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I am heavy and want a baby bad what are my options when it doesnt happen right away.
im glad my story helped. im sorry to hear about your mom and being away from your brothers. i cant imagine how that must feel. i also had somewhat of a rough childhood. my dad wanted to have a relationship with me but my mother wouldnt let him. we lived in two different states and that made it even harder. there were times when he came to see me and my mom would never tell me. he would call and leave messages for me but either my mom or stepdad would delete them. she always tell me horrible stories about. that was my mother so of course i believed her so i was always on her side. there are times i had to leave school early cause he would take my mom to court many times. when i was in 6th grade my mom changed my last name to my stepdad last name. of course my dad was pissed and any father would be. the worse part is she did it illegally without telling him. he didnt find out until i was in 10th grade. she just mad him seem like this horrible dead beat dad. now that im older i realize that he wasnt all those things and other family members confirmed that he wasnt either. because of the things she would tell me i would treat him so bad. like ignore him and give him the cold shoulder and a bad attitude. im older now and i feel horrible about how i treated him. he tried his hardest to see me. there so much more but i dont wanna write a book lol. but going throug all this at such a young age i had no one to talk to no one understood what i was going through and food was my therapy. i would just eat all day. mostly junk. over the years and it just accumilated. im at a point now where ready to start taking care of myself for me and no one else. im dont wanna be no size zero I JUST WANNA BE HEALTHY and thats what i been doing. the more i lose i start to feel better about myself and gain confidence. i know longer feel insecure about myself. i have gotten to the point where i look in the mirror and say i look good. it all will take time but once you get into routine with it its no problem.
Hello yes I am encouraged by your story and I am glad their is someone out there that understands my struggle thank you for takig the time to respond to the message and giving me your input. I wish that people would understand that it is not easy to lose weight and no one wakes up saying they are happy they are 300lds. I had a hard life at a young age lost my mother at 12yrs old and got separated for my brothers. I never knew my father so that really messed with my mind over the years. Look I am not making excuses but I fight everyday to stay strong and be happy and live life to the fullest. I work on my weight so I can be slimmer cause if not people in this world will make you miserable cause you are fat. But most of all to be healthy and have a baby. GOD BE WITH US WHEN WE DONT HAVE THE STRENGHT TO HOLD ON! Thanks Ladiez GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
I understand how you feel. i am also on the heavy side. i went to the dr. and she said i was fine but she was really concerned about my weight with me being so young. i knew it would effect me once i got older so i knew i had to loose weight. i was 253 and in three months i lost 44lbs!! im now 209lbs! i couldnt believe it. i was shocked. my weakness was sprite. everytime i ate i always drunk sprite and it is not good. i had to have self control and was finally able to get off of them. i didnt drank nothing but water. after a while its all i ever wanted. even when i went out to eat i would get water. its all i had so i got used to it. if my fiance had a soda and i drank some it just does not taste right. i guess thats what happens when i didnt have it for a long time. water makes me feel better and it is very refreshing. i drank at least 8 or more a day. i also bought a water jug that stays with me when i leave the house and it always keeps me hydrated. another thing that helped me was exercising. its very important. i took baby steps 5 minutes on treadmill and i was able to work my way up to 10 then 15 now to 30 min a day. you dont wanna work yourself either and pass out lol cause trust me it can happen. i didnt even notice i was loosing weight but other people sure did. they always ask me if i lost weight or i look diffferent and when other people start to notice then you know you are loosing. i hope this helps :-)
Thank you ladies for you advice and comments I am working on my weight and i eat healthy I lost lots of weight a year ago 60lbs and still going. I was 360 now 300 my main goal is to get at a healthy weight to be happy and healthy. But most of all to have a baby me and my boyfriend believe it will happen one day. GOD SPEED! Thanks keep you posted.
Conception is a miracle, so much has to be in order for this to occur. Keep trying but keep your sexual relationship intimate, don't make it a job, that's just one more stresser while trying to conceive. In the meantime try losing weight...they say even a change as small as 10lbs increases your chances in becoming pregnant. I really want to stress the weight issue bc being overweight you put yourself and your baby at risk of major complications that can be prevented if you were at a healthier weight. I know you want this really bad but please consider this before trying other options like invetro, fertility meds, etc. Another thing if you are trying to conceive you really want to go ahead a start taking prenatal vitamins and make necessary changes to have a balanced diet, exercise, and no toxic habbits like drinking or smoking. Just some things to think about. You could go to your doctor to have a fertility check up and planning as well. Best of Luck BB
Why not lose some weight while you play at getting pregnant? You will feel better. Yry the Dukan diet - it works.
Hey do not give up my sister is on the heavy side and once she concieved one well lets say pregnant with the fourth and the ages are 8,3,2,and now this one I believe if you monitor your ovulation by testing for a few months you'll learn when you ovulate for better chance....GOOD LUCK
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