turning 21 soon and trying to convieve

[Canyouhelpmeout]

okay so my 21st birthday is coming up and i ovulated on around the 18th of this month and i know that march 1st will be to early to test because af not due until the 5th or 6th! If i go out and drink on my 21st birthday what could the effects be if i find out that i am pregnant? Help, im not going to go out and get hammered but it would be nice to have a drink or two because i never know, i may not even be pregnant! Any answers would be great! Thank you

[sparkeler]

It's really a personal choice.  If you want to have a couple of drinks for your 21 birthday, then go ahead.  It's not like you are pregnant now.  I think it's cute that you are concerned with this.  It wouldn't even cross my mind.  I wouldn't even think not having a glass of wine or two until I knew I was pregnant.  Good luck to you.  I'm sure you'll be a wonderful mother.

[ctsmom]

you can also try and test on March 1, that is about 10-11 dpo, I got a BFP on 10dpo so its not too too early, but really I had a glass a wine a few days before I found out I was pregnant and I still worried about it.

[pixijal]

Personally, I would drink in moderation.  It's a personal choice.  I wouldn't toss back a bunch of shots, but I would go out and have a good time.

I don't drink, not even a glass of wine, during pregnancy.  I HAVE drank on several occasions prior to finding out I was pg.  I have 2 healthy children.  With my first, I didn't even know I was pg (2 months) until I was in Puerto Vallarta puking up Tequilla.  She's perfect.

Like I said, moderation...
If you find out your not pg next week, then drink up then
Drink some water in between drinks, or have a snack.
You'll be fine.  
Happy Birthday!!!

[lovethebops]

I was pregnant when i turned 21...6 mon. pregnant, so i could not celebrate...i think it would be better to wait if you are not sure if you are preg or not, only because the beginning stages of a preg are so critical..that's just me..i have been ttc for a few months, and although i was not really a drinker before i started trying, i have pretty much stopped altogether, i think it will just be better for my health and chances, and since i am trying, i just never know when i can be or not...i will hopefully find out by this weekend!! best wishes to you as well!

[AndiJ78]

Well, it is easier said than done, but I would feel better about everything if I didn't drink. I actually had 3 friends who were pregnant on their 21 birthday's (2 were pregnant on my 21st birthday) Two of them obviously waited until after they had their babies and weaned before celebrating their ability to drink legally. It worked well for me, I had 2 designated drivers for my entourage on my 21st birthday. One of them, however seemed to live in denial about being pg with both of her kids and continued to drink in the beginning and had the "occasional" drink while pg and her kids will now pay that price as they both demonstrated s/s of FAE. They do not know how much is too much, so better to wait in my opinion.

Good luck,
Andrea

[RockRose]

Canyou,   I sense you should wait on trying to get pregnant.  

You are SO YOUNG,  and you won't believe what you have to give up once you have a child.  If you want to do parenting really right,  you really can't even conceive right now of everything you have to give up.  

Nights and nights of sleep.  Time to yourself.  Adult conversations.  Going to the bathroom all by yourself.  Nights and nights of sleep.  Money.  Nights and nights of sleep.  

You get way more than you give when you have a child,  and it's a joy beyond anything you'll ever know if you're ready.  

But if you have to post on a bulletin board,  can you drink,  I think you're not ready for all the sacrifices.  You're young,  you have years and years.

I know there are people who will hate hearing this, but it's the God's honest truth.  If giving up one night of drinking seems hard,  you're not ready for motherhood.  

[JJety]

One drink (preferably red wine) should be fine, but it really is irresponsible to be actively ttc and still go drink.

Good luck.

[pertykitty]

well many of us have drank before we knew we were pg. im not going to say yes go ahead and do it. im ttc right now as well. im really just in the early stage 2 dpo. i will not drink until i know its a pos or neg, but that is me. happy birthday!