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omg i just found out my husband is cheating
im sorry this has nothing to do with this forum, i just needed some support. my husband and i have been married for 3 years, and we have a 2 year old and for the last month weve been having a tough time. he tells me today he has been cheating on me with a woman for a month now, and shes pregnant. i am so hurt i dont even know what to say to him. he says he loves and she loves him. and the hard part is i might be pregnant. i feel so alone. i dont know how im going to handle a baby and my son, and i go to school fulltime by myself.i decided to move out whether im pregnant or not. godd, i just hate him right now. i just never thought this could happen to me. thanx for listening.
I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR SITUATUION. MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU. I AM IN THE VERY SAME SITUATION EXEPT FOR I AM NOT PREGNANT.PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK.
Im so sorry to hear what this man has done to you! I dont know whats wrong with people! I felt so angry when I read it but didnt know what to say everyone seemed to say things better than they sounded in my head. You seem like a tough woman and maybe this will make u stronger. At least u know what hes like, I dont want to say I hope ur not pregnant cos it wouldnt of been the kids fault and Im sure u would love him/her no matter what. It would be tough but if u can handle this Im sure ud be tough enough to handle a lil one.
I agree with the papers etc didnt think of that actually a very good idea. I hope all works out well for you, and sorry once again, o men can be such PIGS!
I agree with the papers etc didnt think of that actually a very good idea. I hope all works out well for you, and sorry once again, o men can be such PIGS!
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I posted above (posting called "Something charming from the net") because a friend floated it to me today and it made me think of you, and of silvee (who is pretty sure her relationship is over after a TON of trauma including stillborn twins). I hope it gives you some good ideas and a little peace of mind. Am thinking of you and SO glad you are washing that awful man out of your life. You can make it! Annie
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Let me add, I wasn't strong enough in addressing my true feelings about your so-called man. He is a disgusting, foul excuse for a human being, and you are SO WELL RID OF HIM!!!!! Be fast, be legally astute, do all the things the ladies said including the STD testing and copying the important documents, and then SERVE HIM FIRST with papers and child-support stuff and GET HIM OUT OF YOUR HOUSE by force of law if necessary... Protective orders, eviction notices and sheriffs are your friends; just ask your lawyer what you can do. The sleazy worm has forfeited all his rights to be treated like a human being. You can do it, and you will take back your power by doing it. GOOD LUCK!!! Annie
A few practical tips. Get copies of all yours/his finacial records. Hide them somewhere safe. Take what ever items are in the house that are special to you and your son and also move them somewhere safe. See an attorney, or a public defender if you can't afford one. Don't wait to act.
I second the getting tested for STD's.
Mostly, being a single mom is tough, but, it will make you one very strong and independant woman. There are programs out there to help keep you in school, pay for daycare etc. When your resovlve weakens, look at your son and think of what is best for him. It will give you unbelievable strength to carry on.
Peace.
I second the getting tested for STD's.
Mostly, being a single mom is tough, but, it will make you one very strong and independant woman. There are programs out there to help keep you in school, pay for daycare etc. When your resovlve weakens, look at your son and think of what is best for him. It will give you unbelievable strength to carry on.
Peace.
It's one thing to cheat but another to get this woman pregnant. Pregnancy is the nicest thing he could've done because if he is having unprotected sex with this woman than he could be bringing home STD's. First thing I would do is run to the gyn and get tested for everything. I really feel for you, it's such a betrayel. The trust is gone and the fact that he can start a family with another woman is insane. He has no shame. I really hope for your sake that you aren't pregnant because it's hard as is having one child with this man but having two. Especially having to go through this pregnancy along with this other woman as well. I think the only thing you can do is try to move on from him. I think it's gone far beyond repairable. If he did it this one time he will do it again. Let him be this other woman's burden, she will see that she is not special at all when he turns around and does it back to her. Her p-ssy is not made of gold, he can cheat on her just as easily as he cheated on you. He doesn't even hold marriage and a child sacred, why would she think that she would be any different. Be strong and know that you are better than this. Good luck, keep us posted.
I am so sorry! That is awful news...and really bad to go through while pregnant.
Some advice?--Tell him NOW that you are pregnant. If you decide to tell him later, there's a higher chance that he will deny the baby and you'll have do paternity tests or something.
I'm sorry. Hang in there.
Some advice?--Tell him NOW that you are pregnant. If you decide to tell him later, there's a higher chance that he will deny the baby and you'll have do paternity tests or something.
I'm sorry. Hang in there.
you go girl! be strong! i know i'd be dying inside and throwing up on the outside!
you're stronger than most. here's an award for you............!!
you're stronger than most. here's an award for you............!!
no he doesnt know i might be pregnant. i mean he might know, we were having unportected sex. and he is claiming he doesnt know if it is his or not. i dont know and i dont really care, im going to do what i have to do. thanks for support
is the woman baby your husbands? it may not even be his? if she is cheating w. a married man, who knows where her stinky, dirty you know what has been?
also, is he saying he wants out? he's done? or was he just filling you in on this bit of information over dinner?
find out first if you even are pregnant because you may not be. i wouldnt say anything about that (unless you did already) because it looks like you are tryng to keep him/trap him and i KNOW you arent doing that! he's dirty, he's tainted. tell him dont let the door hit him on the way out and you dont want him in you and your sons life being a liar and a cheat. you dont allow it in your life/home and near your child. you wait, he'll be begging to come back after a few months of being with that other ho. he'll see the grass isnt always greener, he'll see the novelty has worn off, no more sneaking around, no more excitement, no more anticipation of phone calls or meetings. daily life starts to take hold...laundry, BILLS, kids, support.. this will never last between them either way. if HE does stay with her, the trust factor will go down the drain. she will wonder at times if HE is cheating on her? why not? he did it to he so why not with someone else? it will be over sooner than they think. she will leave him because she cannot trust him or he will leave her because he is sick of being nagged.
when the poop head is begging to come back to you and your son and how crying how he made a mistake, he loves you, you can tell him he made his bed now go lay in it...ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
also, is he saying he wants out? he's done? or was he just filling you in on this bit of information over dinner?
find out first if you even are pregnant because you may not be. i wouldnt say anything about that (unless you did already) because it looks like you are tryng to keep him/trap him and i KNOW you arent doing that! he's dirty, he's tainted. tell him dont let the door hit him on the way out and you dont want him in you and your sons life being a liar and a cheat. you dont allow it in your life/home and near your child. you wait, he'll be begging to come back after a few months of being with that other ho. he'll see the grass isnt always greener, he'll see the novelty has worn off, no more sneaking around, no more excitement, no more anticipation of phone calls or meetings. daily life starts to take hold...laundry, BILLS, kids, support.. this will never last between them either way. if HE does stay with her, the trust factor will go down the drain. she will wonder at times if HE is cheating on her? why not? he did it to he so why not with someone else? it will be over sooner than they think. she will leave him because she cannot trust him or he will leave her because he is sick of being nagged.
when the poop head is begging to come back to you and your son and how crying how he made a mistake, he loves you, you can tell him he made his bed now go lay in it...ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thank you guys so much. im taking a pregnancy test in the morning, and now i dont even know if ill be excited if i am pregnant. ( i am about 10 days late). u guys are right, im putting my faith god and i know he will help me through this. but i am leaving pregnant or not. thank you all so much for your support, and ill post tomorrow with pregnancy updat. thank you again
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A dear friend of mine is very amazing; his faith really is his shield, he is calm in the face of catastrophe because of his faith, and it pulls him through all the time. Something always turns up. I agree with these other posters; if you can find the faith, do go there and put your trust there. Even with kids in the picture, being married to a cheating man is worse than not being married; it erodes your soul, and then what is left for you or especially your kids? You deserve a person who will make you #1 in his life, not a liar who treats you as someone who is not special. What a jerk!!! See an attorney tomorrow, sweetheart, and see what you can do to throw him out. (((HUGS))) at this most difficult time, Annie
I am so sorry to hear that. That is a horrible thing for him to have done that to you and your son. I can't even begin to understand seeing that I am so lucky that my husband is a good man (well, so far he has been), but if he were to ever cheat on me I would just die. And for him to get another woman pregnant is what disgusts me. I would hate him too. It is going to be really hard for you to leave him, but you can do it. Be strong. There is someone better out there that will treat you good and not ever think to cheat on his wife and family. I will keep you in my prayers. Trust God...he will always be there for you! Don't ever feel bad about putting something like this in this forum..that is what us women are here for!
Lilypad12, I am so sorry this is happening to you. It's never easy to learn that your mate is having an affair, but to know that he has gotten that woman pregnant is a real hard thing to accept. If I could shoulder your pain, I would. Seriously because my husband cheated on me, too. That was about five or six years ago, and I still beat up on myself for staying with him. Yet I did because I felt like I didn't have anywhere else to go or no one else to turn to. I was dependent on him, and that was my biggest mistake. Lilypad12, it's going to be hard. Hard to leave. Hard to raise your kids all alone. Hard to be alone when you've dedicated your life to this person out of love. Yet, this is life's way of giving you a lesson, Lilypad12. God never puts on us more than we can handle. Pray for guidance. Pray that you will make sound decisions, Lilypad12. Then once you pray, you leave it there with God. No need in praying if you going to worry. No need to worry if you going to pray. Sometimes we have to surrender, Lilypad12, and let God put things in order for us. Whatever you do, take your time and think things out with a clear head. Don't make a decision that you'll regret for the rest of your life. You deserve to be happy, and you can be happy with you and your child alone. Never let a man or anyone define who you are.
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