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sex and period
My husband doesnt mind having sex with me when I am bleeding. Is that normal? I dont really like doing it. Does a lot of people do that and actually not mind it? I find it to be disgusting, but maybe that is because I am young, and certain things embarrass me. I know he is my husband (and has been for 3 yrs.) but that is just something I havent gotten used to yet. We do it when there is very light bleeding, but he doesnt mind when it is heavy too. Sorry if this grosses anyone out.
Thanks for the comment, and thanks for saying that I sound kind. I have recently discussed this with my husband, and I have started to open up about a lot of things. I feel so much better with him now that I have opened up. We did have sex while I was on my period, and I used a towel. (we usually do anyways.) I will only have sex with him if I have VERY little blood.
Thanks again, and God bless you.
Thanks again, and God bless you.
Hi Potts,
This is really just a personal preference. Some women use the "Spong" or the Diaphram from what I hear to temorarily block the flow during intercourse. My spouse and I just used a towel underneath us. I figured if he didn't mind then I did not mind either. That was years ago, though, and now that I no longer have periods, he is having huge hormonal problems and just having ANY kind of sex would be nice....but that's another post :(
I do encourage you to speak with your spouse though...life is too short to be embarrassed. Not sure that makes sense...but, I'll tell you, that thing about communication...SO true. Just start talking and be sure to listen, too. I am sure he will respect it if you don't want to have intercourse during the heaviest times of your period. But, you have to let him know, you know?
My biggest reason for writing is that I wanted to comment on that "Dirty blood" remark. OK...I cannot speak for everyone, but I will say that I have never ever heard of this and I have spent the past 12 years studying women's issues related to OB/GYN concerns....as has my sister who has had papers published in Medical literature. Now, if you had a Yeast infection and had sex, then the exposure to the yeast to you spouse would not be good, but I don't think that was the reference. I did find some info and I posted it just below these comments.
You sound like a very kind person as I have read some of your posts....so, hoping to reach out to you to offer some help/support. And, congratulations on 3 years of marriage....I am on year 27...now if only we could get MY sex life straightened out!
Mary
"Many men and women worry that having sexual intercourse during a woman’s period is unhealthy. Though frowned upon in many cultures and faiths, sexual intercourse during menstruation is entirely normal and completely healthy.
Worries about this act generally stem from societal misconceptions about menstrual blood: most girls are taught from a young age that their menstrual blood is unclean and "dirty," and therefore should be hidden and contained at all times. However, menstrual blood is an entirely natural bodily fluid, and does not in anyway affect a man’s penis or a woman’s reproductive tract. As long as you are engaging in safe and protected sexual intercourse, it is entirely alright for you and your partner to have sex during your period."
This is really just a personal preference. Some women use the "Spong" or the Diaphram from what I hear to temorarily block the flow during intercourse. My spouse and I just used a towel underneath us. I figured if he didn't mind then I did not mind either. That was years ago, though, and now that I no longer have periods, he is having huge hormonal problems and just having ANY kind of sex would be nice....but that's another post :(
I do encourage you to speak with your spouse though...life is too short to be embarrassed. Not sure that makes sense...but, I'll tell you, that thing about communication...SO true. Just start talking and be sure to listen, too. I am sure he will respect it if you don't want to have intercourse during the heaviest times of your period. But, you have to let him know, you know?
My biggest reason for writing is that I wanted to comment on that "Dirty blood" remark. OK...I cannot speak for everyone, but I will say that I have never ever heard of this and I have spent the past 12 years studying women's issues related to OB/GYN concerns....as has my sister who has had papers published in Medical literature. Now, if you had a Yeast infection and had sex, then the exposure to the yeast to you spouse would not be good, but I don't think that was the reference. I did find some info and I posted it just below these comments.
You sound like a very kind person as I have read some of your posts....so, hoping to reach out to you to offer some help/support. And, congratulations on 3 years of marriage....I am on year 27...now if only we could get MY sex life straightened out!
Mary
"Many men and women worry that having sexual intercourse during a woman’s period is unhealthy. Though frowned upon in many cultures and faiths, sexual intercourse during menstruation is entirely normal and completely healthy.
Worries about this act generally stem from societal misconceptions about menstrual blood: most girls are taught from a young age that their menstrual blood is unclean and "dirty," and therefore should be hidden and contained at all times. However, menstrual blood is an entirely natural bodily fluid, and does not in anyway affect a man’s penis or a woman’s reproductive tract. As long as you are engaging in safe and protected sexual intercourse, it is entirely alright for you and your partner to have sex during your period."
Thank you for letting me know that. I will have to discuss that with him about the infection. About getting pregnant though, shouldnt happen because he got a vas. on Oct. 1st. He knows the sperm is dead, and I DEFINATLLY do not cheat, so I shouldnt become pregnant. :). I will try and convince him of not having sex while I am bleeding. Thank you very much. I never knew that could happen.
be carefull doing that, heard you can become pregnant or even he could get an infection. Remember that is dirty blood that you are discharging out.
Many women do not mind it, but I am not one of them. That is a monthly pass as far as I am concerned. For me, I can not enjoy sex if I am worried about how much I was bleeding. So, if you are not comfortable just tell your husband that he needs to find something else to do that week. I can assure you he will be just fine without sex for one week a month.
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