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orgasm question!

Ok - my girlfriend and I are having a discussion. She seems to think that she's experience what she calls 4 orgasms in a row... although she denies any clitoral involvement. I on the other hand can only orgasm with clitoral stimualation, and have NEVER experienced more than 1 orgasm at a time, as I am soooo sensitive after my orgasm. What is the deal with female orgasms? Are there different levels.... variations...?? Any help to answer our questions would be great!
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I would consider that a multiple,usually what happens to me is I get more clitoral orgasms, than vaginal, usually the vaginal comes after a few clitoral,you will know when you get a vaginal orgasm, They are more of a stronger feeling,than clitoral, you will be on top of the world after one of them lol, I mean its more of a slower and long lasting feeling than a quick feeling of clitoral, by the sound of things your man knows what he is doing, have fun and enjoy. Sandy. Just to let you know I usually have orgasms right after each other , usually 2-4 within 10 mins, then I get the vaginal near the end. Once you get a vaginal orgasm, you will want more.
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You are such a brat! You lucky girl!

(hehehehee)

I get clitoral ones...but ever so often i can get both. Yes I am super sensitive afterwards...but my lover is very large in that department so i think he simuates the gspot and allows for more shortly to follow...but i think i rarely have multiples. I dont know the exact meaning of a multiple honestly.

For me a multiple is being able to orgasm twice+ within 10 minutes.

Is that a multiple? Or is it when you have like one orgasm and then another within seconds?

Do tell....
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All orgasms are different for everyone, I can have both clitoral and vaginal , I believe it is up to both of you ,I never had orgasms in earlier relationships, but with husband of 20 years I still get multiple orgasms 2-6 in a short period of time ,both types are great. It depends on how you know each other and love each other, the stronger the love the better.(my opinion)
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I am 59 years old and can still have very intense orgasms with contractions. I can have C, G, and V spot gasms.
In fact, I have been having orgasms since I was 10 years old when some of my friends started masturbating.  
Have never tried A spot; heard it was fabulous; however, it is not my thing.  I am horney all the time; and must get relief at least 3 times a week. In remote spas in the Alps, wealthy older women can get messaged to orgasm; that has been a fantasy of mine. My hub keeps promising it as a gift. My 50 year old hub needs intercourse once a week. Whoever says older women have no libido has not met my younger hubby and me. I have heard women can have orgasms in their late 80s and beyond; basically all their lives; and for many women; sex and orgasm get better with age.
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I never have orgasm during the intercourse or oral.  When my boyfriend gave me oral i was so wet but can't reach a climax even intercourse.  I really dont know why.  Even when we did it so long still didnt get it.  My boyfriend tried so hard to please me but i still didnt come. Can anyone help me?  
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Could a bladder suspension repair cause a woman the inability to have a orgasm?  I had them before now nothing.  I am not have any pain.
Jan
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Hey everyone i came across this article and it gives me some hope. im 18 and i have tried everything possible to have an orgasm but I have never experienced one . me and my boyfriend have great sex and i get really into it cause i like pleasing him but unfortaintly i dont get any pleasure out of it ..what is wrong??
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Maybe you have found the right person but he just has no idea what you like.  You need to show him how you want to be pleased.  For me I can have a orgasm by myself with no complaints what so ever.  Evem\n still with my friend there is still no comlaints.  Have you tried every single position there is to do.  Maybe there is a different surrounding that can help also.
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i have noooo pleasure what so ever when it comes to a vaginal orgasam. clitoral yes, but that is all that i can get. not even a vibrator does it for me, atleast not one that costs 100 dollars or more. i can be turned on and wanting it but get nothing. how can i change this without surgery or something??
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CFP
I CANNOT GET AN ORGASAM THROUGH INTERCOURSE,ONLY ORALY.
I GET SO DISGUSTED ALL THE TIME.
ARE THERE ANY PRESCRIPTION DRUGS OR VTAMINS OUT THERE THAT CAN HELP ME. I'M A 48 YEAR OLD FEMALE.
THANKS
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i just wanted to say i disagree with somthing chu chu said, "if you love the guy than youll orgasam" that may not be the case what maybe she ment is that if you very comfortable with that person it is more likely however you can love someone to death and they may not be skill in the technique it which it takes to get you off. in that case a free flow of communicating your needs to your partner is key. happy orgasaming..oh and i first discoverd how to orgasm by getting myself a vibrator. then practising the manual way. recommended 1st vibrator: mini massager, works well and doesnt look intrusive,
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Your advice sounds reasonable. I figure at this point I'm just incapable of having them. :/ Stimulating the area down there feels great, but I just can't reach a climax. I only break down in tears in private every now and again. I just try not to think about it.
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raven... Orgasms are all physcological. If your into it (mentally) or you love the guy then you'll orgasm. Maybe you haven't found the right one... If you have then try to think about him/her and your feelings towards that person during sex, that might work...works for me! :-)
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everybody is different when it come to having an orgasm-----I seem to have really good intense ones-----now sometimes we have to work at it a little bit---but ------NO COMPLAINTS-----i think some of the issue if you can not have one or more than one is maybe nervous, scared,anxcious, a lot could play an important role in it.........
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I've had orgasm(s) during intercourse only once -- with an intense one-night stand with old boyfriend of sorts... but can't stimulate myself manually to one and it seems strange. Feel like I have no clitoris, or that I'm unable to somehow click with it. Masturbate on one side using fantasy and muscles to contract and rub... a little strange as well but something I started as a young child and haven't been able to progress from.

Shouldn't everyone be able to achieve a clitoral orgasm manually?
Todo
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No orgasm with a partner or by myself.
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I have to say I'm a bit jealous. I'm in my mid 30s and haven't had an orgasm yet.
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do you mean no orgasm with a partner but you can yourself? or either way no orgasm? the majority of woman do not experience one during penetration since "other areas" need direct stimulation.
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Thanks for your comments ladies! Apparently I am in the 80% and she is in the 20% - needless to say we both end our playtime with an orgasm!
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Fortunately, I am in the 20% and yes, this has happened to me on many occasions.  I have always been told there were two types of orgasms, clitoral and vaginal.  I prefer vaginal because the clitoral does leave you so sensitive afterward.  Honestly though, this is something that my DH and I worked toward together to achieve and it's definitely worth it when you figure it out ;-).

Pam
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Yes, every woman's orgasm is different.  Some women experience earth-shattering orgasms and other experience soft wave like orgasms.  Some need clitoral stimulation, some don't.  To each his own, but hey, if you're having orgasms at all, more power to you!  I wish I could have multiple earth-shattering orgasms, but it's just not in the cards.  I'm also in that 80% that need clitoral stimulation, so don't feel like you're alone.
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I have heard that only about 20% of women can have an orgasm without clitoral stimulation.  I am in the other 80% that needs it and I am like you very sensitive afterwards.  Women can go into multiple orgams one after another.  But everyone is different.
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