well I will let you know. If not I guess 2 are more than enough, I thank God everyday for them!

[rip-sweetbaby]

hi ladies, my last period was june 20th and i found out 3 weeks later that i was pregnant. i am 27 adn my boyfriend is 24, we really wanted a baby and it was our first month trying. i had a feeling and tested one week before myAF was due, i got a faint pos. so i took 6 more tests over the next week adn it was confirmed. i made a doc appt and she confirmed by bllod test. i had my first prenatal @ 9 wks-5 days, i did everything right, no drinking long before, no smoking, eating right, no caffiene, vitamins from day one. the physical was fine & i thought everything was A-OK!. i got in a bad car accident at 10 wks 6 days but everything seeme to be fine other than the whiplash. on thursday night (11 wks-1 day) i had some sharp pains so i made an appointment to see the doc in the morning the next day. she didnt think to much of it becsue i had no spotting but i was so upset and scared she rushed me over for an u/s. i handt had any water so it was hard to see normally so they did a vaginal one adn i saw the look on her face and she asked me if i was sure of how far along i was adn i coulndt be more possitive so she at that time introduced her self and so coldly said, your baby is only 9 weeks and has no heart beat, i started screaming and crying, she barely gt the thing out of me, i went back to the doctor and she hugged me and said it is common (yeh, real reasuring!)
i was devistated beyond belief.....i had bought so much and we picked out names and had the room almost set up, family was exstatic. i called my boyfriend (we work together, im his boss) i was off from the whiplash. he was more upset than i could ever imagine, i got home and he was crying on the couch. i was given the option to do a d&c or end at home with misoprstol (vaginal pills) i chose the pills nd was prepared for the pain so i thought. it was two days of contractions that eventually by 4:30 am sunday morning were about a minute apart i delivered my precious angel. i held it in my hand and cried for our loss but im glad i had that time alone to deal with it.
my doctor said i could try again right away, i will ovulate in a couple weeks like normal and she said if no period in 6 weeks, take a test. the risk is no greater, you still have the 1/4 chance of a misscarage but if a third happens to get shecked out. you are actually more fertile during hte months after (so i am told). my way to get thru it will be to move on and have a healthy baby.
one thing that i hold onto is, at least i know i can have get pregnant and if that one was meant to be, i would still be pregnant.
hang in there everyone, it is the hardest thing i have ever endured, emotionally, physically and mentally but if you are strong enough to get thru it then you are for sure going to be a great parent.
best of luck to all and do what feels right in your heart!

[MOMTOHUNTERG]

I AM SO SORRY.  I WILL PRAY FOR YOU TO GET PREGNANT.  I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL I WAS 3 WEEKS I KNOW THATS NOT VERY FAR ALONG, BUT IT WAS STILL DEVESTATING TO ME..  WE ARE FIXING TO START TRYING AGAIN.. I MISCARRIED ON AUG 18 2007

[bm007]

i recently had a miscarriage and i really dont know how far along i was. i took two 3 tests and they came back positive. I have been trying to get preganant for about 6 years now( i am 26) i thought i couldnt have babies which would have broke my heart. i love kids. well a week after i found out i was pregnant i started bleeding really light, now normally when i have my period it is really heavy. well i went to the doctor and they took my blood. I was really concerned about what was going on and since it was my first pregnancy i panicked. The only thing is i never had cramps, nothing came out of me and i still feel pregnant. the doctor said my hcg level was 117 ad a few days later it was 65. At that time she told me i was misscarrying. :(  Now i have to go back to get more blood drawn, i am really confused, you would think if i was misscarrying i would be in more pain and bled a little more. Maybe i just want to believe i am still pregnant. Any advice???

[kviolet]

I just had a miscarriage at 4wks and didn't need a DNC so do i really need to wait that long to try again since i didn't have to have the DNC??

[lunitari]

I'm sorry about your loss. It is hard to let go of something so precious. I recently miscarried on August 26 2007. I had a hard time dealing with it the first day, but thanks to my great husband I made it through this difficult time. We have been together for 10 years, married for 6 and trying to have children for 8 years. When I found out we were pregnant I was shocked because I was sure the reason I missed my menstrual cycle was just normal for me. I have always had irregular cycles and this was just another missed cycle.  Therefore when I went to the doctor for a checkup I wasn't expected to be told I was pregnant. On friday August 24, 2007 I found out I was pregnant. Unfortunately,  that same weekend I started cramping and bleeding on Sunday 26, 2007. I feared the worst and panicked so I called my doctor. I was put on bedrest and told to see him the next day. When I went in on Monday he did a HCG blood test which showed I was at 19, but he couldn't determine if I was miscarrying until he did another HCG test which would be done on Wednesday. On Wednesday my HCG levels dropped to 5 and therefore my doctor told me I was miscarrying. I was so angry at everyone and didn't want to speak to anyone, but my husband. My husband was such a great support and he truly is a wonderful person. It is hard to start trying again because I am scared that it will happen again and I don't want to go through something similiar.  Though when I went to the doctor he told me to start trying as soon as possible, but we have decided to just take our time and if it happens it will happen. We are now trying, but at the moment I am not in any rush we are just seeing what will come of this. Believe me I didn't want to let go of my unborn baby, but I had to so that I can move on. I truly believe that God will never give you more than you can handle. Sometimes we need to be stronger for the things that are to come. Sometimes he blesses us with much more than we expected. Don't worry you will get pregnant and you will have a healthy baby. I truly wish you the best of luck. You never know you may end up having twins or triplets.

[MOMTOHUNTERG]

HI MY NAME IS CRYSTAL
   I MISCARRIED ON AUG 18,2007 I WAS 3 WEEKS PREGNANT AT THE TIME..  I WENT TO GET MY HCG TESTES AND IT WAS 48 WENT BACK IN 2 DAYS AND IT WAS 21 SO DOC SAID I WAS MISCARRING.  I TO WAS DEVESTATED.  IT HAS BEEN NEARLY A MONTH AND I STILL FEEL LIKE I SHOULD BE PREGNANT I WOULD BE ABOUT 7 WEEKS NOW.  BUT I NOW KNOW THAT IS WAS MEANT TO BE   MY SWEET BABY COULD HAVE HAD SOMETHING TERRIBLE WRONG WITH IT,  AND I BELIEVE THAT WAS GOD'S WAY OF HELPING ME DEAL.  WE ARE TRYING NOW.  GOOD LUCK TO YOU

[WANT2BAMOM07]

i 2 know the pain you all are feeling. i jus had a m/c last tuesday sept 4, the day b-4 my 20th birthday, i was about 5 and 1/2 weeks prenant and both me and my fiance were so excited about the baby. it was devastating to both of us when we found out i lost it, we are both anxious to try again and we were told that it was ok to do so after i have 1 normal cycle. it is especially hard for me b/c my sister is about 5 months pregenant and is having a little girl in january, and i,m the one stuck throwing the baby shower for her. it is really tough to be around her getting ready for her daughter but at the same time i'm happy for her. it kinda makes me jealous to be around her, b/c i believe that i should still be pregent. well GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!! an wish us luck 2 we're gonna start trying again next month

[pinkslyk]

Hi there. I totally relate to your situation. I have two beautiful children and we told them and everyone else, that we were pregnant, right when we found out!! I am about to miscarry I think because my hcg levels are not rising and we have been monitoring them for the last 2 weeks. I am 6 weeks today and finally have something that is the start of some light spotting. I am anticipating a miscarriage and hoping that it will happen naturally and that we can try again after one cycle. I am christian too and have a peace about all of this and a thankful heart that this is happening early on.
God Bless...

[blbaker74]

Just wanted to let u all know that I support everyone of u...  I have three beautiful children, and had 3 miscarraiges.  I found out I was pregnant in April.  My husband and I were so thrilled.  He is 35 and I am 32.  He has not had any biological children of his own, and I had wanted one since my youngest was 2 (he is now 7).  when I went in for my five month appointment two and a half weeks ago we learned that the babies heart was not beating.  I was induced and our son Jay was stillborn.  Even before I was induced we both knew we wanted to try again.  Although everyone around us keeps telling us to wait 6-12 months before trying again, we are eager and hoping to have another pregnancy soon.  Emotionally we are both in a lot of pain over the loss of our son, but we also know that he is in God's hands, and as the doctor had told us, something just wasn't right.  We did get to hold our son, tiny as he was at 5.5 ounces and only 9 inches, and although the tears we cried lasted for days, we know that we will conceive again, no matter what it takes, and we will have another child.  My preist and my research have showed me the side of the story that I needed to know and that is that the chances of a miscarraige taking place in our next pregnancy are the same as if not less than that of a normal pregnancy without the prior loss.  My other misscarraiges were all before and after my first child, and an accident resulted in my 7 year old's twin brother being lost.  I agree with the last post that it is best that they happen early on.  I had the movement and the big belly, and the nursery ready for our son only to come home empty handed.  Although I know the loss is devastating, know that God has a plan for us all, and what happens to us always has a reason.  Grow from the pain and face the coming day, because in it u will find ur dreams.  I heard a message that was the theme of a sermon at the local church that has stuck with me...  "If you find the strength to face the sun of a new day, the darkest shadows will always be behind you."  Have faith, we do.  Know your not alone.

[Kaylii]

Hello, I have had two miscarriages this year I ended up bleeding so long they gave me chemo medicine instead of having a d&c has anyone else heard of this?

I also did not wait for one regular cycle to get pregnant again (I did wait the recommended two months for the chemo to leave my system) and had a second miscarriage the bleeding was out of control and I felt guilty for not waiting! You have to do what is right for you but, I would wait the recommended two cycles.

[901redbone]

as far as the chemo medicine goes, if you're talkin about methotrexate, i've taken it too. one of my doctors told me i had miscarried. then when i saw another doctor later that week she said i was bleeding, not because of my miscarriage, but yet because the embryo was growing in my left tube. the chemo shot is a low dosage med that serves to stop the growing of rapidly developing cells (ie a tumor or in this case an embryo) you could have possibly had an ectopic pregnancy that they gave you the shot for. and the reason for the wait after takin the chemo medicine is not necessarily to get the chemo out of your system, but to make sure that your hcg levels are back at 0 before you start trying again. otherwise, you could end up pregnant and with a test they won't know if it's the same one as before or a new one.

[Pippa J]

I have just had a miscarriage last week at 6 weeks and have just stopped bleeding.  I didn't need a D&C as my HCG levels were so low and nothing could be seen on ultrasound.  My doctor has told me we can try straight away and there is no need to wait, he even checked this with 2 other gynocologists - (as I was hospital refered).  He said they only tell people to wait at least one cycle as it's a pain to have people in for a dating scan and then the usual 12 week scan - its cheaper for them just to do one!!!!

[christa1729]

I went for a ultra sound just because I wanted to at 6 weeks but to my surprise their was only a sac and no baby.We kept having my HCg levels done and they kept doubleing and the Doctor seemed to think everything was ok because of the levels ut wanted me to go back in week for another ultra sound and was sure he would see a baby them.BUt like week before was no baby ans they said I had what was called Blighted Ovum.I was told I had to come in then 2 dayes later for a DNC this was very hard but were not going ot give up we will try and try again..

[kviolet]

Hi..i just had a miscarriage in Aug.  and i thought i started my period the first of october but it only lasted for three days on and off and it was more brown spotting than anything.  Could this be implantation bleeding??  I have been nauseous, have had sore breast, and been fatigue, but all the hpt say negative.  Could it be too soon to test??

[sleehull]

Hi. I just had my first miscarriage on Nov 12, 2007. The doctors said I was only 2 weeks pregnant. This pregnancy was a complete surprise to me and my bf. But the more we talked about it the more we decided we wanted this baby. And after only knowing I was pregnant for 5 days, I miscarried. My question to anyone is how soon can we start ttc? I haven't had to have a DnC, and the bleeding has almost stopped. We would really love to have a baby of our own. We both have one from previous marriages. If anyone could let me know, I would really appreciate it!

[ashley127]

Sorry for every ones lost I just had a misscarige oct,18 and its now nov 17 and no period could I be pregant again so soon? I was only 2 weeks the misscarige was like my period some one pleas help

[ashley127]

Sorry for every ones lost I just had a misscarige oct,18 and its now nov 17 and no period could I be pregant again so soon? I was only 2 weeks the misscarige was like my period some one pleas help

[BranKauf]

I am 29 years old and my first child was my daughter, she was stillborn 11/14/06 at 38 1/2 wks preg from unknown causes. I waited until Jaunary 07 to try again. I found out in July I was pregnant and in August I had a miscarriage at 6wks preg. I bled for 9 days and it took me 27 days till my next period in September to come. That cycle length lasted 36 days. Septembers period was the normal 7 days but the cycle lasted 43days till my period in October. I tracked my ovulation and saw that I ovulated very late. I ovulated the weekend I was due for my period. my period came exactly 15 days after I ovulated. October's period was normal 7 days and I ovulated normal. This was the first time since I miscarried my husband and I tried to get pregnant again. I am now over a week late on my period and I am afraid to test. I do not want to be let down again and being as my dr will not see me till I miss 2 periods I figured I should wait. Does anyone have any advice for me?

[TRUELOVE07]

if i was you i wuld go agead and test....  I too was pregnant in july and i missacrried at 7 wks in august. My pregnancy was a shock to me. But now i wanna get pregnant and its been 4mts since i had the miscarriage. My doctor told me to wait at least 3 mts.  What i dont understand is how to know when im ovulating or not. If anyone have any ideas or tricks to try please respond asap.

[arlene1021]

hello im 35yrs old and i was pregnant, i was 8 weeks and i had a miscarriage..and my doctor told me that i have to wait at least 3 month,before trying to get pregnant again....but i was protecting myself  everytime i had sex with my husband....but we had stopped using protection...i still haven't had a regular period yet ...is been 4 weeks since i had my miscarriage...but i be feeling so nasty lately ....and tired like when i was pregnant...do you think is possible that i can be pregnant again?

[JetsGrrl29]

Here is what they are saying:

Recovering After a Miscarriage


Normal periods should resume in 3-6 weeks
Use sanitary pads rather than tampons for the vaginal bleeding. You may use tampons during your next period
Do not ******
Do not go into swimming pools or hot tubs
Shower rather than tub bathe
Do not have sexual intercourse
You may experience some lower abdominal pain similar to menstrual cramps. This pain may last for up to 2 days after the miscarriage. Talk to your doctor if the pain persists or if you cannot control the pain
Breast discomfort
Dilatation and Curettage. This is done if the fetus and/or some of the tissues from the pregnancy (placenta, fluid sac) remain inside the uterus. If the fetus or other tissues remain in the uterus, they can cause heavy bleeding or infection
Normal activities can be resumed after a miscarriage as soon as you feel able. Ask your doctor for more specific instructions regarding any vigorous or strenuous exercise
Conception After Miscaraige
It is recommended that you wait until after you have had at least 1 normal menstrual period after miscarriage before you try to get pregnant again. This will give your uterus and body time to heal.


  I had a miscarriage on Oct. 6th and I found out a week ago I am pregnant. My doctor immediately did blood work to confirm the pregnancy and the results came back that my pregesterone levels were a little low. They put me on progesterone to help strenghten the uterus. Take a test and contact your doctor...see if they can do some blood work to check the levels and progesterone.

  This is my sixth time being pregnant, but I only have two children...I am also twenty-nine...I have my heart set on three kids, so I can't give up now. Keep your head up and don't give up hope :)

P.S. Find a new doctor that is willing to understand that sometimes it doesn't take two periods to know that you are pregnant. You need one that is listening to your concerns and working with you to have a healthy pregnancy....no woman should have to miss two periods before seeing a doctor. Especially after the loss that you had to go through.

[JetsGrrl29]

Here is a little interesting piece I have found that may help:

The progesterone levels during pregnancy is also crucial for the survival of the fetus, it keeps the uterus from contracting and promotes the growth of blood vessels that give nourishment to your baby during pregnancy. Natural progesterone aids in conception (fertility clinics use sometimes natural progesterone for treating infertility), and the progesterone levels during pregnancy help maintain a healthy pregnancy.

Frequently, doctors will treat infertility problems with strong drugs or surgery... and they will not check progesterone levels in the body first.



The progesterone levels in early pregnancy ordinarily DOUBLES or TRIPLES during the first several weeks of pregnancy. And, of course, progesterone should be produced EVERY DAY during pregnancy (in the regular menstrual period, progesterone is produced at ovulation and for about 14 more days).


To protect the fetus, the progesterone levels during pregnancy then rise to as much as 10 to 15 TIMES normal amounts by the THIRD TRIMESTER. In other words, the progesterone levels during pregnancy can be as much as 300mg to 400mg per day.

For women trying to become pregnant, an adequate amount of natural progesterone is crucial, because this hormone prepares the uterine wall for the implantation of the fertilized egg.

Without the correct levels of progesterone, low levels of progesterone and early pregnancy can result in the loss of the embryo. The progesterone levels in early pregnancy have a major role in maintaining a pregnancy during the early months. Discuss your progesterone levels during pregnancy with your doctor and if low, how to raise progesterone levels naturally.

[Nikkita19]

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks on October 16th '07. I began bleeding and having abdominal pain about a week before my scheduled dr. appt. So I went in early just to be safe. Dr. told me there was no heartbeat (as one can normally hear a fetal heartbeat at 7 weeks). I was devistated. Tried to pass it on my own. But two days later, pain and bleeding worsened and contractions were unbearable. Went and had an emergency DnC. Went back for a check up a few weeks later and Dr. told me I was back to normal and healthy again. He told me that when I was ready he was ok with it. I had a regular period in November. This month (Dec.) I began to feel pregnancy symptoms. Took a test and it was positive! I'm about 5 weeks now. I go to the Dr. on Jan. 16th. I'm very excited but also very nervous because of what happened last time. I should be about 9 weeks and able to hear the heart. Please pray for us. We could really use it. You all have my prayers.

[PiXMA]

I have been through 2 miscarriages back 2 back and have been referred for professional help, i wish you all the very best in your lives and hope your baby making dreams come true "GOD BLESS YOU ALL, NEVER EVER GIVE UP".

[cricket1129]

You need to wait 2-3 months to allow your hormones to regulate themselves.  The risk of having another miscarriage is not high after a first one due to not knowing what the exact cause was.  It could just be mother nature's way of taking care of a faulty pregnancy.  After a second or third it raises a red flag that there may be a problem somewhere.

[WAITING_MAMMA]

I HAD A MISCARRIAGE LAST WEEK. ME AND MY HUSBAND WHERE REALLY SAD. I WAS SPOTTING LIGHT BROWN BLOOD EVERYONE TOLD ME THAT WAS NORMAL. IF IT GETS RED LIKE A PERIOD THEN GO TO THE ER. IT GOT RED 3 DAYS LATER. I WENT TO THE ER AND MY LEVELS WHERE AT 2800. THE DR. SAID THAT I HAD A 50/50 THAT I WOULD HAVE A MISCARRIAGE. I WENT BACK 2 DAYS LATER BECAUSE I WAS HAVING CRAMPING. THEY CHECKED MY LEVELS AND THE WHERE AT 628. I AM SOO SAD BECAUSE WE WANTED THIS BABY. I HAVE TO GO GET AN U/S NEXT WEEK TO MAKE SURE I DONT HAVE ANYTHING LEFT IN ME. THE DR. TOLD ME TO WAIT 1 PERIOD BEFORE I START TRYING AGAIN. HE GAVE ME PRENATAIL VIT. AND TOLD ME TO TAKE THEM EVERY DAY AND TO BUY A BOOK THAT TELLS ME HOW TO GET MY BODY READY FOR PREGNANCY. WE ARE GOING TO TRY AGAIN IM TAKING THE PILLS EVERYDAY AND EATING HEALTHY. BUT EVERYONE REMEMBER THIS IS WHATS GETTING ME THROUGH!!!...... YOUR BODY SENCES IF SOMTHING IS WRONG WITH THE BABY AND THAT IS WHY YOUR BODY WILL NOT HOLD THE BABY. MAYBE ITS YOUR BODY OR MAYBE ITS THE MAN UPSTAIRS THAT DOESNT WANT TO PUT YOU THROUGH PAIN  OR THE BABY IF ITS NOT HEALTHY. GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU!!!!

[mward0710]

I am 29 years old and found out I was pregnant with my first pregnancy on Setp 11th.  Me and my fiance wasn't trying but we were so excited about the news.  I told my family and they were so happy.  I had my first doctor's appointment 9/25/07 when I was 7 weeks pregnant.  The doctor did a u/s and found an empty sac.  He said I was either earlier or in the process of miscarrying.  He took blood tests and I started to spot lightly right after getting my u/s.  The blood test showed that my HCG was 25000 but my progesterone was around 7.  He ordered more blood work.  When my blood work came back on 9/28 my progesterone was 4.7 and my HCG was 33000.  He said I am in the process of miscarrying.  The doctor told me I would miscarry over the weekend and not to worry about going to the hospital unless I have severe pain.  

The next day around 4:00 PM I started to miscarry.  I felt pain and cramping for a few hours.  I went to the bathroom and found that I was bleeding more and there was something there when I wiped.  It looked like a bean and it was spongy looking (I think it was the sac).  Also passing blood clots.  

I went to the doctor on Monday and found that there was no longer a sac showing.  The doctor had me give blood at least 3 more times just to make sure that my levels reach back to 0 and told me to wait a few months.  

My blood type is O- so the doctor had to have me go get a rhogam shot.  I went to the hospital and had to get blood drawn, and the nurse in the lab had issues finding my vein, first one ever to tell me that, and actually used the wrong needle so it took forever to fill the vial.  You definately don't want to hear the nurse say oops when drawing your blood.  Anyway after that I had to wait 1 hour for them to screen my blood and order the shot.  My hospital paperwork explained that I had a miscarriage and needed to get the shot to protect future pregnancies.  After waiting about 2 hours they handed me the shot and told me I had to go get the shot administered.  

The nurse that took my blood walked me upstairs and told me to enter the room at the end of the hall and give them my paperwork and they will give me the shot.  I walked down the hall and realized they were sending me to the maternity section.  I went in and gave them my paperwork and they told me to wait in a room, it was one of those rooms that the patient can stay and deliver it the room.  They left me there for about 30 mins, this is not some place you want to be 3 days after miscarrying.  When the nurse came in to give me my shot she noticed I was never given a hospital bracelet so she couldn't give me the shot.  It was at this point that I broke down crying.  I felt like I wanted to just run out of there and say forget it.  The nurse told me she would be right back.  She came back after 30 mins with the bracelet for me.  She told me that they didn't know I miscarried.  She told me that the normally don't sent patients that require the shot to maturity if it was due to a miscarriage.  She apologized for having me there for so long and for being sent to maturity.  When I left she had the nurses close the curtain to the area where the babies are and walked me out the back.

I think that I have gone through so much and it hurt so bad.  Now it has been almost 4 months and I am in the process of trying to conceive.  I knew I always wanted children but the need and strong urge was not there until I lost my pregnancy.  Now I can't wait to get pregnant and I get so upset because it seems like everyone around me is pregnant or just had a baby in the last 3 months.  My due date would have been 5/14/08 and I have one of my best friends at work who is pregnant and her due date is 5/31/08.  It is so hard not to remember what I lost being I would have been experiencing the same thing as she would have been right now.  Everytime I look at her it is a reminder of what I lost and what I was not able to have.  I just found out that my brother in law is having twins.  So really it does feel like everywhere I turn someone is pregnant.  

It hurts to know I want this so bad and just wasn't able to keep it.  I made it through everything no matter how much you feel you can't move on you will.  My mother lost one baby early in pregnancy before 20 weeks, then one around 5 1/2 months and then lost a baby 10 days after he was born.  Then she went and had my brother then me.  So I feel that my poor mom can go through this and move on and still come up with 2 healthy kids then I can too.  I will keep trying and tell anyone else in situation to keep your chin up and do what you feel in your heart.   I wanted to not even wait this long to get pregnant but I don't want to ever go through a miscarriage again.

Good luck to everyone, it will happen just don't give up.

[mward0710]

I am 29 years old and found out I was pregnant with my first pregnancy on Setp 11th.  Me and my fiance wasn't trying but we were so excited about the news.  I told my family and they were so happy.  I had my first doctor's appointment 9/25/07 when I was 7 weeks pregnant.  The doctor did a u/s and found an empty sac.  He said I was either earlier or in the process of miscarrying.  He took blood tests and I started to spot lightly right after getting my u/s.  The blood test showed that my HCG was 25000 but my progesterone was around 7.  He ordered more blood work.  When my blood work came back on 9/28 my progesterone was 4.7 and my HCG was 33000.  He said I am in the process of miscarrying.  The doctor told me I would miscarry over the weekend and not to worry about going to the hospital unless I have severe pain.  

The next day around 4:00 PM I started to miscarry.  I felt pain and cramping for a few hours.  I went to the bathroom and found that I was bleeding more and there was something there when I wiped.  It looked like a bean and it was spongy looking (I think it was the sac).  Also passing blood clots.  

I went to the doctor on Monday and found that there was no longer a sac showing.  The doctor had me give blood at least 3 more times just to make sure that my levels reach back to 0 and told me to wait a few months.  

My blood type is O- so the doctor had to have me go get a rhogam shot.  I went to the hospital and had to get blood drawn, and the nurse in the lab had issues finding my vein, first one ever to tell me that, and actually used the wrong needle so it took forever to fill the vial.  You definately don't want to hear the nurse say oops when drawing your blood.  Anyway after that I had to wait 1 hour for them to screen my blood and order the shot.  My hospital paperwork explained that I had a miscarriage and needed to get the shot to protect future pregnancies.  After waiting about 2 hours they handed me the shot and told me I had to go get the shot administered.  

The nurse that took my blood walked me upstairs and told me to enter the room at the end of the hall and give them my paperwork and they will give me the shot.  I walked down the hall and realized they were sending me to the maternity section.  I went in and gave them my paperwork and they told me to wait in a room, it was one of those rooms that the patient can stay and deliver it the room.  They left me there for about 30 mins, this is not some place you want to be 3 days after miscarrying.  When the nurse came in to give me my shot she noticed I was never given a hospital bracelet so she couldn't give me the shot.  It was at this point that I broke down crying.  I felt like I wanted to just run out of there and say forget it.  The nurse told me she would be right back.  She came back after 30 mins with the bracelet for me.  She told me that they didn't know I miscarried.  She told me that the normally don't sent patients that require the shot to maturity if it was due to a miscarriage.  She apologized for having me there for so long and for being sent to maturity.  When I left she had the nurses close the curtain to the area where the babies are and walked me out the back.

I think that I have gone through so much and it hurt so bad.  Now it has been almost 4 months and I am in the process of trying to conceive.  I knew I always wanted children but the need and strong urge was not there until I lost my pregnancy.  Now I can't wait to get pregnant and I get so upset because it seems like everyone around me is pregnant or just had a baby in the last 3 months.  My due date would have been 5/14/08 and I have one of my best friends at work who is pregnant and her due date is 5/31/08.  It is so hard not to remember what I lost being I would have been experiencing the same thing as she would have been right now.  Everytime I look at her it is a reminder of what I lost and what I was not able to have.  I just found out that my brother in law is having twins.  So really it does feel like everywhere I turn someone is pregnant.  

It hurts to know I want this so bad and just wasn't able to keep it.  I made it through everything no matter how much you feel you can't move on you will.  My mother lost one baby early in pregnancy before 20 weeks, then one around 5 1/2 months and then lost a baby 10 days after he was born.  Then she went and had my brother then me.  So I feel that my poor mom can go through this and move on and still come up with 2 healthy kids then I can too.  I will keep trying and tell anyone else in situation to keep your chin up and do what you feel in your heart.   I wanted to not even wait this long to get pregnant but I don't want to ever go through a miscarriage again.

Good luck to everyone, it will happen just don't give up.

[nat911]

hi i was 5 months pregnant and lost my baby last week im heart broken it just didnt feel real it all just happened out of the blue everything was fine with my baby then i just got bad pains and couple hours later my water broke and had 2 give birth... but im eager 2 have another baby when can i start trying agen i jus finished my first period?

[chuubaka]

Its been 11 days since my miscarriage. Is it possible to get pregnant again this early? I really wanna start to try again to have a baby. Eariest I've read is two weeks after the miscarriage. Any advice?

[dove1981]

I am sorry to hear about all the experiences and I wish all the best on concieving...have faith.

I had a m/c about 26 days ago...I was 5 wks along.  When my husband and I found we were excited!!. We told all of our family as this was a great xmas gift (I found out 3 days b/f xmas-positive blood test). I was doing fine, taking care of myself...my whole family was taking care as well...helping with food planning...eating healthy..making sure not to carry anything to heavy as they believe this is dangerous the first trimeter.  I started feeling sick at work and then it happened...I had some bleeding...I told my boss and she let me go.  At the hospital they told me my cervix was closed....then on thursday I had major bleeding.  I lost my baby.  I was advised to go back to the doctor on sunday and it was confirmed...I had lost the baby...my HCG levels went from 222 to 22.  I went to my doctor and they did another test on the following friday.  i got the call monday stating that I was back to normal and I did not have to wait to try again.  I'm due for me mentral tomorrow but I guess we'll just have to wait and see...I think this time I will wait a few weeks before doing a test...I have been feeling sick every night and very tired....my breats are starting to get sore again....Could I be pregnant or is this just wishfull thinking?

[sdevine87]

I just found out today at 11wks 3days of being pregnant that my childs heart is no longer beatng inside of me. I started off about a wk ago with brown spotting and cramps immediatly called my doc went in and they "said" the baby was fine the heartbeat was OK, I was put on bedrest, but I noticed after a few days the spotting did not stop I wasnt having any pains so the doctor told me not to come in back in but to wait for my scheduled appt. so I waited anther wk the spotting decreases I felt fine....thoght I would just be getting a sonogram today and found out the most horrible news of my life....my baby  is gone but still in me I will have the D&C done tomorrow and my BF anfd I plan to try again ASAP....I can only pray it doesnt happen again and we can all become mommies

~Sdevine87~

[been_there_done_that]

I could not keep reading all of the sad, and some hopeful stories you have all shared.  I want to give some hope.  My son, who is almost 5, was conceived through IUI (you know the turkey baster method for infertility).  The first IUI didn't take.  He was the second.  Almost 1 year after his birth, we found out I was pregnant.  Very shocked when told we wouldn't be able to conceive on our own.  Unfortunately, I m/c at 6 weeks and 4 days.  We waited a month (even though I wanted to try right away).  5 months later I found out I was pregnant with my daughter.  I had a healthy, uneventful pregnancy and gave birth to a beautiful little girl whom we got pregnant on our own with.  There is hope out there.  It is so easy for everyone around you to say, "Don't worry about it.  It will happen."  However, to us who have struggled, we cannot help but be consumed by the thought of the "lost chance".  Look at it as, the child you will have, look at his/her face the day you meet, and your heart will say, "I couldn't imagine not having you in my life"  and it is true.  If we didn't go through the heartbreaks, the beautiful angels we end up parenting would not have been in our lives.  Just keep hope.  When all feels lost, know in your heart it is not.

[KeelanAsia]

well i had a miscarriage 4 wks ago. this past wk i started my cycle again. i have a 4yr old and a 1 yr old now. losing my third was devastating. i was spotting brn stuff and a wk later it turned to blood. immediately i called the dr and they did a sonogram. i learned the baby died 3wks ago and i just cried forever. i was in so much shock because i'd never had any problems with my first 2. i just couldn't understand how this could of happened. next wk we can try again and i had another sonogram after my miscarriage. the dr said it was fine to try again when i was emotionally ready. i'm scared and don't know if i should. i was reading all of your stories to see what you all had to say. i'm still not sure. i'm so sorry for everyone's loss no one knows until they have been there themselves. prayers are with you all.

[mom2199]

I had to have my baby terminated at 22 weeks, because she had polysitic kidneys there was no fluid round her, she would not of grown her lungs properly as well as her bladder. It was the hardest decision to make for my partner and i.This was a month a 3 days ago, i still havent a period yet, wasnt sure if its to early to test. My heart goes out to everyone for there losses.Good luck to you all for the future. x

[Mandiii]

I'm 21 i miscarried a week ago today. wheni found out i was pregant i had taken 2 EPT home pregnancy tests, first one was neg. and the second one was a faint postive. so i figured id wait a week and take another one. then i started having abdomnial pain on my lower right side, after 3 days of pain i went to the ER. where they did a urine test came back and said i was pregant but i wasnt out of the clear til they knew why i was having pain, they took blood came back an hr later and told me i was DEF pregant but my HCG level was at 13 my doc said iwas like a day pregnant ,so he said it was to early to do an ultrasound (i think he was to lazy to call the tech in from home) and to see my doctor in about 5 days. my best friend is an LPN at an OBGYN so i called her and she thought the whole thing was odd. but my pain had gone away, i was having slight cramping when i went to my OB appt. talked to my doc and he thought it was odd the ER didnt do and Ultraound but guess what my OB didnt do one either, he said my cramping was common in early pregnancies.he took blood and said he would tell me the results the following day.  the next morning i had severe cramping and started to bleed, i called my friend and she found my test results and my HCG levels had dropped so i was miscarrying, i just got off the phone today with her and they had done more blood work yesterday and my HCG level is back to normal so im just waiting for my cycle then i plan to try again. i think i was further along than "1 day" i think i had been miscarrying for a few weeks and because they didnt do and ultrasound it just made the disappointment and waiting  for answers that much harder. i hope i dont have to go thru this again it was very heartbreaking. Good luck to all of you trying to get pregnant.

[kimmi2774]

i miscarried yesterday.  The Dr. said it should pass on it's own. However, I just don't know if i passed it yet?  When should this happen?    What should I be looking for to make sure it passed?

[KM604]

Im not sure how far along you are, but I was about a month and 2 days after the bad cramping and bleeding started I went to the bathroom and just felt a sack like thing come out when I peed.  I immediatly looked in the toilet because I had no idea what it was and it was basically red/gray tissue.  It measured about 4 inches long and held together when I took it out of the toilet.  I was already passing clots, but they were small and nothing compared to the tissue I passed (or the feeling when it comes out).  Also, you may want to follow up with your doctor if you don't pass anything b/c it may considered an incomplete miscarriage (mine was complete since I passed on my own).  Also, I started my period about 7 weeks after my miscarriage.  Hope this helps.

[KM604]

When I miscarried I didn't know that I was pregnant.  My husband and I were trying and I hadn't had a period for almost 2 months, but everytime I took a test it was negative.  When I went to the ER room (because cramping and bleeding was so bad), they did a u/s (pelvic and vaginal) first and didn't see anything.  Then they did a blood pregnancy test and it came back positive with a HcG of 364.  He said that it was either the beginning or the end of the pregnancy since they didn't see a sack in the u/s and because my numbers were so low.  They then tested me again 2 days later and my levels dropped to 150 (plus the day before I passed the fetal tissue) so we knew it was a miscarraige.  So I techincally don't know how far along I was, but based on my last period I would have been 4-5 weeks.  So even though they didn't do the u/s it may not have done any good anyways since your levels were so low.  It is hard and these forums really help.  There is a lot of good advice and you'll find that you aren't the only one going through this.  My doctor did say to me, that at least we know I can get pregnant.  Of course I always wonder why I had the miscarraige and hope I don't have another, but I realized that whatever happens is meant to be. Good luck with everything.

[mrtart]

I am 20 and the same thing happened to me last week. I was about 2 months along and it seems like the doctors and nurses just kind of ignored what i was telling them. They ended up doing an u/s and couldn't see anything so if your hcg was too low it wouldn't have shown anything. I understand what you are going through. It's just awful my husband and I are going to start trying again in a few months. Does anyone have an idea of what is too soon the doctor said 6 months.
Good luck to you all and god bless

[mrtart]

I am 20 and the same thing happened to me last week. I was about 2 months along and it seems like the doctors and nurses just kind of ignored what i was telling them. They ended up doing an u/s and couldn't see anything so if your hcg was too low it wouldn't have shown anything. I understand what you are going through. It's just awful my husband and I are going to start trying again in a few months. Does anyone have an idea of what is too soon the doctor said 6 months.
Good luck to you all and god bless

[Ljrucker1]

My story begins when my husband and I were trying to conceive our first child... it took 4 years. We had to stop trying for a while due to problems with my husbands health. Then when we decide to try agian we found out that his thyroid problem could be the cause of our problems... to make a long story short... he was put on injections to increase his sperm count and after another year we found out we were going to have our daughter. It was the best day of my life. This pregnancy was perfect and she was born in October of 2005.

We did not take any precausions to prevent another pregnancy and did not get pregnant. After her first b-day (2006) we decided to give my husband the injections again, after the results of his sperm count came back. Well it was August of 2007 and still not pregnant. My doc put me on clomid and he did so for 4 cycles. Still not pregnant come December so he wanted to schedule an exploratory laporoscopy to make sure there was no blockages in my tubes, adheasions, or problems with my ovaries. It was not scheduled until Febuary 11th 2008 because it has to be done right after you menstrate. Well I went in for all of my post op blood work on Febuary 4th 2008 (and of course they did a pregnancy test). I had a feeling for a few days that I was pregnant so I call the office on the 5th to get the results... it was positive. We were so excited our family was finally going to be complete. Also not to mentions the fact I did not have to administer any more shots to my husband made him very happy.

Of course they cancelled my laproscopy and instead he had me schedule an ultra sound. The lab tech had me (after 30 minutes of a normal US) undress from the waist down and wanted to do an internal US. I immedatialy asked her if there was a problem... she said she just was not get a good pic and that was probably because I was not very far along. She then had me wait in the waiting room so she could have the Doc go over the results with my Doc (I knew that there was something wrong). About 15 minutes of waiting the receptionist told me I had to go to see my doctor immedatialy! As you can imagine I cried the whole way home, picked up my husband and then went to his office at the hospital. When I got there he said that I was in fact pregnant but unfortunatly, just as he had expected (he did not tell me he thought this and that is why he had scheduled such an early US) it was a ectopic pregnancy (tubal). I about fell off the table where I was sitting my husband just grabbed me and started to hug me. I begged my doc to just fix it but there was nothing he could do. Then he told me that he would have to operate that night... I of course begged him not to take my baby!!! But he again said that I would bleed to death if he did not terminate the pregancy. He ended up having to take the tube and ovary on my left side, he had to go in using the same incision he made for my c-section. While in surgery he removed aheasions and made sure there were no other problems w/ my right side. He put (what he called a protective blanket) a mesh netting over my right side tube and ovary, and seems very positive about our chances for getting pregnant again. He did say he wanted me to wait a cycle before we start ttc again. I am not sure if that meant after my period this month (which I started today) or do I have to wait until April? I am going to call and find out but if you have any input please let me know.

It has been only a little over 4 weeks and I am still so devistated... I mean like it wasn't hard enough for us to conceive this has to happen! The only thing that kept me going the first week was my daughter she is the most presious gift I have ever received!

Well that is my story... it has helped me to know that other people know what you are going through! I will never give up hope of conceiving again and I hope none of you will either! I wish you all the best of luck and pray for all of you to conceive!

[jxxx]

hi this is my first time on this site commenting, i am very sorry to hear everyones losses, i have a 4year old daughter and found out at 11weeks and 3days that my baby didn't grow past 7weeks i had a d&c last thurs and me and my partner are eager to try again straight away.

i no that doctors and everyone says to wait at least 2 to 3 cycles before ttc  but i asked the doctor if i did get pregnant straight away would it mean an increase in risk of having another miscarriage and was told no as long as the baby was healthy. i want to start taking folic acid again and try its one of the only things getting me through this time, the hope of getting pregnant again.

has anyone else got pregnant after?  

jxxx

[mom2b_rip22208]

If anyone is m/c naturally watch yourself carefully.  I'm 20 and m/c at 12 wks Feb 22 (4days after my b-day).  My Ob said that the baby didn't make it past 8 wks and I opted to pass everything naturally.  

the first day I passed 4 Large clots about 4" long and 3" wide, and after my ER trip the Dr. said they thought I had passed it all and would still probably bleed for about 2 wks.

Well... 2wks later I had still been bleeding, but the blood had turned dark dark brown and stunk like a nasty fast food dumpster.  When i saw my Ob she pulled some clots from the opening of my cervix and I began to bleed through 2-3 pads in a hour... passed 2 more large clots the same size as before... then over the next couple of days just quit bleeding.  

I've now had a full normal cycle and I had been on antibiotics from my last appt. b/c the ob thought I was getting an infection.

I really want a baby... is it safe for my husband and I to try again?

[knap979]

Hi,  I  miscarried  in  August  07  I  had  an  empty  sac. The  doctor  decided  to  do  a  D&C. I  was  told  that  I  could  try  as  soon as  possible  after  that. I  missed  my  period  6  wks  after  and  had  a  positive  test.
I  started  bleeding  heavily with  no  pain  in  the  9th  week, it  subsided  after  3 wks..the  baby  was  fine. Everything  was  ok  up  until  19 wks  when  my cervix  opened  and  i  lost  the  baby..It  was  a  very  long  baby girl.
The  D&C  apparently  weakened  my  cervix  because  I  had  a  daughter  3  yrs  prior  with  no  complications.
The  doctor  tells  me  that  next  time  i  would  have  to  put  in  a  stitch.

[J625]

I am very sorry for everyone's losses.....it is truly sad.

We found out I was pregnant on the 17th of May. We were so excited as we only "tried" for about three weeks. We were totally freaked out, but ready to be parents. By the time we both adjusted to the idea, I came home from work on the 2nd of June and noticed some light pink spotting in the underware. I hadn't yet been seen at the doctors office as the 1st appointment was on the 4th of June so I called the dr.; go to the ER. 8 1/2hrs later,  I found out I am Rh - and that I had a threatened miscarriage. The ultrasound results were inconclusive but I was definitely prego. On the 6th of June, at the Drs appointment, she told me what I wish the ER would have....there was a mass near one of my ovaries. She scheduled more blood work to monitor HCG levels and scheduled me for another ultrasound at the end of the week. Thursday morning, the 6th I woke up and was bleeding a bit heavier, vivid red no more pink and was having pain on the right side; I still went to work. Within an hour of work the pain had become so intense that I could barely stand and my co-worker told me that I looked like a white sheet. I decided to go home for the day or so I thought. I came home and tried to lie down and relax to no avail. I had to call my mom (who didn't know I was prego) to take me to the hospital as my husband was out on a test drive (he's a mechanic). By the time I got to the hospital, all I wanted was drugs the pain was more intense than anything I could ever imagine. They took more blood and determined that my hormone levels were dropping significantly from 1250 on Monday to 500 by Thursday which finally determined that I had a Tubal Pregnancy ...DUH and that the tube had ruptured due to the dark red heavy bleeding as I laid there in the ER for 7 hours waiting in agony for surgery. The surgeon took my right tube, but was able to leave the ovary. The next day was worse than the day before. Not only did I loose my baby, after surgery they took me up to the maternity floor and then INSISTED I get up and walk around the hallways. It was horrible to listen to all those newborn babies and see those happy moms and dads when we had just lost what we really wanted. The surgeon hasn't stated anything specifically about when we can try again, has anybody had a similiar experience? I'd appreciate any advise.
Thanks to all for reading, it helped. Good luck!

[Amany]

Hello Ladies and so sorry for your losses...
I had a miscarriage on Feb 2008 at 6 weeks I was very sad and depressed. My Doctor told me I needed to wait at least 1 cycle to try again. I got Pregnant againg in April. I was very nervious at the beginning but i trusted my Doc advice. I pray everyday  ever since and I have to tell you all. God's been listening to my prayers!!!!!. I am now 14 weeks and my baby is healthy. I advice all you ladies to have faith in God and to pray. It worked for me and I'm still praying.
Hope my advice helps and God bless you all...

[bioqueen]

Hello All,

I am very sorry for your losses.  Very few can understand and empathize with the pain you are going through.  Many will try to diminish your loss: 'at least you weren't very far along', 'better now than later', etc.  First of all, I want you all to know that your feelings of grief, anger, envy, and all the other painful and awful feelings you are experiencing are okay.  However, don't expect others to understand them.  Only those of us who have shared your loss can truly understand.  Scientific studies using grief indices have determined that the grief experience by those who have lost a child through miscarriage is just as great as that experienced by anyone else who has lost a relative and this grief is just as great in early term miscarriages as it is in late term (i.e., it doesn't matter how far along you are, it still hurts just as much)  

I found out I was pregnant in July.  I had my first OB/GYN appointment in the middle of August.  The nurse practitioner, (which is who we ended up meeting with despite my very specific request to meet with the doctor) was performing the ultrasound and told us the baby was measuring a little small at about 6.5wks when we thought we would be about 8wks.  Right then and there she told us this could mean one of two things, either there was something wrong with the baby or we were off on our date of conception.  It seemed as if she was going to end the ultrasound so I asked I she could see a heartbeat.  She started looking again and we were able to see the heart beating.  She never bothered to measure the beats per minute.

Now, one thing these 'professionals' never bothered to realize despite being told several times is that I am in my last year of doctoral studies in biology.  I am planning on graduating in May.  Essentially, I am a biologist, I do research (it's my job), I can read scientific articles and understand them and evaluate their methods of experimentation and statistical analysis.  So, I knew that there is a 20% chance of losing the baby in the first trimester.  I also was able to find the statistics on the chances of losing a baby after a heartbeat has been detected: 5%.

So, I did not worry right away, but I was trying to separate myself a little just in case.  I was scheduled for hCG tests the following week.  When I went to the lab, they had no order for me (both times).  I had to tell them why I was there.  Luckily, I knew why I was there.  After the lab told me my results would be back to the doctor that afternoon, I waited for a call.  I waited until an hour before the office closed and called and left a message saying that I wanted my results.  No one called.  I waited most of the day the following day and still no phone call.  Finally, I called at around 2:30pm, only to get a receptionist telling me my nurse would have to call me back with my results and she wasn't there yet.  Almost 3 hours later, the nurse called with my results.   My first test levels were around 21,400 two days later it was around 20,000.  They had dropped.  I was devastated and immediately started crying.  The nurse said that the blood test alone wasn't enough to be conclusive of anything.  I would have to go in for another ultrasound the next week.  The whole week I was a wreck.  I was expecting the worse but hoping for a miracle.

The follow up appointment was strictly an ultrasound.  We went in and this time a tech was performing the ultrasound.  She looked for a lousy 2 minutes and said nothing.  As we left the room, we rounded the corner just in time to catch the tech telling the doctor that she could not detect a heartbeat.  I wanted to throw up.  The doctor had us follow him into his office where he proceeded to tell us about the odds of miscarriage.  Then he told us that given that the baby was only measuring 7.5 wks (i.e., 1 wk of growth in 2) and since there was no heartbeat detected this time or last time that he was able to conclude that the baby had died.  My husband and I looked at each other absolutely bewildered since we had seen the heartbeat with our own eyes just two weeks earlier.  He left the room, I am assuming he went to go check our recollection with the nurse who had performed our first ultrasound.   At first I wanted a second opinion, but then the thought of my dead child inside of me was extremely disturbing.  I had a D&C the following day.  Since then, I have had spotting for two weeks.  Then after two weeks, extreme cramping and bleeding and large blood clots.  I too want to conceive again immediately and plan to try.  

THERE IS NO SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE TO SUGGEST THAT CONCEIVING RIGHT AFTER A D&C and/or MISCARRIAGE IS ASSOCIATED WITH AN INCREASED RISK OF MISCARRIAGE.  Your risk is the same as it was with your first: 20%.  Something you might find interesting: a recent study showed that for women who were trying to get pregnant right away and succeeded showed a decrease in grief.  A previous study showed that those who got pregnant right away were more susceptible to depression during and after pregnancy, however, this study did not consider whether these couples were trying to conceive.  
Good luck to all of you!

[MissmumK]

Hi all, my first pregnancy was a M/C at 11 weeks then I was put on the pill to stop the bleeding, once I came off the pill and had a period I fell pregnant that month and had my daughter in 04, then I had my son in 06 and I just had another M/C at 5 weeks, we've been ttc since I stopped bleeding from the M/C as my ultrasound etc was all clear and my doc said that I was clear to try again if I was emotionally ready... so we are, and I'm glad that we decided to go ahead...  you don't forget about the ones you loose but it makes you excited about the one to come!!

Be brave girls, not all moments are sad, there are happy ones too!

[wantstobeamommy]

first off i want to thank everyone for their stories, for they were really helpful and taught me a couple of things, with that said,i would like to share what i am going through. i am 29, going to be 30 in a couple of days and had two previous partners who had children needless to say, i tried for 14 years and nothing happened, i did test and they found nothing wrong with me, well oct 10th 2008 i took a test, i was crabby my boobs hurt really bad i and i just had a feeling i was pregnant, mind you my period were all kinds of messed up, i would go 3 or 4 months without a period so when my cycle never came, i was not too alarmed.anyway, oct 10th i took a home test it was postive, i was so excited for i didn't think i could have children, well i waited till saturday morning ( oct 11th) it was positive, first thing monday morning i wet to the clinic to get a test it was also positive, by then i was cring i was so happy, we figured out i was about 51/2 weeks pregnant my due date was going to be june 15th 2009. everything was fine felt awesome, my partner and i played in the sheets on oct 21st in the morning, well afterward i did a light spot, i called the doc right away and he said this was normal not to worry but i told him i was and he said i could come in then and we would do my first appointment then. i got there he did a pap smear said everything looked good and that my cervixs were nice and closed. the light spotting had stopped so i was a little nervous but feeling better about the whole thing. the next morning i woke up and had some light blood cloths so i called the doc my doc wasn't in but another one was so i went in to see him. he did another pap smear and said that my cervixs were open a little and that it was a 50 percent chance that i was miscarring i was a wreak he set up an ultrasound that day at 4:30 well when i got home, i started passing huge blood cloths and i knew. i had alot of pressure on my stomache and went to the bathroom every five mins and lost huge blood clots, so much to where i was worried i was losing to much blood. i went to my ultrasound and they found no baby, i had already passed the baby earilier that day. well at three in the morning, i passed the sac i just started to cry even harder.( you will know as soon as you see it, what it is ) went to the doc this morning and he said that i didn't need a d&c and that i should bleed for about 2 weeks. my bleeding is really light, i am surprised i still have blood left after yesterday. i am going to try again as soon as possible, it crushes my heart but i just keep telling myself that this was better than having an unhealthy baby. my doctor told me that our bodies do 99% of cleaning out a miscarriage which is a better percent than a d&c if that is helpful to anyone. he also said if is recommended to wait 6 months afte but i think i am going to take my chances and try right away for i had a hard time getting pregnant before an hear it is easier to right after because your cervixs are open. my prayers are with all you mommies to soon be, just keep tring what don't break you, makes you stronger.

[Amany]

Hi i had posted my story on 7/14/08. Just wanted the let you know that it's possible to get pregnant successfully after a MC! I only waited 2 months to get pregnant after my MC i was 6weeks ..... I am now 33 weeks due in January 09, and my baby is healthy. Have faith in God and everything will be fine.
Wish you all luck.

[bioqueen]

CONGRATS!
My husband and I are still ttc.  I really never expected to hurt (emotionally) for so long.  I mean, I'm a biologist, I know the natural reasons for miscarrying and I know they are good reasons whether we like it or not.  However, I just got back from Thanksgiving dinner yesterday and cried for an hour, three months after our loss.  I think the main reason is the pregnancies that surround me.  My sister-in-law is pregnant and her due date is one month before mine should have been.  I see her and belly is like a big banner saying "Your baby died".  Don't get me wrong, I am very happy for her as she also suffered a devastating loss last fall and deserves a healthy pregnancy.  I came back home from Thanksgiving dinner with them and cried for an hour because everyone was thankful for the baby and the healthy pregnant woman.  To top it off, I have two cousins that are also pregnant, one due in a few weeks and the other due in Feb.  I have avoided two baby showers, soon a third, and am considering avoiding Christmas.  The really, really hard part-a number of my family members have experienced losses, yet they all want me to 'get past this' and join in the festivities and 'just be happy for them'.  I really just never thought that something could hurt so bad for so long.  If anyone can talk to me please do, I feel so alone.    

[quarriegurl]

i had been praying for so long to get pregnant and it finally happened i found out i was pregnant on November 12 i was 5 weeks and 2 days i was so happy and joyful. for awhile then the worst thing happened i started bleeding real bad on November 17 and i kept getting worse i was so afraid cuz i knew sumthing was wrong and on Novmeber 20 i went to the doctor and my baby was gone i was so hurt this was the worst day of my life i was even more hurt cuz i dnt kno wen i actually lost the baby. my heart was broken. I started blaming myself i thught i did something wrong and i ask God why Why would he bless me with a BABY then take it from me so soon i didnt know what to do i cried so hard for so many days and im still hurtin but im tryin again cuz this is my one wish to have a chance to be the mother of a baby so im praying that it happens soon. i hope im not trying to soon but i want this baby more thank life itself .

[tknibye]

This is my first time on the board. My name is Tamar. I just want to say that I have read a lot of the stories and see that no one in here is alone. On December 1st I found out that my baby had died in me. I was 17 weeks. I did not bleed at all and no cramping. I went to the doctor because I had a bad muscle spasm in my shoulder. So as a precaution they tried to check the baby's heartbeat. Two doctors could not find it so they sent me to have an ultrasound. The lady did not say one thing to me as she looked and took pictures on the computer. She said my doctor would share with me the results. Well they roll me back upstairs to wait for my results. Me and my husband waited as the doctor emotionlessly told us that my other tests were find but and I quote "unfortunately the baby has died". He said the baby was only about 14 wks and 2 days and probably died a week before. So we opted to have a d & e (the next step up from a d & c) because the baby was still in me.
I still never had any bleeding throughout this process. This was a Monday and I had to wait until that Friday to get the baby removed. It was hard enough knowing that the baby had died but to also have to walk around with a non-living baby for days was just terrible. After the surgery I felt like a burden was lifted. Yes I was still heartbroken but the support of family members and prayer gave me peace and strength. But you do have to grieve. The cried I cried for days was a deep cry that I cannot explain. Even my husband said it was different from my regular cry. I wanted to heal. I would say you have to make yourself want to heal. The next Monday (exactly a week after my terrible news) my friend gave birth to her son Dec. 8th) I made myself go and see her and celebrate with her. Yes I had a loss but life is still going on. I can't be selfish like I am the only one this has happened to. I went and I got emotional at first but I even went to see the baby. I can't tell you how much that helped. You might think it would make things worse but just the opposite. Then the next day my other friend who is nine months had a baby shower. I went to that too. I am celebrating with them because I am happy for them and I refuse to resent them for carrying full term and having healthy babies. My turn will come. God is good and I trust Him with all my heart. I will have my chance and so will you. I hope you are encouraged. We are going to try again when the doctor says its time. Don't lose faith  but please please rejoice with those who rejoice and you are not alone. Keep in touch.

[Hopenichole]

I was reading over this forum, at everyone's losses and I noticed I wasn't alone. I am 24 years old and I have a healthy beautiful little2 year old boy. On Sept 10 of this year I was in a horrible car wreck with my child's father on the interstate and I was thrown out of the car and then my car rolled over me. I suffered from a lacerated liver, splenectomy, stint put in my stomach, traumatic brain injury, but the worst part of all of this was I lost my 12 week old child that I longed and prayed so hard for. They told me that I would know if I had lost the baby within 10 days and I think that was the hardest part because I wouldn't even after they said that my levels were decreasing I still didn't believe that my baby had died. It was at least a monsth that I was in ICU and I left the hospital knowing that I had a miscarriage but not believing or accepting it. I am just know learning how to let myself talk about it actually other than my son's father this is the first time I have ever talked about it. It is just so painful and other people say they understand but how can they? It has been about three months since I lost the baby and me and my child's father are trying to concieve again, and I actually think Imight be pregnant again, but I am too scared to say I am because I don't think I could ever handle this experience again.

[ziki]

It feels Good to know that i'm not crazy for crying my angel....not that i'm saying it's good to loose your children...but i want u to know That your grief is shared...nothing can describe the pain...i can see his sleeping little face.
I lost my baby on 11/26/08 i was 19wks...wnt to work that morning felt a little cramping on my lower left abdomen...went home early and around 5pm my water broke...i knwe something was wrong...went to the ER, bled really bad...to find at the U/S that there was no hrtbeat...around 10pm i pushed the bb out...my little boy-sleeping angel...i cried so hard...
i had done everything right...took care of my studies...got the degrees..got married now that i was ready for my baby and he dies...the drs  don't know what happened at..17wks i was at my dr appt...everything looked Good...
i did bleed around 8wks and 11wks...i was told by the dr to rest and to drink plenty of water everytime i was going to the dr...they telling everything looked Good...
i do want to try ASAP but i'm worried...i trust in God and i know everything happens for a reason....but can't help crying...
8 days after the m/c well i went to my sis' bbshower (i'm happy for her 'coz we prayed for her pregnancy) she's been trying with her husband for 10yrs) but for once i had to leave early when it came to the opening of the gifts...'coz it was to real that my bb was gone...

[fnghall]

I am 35 years old, I have a 13 year old daughter and a nine year old daughter. I have been remarried for one and a half years and I have been trying to conceive for one and a half years. I used Clomid for one cylce in november and found out I was pregnant in early December. I just miscarried at 6 wks and had a D and C on Christrmas Eve. My doctor told me I can try clomid again with my very next cycle, but I am terrified. I want a baby so bad, but I am worried about having another miscarriage. On the other hand I am afraid to wait because of my age.

[acsil33]

I found out I was pregnant on October 31st we had been trying for 15 month, we were really excited, at 5 weeks i started spotting some dark, brown blood.  I went to the doctors right away and everything seemed fine, they checked at 6 weeks and there was a heartbeat but it was really low 94, so at 7 weeks and 4 days i went again and the heartbeat was 164 this time so everything was perfect.  I stopped bleeding after a week i started.  At 11 weeks i started spotting again this time i didn't panic (this was my first pregnancy so i didn't know what to expect), since it was Friday late night i waited until monday to call the doctors office.  On tuesday i had a doctors appointment and they also added an ultrasound to make sure everything was ok.  I left work that day really excited to get new pictures of the baby, i told some of my coworkers on the way out, I was 11 weeks and 3 days.  At the doctors my fiance and i are sitting there looking at the baby in the ultrasound, they do my first non vaginal ultrasound and i can't see a heartbeat but i didn't really know what to expect because it was my first one of those, the tech took some pictures and told me she needed to see the vaginal because she couuldn't see (i wasn't too worried because they hadn't make me drink the water).  The tech comes back and puts the thing inside of me so i am looking at the baby and looking for the heartbeat and i don't see it, so i asked "do you see the heartbeat" she said "no" that was horrible, at that moment my doctor enters the room, she never has before, so i knew that something was definetly wrong, that is when i got my horrible news, so unexpected.  They told me my baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and 2 days (5 days after my last ultrasound) my baby had been dead since December 2nd and that day was the 23th, i went around for 3 weeks and 2 days thnking everything was sgreat and myh baby was dead inside of me.  That was horrible, then the doctor gave me 3 choices, a D&C, a pill to speed up the process or to wait for my body to naturally take the baby out.  I didn't know what to do but my doctor told me she had a m/c and she waited it out so i choose to do so.  I think physically was the best choice and maybe even emotionally.  This was December 23rd and i didn't pass my baby until the 26th.  the first couple of days gave me time to deal with it emotionally and part with my baby, by the time the baby came i was ready for him to do so.  So the 26th at night when i started having cramps or contractions, not sure what was what i would go to the bathroom and examine every blood clot, i did not see the baby, probably a good thing i wouldn't know what to do then, but after my last crampings and big chunk of something came out, that really freaked me out, the baby was suppose to be 1/2 inch, and this was like 5 inches long and rounded, it looked grayish almost like a sausage, i still don't know what that was, any of you guys know?

Anyway, since this all happened yesterday we decided to wait until july to start trying again, this way my body will be completely ready, I am planning on loosing some weight and being healthier than i was before this pregnancy.  Hopefully everything turns out good.  I hope all of you have healthy beautifull babies and hang in there, we will all get through this.  hugs to all of you, my thoughts and prayers are with all of us.

[court_rock]

i was 5 1/2 weeks pg when i miscarried. i found out that i was pg on dec 05, 2008 and started spotting on the 06 after having intercourse. when we went to the er, cause i had never bled before with my son, they did the vaginal ultra-sound and exam. they said that i was fine nad to just take it easy and drink water.when i went in on monday the 8th, they told me thati needed to go to the lab on wed so they could check my hcg again. by wed my levels had dropped by 300. my dr. with no simpathy looked at me and said " you are going to miscarry". it was so hard to hear, let alone to say outloud to my love. i went home, cause i couldn't stand going back to work right then, and sure enough at 4pm dec 10, 2008 i miscarried. i cried and sobbed and thought that i had done something, cause i already had one child and now this. i was confused and then i started reading some of these stories of real people and they have helped sooooo much. now we are ready to try again, so thank you and good luck to everyone. children really are the most precious gifts.

[tracey1234]

everyone's story here grabs me, but for whatever reason i find myself really curious about yours - just the way you were talking about being so sad at Thanksgiving.  I had my second mc in Nov of 06, just before Christmas, and my best friend was still pregnant; i felt those same feelings about wanting to just avoid Christmas etc.  Had another one just before my oldest daughter's birthday in MArch 07.  I just had my fourth mc - the d&c was a week ago, i am sitting here at work having a hard time focussing because i am thinking about my loss and how much i don't want to be here reading cases (i'm a lawyer).  

Did you ever manage to conceive?  I conceived after my March/07 mc and carried my beautiful daughter to term - she just turned 1.  I can't wait to be pregnant again; last time i never got a period, we just started as soon as the bleedings stopped.  I know it's crazy, but I abstained from caffeine, sex and working out when i got pregnant with my daughter, and carried her to term.  I didn't abstain from sex or working out this time, or the other times i mcd, and lost the baby.  So... while there is absolutely no scientific evidence to say any of those things cause mcs, i am still going to abstain if i do become pregnant again!

Any other stories from anyone who has posted here - how is anyone doing?  Anyone have a baby yet?

[Desperately_wanting124]

I am 27 and the mother of a 7 year old daughter from my previous marriage. My fiance and I decided in august that i would go off the pill and start trying. to both of our surprise we got pregnant right away.  at about 6 weeks i noticed some brown blood, i went to a walk in clinc and they said that it was probably old blood and i still had a positive pregnancy  test. that was on a thursday and i had my first dr appt scheduled for that monday, the sunday before the bleeding and cramping got so bad that i went to the er. they took both and internal and external ultrasound and said there wasnt a baby. either its eptopic or im misscarrying and to follow up the next day with the dr. the dr sent me for labs to test my hcg and they were only slightly rising. that wednesday i miscarried my baby. we got the go ahead from the dr to try again. we have been unsuccessful this far. this last period i had was the worst yet, lots of bleeding and clots and severe pain. we got a OPK and the morning of my positive LH surge i have bad cramping on my left side and more intense symptoms. does this mean that my body is finally back to normal?  we had sex the day before the positive LH surge the morning off, twice the day after and once the day after that. im not sure if you are suppose to do it more frequently  or if that is good enough. can anyone help???

[chatterbox123]

firstly i want to say how sorry i am to u all i no wat u r all going through. i had a m/c 28th jan 09 ad to get a d&c and key hole surgery done feb 2nd it was a failed womb pregnancy not an etopic but they found a cyst a pocket of free fluid (blood) and also emdritrios so all susefully removed . wen i got back to my ward my nurse told me i was still pregnant well i was in so much shock i asked her could u get sumone who was at the opp to *** see me as i thought i wud ave been told this wen i awoke in threatre > and guess wat she did and she HAD GOT IT WRONG i am fursios at this as she just pulled my curtain and left me to cry i cant believe a nurse cud get it soooooooo wrong . im just so upset i cant get my losse outta my head i no im very lucky as i do 2 very healthy kids already a girl age 10 and boy near 4 but i really wanna start ttc now but im afraid in case i m/c again but all i can think about is being pregnant girls plzz help is this normal ???? good luck to u all ur in my prayers and thoughts and all ur wee angles r watching down and protecting u all xxxx

[mel1301]

My partner and I have been ttc for over four years now. He has 3 beautiful daughters from a previous marriage, and i have no children of my own. When we found out that i was pregnant (after 6 months of clomiphene treatment) we were so happy and excited! i miscarriaged at 8 1/2 weeks. I went to the ER because i noticed some bleeding and they asked me if this was my first pregnancy. When i said yes, they all seemed to fob me off, and told me it was normal. I made an appointment with my DR for the next day and voiced my concerns again, though the same thing, i just got fobbed off again. I knew that this wasnt right and there was nothing that i could do. The very next day i m/c'd. I did not have a d&c, as the DR said i could go through it naturally. (although the pain was excruciating, and i was kept in overnight on a morphine drip).
I am absolutely devastated, and although my partner was upset to start off with, now tells me "its ok, luckily we lost it sooner than later" and "there was probably something wrong with it" and the latest is "just keep going on like nothing happened". My reaction to the last one was not pretty (as you can imagine). How can i go on like nothing happened when im reminded of it every time i go to the bathroom?! (im still bleeding).
We have my partners children this weekend, and it hurts even more because i feel like they are being rubbed in my face (i know, not intentionally).
I just keep crying. I have found some comfort in a youtube post called slipped away by avril lavigne (i recommend it to anyone that has lost a bub).

[Kekee301]

i found out i was pregnant march 11th, i had my first obgyn visit march 24th -they said everything was fine [ i was 6wks ]then the next day i started spotting so i went to the hospital & they did a ultrasound, said they couldnt see anything inside...no baby =( but i was only spotting. they told me to get blood work done the next day to check my hcg levels. as soon as i left the hospital i started bleeding badly. my hcg levels were 100 at the hospital, next day they were 42 =( i think i am pregnant again. only 3wks after the miscarriage. im scared it was too soon to become preg. again but also excited. i havent tested yet but all the same symptoms came back like last time. Also, with my son who is almost 4 i had a miscarriage before conceiving him. i was pregnant with him 6wks after i miscarried. & he was perfectly fine.

[obscurusfemina]

I had a miscarriage a little over year ago, I was 15 weeks along. I was wondering if anyone else has had problems getting pregnant again after. My doctor told me just 3 months ago that I may not even be ovulating again yet(this was 10 months after my m/c). I thought at least by now I should be able to get pregnant again. My husband thinks that I worry too much about it, but I really want a baby and by now most women would have been able to conceive again. Please tell me if this happened to you and how long it took to conceive again...if ever.

[acsil33]

Obscurusfemina, try charting, I got this book and the software that comes with the book and learned how to chart and then you will know exactly when you ovulate and if you do.  http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Anniversary/dp/0060881909/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1242325172&sr=8-1
It was the best purchase for me.  Good luck!  It has been 5 month since my miscarriage and I won't try again until it has been 1 year.  Get the book though, you will at least find out if you are ovulating and when the right times to try are.

[NurseShelly22]

I had a miscariage June 5th. I was 13 weeks pregnant. I had to have a D&C. I really want to try again soon but my husband wants to wait until December. All of my friends have kids. And I see all these young teenagers having kids and giving them up for adoption or having abortions. I just don't think it's fair to those of us who want a family and it's so hard to start one.

I want to start soon, but I'm one of those people who has to take medication to get pregnant. I don't know how to convince my husband of trying sooner. Help...

[MerKen08]

I'm 21 and had a m/c the same day i was turning 3 months it was the worsed thing that i have ever had to go tru i also believe that it is not fair that some girls give up there apportunity of being a mother i want to try againg but the problem is that my nipples r sore and i dont know if that can be a sign? my mid wife had told me 2 wait to get at less 3clyles can some one plz tell me what i can do!!!!!!!!!!!

[heather8509]

Hi there my name is Heather from Scotland I'm 24 years old and here is my story if it helps anyone. I miscarried the first time back in October in 2006 and had to get pregnant again so try as soon as the bleeding stopped, 6 weeks later I was pregnant the baby was fine but did have a hole in the heart which I was told when I was 20 weeks along. Now he's 2 in aug 09! I now have miscarried my baby at 13.5 weeks. I started bleeding on the Wednesday night and went to hospital but was sent away because all the equipment had been shut down for the night! So I was back in that hospital for 8 in the morning to get a scan, the baby was fine twisting and turning even waving in the scan! The weight off my mind was great but that night again I bled so back up to hospital the next day but my cervix was tight shut so again told me not to worry and go home and relax. Saturday wasn't feeling to great so decided to lay on the bed and I felt I was in labour next I had to run to the toilet and then my wee baby fell into the pan still intact and so was the sack. The blood was pouring out of myself and I had to pick the baby up and put it in a container! I couldn't stop screaming! Got to the hospital and was put on gas and air to pass the placenta my partner was amazing but I wasn't on this planet! The nurse then broke its sack and bought the baby into us in a blanket of love we couldn't stop staring he was so perfect he looked like he was hugging himself! The nurses gave me a candle and wrist band for something to keep. He was born on 1/08/09 and was buried on the 7/08/09! He will be in our hearts forever!

I and my partner are trying again right away because we feel that maybe history will repeat itself and we will finally have our second child and my son Owen will finally get his brother or sister!
Thank you for reading

God bless and the best of luck to all you trying
xxx

[heather8509]

I forgot to say Doctors and nurses are only people with PhD's its your body and mind. I really had a lot of respect for the jobs they do but sometimes they say things to make themselves better at the end of the day they are human to and man do they get things wrong so my personal opinion is if it feels right then your probably right! You can read all this in a hope it helps but its your decision to do what is best for yourself! Good luck and all the best and don't be scared to stand up to them!

[miss10]

First, I would like to say to all of you that before reading your stories, I was an emotional wreck.  I am an OB nurse for pete's sake but that wasn't enough. On New years eve, i said a special prayer that this would be the year to start my family and I started changing my diet, exercising and even was taking some fertilaid pills to help get everything on track. Much to my surprise, after years of hoping and being told my chances were slim to none, i found i was was pregnant in May 09. I was so excited and shocked but afraid. Afraid to say anything to anyone, afraid to get too excited, just afraid because I knew all the good and bad that could occur with pregnancies. I even had some bleeding around my 8th week, but the baby heart beat was good, so I was fine.

Then, On Aug 3rd when i woke up at 6am to get ready for work, i had this big gush of clear fluid that scared me so bad, i nearly passed out but i knew to call my doc. The doc on call said go to the ER and sure enough, the er doc with no emotion said "sorry honey to tell you that you are miscarrying." I was like in shock. I was 16wks today. I immediately starting thinking what did I do wrong, why is this happening. Why is God taking away something from me that I prayed for everyday before and after? I was speechless.

Needless to say, i was admitted because to my surprise the baby heartbeat was still good, eventhough i was still bleeding but no pain. I was in the hospital on bedrest and on pins and needles everyday. 4 days later i was told there was no heartbeat. My baby had died. I was so struck by grief i actually felt my soul leave my body. My boyfriend was so sad and crying and I couldn't comfort him because i was just too sad. They induce my labor, inserted painful suppositories and on Aug 8, 2009 I delivered my baby boy. I got to hold him and kiss him goodbye. That i believe was the hardest thing i have ever done in my life. I had to say goodbye to something that I lived and breathe for for 4 months. Now its been a week and i can't go one day without crying or wrecking my brain at what did i do wrong or what did I miss. I am a nurse!!!! But one thing i was told was of course "it is not my fault" and unfortunately, we can't explain why these things happen but I wish i could tell my heart that.

We plan to try again as soon as possible, i don't think i can wait too long. I am moved by reading all of your stories and it was very encouraging because i was so unsure of myself and if i could do it again.  Thank you for sharing. I have been touched and moved by you all and wish you all the best of luck.

[sealed_with_a_kiss]

Im seventeen and I lost a baby last month. I was only 6 weeks along. My boyfriend and I werent trying to get pregnant obviously but when we found out I was we were very excited. We just moved into our own apartment and are very stable financially. My sister just lost her 6 month old baby two months ago to SIDS which was one of the hardest thing ive ever been through and now I have to deal with the loss of my own. When I hear people have had five, six, seven m/c's it scares me, i'm very sorry.

[Nelmak]

Hey girls! I just wanted to tell you all "I know how you feel" and i mean it! This morning i miscarried at 8 weeks. It's our second miscarriage - the first was at 11 wks but the fetus only gew for 6 of those wks. I know it's an emotionall roller coaster ride going from happy and pregnant to empty and miserable. Just know that unless you've been hitting the crack pipe lately your loss was in no way your fault! Wearing a girdle, changing your diet, exercising, etc - doesn't cause you to lose your baby! The simple harsh scientific fact is that it's a genetic glitch in the matrix. Unless you have underlying issues (which you'll be made aware of by your ob/gyn if you get checked) it all comes down to replication. Think about it - if someone hands you a copy of War and Peace, and asks you to copy it by hand word for word a hundred or a million times, you're gonna make a mistake somewhere - and sex cells (sperm and eggs) work the same way! I know it ***** and you want to blame everyone including yourself but don't! We'll all get through this together, you're beautiful and you are loved - and genetics willing you will have a purdy little baby soon enough! :) keep your chins up!

[blissfullabby]

I had a m/c after being 7 weeks pregnant and I have been trying for 1 1/2 to get pregnant and have yet to have luck. Im scared. I feel helpless. I wish I could just be pregnant again I would give anything to be preganant again.

[Lop68ster]

I suffered a miscarriage on 09/27/09 I just stopped bleeding 10/03/09.  I am devastated.  I do have two healthy boys age 11 and 3 and was desperately trying to conceive after 8 months of trying there I was 4 weeks along and seen fresh blood went to the ER had blood work and ultrasound to confirm that is was not a tubal that in fact it did make it to where it was suppose to be all my baby (embryo) had to do was to stay alive and grow. They found I was just starting a UTI (Urinary tract Infection) I don't think this caused my miscarriage.  I will never know  This was a very painful experience and I wouldn't wish my worst enemy this pain and suffering.  I am anxious to start again. I am thankful I was wasn't farther along just wish I knew why.  God Bless          

[Mcmaus51]

I miscarried my baby on 9/30/2009. He was 10 weeks old. I was spotting a week before I lost him. I went in to have an ultrasound and he had a perfect heartbeat and was moving around. Just how he should be at 10 weeks. I continued spotting off and on, called the on call dr. and also talked to the nurse for my obgyn. All l was told was that 20% of pregnancies do have bleeding without reason. I was also told that if I had a miscarriage, there was nothing anyone can do. Well, I had no cramping and it wasn't heavy, so I remained calm and confident. I had an EXTREMELY stressful month in September, so I amounted it to stress, but since the stress was gone I figured the bleeding would stop. Well, I woke up early that wednesday morning and started losing blood clots. I figured I had lost the baby then. I called my doctor and got an ounce of hope, that since I wasn't cramping and didn't have the typical "miscarriage" symptoms, it could be something else. Right after I hung up the phone I used the bathroom. I lost one clot and then something else. It didn't look like a clot, so I got on some gloves, flipped it over and there was my baby. I had a panic attack and was so upset. I almost passed out. I woke my husband up and could barely talk. I called the dr. I had to bring the baby and myself in. He asked if I wanted to know the sex, and I figured since I could know, I should find out b/c I'd always wonder. Well, it was my baby boy. I already have a 2 year old daughter. Who's birthday was 1 day before this happened. I have been absolutely devastated. The dr. said the baby looked normal and perfect in size, exactly how he should be, no infections. I'm healthy. Theres really no reason why I lost my baby.
My husband and I want another baby. We want to try soon, but don't want to try too soon. I had a 5% chance of losing my baby boy and it happened. The chances of this happening again are slim and I do feel like I know my body better than anyone and that I should try. But, also I am worried to try too soon. I am not sure what I should think? Sorry about the long message, I guess I needed to just get it all out there and get it off my chest!
To everyone else who has lost they're babies, I am very sorry for you. Its truly one of the HARDEST things to go through. God bless you all!

[acsil]

I had the same problem, is started spotting and they told me there was nothing they could do and all was fine, it turns out that after i started researching, there is a lot they can do but won't do it until you have 2 or 3 miscarriages.  I refused to go through another so i basically demanded all tests out there and it came back wiht Factor V Leiden, a blood clot desorder, if you get blood clots on your placenta the baby slowly dies and you miscarry, and all they needed to do to prevent it (in my case) was to give me 1 baby aspiring per day.  Do not let them tell you there is nothing they can do, do your research, be informed and ask your doctors for tests or get second opinions.

[jlf91]

Everyone on here has helped me through this so much. I had a miscarriage in August. I was only about 7 weeks along. But it is still hard to get your hopes up and then have it all go away so quickly. I was told by one of my doctors to wait 3 months, and my other doctor from the same office told me that only 1 month was necessary. So of course I only wanted to wait 1 month rather than 3. I have had 2 periods already. One of my cycles was only 2 weeks long. I thought they were going to be messed up for awhile and that would stop me from getting pregnant again. But last night I actually found out I was pregnant again!!! I am so happy. I just hope everything goes well this time. Good luck to everyone. Just stay positive and hope for the best.  

[Mcmaus51]

Thank you for your advice! My sister actually had that problem and had to take baby asprin. Since I've already had a baby and she was fine, does that mean I couldn't have that? Or do you get it from being pregnant? If you have anymore information that would be great! thanks again

[acsil]

You should definitely get tested for clotting disorders if your sister has that, some people with disorders get lucky and have babies without problems but your risk are higher.  factor V by itself is not as bad assuming is heterozygous and not homozygous but if you had a second mutation it is very bad or some other problem combined it can be bad.  maybe you get lucky again and have a healthy baby without treatment and all this is still research.  The best thing for you to do is to get diagnosed with those tests and then make your decision on what to do, it is a tough decision since there isn't a lot of research if all you have is factor V heterozygous.  Good luck.

[Mcmaus51]

So, I had my miscarriage on 9/30/2009. Well, I just took a test yesterday and there is a faint positive line. Its been over 4 weeks since I had my miscarriage. I do feel pregnant, but could it be a false positive? I don't want to be psyching myself out.

[fairychild1981]

Thank you to everyone for there post I lost my son at 16 weeks on Nov 6th.  I went to the hospital where I had had him and asked for my med recored's they asked me if I would like the pathology report I had no idea that they had done anything pathologic threw the report I found out that my son was healthy and that there was a problem that might need more work up on my end they called it maternal thrombophilia I have looked this up and it talks about blood clots also in the report it says that the blood clots where on the placenta has anyone eles heard of this or knows anything about are Doc says we can try in 2 mouths but he is not even aware of the report and I'm not shore if we should try or find out what this is first I'm so upset that the hospital never even tried to contact us about this me and my husband are tring to heal from this but it is very hard we have decited to name our son to help us threw this we have chosen Liam Elijah thank you all for sharing it helps me out to know that I'm not the only one that is hurting from this kind of loss.

Kellie

[bioqueen]

Hi out there,

I just wanted to give an update.  I went to my husband's family christmas and it was more awful than I ever could have imagined.  My very pregnant (7mo) sister in law cornered me.  While she was telling me she felt my pain, she was asking me why I couldn't just be happy for her.  I was and am very happy for her, however, my happiness for her could not make my pain magically disappear.  I was a wreak the entire weekend.  My husband was mad at me for wearing my heart on my sleeve.  It probably didn't help that his family was telling him there was something wrong with me.  "I should have been over it by now".  "I needed professional help".  Well, all the while I was pregnant again.  We had started trying immediately after losing our first.  Three and a half months later we had conceived.  While I was excited, I was also terrified-so terrified in fact that I refused to allow myself to get excited.  My family and his family were ecstatic-but I just couldn't get there.  I bought a heart monitor on ebay and used it daily starting at about 8 weeks.  I refused to talk about baby shower stuff until I was at least 6 months pregnant.  Even then I made them hold off on the shower until three weeks before my due date (Sept.10).  Well, guess what?  My bouncing baby boy decided he didn't like my blood pressure, so he was born the day after the shower (We missed the shower because I was in labor).  All is well though.  I now have a giant 3mo baby boy.  While he is at the center of my world, I do still mourn the loss of my first.  As the holidays approach-I tear up almost nightly thinking about having to spend another christmas with the people who diminished my loss.  I love my son so much, I am glad I risked more heartbreak to have him.  He brings me more joy than I could have ever imagined.  As a side note-he was born with 3 angel kisses on his face.  He has 2 large ones-one on his right eyelid and one in between his eyes.  He has a very small on on his left eyelid and while I have not shared this with anyone (not even hubby)-I like to think this one is from his big brother or sister.  Hugs to everyone.  Stay strong and think positive.  My thoughts and prayers are with each and everyone of you this holiday season.

[acsil]

I am pregnant again but had my first bleeding yesterday, exactly 5 weeks, very scary.  This time i am in progesterone (which i started the very same day of the bleeding) and on Monday I start taking baby aspirin for the clotting.  Has anyone actually had bleeding around 5 weeks and have a healthy baby? last time i started my bleeding at 5 weeks and miscarried at 12 so i am looking for success stories...

[lifesweeterthanhoney]

hello all ,
       After reading all these stories of losses I decided to post mine as well.  I am 27 and I love kids so much I have wanted to be a mommy for as long as I can remember. I have always had a fear that I would not be able to have children b/c  of my desire to be a mommy so bad.  So my husband and I tried for almost a year we conceived in June I was so crazily happy.  At 10wks I went to the Dr.s and could not hear a heartbeat I was very concerned but the Dr. Told me that sometimes it takes longer to hear it.  I still thought that he was feeding me a line so a part of me died that day, but as I went on I was starting to show so naturally I thought the baby was growing and I was fine.  I carried for 14 1/2wks I felt fine that day I went to the ladies room and there was a little blood and I had been spotting through most of my pregnancy and when I asked the Dr. they didn't seem too alarmed so I was a little annoyed b/c I had thought that it would stop eventually.  I was still feeling fine I went back in a little later and it was heavy with clots and I was freaking out I went to the emergency room after a long time of waiting crying worrying the Dr. Had told me that the other Dr. who told me its normal if you don't hear a heartbeat at 10wks was wrong he said that if you don't hear a heartbeat by 8wks you can pretty much count on having something wrong with your baby or its dead.  As the words came out of his mouth that basically he told me I was carrying an empty sac I felt like I was in  slow motion I was numb how could my body go along with a pregnancy that was not really there My hormone levels were normal for a woman as far along as I was. I thought how cruel can our creator be that I would be carrying nothing thinking that something was there and fine and then I felt like a fool b/c I had spent so much time rubbing and talking to my baby and reading stories telling it that everything will be ok.  So the next step was to have an OBGYN appt to determine if D&C was an option they deemed it an emergency b/c by then I was bleeding a lot more when I had my surgery the surgeon and OBGYN had told me that there was a baby and it just didn't survive there was a lot of tissue b/c they don't call it a baby and my amnionic sac was large.  Just being told that made me feel better and little less angry at God for blessing me with emptiness I tell this story to let some of you know that not all Dr.'s know everything if you are unsure about your pregnancy get a second oppinion.  Its also nice to know that I wasn't the only one who felt hatred toward those who had children or more like envy not hatred and feel like a failure and to have anxiety to try again I am feeling the anxiety right now b/c I am 6days late and I am trying to prolong taking a test just because I feel like I can't handle this again.  The D&C was so painful my back hurt for weeks.  I do feel emotionally ready but I do think that its a pain you will never forget and a loss you will always be wondering about.  Never give up Hope I know I won't and I hope that all your baby hopes and dreams come true :)

[lifesweeterthanhoney]

hello all ,
       After reading all these stories of losses I decided to post mine as well.  I am 27 and I love kids so much I have wanted to be a mommy for as long as I can remember. I have always had a fear that I would not be able to have children b/c  of my desire to be a mommy so bad.  So my husband and I tried for almost a year we conceived in June I was so crazily happy.  At 10wks I went to the Dr.s and could not hear a heartbeat I was very concerned but the Dr. Told me that sometimes it takes longer to hear it.  I still thought that he was feeding me a line so a part of me died that day, but as I went on I was starting to show so naturally I thought the baby was growing and I was fine.  I carried for 14 1/2wks I felt fine that day I went to the ladies room and there was a little blood and I had been spotting through most of my pregnancy and when I asked the Dr. they didn't seem too alarmed so I was a little annoyed b/c I had thought that it would stop eventually.  I was still feeling fine I went back in a little later and it was heavy with clots and I was freaking out I went to the emergency room after a long time of waiting crying worrying the Dr. Had told me that the other Dr. who told me its normal if you don't hear a heartbeat at 10wks was wrong he said that if you don't hear a heartbeat by 8wks you can pretty much count on having something wrong with your baby or its dead.  As the words came out of his mouth that basically he told me I was carrying an empty sac I felt like I was in  slow motion I was numb how could my body go along with a pregnancy that was not really there My hormone levels were normal for a woman as far along as I was. I thought how cruel can our creator be that I would be carrying nothing thinking that something was there and fine and then I felt like a fool b/c I had spent so much time rubbing and talking to my baby and reading stories telling it that everything will be ok.  So the next step was to have an OBGYN appt to determine if D&C was an option they deemed it an emergency b/c by then I was bleeding a lot more when I had my surgery the surgeon and OBGYN had told me that there was a baby and it just didn't survive there was a lot of tissue b/c they don't call it a baby and my amnionic sac was large.  Just being told that made me feel better and little less angry at God for blessing me with emptiness I tell this story to let some of you know that not all Dr.'s know everything if you are unsure about your pregnancy get a second oppinion.  Its also nice to know that I wasn't the only one who felt hatred toward those who had children or more like envy not hatred and feel like a failure and to have anxiety to try again I am feeling the anxiety right now b/c I am 6days late and I am trying to prolong taking a test just because I feel like I can't handle this again.  The D&C was so painful my back hurt for weeks.  I do feel emotionally ready but I do think that its a pain you will never forget and a loss you will always be wondering about.  Never give up Hope I know I won't and I hope that all your baby hopes and dreams come true :)

[blueyes3970]

Hi there

I had a miscarriage in July 09.  I was exactly to the day 3 mths.  We thought yes we are out of the woods but i started brown spotting which didnt really bother me at first.  I just thought it was part of my last period.  I also have two children so a miscarriage was out of the question.  It didnt even occur to me that this was happening.  So we went to the  hospital and they did a scan when they told me that the babies heart was not beating.  I was told I could have a D & C or let it go naturally.  I was not thinking and went home and it went naturally.  That bloody word I hate it "Naturally".  Nothing about this miscarriage was natural.  it has killed me inside.  My poor partner is devestated but we picked ourselves up until I got pregnant in Oct 09.  My partner and I were delighted but scared at the same time.  It wasnt long before I started showing again and immediately went to the doc where he said go to the hospital.  My dated were 9 wks pregnant but the scan was showing only 5 wk.  The nurse said because its to early we cant find the heart beat.  So i was to come back in two wks.  Those were the longest two wks of my life and my partners but he never let on. (Bless him) 2 wks came, went back to be told the baby has not grown and that I will miscarriage.  I think I was expecting it, I think I was numb when I heard those words.  We even went to the church and lit 2 candles (Boy/Girl).   I also told my 8 year old daughter that I was pregnant.  She doesnt know yet what has happened and is talking about the baby if its a girl can it sleep in my room etc... this time I had a D & C I couldnt go through the thought of doing it "naturally" again.  I was in and out in a day and I dont think i was told of any aftercare.  Miscarriage is a tabu its not spoken about.  I just want to stand and scream and scream and scream.  Its been 2 wks since my D & C, still bleeding on and off.  Now I think Im getting more emotional and seeing babies all round me.  

My answer to one of the questions of getting pregnant again straight away i would advise not to .  Wait until you get 3 periods and then try.  Good luck I wouldnt wish this on anyone xx

[bioqueen]

I thought blueyes3970 brought up an interesting point that still baffles me.  "Miscarriage is a tabu its not spoken about."  How is this?!?  Pro-lifers feel that a life starts at conception, yet this is how we are expected to treat the loss of our children?!?  We are expected to stifle our sorrow and pretend like nothing happened.  If we do let our emotions slip out, we are judged as weak.  My family (and my hubby's) thought I was overreacting.  I should have been over it in three months and since I wasn't-I needed professional help.  Well ladies, I say cry all you want-it's your baby.  If you don't mourn the loss of your baby, who will?