I too have a rectocele. My problem is that I have become incontinant of stool during orgasm. I recently started giving myself an enema before sex to prevent this embarrasing problem. I have been happily married for six years, but no one wants to be "poo'd" on. I plan to have surgery soon.
i too was told my rectocele didnt warrant surgery i had loss of feeling as i live in uk this was under national health service so i paid private the doc sent me for a defecating proctogram i suffered terrible with my bowels as well when they operated it was a large rectocele and needed repairing get 2nd oppinion my doc says you cant really tell with a womans pelvic floor im currently waiting for my 3rd op ask your doc to give you balloon expultion test mammontery studies to check pressure and sensation they cant tell otherwise they tried to tell me for 18 months it was ibs you know your body tell them its not right insist you have to take matters into your own hands i really hope this helps from prolapsed
I am just guessing that it may be from the anxiety that you may have about the rectocele, or maybe it is a little painful. Sorry I couldn't be more of a help.