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large mons pubis?

I am 16 and i've noticed that the layer of fat on my mon pubis is alot larger than i'd like. It lowers my self esteem even though i don't have sex. i know that liposuction can get rid of excess fat down there, but i don't think thats really for me. are there any exercises or anything else that can reduce the size of my mons pubis? i'm not overweight or anything by the way
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I used to think that I had a large pubic bone and could not wear any type of pants without having a shirt long enough to cover it. But one day, I was reading this article about the posterior pelvic tilt and exercises on how to correct it. I thought, why not give it a try? It's free and I don't have to go under the knife, so I really had nothing to lose. After 10 days, I could see a noticeable difference! It seemed like my pelvic is shifting inwards, so the bulge is not as noticeable anymore. For the first time in my life, I was able to wear slacks with my shirt TUCKED IN! It was such a great feeling! Don't get me wrong, there still is a slight bulge there, but I hope a few weeks more of these exercises will make it normal again. I can't wait to see the results!
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Do you habe a link to these exercises
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This is helpful southern gentleman. Thank you. I am considering surgery for this hideous thing!
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Very helpful to hear your perspective because I am considering surgery
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A little more info I started noticing mine was wayyy bigger in my preteen years. It didnt bother me much, but now i have came to the conclusion thats why it is hard for me to achieve an orgasm from penetration. To much fat covering the clit.  I am otherwise confident with my body and Comfortable with my man!
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Not only am I embarrassed by my mound... I also feels it gets in the way sexually. I am a big girl 5'8  260. I am 33 and have never been able to get off on penetration alone! I always have to help myself along... My boyfriend thinks its hott. But I feel different. For reasons other than cosmetic. Mine is NOT bone. Mine is ALOT of fat ugh. When i try to take sexy pics n panties it looks as tho i have another type "package". I have also been considering surgery. Can anyone help wuth which one is best for my situation??
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I am not worried about being intimate I am more concerned about not being able to wear pants that don't show it or not able to wear maxi skirts.  I just bought a maxi dress online and almost cried because my mono pub pops out sooooo much.  I have no idea what to do
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ow and im 16 too, this is the legal age so im not worried and i think im ready, but there are some doubts mainly the one i mentioned before. help me :) haha if you can.
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i have the same problem as tash515 apart from mine isnt fleshy its boney. i am scared to get intimate incase for some reason it hurts i have done a lot of research and found nothing really. do you know anything about this? or does anyone else?
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I have always had this.

Its rather annoying!  It can cause alot of insecurity.

Many are right/ when they say/a man isnt going to
find you repulsive due to it. I would know.

Not once have I been degraded /judged/broken up w for it.

As u gain weight more weight/ (being it is already a more than extra padded area than normal) it will accumulate more fat.

I'm a dancer. Since I have not been dancing

I have gained more weight. This area was already larger thAn normL.

I would use a panty liner to keep it from notice. Somehow that workd great.

Yes u can decrease it the size. I would go walking here on the riverwalk. It will not get rid of it fully.

Surgery may be painful. I am debating on getting this done. Only because it causes an issue wearing fitting jeans

. I am 135 5'7 and only 19.

I know that if it is going to be a cost issue for others.


Remind yourself: this is a small unique flaw. It will not keep you from finding Mr.Right. Excercise does help. Walking and inner crunches.


I am
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im a 22 yr old woman whos had a large mons for.....as long as i can remember. iv been in a serious relationship for abt 2.5 years now and to be honest im still slightly embarassed by it. i try to hide it as much as possible. long tshirts, not so tight pants, etc. im a little pudgy so i get that to worry about as well however my boyfriend LOVES that i have a large mons. he says its gorgeous and he also says its better for sex. "it doesnt hurt like small ones." he claims its more cushion for the pushin lol even tho im self concious about it sonetimes he makes me feel normal and not embarassed to be naked infront if him. so ladies if u encounter someone who doesnt appreciate it or YOU for being you.....then thats not the guy u need in ur life. (and might i add none of my boyfriends have ever had a problem with it) i hope my story helps a little and gives you sime reassurance that there are people out there that love and appreciate you for you.
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One guy's opinion: There are certain aspects of your body you can control, and certain aspects you just can't. The size and shape of your bones or general body parts, along with how your body distributes fat, are both things that fall in the second category. Not trying to be crude at all, but the first thing that comes to my mind in finding a comparison is penis size: a lot of guys have spent a ridiculous amount of time worrying over something that just isn't fundamentally changeable. All that time and worry is essentially wasted effort, and preventing them from moving on to more fulfilling aspects of their life. I've seen liposuction mentioned on this forum (which my girlfriend pointed me to, by the way), but that doesn't really solve the underlying problem which is either bone structure or how your body distributes fat. Even if the liposuction works temporarily, the fat will just reaccumulate eventually, not to mention the pain of post-op.  

I would argue for two things: one, if you're overweight (you can calculate your BMI here: http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/) try exercise and dieting. Commonsense, and no pain or money involved.

Secondly, come to terms with your body for what it is. If I meet a girl who thinks my penis is too big or too small, and that's a dealbreaker for her, then we won't date. Simple as that. It's not something I can change and it's not a preference I can change in her, so it's fine---we just both move on. If you meet a guy who feels the same way about your mons (although I have NEVER heard a guy talk about some girl's mons...ever), then you won't date him. Simple as that. Could he possibly be a jerk about the way he expresses that? Sure! But that just makes him a jerk, it doesn't have anything to do with you. Generally speaking, the people who are ONLY interested in your physical attributes aren't ones you want to be dating anyway, but hey if it just happens to be a real turnoff for someone you were interested in, then oh well. It's something that's out of your control.

TL/DR: The sooner you can come to terms with your body for what it is, and accept the things you can and can't change, the happier you'll be. Easier said than done, I know, but there's no time like the present!
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I think it's all about confidence. I'm 23, had this little patch of heaven since I could remember, I began to be sexually active around 15 and at first I was very insecure and afraid people thought something was wrong with me. Once in high school when I wore small shorts someone thought I had a really big bush lol!!! Of course it was my mound but when ever I had sexual partners it didn't change anything at all! To have great sex you need confidence in yourself ;)
Having a mound is normal and those who are embaressed or ashamed, don't be<3 you're not alone :] Don't let the media fool you about what is "normal" and what is not. There is obviously a lot of us out there than you think, this forum kinda proves that  ^.^
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i have YET to meet any guy who was turned on by it! idk where there "men" are at.
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I am 54 andhave had this problem for 30 yrs. I absoltuely hate it. I have had only 1 partner who felt he had to say "hey you have a fat *****, I have been devastaed ever since and have not had sex for 7 yrs. because of this. It makes me very sad.I feel my sexual life is over and I am very devastated by this. I am in therapy also. Just wanted to say I am so glad to have found other women like myself, it makes me feel alittle better about it. Thanks.
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Ladies, let me reiterate the comments some other guys have made. I too find a large mons very attractive. In fact, most men do (however, most of us are ignorate of the anatomical name)  and therefore can't communicate our attraction. If I may be so bold, most women desire a healthy bust line because it is generally known men appreciate a healthy bust line. I believe if men could communicate their appreciation for a large mons pubis as "effectively" as they have for larger breast then you ladies wouldn't be so selfconcious of this beautiful part of the female anatomy. In fact I suspect some would be seeking "mons implants!".
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Well I'm 15 and first discover it when I was 14 I saw how weird it looked sticking outwards when I laid down at bed watching tv and quickly folded my legs so it wouldn't show. Later I forgot about it on and off until now......... Like 3 months ago I did research and found out it was a Mons Pubis and excercising wouldn't reduce it in anyway I felt really insecure still do at this point feel like a guy because it sticks out and saw how other vaginas are simply flat. Recently my friends invited me to go to the beach and one of my crush is going to be there and I can't simply go since I have a mon I don't look good in a bikini and I just soo wish I could go but it's so embarrassing and feel like I'm missing out. Any advice to boost my self esteem.      
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hey, i just wanna say thanks, ive been really self concious (btw, im only 12, but we r still self concious u no!!!) anyways, it helps me a lot to know that im not the only one out there :D thank you so much!!
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Hi, I can't believe im hearing all these forums.  I thought it was just me!  I feel you guys pain.  I told my boyfriend I dont like it and that when I have enuff $$ i'm goin to get it surgical off a bit.  He says no, he loves it!  He calls it his plumpy couchiee. LOL.  He says when he goes south he wants to be able to hold sumthing instead of hitting bone with lip. lmao!  *****, for fashion statement on me.  When i wear legging and look down i see my puffyness.  Ughhh.  So, irritating.  But my man loves it!!  
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I also have this condition. I am 22, have a nice curvy body, but I do get insecure when i wear my yoga pants or tight skirts cuz you can see the bump.

I have never had a lover or even known a man that said they prefer a "skinny" vag. In fact I had a great reaction from my most attractive lover. He said that he loved a "juicy" vag. So I guess it really is a thing that men like.

When having sex they prefer more cushion rather than rubbing against bone.

I know it is discouraging because we see all the little models in their bikinis but it actually is not as big of a deal as we think.

If you still have insecurities you can try control top undies, they are tighter so they will decrease it some.


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I know you say this is normal and also like you I have had a "mound" since I was twelve and my friend once pointed it out to me and I have been ashamed ever since I am at the age of 16 now and still suffer from the problem and I am starting to get more intimate with my boyfriend but I am scared to even let him touch my vagina because I am scared to what he will say
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I had not been so aware of it until this woman mentioned it, but then my sister whom I had not seen for a while was visiting and mentioned it to me.  I forgive her, but it was not in a very nice way.  In fact, it came across as if I was doing something I should not have been doing.  I am 42 and not as sexually active, just wanting to find someone who will be committed.  So, I don't like the idea of having casual sex.  I thought that must be the reason.  I thought, maybe I am not getting enough exercise down there.  After all, my sisters don't have that problem and I think it is because they are married and sometimes have sex very often.  

So, having read all of the previous entries, I realize that I am among a few who have this issue.  I don't want to call it a problem as someone else rightfully stated there are worse flaws to be concerned with.  So all I can do is hope that my future husband will appreciate it.  What else can I say?  God, please help us to appreciate ourselves and forgive those who make us feel bad about it.
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i have this mound ever since i can remember. every time i think about it i always thought that there is something wrong with me. it is embarrassing to wear any tight clothes or even jeans for that matter. thanks to this site now i know that there nothing wrong with having this mound. it will still bother me and it will take time for me to fully accept it but i know i will. :)
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From a guy's perspective, a large mound is EXTREMELY sexy.  Please all of you, don't fret, don't get surgery.  Some (many) men out there live for that sight so rare and beautiful.  Most women are not so lucky.
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I'm 16 and I've been so upset about mine for yearrrs! i thought it was normal until my sister pointed it out. i never payed much mind to it until i started to lose a lot of weight and it was still "fat". I've been so insecure about it but up until recently I've decided to research it & now that I know its completely normal & that its actually beneficial for when I do decide to be intimate in the far future, i honestly have no problem with it. I can actually look at it now ! Girls own it, cause its a gift! I'm 16, and I'm sick of listening to what society thinks is perfect, I love my body the way it is, and all of you should too because god blessed us with healthy beautiful ones, I'd rather have this then something worse like cancer! But anyways, embrace it !!!
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