i wanted to make my husband more enjoyable

[fattu]

im 23yrs and my husband of 28yrs.our marrage was on last december 24th.it was a love marrage ....on my first night he had tried to **** mebut i didnt allow him because i was very pain full..because he loves me a lot he didnt say anything and we slept..after that we had sex on next day.that was also pain full still i allow him because i dont want him to be disappointed.but now  my problem is im not able to enjoy the ****..and even now it is pain full for me...
i never mean that i cant enjoy any thing but im able to enjoy when he is with me,some funs,he is crazy on my breast-always he will be playing with that or he will be sucking it,etc....than *******.............and till now i couldnt make him moody but when ever we have sex he used to makes me...can you please give me some tips for that and tell me wht should i have to do to  get interest in sex????


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[AnnieBrooke]

Or also, I didn't think to mention, some gel or lubricant made for this purpose.  

[teko]

The mind has to be into it and if it is not, sex can be painful. I would get checked out and make sure everything is in working order first, and then reflect on the relationship to figure out why it is that you are not into it. Maybe you need more foreplay?

[RockRose]

Have you seen a doctor about this pain?  Normal,  gentle sex shouldn't hurt.  There's something wrong here,  and a doctor could probably help.

[AnnieBrooke]

If you are hurting, it is hard to get stimulated for sex.  Once penetration happens, it is less painful and he can finish and enjoy himself, but in order to get yourself to the point where you are enthused about it, you might need some other ways.  I would suggest you try drinking a little wine to see if that relaxes you, and maybe use lidocaine in the lower area so you know it won't hurt you.  Read sex manuals, try things by yourself, and see if you can understand your body and what it likes.