orgasm troubles :(

[Jstine2388]

I usually have no problem reaching orgasm through clitoral stimulation during masturbation. But now I have a boyfriend and he can't get me to orgasm. He's tried so many different things and is now so frustrated that he can't do it for me. Don't get me wrong, everything he does feels so amazing, I just can't reach orgasm. Today he told me he no longer feels like a man because he can't get me to orgasm. I feel so bad :( What could be some reasons why I can't orgasm with him? It's so frustrating...

[Amie635]

Lots of women find it difficult at times to reach orgasm, it is more common that people realise. Many find it easy with one partner, yet impossible with another. It may be that you do infact need a toy to help you reach that place. A bullet is very good for clitoral stimulation during sex as its small enough to reach that area without making having sex at the same time difficult. You just have to do certain positions which make reaching that area with the toy easier. There are also vibrating toys which come with condoms which are designed to stimulate that area. It may just take time for him to master what you really like and some couples go a long time before the woman is actually able to reach orgasm. Just reassure him for now and buy a toy like the bullet to help you out

[Jstine2388]

I have no problem getting myself off... but i just dont know what to do with him. i have constant stress in my life and im dealing with depression as well. Is there a trick to all this? Is there a toy or anything that can help you reach orgasm?

[Capriciousangel31]

I had the same issue for the longest time... I can only orgasm during sex if I am on top, or if I use a vibrator first to get my self off...it took my now hubby almost a year of us being together before he got me to orgasm... it has something to do with us stressing to much about and not being able to fully relax and of course there are women who only get off by simulating the clit which is easier for us to do if we are on top