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how soon trying to get pregnant after miscarriage
I've read in my prgenancy books and on forums and I've been told by doctors to wait 1 to 3 cycles before trying to get pregnant again after having had a miscarriage recently. But there doesn't seem to be any research to back this up...no one can tell me if there's a medical risk if I get pregnant sooner. Does anyone know? I am 36 years old and had a m/c on my first pregnancy last month and I'm eager to try again. If it's for emotional reasons that people say to wait, well getting pregnant again will make me feel better as that was my goal, but I don't want to have an increased risk of another m/c by getting pregnant too soon. But time is an issue b/c I am 36 and just starting to have children now. I know this all may be pointless if I don't ovulate again soon, but hoping thinsg get back to normal soon. I had a natural m/c and my hcg levels are almost back to normal or zero. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.
hi everyone! it's been another long while since i've been on here - some of you have sent me some really sweet messages, so thank you very much and i'm so sorry i haven't replied sooner!
for those that are new, you can read my posts from earlier in the year but basically in a nut shell i got pregnant after my miscarriage, on the 2nd cycle. it took hubby and i almost 2 years to conceive the first one (by IUI) and so never did i think that i would get pregnant again on our own, and so soon! i am now almost 16 weeks and things are going well in this pregnancy so far (fingers crossed) and i have even purchased my own home doppler monitor. i use it every day to hear my baby's heartbeat and it gives me peace of mind :) at this point now i am waiting for my pre-screening tests to come back and will have to decide on amnio (hubby and i are almost 40).
i would also like to mention, hubby and i began taking fertilaid immediately after my DnC. after miscarrying, we were willing to try ANYTHING. well, it worked. i'm sure it was perhaps a combination of things - being cleaned out from the DnC, the pills, and perhaps a bit of luck from mother nature. in any case, this is our first baby and i want you all to know that after your miscarriage, i say to go ahead and try when you feel it's right for you - maybe just wait one cycle at least, for good measure. the way i feel right now is, if it happened for us, it can happen for anyone.
i want to wish you all the best of luck, and stay positive.
lots of hugs, Danielle xoxoxo
for those that are new, you can read my posts from earlier in the year but basically in a nut shell i got pregnant after my miscarriage, on the 2nd cycle. it took hubby and i almost 2 years to conceive the first one (by IUI) and so never did i think that i would get pregnant again on our own, and so soon! i am now almost 16 weeks and things are going well in this pregnancy so far (fingers crossed) and i have even purchased my own home doppler monitor. i use it every day to hear my baby's heartbeat and it gives me peace of mind :) at this point now i am waiting for my pre-screening tests to come back and will have to decide on amnio (hubby and i are almost 40).
i would also like to mention, hubby and i began taking fertilaid immediately after my DnC. after miscarrying, we were willing to try ANYTHING. well, it worked. i'm sure it was perhaps a combination of things - being cleaned out from the DnC, the pills, and perhaps a bit of luck from mother nature. in any case, this is our first baby and i want you all to know that after your miscarriage, i say to go ahead and try when you feel it's right for you - maybe just wait one cycle at least, for good measure. the way i feel right now is, if it happened for us, it can happen for anyone.
i want to wish you all the best of luck, and stay positive.
lots of hugs, Danielle xoxoxo
Hello everyone,
Well im 25 yrs old and had my 1st MC 8/12/2010 and it was heartbreaking me and my boyfriend were so happy. As soon as i found out i went to work to to get a ultrasound ( i work in a OBGYN office) and i was 5wks but the baby was a lil small so the tech told me to follow up with my Dr in a couple days i felt cramping but thought it was normal...The next day i was seeing blood and clots and i knew from then what was happening. We went to the ER and my HSG was saying i was 6wk and 4days but the ultrasound showed there was nothing....The saddest moment in my life.I went for blood work and my levels are still a lil high and i go back on the 8/30 hopefully its down to 0 bc me and my boyfriend are ready to try again. We been having fun trying now but i know its too soon to happen right now..Or is it????
Reading other stories like mine is making feel like its not just me..And to make things so hard is i work around pregnant woman all day and i have to make appts for usltrasound all day. But im feeling a lil better now Thanks guys :)
Well im 25 yrs old and had my 1st MC 8/12/2010 and it was heartbreaking me and my boyfriend were so happy. As soon as i found out i went to work to to get a ultrasound ( i work in a OBGYN office) and i was 5wks but the baby was a lil small so the tech told me to follow up with my Dr in a couple days i felt cramping but thought it was normal...The next day i was seeing blood and clots and i knew from then what was happening. We went to the ER and my HSG was saying i was 6wk and 4days but the ultrasound showed there was nothing....The saddest moment in my life.I went for blood work and my levels are still a lil high and i go back on the 8/30 hopefully its down to 0 bc me and my boyfriend are ready to try again. We been having fun trying now but i know its too soon to happen right now..Or is it????
Reading other stories like mine is making feel like its not just me..And to make things so hard is i work around pregnant woman all day and i have to make appts for usltrasound all day. But im feeling a lil better now Thanks guys :)
Just hand in there if your hcg is slowly rising. Do you have an option of taking a second opinion?
Results from my blood work indicated that my hcg levels are still rising (832). The doctor said that he doesn't see anything on the ultrasound so he scheduled me for a dnc. I am afraid and don't know what to expect. He is saying my levels are too low for a normal pregnancy. (prog 4.1). What is happening? Has anyone experienced this and was told that they needed to do a dnc but had a healthy pregnancy? This is my first pregnancy and its not looking too good for me. Any advice, comments or information will be helpful to me.
Thanks All !!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks All !!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi there!!!! XOXOXO!!!!! I am so sorry that I haven't been on in awhile...been busy at work...lonnng story...and getting ready for the family vacation that I was dreading.
I am so happy to hear that you had a great time at the wedding you were dreading going to! I had a feeling that all would go well for you after you had a little bit to adjust to being there. :) Sounds like you had a really good time meeting everyone and getting to have some wine (I'm jealous!). Actually, I have some in the fridge, but haven't gotten around to drinking it yet. :)
And now on to more important things....you got your period---YAY!!!!!!!!!!! I am doing my little dance for you right now as we speak!!!!! I am so excited for you, as this means you are so, so close to trying again! I know that your husband wants you to wait another cycle and I think that he is very sweet for being so caring about that. I know it stinks, but I honestly think that that's a good decision that was created out of love for you, so it's probably what's best. :) By the way, I heard that Dr. Oz had mentioned on Oprah that there's no medical reason to have to wait at all anymore...maybe that might sway your husbands opinion a little? ;) Hey, I'm just trying to help a sister out! lol I can't believe that you were so close to 3 weeks from your MC when you got your period--that's awesome. Today is 4 weeks after I stopped bleeding and I still haven't seen any sign of my period yet, but I think I am feeling a little something, so here's hoping!!! :) I also have absolutely no idea how you're supposed to calculate the timing of getting your period after a MC...is it the day you started bleeding or the day after you stopped? Either way, I'm still close to the 4 week mark, so I guess it doesn't matter.
Well...I just got back late Saturday night from visiting the in-laws. The first few days were really rough, as I honestly didn't want to be there. I feel so bad saying that, but I was more or less looking forward to having time to myself that was just quiet and uneventful, but I think that being there was the right thing to do. I think the first few days were harder, as my sister-in-law was there EVERY day with her little girl and then of course Jennie was pregnant again also and you could tell (at least I could tell). She was 9 weeks, which is so ironic, because that's what I would have been had I not miscarried. In fact, her due date is March 25th but she's measuring small, so she may deliver sooner and my due date was March 15th. We honestly could have delivered on the same exact day---so freakishly weird. My husband really wanted to tell his family and I was still straddling the fence on that one, but my husband gave me the ok to tell them. Jennie started talking about kids, her daughter, etc and then started talking about her MC a couple months ago. It was at this moment that I decided to tell her. She pretty much down-played the whole thing but said that she was sorry to hear that. She said that it was probably a good thing, since the baby was obviously sick. I agreed, but I still was slightly shocked at her lack of gentility on the subject, but that's kinda how she is. :) Anyway, we talked maybe 10 minutes about it and we both thought it was weird that we practically conceived on the same exact day! It's probably for the best though, I told her, as her Mom would have wanted to be there for both of us and it wouldn't have happened if we were both delivering at the same time.
We went to sooo many places while I was visiting the in-laws and I think being busy, like you, helped me to cope a little better. All in all, I still have my moments of sadness, but I too can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am just looking forward so much to when I get my period, because I know I won't have to wait much longer then. ahhh....come on, period!!!! :) To be frank, there were some moments when we were visiting that I honestly just wanted to kick her a$$ because she kept making insensitive comments like, "I ran for shelter from the rainstorm because I had to be safe because I'm a mother". It's like, really?!?
I am so glad that you liked the Baby Bella website....I think they have such cute stuff! You probably won't think I have such great taste anymore when I tell you that I love baby stuff that is Winnie the Pooh! lol...I just think they're adorable and I plan on using that for my baby someday. :)
I promise that I will let you know as soon as I get my period! Hopefully I will be writing to you again within the next 48 hours about that--geez!
Take care and be sure to let me know from time to time how you're doing! XOXOXO!!!
I am so happy to hear that you had a great time at the wedding you were dreading going to! I had a feeling that all would go well for you after you had a little bit to adjust to being there. :) Sounds like you had a really good time meeting everyone and getting to have some wine (I'm jealous!). Actually, I have some in the fridge, but haven't gotten around to drinking it yet. :)
And now on to more important things....you got your period---YAY!!!!!!!!!!! I am doing my little dance for you right now as we speak!!!!! I am so excited for you, as this means you are so, so close to trying again! I know that your husband wants you to wait another cycle and I think that he is very sweet for being so caring about that. I know it stinks, but I honestly think that that's a good decision that was created out of love for you, so it's probably what's best. :) By the way, I heard that Dr. Oz had mentioned on Oprah that there's no medical reason to have to wait at all anymore...maybe that might sway your husbands opinion a little? ;) Hey, I'm just trying to help a sister out! lol I can't believe that you were so close to 3 weeks from your MC when you got your period--that's awesome. Today is 4 weeks after I stopped bleeding and I still haven't seen any sign of my period yet, but I think I am feeling a little something, so here's hoping!!! :) I also have absolutely no idea how you're supposed to calculate the timing of getting your period after a MC...is it the day you started bleeding or the day after you stopped? Either way, I'm still close to the 4 week mark, so I guess it doesn't matter.
Well...I just got back late Saturday night from visiting the in-laws. The first few days were really rough, as I honestly didn't want to be there. I feel so bad saying that, but I was more or less looking forward to having time to myself that was just quiet and uneventful, but I think that being there was the right thing to do. I think the first few days were harder, as my sister-in-law was there EVERY day with her little girl and then of course Jennie was pregnant again also and you could tell (at least I could tell). She was 9 weeks, which is so ironic, because that's what I would have been had I not miscarried. In fact, her due date is March 25th but she's measuring small, so she may deliver sooner and my due date was March 15th. We honestly could have delivered on the same exact day---so freakishly weird. My husband really wanted to tell his family and I was still straddling the fence on that one, but my husband gave me the ok to tell them. Jennie started talking about kids, her daughter, etc and then started talking about her MC a couple months ago. It was at this moment that I decided to tell her. She pretty much down-played the whole thing but said that she was sorry to hear that. She said that it was probably a good thing, since the baby was obviously sick. I agreed, but I still was slightly shocked at her lack of gentility on the subject, but that's kinda how she is. :) Anyway, we talked maybe 10 minutes about it and we both thought it was weird that we practically conceived on the same exact day! It's probably for the best though, I told her, as her Mom would have wanted to be there for both of us and it wouldn't have happened if we were both delivering at the same time.
We went to sooo many places while I was visiting the in-laws and I think being busy, like you, helped me to cope a little better. All in all, I still have my moments of sadness, but I too can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am just looking forward so much to when I get my period, because I know I won't have to wait much longer then. ahhh....come on, period!!!! :) To be frank, there were some moments when we were visiting that I honestly just wanted to kick her a$$ because she kept making insensitive comments like, "I ran for shelter from the rainstorm because I had to be safe because I'm a mother". It's like, really?!?
I am so glad that you liked the Baby Bella website....I think they have such cute stuff! You probably won't think I have such great taste anymore when I tell you that I love baby stuff that is Winnie the Pooh! lol...I just think they're adorable and I plan on using that for my baby someday. :)
I promise that I will let you know as soon as I get my period! Hopefully I will be writing to you again within the next 48 hours about that--geez!
Take care and be sure to let me know from time to time how you're doing! XOXOXO!!!
Hello everyone! I have been reading your posts and come to the realization that even the most healthiest and careful person may experience a MC. I am 23 years old and found out that I was pregnant for the first time Monday, August 23, 2010. That night I felt a sharp pain and the following day, I had a doctors appointment. When I reached home, I discovered that I was bleeding so called the docs office imediately to notify them but she told me I had to wait for the results because I took a hpt. She returned my call several hours later to let me know that the preganacy hormones were extremely liow and that the pregnancy was not good. I have been having blood drawn every day sincce Tuesday including that weekends. They are monitoring my levels to see if they went down because I had a MC. I am hoping and praying that I can try again because as soon as I felt the happiness of becoming a mom, that excitement was snatched away just as fast.
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