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Does it seem like it runs in families
I was just wondering if it seems like mental illness runs in families? I know that it can and stuff. In my family there is a history of mental illness and stuff. I just thought it could be something to post here. Hope no one minds.
Yeah that's really all you can do.
Yeah. I don't know how it's gonna go but I don't know. All I can do is just talk with her.
That's just something you and your Mom are going to have to work on. Like you said you can't force her to go. Also with limited transportation can be a problem. You obviously care for your mother. But I think she needs to see someone probably at least once a month or maybe can get by with every two months.
maybe. There is still that whole transportation issue. So that is a problem. Besides I don't know if Mom wants to anyway and I can't force her to go. So I don't know.
That's a long time to have to wait. Maybe individual therapy is what she needs as opposed to group therapy?? Maybe even a combination of the two would work best.
I've only been twice so it's to early to tell. Plus texting won't help because like I said before no one to text. Mom has a cell but I don't really want one because I don't have friends to talk to anyway. I defenitly prefer the internet. I know it's sad but that's how it is. I've had a lot of bad experiances with people. My next apointment isn't until December so I got some waiting to do. As for Mom I don't think she wants to be in theropy anymore, but I think she still needs to go. Unfortantly the place she goes to doesn't do individual theropy but only does group theropy. That's why I decided to go somewhere else cuz I didn't want to be involved with being in a group. As for Mom her transportation won't go past 9 miles so that really is the only place she could go. Besides I don't think she believes that theropy works because of her experiances in the past. Also she is suposed to see her shrink every 2 or 3 months but that place is so backed up she saw him in October and won't see him until March. It really is backed up. I'm glad I go somewhere else. I couldn't imagine waiting that long in my condition.
Perhaps your mother would benefit from psychotherapy? AD's only manage symptoms.
What about a cellphone? Could you text someone if that was set up? That probably wouldn't be ideal though.
Is your counselor working on anything with you? Just wondering. I know everything can be complex and it can be difficult to know where to start but you do need to start somewhere.
What about a cellphone? Could you text someone if that was set up? That probably wouldn't be ideal though.
Is your counselor working on anything with you? Just wondering. I know everything can be complex and it can be difficult to know where to start but you do need to start somewhere.
Yeah I know what you mean. I see a phyciatrist and a counciler. Mom sees a phyciatrist too but not monthly. She feels like nothing will help her be happy because she has tried many anti depressents. As for her phycotic insodents they don't happen often but when they do it is terrible. Unfortantly without me having any social skills and having a phone phobia there isn't anyone who can help me deal with it. Unfortantly it will leave me panicking instead. It's kinda crazy how I can peck away at a keyboard but if I talk in person I bearly say a word. Anyway unfortantly no car limits us to do things. For all I know the reason why we are crabby may have a lot to do with being stuck in the house all the time. We did get out of the house one day to see some relitives from another state which was a bitter sweet kinda time with them. I sat in the back of the room so no one would notice me. We did see some old movies with us in it. One was when I was about a year old and I kinda remember it cuz I couldn't walk then and I could'nt stand touching the grass. So I stayed on a blanket the whole time while the other kids played but I don't remember how I felt. I didn't seem to care anyway because I wasn't looking for the other children. I was just playing with my hands. Hey I was one. I hardly remember it but I know Mom smiled while we watched the video. So I don't really know if I was anti social as a kid or what but I was in school because of being picked on. All I know is I wasn't really confortable during the time (the day before we went over there) when they visited us. And when I went over to family place I stayed in the back. Maybe that's why I have my defences on all the time. I don't really know. But it's not as hard to just type everything up. Maybe because I know that no one here has met me in real life and judged me at least the me in real life. But other than that or seeing the head doctor I don't go out. I do get bored a lot too.
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I think many of us feel nervous about posting. I think sometimes we feel threatened that others may reject or judge us. If we speak about something very important to us it can leave us feeling vulnerable. Being or feeling invalidated can hurt.
People with mh issues can clash, as can people without mh issues. I think with others with issues it can hurt because we expose ourselves by talking about our issues. When they clash or fight with us we often don't have the skills or resources to deal with the attack, which is quite often very personal.
I have found it quite painful to have others with similar diagnoses to myself reinforce how worthless and inadequate I am. Others can make out that they're OK but that others are below them or scraping the bottom of the barrel so to speak. It doesn't do much for our self-confidence and can leave us feeling hopeless and powerless.
If you're clashing it could be that you don't have the necessary relationship or communication skills. Also when this happens I think we could be unwell. I know that when my illnesses aren't managed and I don't feel contained I can become tired and grumpy, angry and frustrated. And my relationships suffer.
Can you look at ways to improve the situation or to defuse arguments? Is there anything specific you're clashing over?
Talking about stuff openly and honestly is always good policy.
Your mothers psychotic episodes shouldn't be that regular, should they? I mean if they are, doesn't that indicate that her condition isn't being managed?
I think you should have a contingency plan for when your mother does experience difficulties. Something like a crisis management plan indicating interventions for differing stages of unwellness. Maybe if you had a plan you wouldn't feel so overwhelmed and you would feel more in control and over time, more competent at dealing with these situations.
Not sad. I expect it would be frightening to see your mother so unwell.
My mother use to have seizures because of her head injuries. They were often frightening to watch.
You're vulnerable and perhaps have immature ways of dealing with stuff (who doesn't?) but heck who wouldn't want to hide. It's difficult to confront some illness.
A more mature response for ourselves would be to learn from the experience and to behave more appropriately (constructively) if the situation ever arose again.
I think we should perhaps embrace the opportunity to be more skillful. We shouldn't feel ashamed for how we have behaved though. We often do the best we can at the time with the skills we do have.
Your mother should not talk about suicide in this manner. She should not be using it to scare or manipulate you. I think she does this because she needs you for security. I expect she has a heap of fears herself.
I personally think you should set limits on this behavior. If she were to say this I would recommend she talk to her T (if she has one. If she doesn't, then she should).
I don't think dying makes one happy. Certainly I don't think the process of dying is a very pleasant one.
Have you discussed the loss of your father with a T? It sounds as though you still have unresolved grief issues.
I think we know how to show love, or at least have ideas about how too, but I think things can make it difficult.
I don't often share my feelings with my family as they don't understand and often use things I say to attack me with. I express my love for them by cooking. I'm not sure if they get that. Probably they just think I'm feeding them. :)
I think individual therapy but maybe family counseling would be helpful too.
I hope everything works out for all of us and our friends and family (and pets!).
I think many of us feel nervous about posting. I think sometimes we feel threatened that others may reject or judge us. If we speak about something very important to us it can leave us feeling vulnerable. Being or feeling invalidated can hurt.
People with mh issues can clash, as can people without mh issues. I think with others with issues it can hurt because we expose ourselves by talking about our issues. When they clash or fight with us we often don't have the skills or resources to deal with the attack, which is quite often very personal.
I have found it quite painful to have others with similar diagnoses to myself reinforce how worthless and inadequate I am. Others can make out that they're OK but that others are below them or scraping the bottom of the barrel so to speak. It doesn't do much for our self-confidence and can leave us feeling hopeless and powerless.
If you're clashing it could be that you don't have the necessary relationship or communication skills. Also when this happens I think we could be unwell. I know that when my illnesses aren't managed and I don't feel contained I can become tired and grumpy, angry and frustrated. And my relationships suffer.
Can you look at ways to improve the situation or to defuse arguments? Is there anything specific you're clashing over?
Talking about stuff openly and honestly is always good policy.
Your mothers psychotic episodes shouldn't be that regular, should they? I mean if they are, doesn't that indicate that her condition isn't being managed?
I think you should have a contingency plan for when your mother does experience difficulties. Something like a crisis management plan indicating interventions for differing stages of unwellness. Maybe if you had a plan you wouldn't feel so overwhelmed and you would feel more in control and over time, more competent at dealing with these situations.
Not sad. I expect it would be frightening to see your mother so unwell.
My mother use to have seizures because of her head injuries. They were often frightening to watch.
You're vulnerable and perhaps have immature ways of dealing with stuff (who doesn't?) but heck who wouldn't want to hide. It's difficult to confront some illness.
A more mature response for ourselves would be to learn from the experience and to behave more appropriately (constructively) if the situation ever arose again.
I think we should perhaps embrace the opportunity to be more skillful. We shouldn't feel ashamed for how we have behaved though. We often do the best we can at the time with the skills we do have.
Your mother should not talk about suicide in this manner. She should not be using it to scare or manipulate you. I think she does this because she needs you for security. I expect she has a heap of fears herself.
I personally think you should set limits on this behavior. If she were to say this I would recommend she talk to her T (if she has one. If she doesn't, then she should).
I don't think dying makes one happy. Certainly I don't think the process of dying is a very pleasant one.
Have you discussed the loss of your father with a T? It sounds as though you still have unresolved grief issues.
I think we know how to show love, or at least have ideas about how too, but I think things can make it difficult.
I don't often share my feelings with my family as they don't understand and often use things I say to attack me with. I express my love for them by cooking. I'm not sure if they get that. Probably they just think I'm feeding them. :)
I think individual therapy but maybe family counseling would be helpful too.
I hope everything works out for all of us and our friends and family (and pets!).
Sounds like both of you have some issues you need to work out. Maybe you should try some type of family theropy or something. Do both of you see phyciatrists? It's not good for either one of you to deal with and hear each other talk like that. I hope you both can work out your issues. You sound like you do love her and are very concerned about her well being. All I can say is I hope it works out.
Good luck to both of you.
Good luck to both of you.
I know what you mean. When my Mom has a phycotic episode I am lost. I don't have a clue what to do. Used to my Dad would handle it but without him I don't know what to do. I usually end up in the corner hiding behind objects crying. I know sad huh. I told you I'm not mature. Maybe a mature person could deal with it. Maybe someone who is mentally sane could. Mom often talks about suicide and it scares me. She says she won't really do it that she mainly says it to scare me. I have suicidal thoughts too. It doesn't feel good to think that life is so hopeless that the only way to be happy is to die. And I know Mom is really feeling that way too. I really just wish my Dad was here. I feel so alone now. I know I have Mom and I love her. I really do allthough I don't always know how to show love. So I'm really sad a lot.
I'm glad you don't mind because I was nervous about posting something. I've read some of the things you two said and thought it was interesting. I know I don't always write a lot but I do sometimes. It can be frustrating when dealing with someone with mental illness as well because two people with mental problems tend to clash a lot. At least in my life we do. If I'm having a bad day then I usually start it. If she's in a bad mood she wants to argue. I think it could be our mental disorders causing us to argue. Before when we were kids we hardly ever fought. So I really enjoy when we can just hang out and neither one of us has an episode.
I agree I defenitly think it runs in families. I know it does in mine. That was an interesting formula. I've never heard of it before. So it was really interesting. And I don't mind you posting something as I just wrote in the A Little About Me post that if anyone has ideas feel free to post them. Good talking to both of you too.
We definitely don't mind. We've just been chatting amongst ourselves.
I think family history puts us at increased risk of developing a mental illness.
Also when a family has a set of maladaptive coping strategies they can be passed on.
My mother has had a history of anxiety and depression. I don't care to ask what else.
My brothers and sisters don't seem too bad but I think some of them have some emotional difficulties. Dad probably has issues too because he doesn't discuss things.
I guess if your parents are both dysfunctional then it follows that a child is more likely to become dysfunctional too.
Ages ago I was taught this formula. B = P x E. Behavior is a function of the person interacting with their environment. Environment plays a huge part in defining who we are. But it is not the only part.
People often like debating the nature/ nurture issue. I think both are relevant. Both our genetics and our upbringing.
Thanks for posting here!! We look forward to chatting to you some more. If you have any more questions, thoughts, etc -fire away.
Innerchild is the founder of this group but I don't think she minds. I'm sure she would welcome and encourage interaction. It was good talking to you both.
I think family history puts us at increased risk of developing a mental illness.
Also when a family has a set of maladaptive coping strategies they can be passed on.
My mother has had a history of anxiety and depression. I don't care to ask what else.
My brothers and sisters don't seem too bad but I think some of them have some emotional difficulties. Dad probably has issues too because he doesn't discuss things.
I guess if your parents are both dysfunctional then it follows that a child is more likely to become dysfunctional too.
Ages ago I was taught this formula. B = P x E. Behavior is a function of the person interacting with their environment. Environment plays a huge part in defining who we are. But it is not the only part.
People often like debating the nature/ nurture issue. I think both are relevant. Both our genetics and our upbringing.
Thanks for posting here!! We look forward to chatting to you some more. If you have any more questions, thoughts, etc -fire away.
Innerchild is the founder of this group but I don't think she minds. I'm sure she would welcome and encourage interaction. It was good talking to you both.
Well it defenitly runs in my family. I have a mom with schizoaffective disorder. Also an aunt of mine was mentally challenged. Someone else can't remember who also reported voices. It really ***** that Mom and I have the bad genes. My aunt and uncle and cousins in our imediate family don't have mental problems but unfortanly Mom and I do. It's ok I was having trouble coming up with a new post anyway. I'm still on the other one too. I still can't get over finding out Mom is schizoaffective. I'm so used to her being paranoid schizophranic. So it's still weird for me. Just found out her diagnosis last month.
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