i need advice.

[Slw06]

i don't know if im in the right place but i feel comfortable talking to you all.  i've been working at my job for almsot a year now and i didn't plan on staying this long. it was just something to start me off becuase i just moved here and i just got married and its where my husband works but the people i work with are just so mean to me! i go in the bathroom at work and cry becuase i hate it so much! but i've put in applications at other places and noone has called.   my husband doens't understand because he gets treated as gods gift to the world there and i just hate it there sooooooo much.  I work with a lady and her husband is one of the managers. so she thinks she can come and go as she wants and i always get stuck with the short end of the stick like last night they left 20 min. early me and my husband left there we aren't managers! a manager should always stay to lock up right? well they left us there and as soon as they walked out the door the phone calls started coming in and we didn't get out of there til almost 6 and we were supposed to leave at 5   so today we were really slow and i turned off my computer and i got up said well i'll see ya'll tommorw it was 8 minutes til 5 and she got all pissed at me! my manager not her husband but the other one leaves like everyday at 3 and gets paid til 5 she leaves pretty much everyday around 4:30 and her husband and myself and my husband are always stuck there to lock everythign up! and anytime i want to ask off work for a dr. appt or somethign i get the 3rd degree!  sorry i'm complaining should i quit or stay? thank ladies

[Slw06]

sorry i know i sound like i'm just crying lol but i'm really stressed out and i don't know what to do! thanks for your advice  :)"

[SonialynnL]

If i was working a job that made me cry and upset me in the way it does you I would find another job and give my notice, if noone listens to your concerns then it's not really a good place to be working, and what does your husband say about it all? If your not happy at a place then you end up taking it home with you and that is where the old saying misery loves company comes into play...best of luck

[Slw06]

nope noone cares what i say AT ALL1 my husband doens't understand because he doesn't get treated like i do. he told me he didn't care if i quit but i need to have a jbo lined up which i understand that but i just don't know if i can wait that long! I just hate that place it just makes me feel miserable all the time and i just got married and thats stressfull and i'm half way across the united states from my hometown and my mom its just tough.

[Confused82]

I'm sorry you're working in an environment that hurts you so much. Keep in mind that our emotions affect our bodies. This is causing you unneccessary stress and stress can lead to all kinds of harmful things to your body. My advice would be to leave. Please take care of yourself.

[Slw06]

yea i've already been to the doctor about 3 times in the past two months i've started to develop ulcers and it made me really really sick  for about a week i was just throwing up and couldn't eat anything the only thing i wanted to do was cry and sleep. i'm on medicine for it now tho and the dr. told me i need to take some time off but i just can't afford it.

[pertykitty]

wow that sucks! id go above their heads. i dont know about other states , but in california if you are given time off more than a week by a dr note, you can collect disablity. look for another job, go above their heads, and if none of that works tell them off! you shouldnt have to work under these conditions!!

[Slw06]

well i kno i'm for sure will be done there by feb. i'm taking a vacation to missouri where i'm from fo ra week to get my weeks paid vacation LOL and then i'm gona look for someting else when i get back so hopefully it will work out for me.  i'm just gonna try and deal with it for now. and ignore everybody and just do my job and thats it. :( thanks laides for your help and letting me complain

[katherine18]

unless the place is privately owned, there should be a human resources department that is based somewhere other than where you work.  you should be able to report things annonymously. i feel your pain.  i used to work at a place like that, but i was in high school, and it was part time, so i can imagine you must want to rip your hair out.  best of luck to you, no one deserves that!

[lucylocket2]

How bad do you need a job?

[Slw06]

well i could probably go a couple weeks without a job until its time ot pay rent again lol today i filled out a sheet to ask off early on mon the 18th i have my yearly exam and they got mad at mee fo asking off! i'll be here from 8 until 2  i dunno this job just bites.

[JoAnnaRF]

Who cares if they get mad. Let them. Repeat after me... "THEY DON'T MATTER, THEY DON'T MATTER". You'll do your job, ignore their snide comments, take your paid vacation, and find another job where you are appreciated and this past year will become a blink of an eye. A tiny particle of time in your life that allowed you to learn just how mean some people can be. They are not worth losing sleep over or becoming ill over. You are WAY more important than that. And THEY DON'T MATTER!!
Let this experience make you stronger. Learn that you don't have to take C R A P off of people that JUST DON'T MATTER.
What DOES MATTER is YOU!! DO what is best for you, ALWAYS!! And you'll be just fine.
--J

[Slw06]

thank you ladies for all of your help. i now have the urge to walk out rightnow lol. i'm the youngest person that works here i'm 19 and this whole corporation the company i work for is all over florida and some in louisianna and i think they think they can just boss me around beucase i'm so much younger then all of them. and i don't know as much as they do. its just stupid.o well. thanks for your help!

[gardenroses]

Places like that do tend to think “oh they are young and don’t know anything” and treat the younger like total ****. I’ve been there too.  I told the owner that I was going to put in my two weeks and he chewed me out for an hour about how I will never get anywhere in life and such. It was so bad to this day I can’t stand that man. You need to take all of your sick days if you have any and vacation day and put in your two weeks.  Tell your man this is something you have to do, and if he loves you he should understand there is something’s you have to do for your health.  Needless to say I didn’t even make my last two weeks I ended up in the hospital with ulcers and kidney infection.  You have to take care of your self before it takes you.  You can always get a job at a gas station or something like that until you find a job you want.
Good luck!

[Slw06]

yes thats how it is here i think if i were to put in my two weeks they would just tell me to leave anyway.  my husband understands but he doens't i dunno its confusing lol.  he just doesn't want to get totally short on money and not be able to pay bills and i understand that so i'm just gonna hang on until the end of jan. then take my weeks paid vacation and when i get back. look for another job.

[jojo24]

I had the same problem at my last job.  I worked at a call center with a bunch of people that I didn't fit in with and as crazy as it sounds, most of the women there hated me and there were so many rumors going around about me.  I hated going to that job because every day I would hear something different about me.  That's where I met my fiance by the way, he was a supervisor there and he used to tell me all of the things he heard about me (thank God he didn't believe any of them).  But I thought about going to the management and he basically told me that none of them cared and the only thing they were worried about was getting paid.  There was no responsibility, no organization, and some of the management were sleeping with their employees, and even the general manager was sleeping with the employees.  If you had a problem, no one took you seriously and the only way to get through to anyone was to talk to corporate, which was hard because no one had that number or address, the general manager wouldn't allow it.  I wanted everyone in there to pay for what they were doing, but that wasn't even possible.  The general manager eventually came under investigation for stealing petty cash and bolted.  I heard he was working as a general manager at another call center, which I couldn't believe.  I worked there for a year before I just couldn't take it any more and I left.  After a few months, my fiance left too, but it really opened my eyes to how shady people are, and how people abuse their power.  I'm really sorry about your situation, but as one of the above posters said, you really do have to tell yourself that it's not a problem with you, it's with them.  And you'll get through it.  And if you can get ahold of corporate, do it.  No one has to know it's you.

[Slw06]

well even tho i do work for a corporation everybody knows everybody i work for a glass business. there are only like 4 or 5 people that work in teh shops and there are installers but they aren't inshop . its just bad today was a better day i just ignored everybody its causing stress on my marriage to so i deff need to get out. thank you all so much for your help i appreciate it so much thanks ladies!