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painful sex - why?
I'm worried that I have contracted STDs 9 weeks ago. Im mostly concerned about Genital Herpes. I had a bloodtest done on the 6th week - the result came back negative. Perhaps it was too early for the antibody to be detected. Anyways Im repeating the test again.
One of my symptoms is painful sex. I get sore down there after sex. It used to be that way - I used to experience soreness and cuts after sex. I dont see any blisters, sores or lesions that would indicate Genital Herpes. I used to get cuts and redness on the posterior fourchette (the bottom area of my vaginal opening where the skin tags are located)
I seriously do not understand why Im experiencing painful sex. Its nothing unbearable - it sore, it stings when I urinate (the stinging while urinating goes away) it burns at times - they are mild and nothing unbearable. Ill describe the whole thing as GENITAL DISCOMFORT.
Dryness - I do not think is the issue. Im in my early 20s and far from menopause. My pap smear came back negative - my doctor did a pelvic exam and she said there are no signs of HPV - Genital warts to be precise. My doctor also says that it doesnt sound like Herpes which was supported by the negative blood test - like I said it could have been to early.
I do not know whats causing the pain and what to do to make it go away. Its really upsetting emotionally, physically and mentally - its just distressing.
I dont know why I did it, but I started putting this cream onto my vagina - its the cream I used when i had a yeast infection. I do not know if its working but i do feel less stinging.
One of my symptoms is painful sex. I get sore down there after sex. It used to be that way - I used to experience soreness and cuts after sex. I dont see any blisters, sores or lesions that would indicate Genital Herpes. I used to get cuts and redness on the posterior fourchette (the bottom area of my vaginal opening where the skin tags are located)
I seriously do not understand why Im experiencing painful sex. Its nothing unbearable - it sore, it stings when I urinate (the stinging while urinating goes away) it burns at times - they are mild and nothing unbearable. Ill describe the whole thing as GENITAL DISCOMFORT.
Dryness - I do not think is the issue. Im in my early 20s and far from menopause. My pap smear came back negative - my doctor did a pelvic exam and she said there are no signs of HPV - Genital warts to be precise. My doctor also says that it doesnt sound like Herpes which was supported by the negative blood test - like I said it could have been to early.
I do not know whats causing the pain and what to do to make it go away. Its really upsetting emotionally, physically and mentally - its just distressing.
I dont know why I did it, but I started putting this cream onto my vagina - its the cream I used when i had a yeast infection. I do not know if its working but i do feel less stinging.
Yesterday I had sex past the point where it was painful. The man that I with has a very high libido and he wants to have sex over and over again. At a certain point I started to get really sore. I should have stopped but I didn't because I was still enjoying our contact. Afterward I was very sore and itchy all day. I woke up this morning and I am still swollen, sore and itchy. I have been using ice and it is helpful. I don't think that I have an infection. Is there any over the counter cream I can use? Is there something I can use besides ice for vaginal pain relif? Thanks in advance for you advice.
I don't know if this is your case, but in my experiance if I go a long time without sex, I get very sore even after just a few moments of sex. I discovered this being married to a military man who is gone for extended periods =O Sad... you finally see each other again, have sex for 2 seconds, and then are very sore for like a week. And I mean too sore for sex, burning urination, etc. I joke that it shrinks while he is gone ;P
First off, sorry to hear that your hubby has to be away for so long. I guess that comes with the position he is in. You must be so proud of him! I am from Canada and I don't have any idea how you or ANYONE from the US would feel to have someone in the military/navy. I give you all my love for standing up for your country!
About the shrinking thing. I find that I shrink even after a week of not having sex with my husband. I think that is can be quite common, I know a few of friends have that too where they feel like they are a virgin again down there because they are so small again. It sucks huh! I suck it up sometimes and even though it hurts from the night before, if the mood strikes, I am willing to go for it! Ha!
CYA.
About the shrinking thing. I find that I shrink even after a week of not having sex with my husband. I think that is can be quite common, I know a few of friends have that too where they feel like they are a virgin again down there because they are so small again. It sucks huh! I suck it up sometimes and even though it hurts from the night before, if the mood strikes, I am willing to go for it! Ha!
CYA.
it sucks that it "shrinks" FOR US - it doesnt suck for our men!! I love being a woman but it sure upsetting how we are much more complicated -genitalia wise and among many other things in comparison to males.
im kind of laughing because i thought the SAME thing before i read your post. men like the view. plain and simple and can get in there deeper. when i have tried this particular position, i have dipped my belly down and yes, face burried in the pillow. im starting to feel sorry for us. i do just tell my husband lets try a different position cuz i dont like it.
The reason it's uncomfortable is because it's bumping your cervix. Changing the angle will probably help - you could lie flat on your stomach, or put your chest on the bed while you're on your knees, etc.
they enjoy is because they can see your behind and they enjoy seeing and FEELING you behind slap against their pelvis. Doggystyle also allows for deeper penetration - thats why they enjoy is so much.
I have experienced pain after sex also. It would hurt to urinate after, which I do everytime to prevent a yeast infection. (My sister taught me that and I have never had an infection) The pain would be excruciating for a while after but when I would wake up in the morning the pain would be gone. Don't fret it. It is normal. I would have to agree that it has to do with being too dry. It might feel wet once he's in but it still can be dry on the outside and that is where the pain can mostly be afterwards. I would recommend the KY also.
I have had problems during sex also. I get a sharp pain, almost as if something were being forced inside of me and cutting me. I went to the doctor because I thought maybe it was PID and they said that it is nothing physical, but possibly mental, he recommended I get a book on sex "joy of sex" to help ease my mind. My background "I was raped twice so mentally I can't let go of that when having sex... aparently I just need to relax" I am now pregnant and horny, which is nice because it seems to make me forget that its painful just because I want it so bad. =)
Hope that helps. Take Care.
Hope that helps. Take Care.
Go to the STD forums, and look in the archives for similar questions. There is a doctor there, and it only costs $10 if you want to ask a new question, but searching the archives is free. I know he has said in the past about how long it takes to get a positive herpes test, and I THINK he said 3 months. You must be sure you have the proper type of test--HerpeSelect by Focus technologies is one of only 2 or 3 he says are accurate. He says a lot of docs and labs still use the older tests.
If you are sure, you can call and ask if you had the HerpeSelect test. Look at the archives to see what other tests he said were the accurate ones. In any event, I believe (but again, search the archives) that he said it could take 3 months to get a positive result if you did indeed get HSV 2 genitally.
If you are sure, you can call and ask if you had the HerpeSelect test. Look at the archives to see what other tests he said were the accurate ones. In any event, I believe (but again, search the archives) that he said it could take 3 months to get a positive result if you did indeed get HSV 2 genitally.
I have experienced pain after sex also. It would hurt to urinate after, which I do everytime to prevent a yeast infection. (My sister taught me that and I have never had an infection) The pain would be excruciating for a while after but when I would wake up in the morning the pain would be gone. Don't fret it. It is normal. I would have to agree that it has to do with being too dry. It might feel wet once he's in but it still can be dry on the outside and that is where the pain can mostly be afterwards. I would recommend the KY also.
I agree additional lube sure never hurt anyone. I'm almost positive the cuts aren't from herpes, because it sounds like you only get them after sex. My guess would be a yeast infection, especially since the cream's helping, so I'd go ahead and do the full OTC treatment. Still, I think you need to see your doctor to be sure since it could be due to other skin and/or hormonal conditions as well.
when I first became sexually active sex was painful so I went to the doctor and they said my uterus was tilted so they told me to try different postions I find being on top or him on top with a pillow under your bottom helps if this is your problem. Penice size can also be a factor
Sorry to chnge the topic from your question -
I agree with different positions feeling better than others. I feel very uncomfortable doggy style. It points the penis to your back instead of to your front and can be very painful. But VERY pleasing to the man. My husband always picks that position if I ask him what position he would like to do.
I agree with different positions feeling better than others. I feel very uncomfortable doggy style. It points the penis to your back instead of to your front and can be very painful. But VERY pleasing to the man. My husband always picks that position if I ask him what position he would like to do.
i dont know why but that is the position that hurts me the most?? its almost as if his penis "hits" something in there and i kind of jolt. i just dont like that one. what is "it" hitting/touching?
I am not sure what it is hitting but sometimes I find that position unbearable but i don't move because my husband enjoys it so much. I bury my head in the pillow sometimes. I think that men enjoy it because it puts a bit of resistance on their penis and so it strokes them harder. It sucks that it's painful for us though! I am glad i am not the only one it is uncomfortable for! thanks kjsk!
I had the same problem before, pain after sex and it would hurt to pee. I told my gyno and the doc said it was probably from dryness which I did not have a problem with , Doc suggested to drink lots of water.
I used the monistat cream to, the stuff that comes in the little tube, It helped to subside the pain.
I used the monistat cream to, the stuff that comes in the little tube, It helped to subside the pain.
ok, I had a problem with pain during sex and come to find out that if I am not turned on then I get the pain. What happens is, your cervix gets higher the more turned on you get and when you arent't the penis hitting the cervix may cause pain...HTH
i know you said you dont think its from dryness, but thats what i think. i had the same problems. i tried ky and my problems dissapeared.like i said thats just what i think.wont hurt to try
i dont know if you have scanned the topics on this forum or not but if you do, there are a number of posts concerning vaginal cuts. read them and see if you can relate. good luck.
Aren't dr;s just great. Why go thru all that school if they can't help LOL!!!!!!!!!! Maybe it is just a yeast infection or a UTI. Sorry your dr was no help and you just gotta love the it is all in your head part. If it is all in your head why does it hurt down below when having sex LOL!!!!!! Try some lube next time and see if it helps. Good Luck to u.
I have seen a doctor - one of them said it was just in my head - high anxiety - i never knew "high anxiety" can cause physical cuts. My gynecologist says its rough sex if not lack of lubrication.
I just wanted to see if there were similar experiences.
I just wanted to see if there were similar experiences.
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