How do you make parents take responiblity for their children

I opened my home to my nicece (18) and her baby (1).  Here is the problem.  Her parents.  She was living with her dad, but he kicked her out because she wouldn't stay away from the baby's father.  Her mom wouldn't let me move in, So I agreed to let her and the baby to come here.  That was allmost a year ago.  Here's the problem......Her mom took her car because she didnt have a job. Niece paid for the car, but not the insureance due to no job. I asked her mom to give the car back,  because she need to get at job, My husband and I are paying for her and the baby.  Mom refuses to give the car back to her, my husdand was going to get insurance on the car, but we found out that the money holly paid her mom for the car, she never paid it off. They are still her parents, Shouldn't they want to help her get on her feet?  She is still only 18 trying to raise a baby alone.

[narla]

It's terrific your there for your niece and her baby.If the car is in your nieces name you should be able to get it back,use the police if necessary.As far as making parents responsible for their children that's an uphill battle,It seems her parents have not heard of unconditional love,they want it their way or not at all.I'm sure your niece is very appreciative of everything your doing,If it's not a financial burden continue what your doing and feel good about yourself for being there for someone in need.  

[leeisgettingclean]

you can only do what within your power! you are doin the right thing! Be sure this young lady understands what her parents are doin is wrong and IMO is abusing there power! I think you are showing her a good way, you are being a positive in her life which is what she needs. You can not make anyone do anything, just make sure you continue to do the right thing!!!

[DandMe]

Thanks for the support.  I do love my niece and her lil man, I'm glad my hubby and I are able to take care of her and the baby.  It just hurts for me to see how hurt she is over her parents behavior.  The car is her's, she paid for it, but mom put it in her name, so really can't do anything.  She is so young and so unhappy over how her life is right now.  I keep telling her nothing stays the same, but for now, this is what you have and you just have to make the best of it.  I just wish there were more I could do.

[leeisgettingclean]

u r alraedy doing more than you know!! Keep doin what you are doing! You are a great aunt i am sure. Her lil man needs good people like you in his life!

[Weney3777]

I can relate with your neice. When I was 18, I made some bad decisions and my parents kicked me out. I did not have a child, at the time, but I feel that it was then that I needed them the most. I am 38 now, and still hold much bitterness towards my parents for the way they handled my childhood. My son is 16 now, and I make sure every day that he knows I love him dearly and will always be there for him, no matter what. Hopefully, she will be a more caring mother to her lil man because of this. Try to look for some good in any situation.

[DandMe]

I'm sorry to hear that you have had to go through that also.  I keep trying to find the good, but I'm stuck not being able to accept that her parents are the way they are.  I had my 1st child at 15, she is now 23 and I'm here for her just as much now as I was when she was a baby. She is going to be a great mom.  She  has needed some coaching, but she is finally getting it.  Thanks for the support.
Mary

[younggrandmother]

Why do her parents wont her to stay away from the father of her child? I fill the same about my granddaughter father he helps with NOTHING but he is her father she will be able to make her own choice when she is old enough.

[DandMe]

My brother is just being unreasonable.  He likes to control people.  I agree, even if the baby's dad is a jerk, he should still have the right to get to know him and help raise him.  My brother and the baby's father is just alike.  Only they can't see that about each other. My niece went back to live with her dad last week.  They are in the honeymoon stage(I think). The baby stays with me 1 night a week .  I'm still praying it will work out. I hope my brother falls in love with the baby and will want everything for him.

[younggrandmother]

I hope everything works out for you niece it is hard being a young mother.It's nice that you get to visit with the baby, they become such a big part of your live.