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no orgasm through intercourse

Why have I never been able to reach orgasm by penetration(intercourse)?.I can only reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation. Is this something that can be fixed?
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i believe the % is very high of woman who cannot achieve orgasm through penetration. i am sure there are ladies out there who have some tricks up their sleeves of how it can be done like certain positions that help to stimulate the clitoris area during intercourse. the only success ive had was "pleasing myself" while (my husband) is inside of me. we have been together for 18 years and it has not happened as of yet by mere penetration. now that you mention it, i think id like some help too!
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Hello. Okay i have a trick for you to try, it may sound wierd, but it works for me. ( first i'd like to start with the fact that i'm on birth control, and have had the same partner my whole life. so i'm not worried about std's.) when we are having sex and he has climaxed. i hold him in me, threw it, and after, untill he is ready to go again. ( then i feel him in there, but he isn't moving. so its a big tease. ) it only takes my man about 2 mins to get excited again. I'll tell you, there is nothing as good feeling as him throbing and growing bigger. it makes me orgasm everytime. i believe it is the equivalent of the female orgasm. all that throbbing and contracting that men get to exsperience when we woman orgasm. it is amazing to feel your partner do the same, but where men feel the tight contractions, we feel the throbbing and growing of his penis.  AMAZING!!
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I have also heard that a large % of women do not orgasm through intercourse. I have no advice for you, unfortunately, but I thought I'd just reinforce that you aren't alone. I, along with some of my friends, don't orgasm through intercourse either - my husband always has to finish me off "by hand." I hope there's a "trick" revealed soon!
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When you find the answer, post it so we will all know!!!!
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thats all fine and dandy divagirl and i see what you are saying but i have a husband who "passes out" after the first time so any chances of going at it again are pretty slim. any other suggestions?
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Have you ever tried stimulating your clit yourself while he is doing you?  If you stimulate it while your doing it, say doggie style, you can have a free hand to rub your clit while he is pumping.  I really do not know many women who can orgasm just from "intercourse" although, if you have been trained to get off from masturbation alone, which most girls are, it is more difficult to unlearn reaching orgasm via the clitoris, versus just vaginally. Sometimes if you are too wet, you do not get the same amount of good stimulation in the vag, so you will need that extra assistance from your own hand.  Give it a whirl. The problem I have is that my husband comes sometimes before me, which can throw off my "O" because I am so worried about him pulling out in time.
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yes, i do that (your suggestion) and can have an "o" if i do it myself. however, it would be nice if my hub bub could do it for me while we have sex (w/out any manual stimulation). i worry too about him pulling out in time and he usually has an "o" first but sometimes if he is in me and is still i can do the "job" and can both have an "o" at the same time. usually i just snap my fingers and he has one. woman are different. we have to work at it more. thanx for the advice.
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Hi I am definitely in the majority (I find it almost impossible to have an O during penetration).  The two times I was able to do it was when I was on top and decided to not care about him.  I am a really nice person and not at all a dominatrix so I feel a little guilty but it worked.  Ofcourse both times were years apart the last time being a few months ago.  I ofcourse always do with stimulation but it really did feel quite different (and somehow more satisfying) when he was still inside me.  I guess my natural reaction to my partner is that I put too much pressure on me to please him and women generally are so caring - try not to is my advice.  Don't even think about him but only you and do all that makes YOU comfortable.  Arch your back, moan grab him do whatever makes you comfortable - at least that's what worked for me both times.  

This is the first time I really explored why I did it then and not again so I think I'll be taking my own advice.  Hope this helps.

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I realized this one on accident.  I had needed to pee before we were gonna have sex, but didn't bother to first.  My bladder was not completely full but full enough to create extra pressure while he was inside of me.  It really did the trick.  So now if I plan on having sex, I try to drink a lot before hand so my bladder is fuller and ready to go. :)  You might try that.  I wouldn't suggest it for anyone with a weak bladder though, I'm not sure what might happen then.lol
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i recommend you try what women from africa do,particulary ugandan, called the senga. they apply herbal medicine on their clit and it grows bigger so when they are stimulated through penetration, the penis rubs agains the clit and the woman and the man climaxes. Now, thats complete sex. Not the woman masturbating while the man is trying his all to satisfy the woman. Its very depressing. Most men get deppressed with that. I experienced it too. Its like playing guitar to an audience who preffer to put on their ipods. Many would feel inadequate and walk out of the stage to look for new fans who might enjoy the show fully. Im sorry to say this but women are freaks and they are not diffrent from gay men. Sorry. Why im i concerned? Im just a man. Im complete in everyway. Thanks to nature.
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Rocketlauncher! Has someone rattled your cage?  You've only come to this thread to try and stir things up! Go and read something else! Its you and many other men who are the freaks, NOT the women! Women CAN orgasm through intercourse whether you like it or not! If the woman is really attracted to the man, if its a good relationship, if its the right man, if he's caring and willingly enough to turn her on PROPERLY, if he holds her in the right position, She WILL orgasm!
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As a man I get distracted by trying to please her. Believe It or not. But what I say is ignore me. Do what feels good to you ! That's the great thing about being a man. Whatever feels good for you does for me also. My girls is like all of you and needs a hand or "bullet" vibrator. Id say don't feel guilty tuning him out and concentrating on you. I love watching her let go and use me. Great deal of trust there. Its sexy as hell watching her. I'll get mine one way or another.
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