is there a chance of her being pregnent??? help

[thisguycalledtom]

Well me and my girlfriend had sex about a month ago. We had sex the day after her period was done. I used a condom, and she used spermicide. She used the type where it foams in her and creats like a "barrier". I checked the condom very often to make sure it didnt fall off. After we were done i checked for any rips and there were none. I pulled out of her before i came.
Her period was due this week, and shes on vacation. She is very stressed and sick about this, and shes constantly on the go where she is. She is considerd to be "late" so im really stressing out about this too.

What are the chances of her being pregnent? People that i talk to tell me to stop worrying. Its hard though, even when i go back and relize that its almost imposible. Please any help as soon as possible.  

[ThePrincess07]

I would think that because she is stressing it is causing her period to be late, and can even be the cause of her sickness. Since you used a condom and she used spermicide thats double protection which would make it harder for her to become pregnant. Just be patient and try to stop worryin and stressing. If you are still really concerned have her take a pregnancy test. Most test can tell you if your pregnant at least five days before your  missed period just use a well known and relieble one like ept...Best wishes on the outcome..
                                         Princess

[mayflowers]

I agree with Princess....her stressing is causing her period to be late.  Stress will do that.  You two also had sex on her on of the most unfertile days.  With all that protection plus her period just ending, I say the chance of pregnancy is slim to none.  Stop worrying!!!!!!!!!!

[monkeyflower]

I agree with the others. The chances of her being pregnant are less than her chances of winning the multi-million lottery from a ticket she found in the 7-11 parking lot, just before she was run over by a car as she was going in to the store to buy a slurpee to celebrate. Or whatever ludicrous situation you can think of :-) You can't get any more protected than what you describe and still actually have intercourse (well, you could incorporate the pill--which might not be a bad idea for her peace of mind). No way she's pregnant. Stress can delay ovulation, which can in turn delay her period.

I'm just guessing, but judging by the level of freakout for you both, this is either your first time or one of your first times having intercourse. I think you'd both benefit from learning more about pregnancy and how it occurs. It's not as easy as they'd like you to think. There are other factors involved, but two really important things to remember: in order for her to get pregnant, sperm actually has to get into the vagina--and the only way it's going to do that is if you ejaculate directly on her vulva or in her vagina. The other factor: she has to be ovulating at the time. :-)

[mayflowers]

Monkeyflower, you have a way with words!!!  Love the lottery ticket analogy!!!

[thisguycalledtom]

Thanks for all your help. People say dont stress about this, but its still hard u know? Im 18 and to yung for this kind of responibilty. Yesterday night she called me and told me that when she got out of the hot tub she noticed a drop of blood and later that day she noticed a couple more, and this put us both in a good mood. She called me this morning crying, and just plane scared becuase she hasnt gotten it yet. So when she gets back friday we are going to use a hpt and hope for the best. My mom said the hot top could of had a delayed it even more, soo.

[mayflowers]

hey tom, i know it's hard but try to relax.  I think the stress is causing her to to be late.  I've experienced exactly what you two are going through...and I would be so worried my period could be 1 month late!!! It happens and at 18 her body is still working out her cycle.  The fact that you had protected sex with a spermacide and not even on a fertile day is why I am confident that she is not pregnant.  I was going to suggest that she get a home pregnancy test just to ease her mind.  Both of you should try to relax....ok?????  

[thisguycalledtom]

We are haveing a really hard to relaxing about this. We used a pt a couple days ago and it was neg, but she still hasnt got it yet and yea, really stressed. To the point of no eat and sleep for me. i know its sad

[mayflowers]

I'm sorry tom, I know it's hard.   Me telling you to relax probably isn't helping too much either.  It's like when I'm worried abt something and people tell me to stop worrying, well it's just not that easy.  When I was young, I would miss my period sometimes (and yes I had sex but used condoms) and it was all due to stress.  Then I would get my period and be so happy I would jump for joy.  Our hormones can be affected by stress so much you wouldn't believe it.

The next thing you might want to check out is having her looked at by a doctor.  I am so sure she isn't pregnant but  if a dr. does an internal exam, he will be able to tell immediately.  That could ease her mind.    Please keep me posted on when she gets her period.  It's going to be ok, really I mean that.  Please keep me posted....I'm thinking of you both!  I will be praying for both of you!!!!

[mayflowers]

And please eat something, it's not good to deprive yourself of nutrition.  You need to eat to stay healthy!!!  Most of us have been where you are right now and we got through it ok.  You will too :o)