my boyfriend and i recently had sex exactly 1 week after the abortion. it was unprotected and he came inside me. is there a possibility that i could be pregnant even while im still bleeding from the abortion?
for one... if you just had a abortion it probably means you are not ready for a child or just dont want one...
for two.... if you just had a abortion, what the hell are you doing having unprotected sex.
has abortions become your form of birth control...cause that is NOT what they are, they take lives, they DO NOT prevent them.
if you fall pregnant again, i hope you have the maturity to do the right thing, and NOT kill that baby...do you know how many ppl on this site want and yearn for a child and you are killing babies...that is wrong in alot of ppl's eyes.
i am not here to judge and i am sorry that this is a sore topic, BUT if you do fall pregnant again do the right thing and carry the child and give it up for adoption if you dont want to take the responsibilities for your actions.
That was all abit harsh, i'm not saying that they haven't been irresponsible but throwing your anti abortion opinion down her throat doesn't help anyone,what if an unwanted baby came into the world and had an awful life surely that would be worse personally i would rather be aborted then have an awful life and i cant remember being in the womb so would does the baby know about it. It's people alive that suffer and have the problems with it
i understand and i did apologise...it just burns me that so many ppl want babies, and cant have them but would adopt, and then ppl are out there having abortions and killing innocents that didnt ask to be conceived.
oneunluckyirish:i apologise if i had been a bit harsh...
yeh sore subject for me too, it's never an easy one is it, i just know an awful lot of kids/adults that have had the worst lives you can imagine and as they never asked to be born and as terrible as it sounds if the right thing was done in the first place they wouldn't had suffered the way they have saying that i know the majority of adoptive parents are amazing. Like you said these children shouldn't be concieved in the first place more care should be taken. It makes me sad just thinking about it.
yes it should be, there are so many ppl out there that would make excellent parents who for one reason or another cant carry or conceive that would love to adopt a baby...
my soon to be dh was adopted so i believe fully that adoption is a better choice than abortion.
i would love to say to each thier own, but i truly believe it is WRONG to have an abortion. my parents tried to force me to abort my first pregnancy when i was 17-18 and i ended up m/c in the 5th month anyhow, but i just couldnt go through with it. and when i did go into hospital after water broke (start of m/c) my father told me that it was GOD's way of punishing me... anyhow i just hope that ppl will learn that if they dont want a child to do something to PREVENT pregnancy....too many abortions really will mess with a woman's body anyhow.
If you already got pregnant once and had an abortion, why the HELL are you having unprotect sex????????????????????????????????????????????I would give my right arm for a baby right now, i lost mine at 19 weeks. There are so many people that would love a baby, i am adopted and i always advocate for that.
YOU can get pregnant, and just so you know....you can anytime he enters you, not just if he actually ejaculates as there are loads of sperm in precum which every guy has no matter what he says.
Smatin up and get on birth control and use condoms too. btw having an abortion can lead to problems getting pregnant in the future
ok just so you all know. i didnt really want to get the abortion. i felt like i was pressured into from my ex. and now you cannot imagin all the grief and guilt i am feeling. i cry all the time. i dunno if i just feel the need to make it up to myself or the baby, i just dunno. so please dont judge before you know whats goin on. thanks
i love the man that got me pregnant and i always will. even tho he might be an ahole for pressuring me into an abortion. he told me that he wasnt going to be there for me or the child and keeping it wouldnt keep him around. he said that he didnt want the child growing up in a broken home, which i can agree with. so yes hes an ahole but unfortunatly i still love him and its hard to get over someone you love no matter how much they hurt you. at least thats how i feel
If keeping the baby wasn't "going to keep him around" is he really the type of guy you want to be with???Being pressured into having an abortion just because he didn't want to step up to his responsibilites would say to me he isn't worth keeping around. It is you that wil have to live the rest of your life with the guilt, not him, he'll probably never give it a second thought. and now you have put yourself in the exact same postion just 1 week later and you ask us not to judge you????it sounds to me like you really didn't learn you lesson. you say you have guilt and greif, but then you have unprotected sex "exactly" one week later. I know a girl who used abortion as her birth control...had a few abortions during her party years...and now she will never be able to have a baby.
but now that ive had the abortion i vow to never do it again. it was the most horrible expierence that i have ever gone thru, physically and mentally. now that this has occured in my life i now and pro life. but im not about to trash someone. and never did i once mention that i used abortion as a form of birth control.
yeah you cant blame that on him! my babys father left me at 6 weeks pregnant for an ex of his. he told me he would make me miscarry. he said he hoped something happened to the both of us. he wanted nothing to do wtih me or my son. and i loved him very very much! but you kno what. i did what i felt was right in MY heart. he doesnt have to feel what a woman feels.
I ALSO HAD AN ABORTION, BEFORE YOU JUDGE YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT EVERYBODY HAS A STORY! IF FOLKS AGREE OR NOT, MY STORY IS I WAS 4 MONTHS PREGNANT AND REALLY WANTED MY BABY, I WAS TOLD TO TERMINATE CAUSE THE BABY HAD FLUID IN THE LUNGS AND ADB. SO I WOULD EITHER MISCARRY, OR THE BABY WOULDNT LIVE LONG IF DELIEVERED, I HAD NO CHOICE IN THIS CASE, SO I DO WANT TO HAVE ANOTHER BABY, IM IN A GREAT RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN THAT I LOVE, AND WE BOTH WANTED THAT CHILD, BUT GOD HAD OTHER PLANS, SO BEFORE U GO JUDGING, AND POSTING NEGATIVE HURTFUL *** **** KEEP IN MIND, EVERY ONE DOES NOT USE AB AS A FORM OF B/C.
I had an abortion at 7 weeks and 5 days..I dont necessarily regret it even though I do think about whether it would have been a son or daughter. The way i looked at it was no matter what decison i made, i would have to live with it. If i had chose to keep the child that would have been 18 years of struggling and heartache, had i givin it up for adoption I would have CONSTANTLY thought about it and wondered what if..and the fear of in 18 years it coming to find me and saying why wasnt i good enough was too much to handle. Yes abortion was hard and i am very much anti abortion, but it was the right thing for me..Either decision you make will be difficult. The thing that kept me going was something my sister said to me..we had a conversation on whether fetus's have souls, if they do, then the soul will find the parent it is destin to be with, whether its now or later
I totally agree with your post. I my self had abortion aliitle over amonth ago and think about it everyday....what it would have been or looked liked... but at this time in my life I am in no way shape or form to care for a child and bring it into this world to lead the life that it would have deserved..I too am Pro-life but the descion that i made was for me... I stuggled with and am still somewhat struggling with is the fact of God forgiving us for our sins. To all those who come on here and try to judge and put down someone else for their descion...thats a sin in itself...."Let those who is without sin cast the first stone".... you cant tell me that nooone on here hasnt sinned..we all have which, is why God died for us. A sin is a sin, it has no measure meaning no matter how big or small it is ....So from something as even having lustful thouht to actually killing your fellow man its a sin. Only God has the final say in your actions. For those who have also had a bortion like me all you have to do is pray w/a sincere heart and ask for forgiveness and "ye shall be forgiven"...but through this expereince we should take way to be more smart and wise about the descions we make that ultimatly have consequences...(Spread love,not hate..BeBlessed)
What good does it do to make this woman feel like a monster..? We don't know the circumstances of her abortion.. and although I don't agree with abortion 100% I do believe there are good reasons behind it.. (rape, incest, etc) I think it is the woman's choice and judging her and making her feel worse about herself is unfair!
However, u should be using protection if you aren't ready for a baby. I do agree with who ever said that.
Do take care... I know you probably feel a lot of guilt because of this.. put your faith in God (that is, if you believe in Christ)
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