pelvic bone protruding?

[oh i dunno]

when i started discovering my body as a young girl, i realized something different from everyone elses. my vagina looks really bony. when i lay down flat, my pelvic bone is protruding out. even standing up, i can see a big bump. more than normal from what i have seen. i have been told by friends "oh you have big vagina" and it really bothers me. i am embarrassed to be intimate. i did research but didnt come across anything. i'm 25 now and am still embarrassed to go to a doctor. i dont know what the problem really is. i used to crack my lower back, i dont know if that would do anything to it? but i dont feel any pain or anything. just physically, its very different, bony, and embarrassing from what i see. i've been told by several family members " are you wearing a pad" because its that noticeable. i know that if it was from birth, my mom would notice. because now they tell me things like you have fat, big, vagina. i really need to do something about it, but need to know what? and need to know what the problem really is and what may have caused it? and what kind of doctor i should see. and how i should explain it. please answer my questions asap. i cant take it anymore, and i find it embarrassing to share it w/ anyone else. im so glad i found your site, after many years of suffering.

[AnnieBrooke]

There is a Wikipedia entry with a side photo of a woman's mon pubis, at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mons_pubis.  If this is what you are talking about (because a "vagina" is inside you, your friends couldn't see it, in other words, they are mis-using the term), you might just have a slightly differently shaped pelvis, which has put your mons pubis more toward the front.  There are so many different shapes to the human body that it is probably nothing.  Try not to be discouraged! :)  As for what kind of a doctor to talk to about it, start with an ob-gyn.  They have seen so many women's pelvic regions that it really wouldn't surprise them if you had a clown face tattooed on it.  Explain your concern that your pubic bone seems to be jutting forward noticeably, and ask if you should possibly see someone about it, either because it scares you as maybe being abnormal or because you want to check the shape for future childbearing.  I suppose if there was something really unusual about it, they might refer you to a bone doc if they thought the problem was the underlying skeleton and not just a fatty pad under the skin.  As far as being intimate is concerned, believe me, men are pretty enthusiastic about the sight of a naked woman, and don't give a darn about things we obsess with every single day.  Please write back after you look at the Wikipedia entry and let me know if I am understanding your concerns correctly.  Annie

[oh i dunno]

thanks for the comment annie, i appreciate it.
yeah maybe i didnt use the correct word. but umm yeah that is the area that im talking about. but its not the soft, fleshy part. its actually the bone in that area.

[oh i dunno]

thanks for your comment annie, i really appreciate it.
well maybe when i said vagina i didnt really use the right word. i guess i should've said pelvis or something to not to confuse. but umm thats the area im talking about. but its the bone beneath that area that is bothering me.

[AnnieBrooke]

OK, so you go to the ob-gyn, and say, "I get the comment every now and then that my pubic bone sticks out unusually far.  Is this true, and if you think so, what concerns should I have about it?" (i.e., how normal is it, is there any issue for childbirth, can something be done to reduce the shape and should it be?)

I was also thinking about your situation and realized that a lot of the reason many of us don't get that comment is that we have fat tummies between our navels and our pubic region that disguise the bone.  Are you particularly flat-tummied? (You lucky thing) If so, it is possible some simple weight gain would make a difference.

If the doctor says it's normal, there are doubtless clothes that accentuate that part of the body and clothes that do the opposite. (I once wouldn't even come out of the dressing room at a shop because the darn bias-cut, clingy knit dress outlined all parts of my "place" so clearly that it looked like I had a cinnamon roll stuck in my underwear, and I'm not even all that prominent there).  So you might try some experimentation in the wardrobe department.  Check especially the fit of pants so they don't pull on your front.

Finally, nothing gets a guy excited like thinking the words "big, fat vagina."  So even if the doctor says it's entirely normal, I would try not to let it bother you if your gfs say it.  Say, "Oh, you like my peach?"  (guys think that kind of thing is exactly like a juicy peach).

[coremancraigy]

I was having sex with my wife & I pushed my penis all the way in & hit at the tip a bone like fealing.. Has that ever happend to anyone.. or am i the only 1.

[AnnieBrooke]

You probably hit her cervix.  It feels like the tip of a nose.

[coremancraigy]

How far in is this cervix, & does every woman have this bonelike tip. This happens a lot while she is on top, sometimes while im on top. ...
Weve been married for13 years & I am learnig a lot abuot the womans body that I NEVER KNEW ABOUT...Its cool.

[Tom37]

In college, my girlfriend had the same shaped pubic bone that you're talking about.  I was researching it because I was curious it had a special name.  I loved it!  She was more orgasmic than any woman I've been with since and I was wondering if it was the shape of her pubic bone that made the difference.  Consider it a blessing, it's a great turn on!

[Dr.D (not a real docter)]

I have the same problem and I have been researching to find a way to reduce the size... So far all i can think of is surgery... I am willing to do that but I am still looking for an alternative I'll fill you in if I find one, Just dont worry about it, but till then the wardrobe change is your best bet :)

[AnnieBrooke]

Thanks, but the original concern wasn't mine, I was responding to someone else.  I would never recommend surgery.

[Dr.D (not a real docter)]

Well did you find a alternative?

[Evie1963]

You seriously put a smile on my face after reading about your change room dramas and you gave a great reply to 'oh i dunno', I totally agree. Men love them in all shapes and sizes! I have protruding shoulder bones and always wished mine were nice and round and normal but I just disguise them with clothes too and focus on my parts of my body that I love.

[Dr.D (not a real docter)]

Your shoulders are alittle different from a mons pubis... I need to find an alternative to surgery because that is the last thing i want to do but if i have to thats all i got left.. Its a part of a womens body that makes her feel feminine and seperates her from the man... I geuss its hard to understand if you do not experience it :(

[big fuzzy peach]

I am 33 years old, and my mons pubis (correct terms right?) is huge.  It's not my pelvic bone protruding, it is just fatty.  I have been overweight for the past ten years and have managed to lose 45 pounds in the space of two years.  I exercise, try to eat right, and am still losing weight everywhere except in that area.  I do not want to have liposuction, I would like to find an effective exercise.  Any suggestions?

[yapster]

if it makes you feel any better...every woman in my family (including me) have it :) ...so to me it's pretty normal...it's not fat cause i can feel the bone when i'm lying on my tummy

[big fuzzy peach]

Oh, it's fat alright.  I do appreciate your response.  It did make me feel better.

[sc_darling]

my pubic bone sticks out pretty far and i can feel the bone right away.. when i lie down it looks really weird because it is not flat...and i thought i was the only one with that but i guess not..thats really good to know i guess i shouldn't worry

[sc_darling]

my pubic bone sticks out pretty far and i can feel the bone right away.. when i lie down it looks really weird because it is not flat...and i thought i was the only one with that but i guess not..thats really good to know i guess i shouldn't worry

[princessmon]

i am 20 years old and first noticed that i looked different 'down there' to most girls when i was about 16. Since then i've found ways to hide it including changing the way i stand (sticking my butt out so that my pubic bone doesn't show) and being very conscious of the way that region looks in clothes (ie. paying attention to the cut of pants and dresses/skirts and not buying anything that accentuates that area).

anyway, i just wanted to say since i discovered my 'uniqueness' i've felt very self-conscious about it and always felt weird and unfeminine, especially in a bikini, but after reading this forum i feel a lot better knowing im not the only one and that im not weird. so thanks :)

[DJones83]

I was 14 when I noticed my vagina wasn't "hidden" like other friends when we played strip poker or some such silly game ;) Like, my outer labia don't cover my vagina. I was bothered by it, but not enough to want to change it (sometimes I think it's too overtly sexual, other times I'm like, well it IS a sexual organ and my fiance must love that it's so out-there!).

At the same game of strip whatever-game-it-was, I also noticed one side of my inner labia was really long! I was mortified ever since and had that surgically cut at age 21 (I'm 24 now), so it's even with the other side.

It's only recently I noticed that my mons pubis (that right?) sticks out too. Don't know if that's related to anything else, but yeah it kinda freaked me out a bit, I thought it's probably visible and maybe people think I'm some sort of hermaphrodite. But you know what? I'm not bothered anymore! I'm sure no one but me notices it!!! And in fact, I recall noticing it in other women, and not thinking horrible things. I just noticed because I have the same thing. And I noticed, then my thoughts changed to something else, I didn't sit there thinking "Oh my god, she looks like she has something down there" or "That's ugly". I just thought "oh, her bone sticks out..... lalalalala"

Let's not be so hard on ourselves :):):) Like I keep telling myself: there's other things we can improve besides our physical appearance!
Love to all
xxx

[stillhopeful03]

i found this site b/c i recently noticed a protrusion in my pelvic bone...it has made me really depressed b/c simultaneously my butt has become longer and less shapely.  it seems like my pelvic bone has dropped and changed the shape of my body. i am 27 so it may just be that my body is changing due to time.  the only thing i have done differently is to start running everyday (training for a marathon) and i'm thinking, "could this really be the result of creating a healthier lifestyle?!" in any event, i have started to see a chiropractor b/c i read somewhere that it relates to the curvature in your back so we'll see how that works out and i will post a future comment either way.  

[nett64]

Would those women posting comments on large female pubic bones, look at this page and join in the discussion there. Thanks.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/38423

[geo1386]

so yea my pubic bone sticks out too.... i'm 21 and i have always thought there was something seriously like deformed with it.... i have read all of the comments and such here but does anyone know what the real reason for this protrusion is ? ? ?  i hate it ... it's so embarrassing !!!! please help !

[sensitive37]

hey everyone, i have read all of the comments and I can relate to how all of you are feeling.  I actually have went to a plastic sugergon and he said that he doesn't go that far and he didn't want to do it cause he has never done that before, so he sent me to a gynecologist and he said that i look normal, but i don't think he understood where i was coming from! I was actually pretty upset with him, b/c when he looked at me (down there) he went really silent and didn't say anything for a while! so now i found this website and i thought i was the only one.  But thanks to this, I know i'm not the only one.  I'm goin to keep researching and let you all know what i've came up with

[heyjude33]

i have the same thing..finally i find a website that has what im looking for..now im relieved lol..

so this isnt a big problem then is it? i never thought it was, and i dont think mine is that big. it just looks like a really big bump when i push up. i was worried i had some type of problem or something.

[crankypants]

hey i have the same thing, and my 'friends' when i was younger used to make fun of me for it, i'm 23 now, and i think it's gotten even more protruding, but i have back problems from an accident and think it might be related. so maybe there's something in that?

oh and to the girl who changes the way she stands to help conceal it:
DO NOT STICK YOUR BUTT OUT WHEN YOU STAND!!!
that has the same effect as high heels on your lower back, which is pretty much to compress it. it will lead to back problems later that can affect the rest of your body (if even one little part of your back is not straight, it can affect everything else, ie. pain, trouble with digestion, maybe even trouble concieving)
so don't bother hurting yourself just for other people, and their views.

yoga might help straighten your back out, or maybe try an osteopath.

oh and ps. skirts work the best to camoflague it.
pps. boys do not care. they're just thrilled you're naked.

[med_phobia]

I also have a protruding bone in my pelvis.  I have also got all the rude comments and I never wear a bathing suit bottom or tight pants.  I think the bone that protrudes out is called the pubic symphysis.  My best advice is to summon all your courage and go to your obgyn and tell them you can't stand it and want it to be normal.  I need to do the same thing!  Apparently it's not as rare as we thought. I would imagine it can only be fixed by surgically breaking the bone.  I hope things work out for you!

[ninnypants]

i have this problem too. im 17, 164cm and 46kg and i discovered this last yr, when my brother caught me in my underwear and said" SIS YOU LOOK LIKE YOU HAVE A ****!" n i was like "yea i do!" :O

haha well it doesnt bother me much cos it doesnt protrude with the clothes i wear. i don't know if its connected but i once went for an xray scan of my spine and they discovered that my tail bone did not interwine properly. the doctor said it was normal though and would not cause any problems.

[mocha78]

So glad to find out I'm not alone.  Oh, and to nett64, you're an idiot, this is a women's health community!  I know alot of you say it doesn't bother you and to not stress about it, but I do stress and I want to be able to wear a bikini and not have to "hide" behind certain clothes.  I'm not over weight, but that bump is still there.  To me it's not about being vane, it's about feeling comfortable in my own body, and not that that's the only part of me I'd change, but it's probably the first.  If anyone finds out more about this, please post again!!  Thanks

[el2222]

I'm so glad I found this thread, I'm similar to all of you, I cant really wear jeans as I cant find any that fit properly, I'm only petite but have high waist which doesnt really help matters. I'm a life model so obviously it doesnt bother me that much and the students dont gasp in horror at me so I just want to reassure you all that not everybody notices, or if they do they dont judge. If I could fix it I would, I've learnt to wear certain things and at work to pose in certain ways. Dont think I'd consider surgery..wouldnt rule it out. It does get me down sometimes but I do feel happier having found that other women have the same issue. Thankyou.

[malethirtyseven]

Im a 37 year old male who has always found (the protruding Mound) very sexy. To me nothing more sexy then a women in tight jeans with a protruding mound, So you girls...Dont change a thing...

[Smusifer]

My pubic bone also sticks out really far, but I think it is related to my tailbone injury when I was 14 because I didn't really notice it until afterward.  I fell on my tailbone while roller skating and it was bruised and painful and since then it is shaped differently.  It hurts to lay on flat ground on either my back or my stomach because both my tailbone and pubic bone stick out.

I used to be really self conscious about both and was embarrassed to be intimate.  Now that I have found a very sweet boyfriend who tells me I'm gorgeous, I try not to worry about it.  It kinda ***** wearing bikinis because it is visible when they are too tight, but if you keep looking, you can find bikinis that flatter your figure.  Also, I am 5'7" and 115 pounds so I am pretty much bony all over lol.  

I am 20 now and last year was diagnosed with endometriosis which is a chronic and painful disease.  After having surgery to remove some endometric cysts from my ovary, I decided to just accept my large pubic bone.  First, every woman looks different and this forum reassured me that I am not alone.  Second, surgery is painful, expensive and should only be done if it improves your health.  Third, when I told my boyfriend it bothered me he called me crazy because he says I have a beautiful body and we have hot sex too :D

I know that not feeling feminine is really hard on your confidence, but if the only way to change that is to put yourself through a lot of pain, don't!  You need to learn to accept what you look like and tell your friends and family to do the same.  Having a large pubic bone definitely does not mean you have a "fat vagina" because they are totally unrelated.  I wear a size 0 or 2 so I doubt that any of it is due to fat.  If you are really thin, gaining some weight would probably help which is what I've tried.  

You should also try on many different clothes when you go shopping.  I spend a lot of time looking for jeans that fit.  Just don't get discouraged if something doesn't fit right, move on and keep looking.  Trust me, you can look great and hide that area you are self conscious about, it just might take a bit of effort :)

[kholla1]

I have this too!

I used to be embarrassed by it because I was a competitive dancer and my extremely bony AND fatty pubic area resembled the male "package".

Now I couldn't care less. Yes, my pubic bone limits my fashion choices (any tight fitting skirt or stretchy pants material (like lycra) is a dead giveaway to my "unique" figure), but more than one partner has mentioned that my "mound" is sexy.

Forget what other people think and embrace your body, because unless you take drastic measures, it's gonna be this way for the rest of your life.

There are still days I hate my mound (especially when it means I can't buy or wear clothes I like), but overall, it's okay.

There are FAR more unsightly problems to have, be thankful your "flaw" is one that is typically covered by clothes! Life is good if your biggest worry is the shape of your pubic mound - try and think of it that way.

:) we all need to love ourselves a little more.

[Nerak2008]

girls...
All this talk about men LIKING what you want to get rid of!??
and you still want to get rid of it???
Let me say this, Girls like it too. I am not a lesbian but I have had an experience with a girl once. Girls like the large area too because its fun to rub against. And when you both have a large bump, its even more fun to bump and grind together. Please, its a good thing! Men AND women love it.

Karen