need some help is this normal

[godbless usall]

i'm 46 years old and started menopause the last couple off years, there wasn't much at first, very stressful at first, knowing what was happening. my periods stopped know for a full year, thank god we say. but i rather have it all back and go through what i'm dealling with know,  last year when  i had my pap done it came back i had an infection, so they treated me with the cream. i had the infection every since. i just can't get read off it. my husband now dealing with cancer the last couple months, said i need to get this fixed.  so our sex life is not going the way it should, i though that it was suppose to get better after, you don't have that monthly to stop you, instead you are sore all the time.
i don't fell anything wrong it's mostly during sexually activity i fell the discomfort alot. so it kinda kills the mood.
is this normal. what can i do \

gobless us all

[oceans3]

what was the infection that you had? also, the fact that your husband has cancer combined with you going through menopause, is a very good reason for things to be lacking in the sexual department. i would give each other some time. you both are going through emotional baggage that needs to be dealt with first and then get to know each other again. 2 VERY stressful events right now. sex would be the LAST thing on my mind right now. it is with a normal life...LOL.......
seriously though, just be patient with each other. take it slow, no rush.

[AnnieBrooke]

One part of menopause is the thinning of the vaginal walls and the reduction of secretions.  This makes sex more painful if it is without some help in the lubrication department.  Also, have you checked with your doctor to see if anything about your husband's cancer or his cancer treatment would cause you to get the same kind of infection over and over?