My boyfriend masterbates in bed next to me

[Ljs1991]

My boyfriend masterbates in bed next to me. We have been together for almost a year, healthy sex life between us but he does this from 1-4 times a week. He has a high pressured job and I admit I can be grouchy after work but we always go to sleep happy with our day as neither of us can sleep unhappy or stressed.
I always wake up whilst he is doing this and his phone light is always on but I wake up embarrassed and scared, normally wanting to cry. I have pretended to roll over a couple of times to see what he is watching/looking at on his phone as when we first met he said he wasn't a big porn person which worries me slightly more as he is a good looking guy! I'm a lucky girl but I make sure I show him and tell him everyday how lucky I am to have him. We have a completely honest relationship and tell each other everything!
When I roll over he just stops, turns his phone off/changes screen or rolls over. He always falls asleep after me but he also lies when he has been on his phone and says he hasn't when I'm asleep. I don't know how to bring this one up with him or if it's worth bringing it up? Should I feel as ashamed as I do?

[AnnieBrooke]

Mandi, I don't think you should feel required to have sex with him every night "or else." It's OK not to want to have sex every single night and you shouldn't have to, just to please your partner. It sounds like your boyfriend is obsessed with the cheap thrill/ easy off that he gets from masturbating, and that it has nothing to do with you or your desirability, which is where you are taking it. That is putting too much weight on the meaning of his action, he is just doing a physical thing, like scratching his rear end. But you do have every right to decide you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who does it all the time.

[Mandi789]

I know exactly how you feel, I literally thought it could have been me who wrote this, it makes me want to cry, all these people who keep saying join in, it’s every damn night, surely I shouldn’t have to ask to join in every night.. what’s wrong with the woman lying next to you? It makes me feel unwanted and hurt but I’m so tired of bringing it up because it will just be another fight.

[NJgirl79]

Im sure it makes feel almost insulted.. but look at it this way. Hes "home" with YOU.  Id worry if he was making excuses not to be home during that time. He must feel comfortable enough to do this with you there while you sleep. Maybe it turns him on knowing your right there while hes doing this. Its perfectly normal to fantasize. He may just be too embarrassed to let you in on his big secret. He may be afraid to see what your reaction would be. Why dont you try reaching over to rub on him while hes doing this. You both my surpri each other. You may even have something to look forward to each night. Give it a shot. Keep us posted.  :)

[smallbby]

Yea I think u should have fun with him. J personally wouldn't find this too weird it would turn me on. My fiancé has a very low sex drive -_- so I think ur lucky. I just wish ur man wouldn't lie about it. Ask him about his desires and see about fulfilling them.

[eternalove12]

I reckon you should help him masturbate reach his big "o" and it wil be  beneficial for your sexual life with him because hell like it if you help him and he wont look at porn and will decrease the chances of him cheating on you. You will improve your sexual life with your boyfriend too, so always find new ways to please him and seduce him which will decrease the stress you both experience throughout the days.