what to do??

[katie-trina]

i keep getting this worried feeling because like i've been having prenancy symptoms such as nausia, cramps, dizzyness, slight change in appetite.. but like i dont think i am. and like i wouldnt be able to tell from a missed period yet because im supposed to start next week.. so obviously i havent missed it yet. but the thing that im most worried about it that chance that if i am.. i may have screwed everything up. because the only reason im worried about the possiblitly of being or getting pregnant is because my boyfriend and i use absolutally no protection other than the pull out method, but thats not promising. he refuses to wear a condom because he told me that if he were dating me just to date me then he would, but he said he's dead serious about me and whatever happens, happens and he'll take care of me..... and i wont take birth control because i just dont feel that its right.. idk. but yea. what i mean by i may screw things up is that well i had been having the symtoms for two weeks and i admit, i like to drink.... so i was at my friends house and one of my other friends bought me a pregnancy test so that i could take it b4 i started drinkin that night... it came out negative so obviously i got wasted. but as i was reading some other posts alot of people were saying how they got numerous negatives from those tests and were still pregnant..... so it worries me because that can cause serious health issues if not kill the baby... and even if im not now.. what about later? im afraid i wont know if im pregnant and are and i drink again.. cuz i drink every weekend and have unprotected sex with my boyfriend at least 2-3 times a week..... and i admit, i am only 18, not even supposed to be drinking in the first place... and my boyfriend is 25. i dont really know what to do

[niobe]

I may sound like a nagging mother here, but ... you gotta use some kind of birth control.  Otherwise you will have this anxiety OFTEN - maybe every month!  What your boyfriend says is terribly unfair to you... you're the one left with all the worry!  The only person you can depend on 100% is yourself.

There is also the STD issue...  I could go on.  

[MsMeow]

Sweetie, first of all you have to calm down. Secondly, there is no early way to tell if you are preg. unless you go past your normal number of days to get your period. I used to use First Response because it can tell 1-2 days early (I think taking it any earlier than that will guarantee a negative result b/c it's too soon). But honestly, to answer your question, you need to stop having unprotected sex NOW. If your boyfriend refuses to use protection then he is messing with his own life and yours. Do you know his history? If he didn't use condoms with ex-girlfriends then who knows what he could have. I'm not trying to scare you but as someone almost twice your age I can tell you that the choices you are making are not very smart. You are obviously smart to question your behavior and now is the time to make changes.

First things first - wait until you know if you are pregnant for sure. Do not have sex again until you know. If you are not pregnant, I strongly encourage you to insist that your BF use condoms. If he doesn't then you'll have to decide if he's worth being with. I'm not making light of your situation b/c I know what it feels like to not want to lose someone you love. But you should respect yourself enough to be with a guy who wants to protect you. The drinking binge you had on the one night probably will not have any effect on the pregnancy, if there is one. However not drinking may be a good idea regardless of the outcome.

Lastly, you said you think taking birth control isn't right - if you really thought that you wouldn't have your BF pull out, and you certainly wouldn't be freaking about being pregnant. Please put a lot of thought into what you're doing. Good luck.