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My husband's 8 year old son sleeps in bed with him and not me
I'm confused. My husband, of 3 months 8 year-old son sleeps in our bed when he visits every other weekend. I sleep on the couch. NOW, his son requests every time that his two unmannerly cousins join him on weekend, then I sleep in the basement and they sleep in our bedroom and the other room/office. Our basement, when completed will be our living room. At this point, i don't want to complete it as it's my sanctuary and bedroom. It's where all my toiletree are and are staying, I'm tired of bring it up and down the steps.
I had asked my husband, originally, to make the second bedroom his son's room and that when his nephew come over all three can go downstairs and stay, he was mortified that I would cast them in the basement. So, I guess my punishment is banishment to the basement. I didn't think that was offensive. Was it?
I cry every other weekend, as I feel that my husband has cast me aside. I recently bought a rescue dog for them, upon their request. The dog was sick when we got him, he's better now, and his son requested that his two, again unruly, cousins come over again. I requested a break from the cousins, as the small house would be over crowded, coupled with the heat and the romper room that goes on, I didn’t say romper room.
My step son proceed to jump in his father's arms as he lay in bed and his father said as he held him tightly "they, his son and nephews, are the center of my world and if THEY want to be with the dog, mind you the dog is as sick as sick can be, and THAT'S what they get and his word is his bond." We ended up having to take the dog back to the vet as his medication wasn't working. I am no vet, but I think they and his lack of peace had a lot to do with his decline in health. So he needed shots and stronger meds, but his son and nephew had a fun.
It's like romper room when they are here. There are no boundaries. They jump on everything. They use plastic cups and leave everywhere, it 's like a club midway through their visit. He just sits there and plays frigging video games with them, feeds them junk food and then tries to impart wisdom on them. I'm like...Are you kidding me!!!! For real!!!! Give them some boundaries, structure and discipline, then impart “wisdom.”
I'm afraid to bring my four year-old nephew around his son as, intellectually, he will show him up and he will fight him. My husband met my nephew's twin sister and his comment was..."she speaks so clear." I was like cause and 8 year-old! Should not use po po language, WE USE STOOL, FECES!!!!
I feel like my husband and his son's mom are doing such a disadvantage to that kid by keeping him small. The mother uses him to hold onto my husband and my husband to cuddle his "baby boy." HE'S NOT A BABY!!!!
First, I believe his son is way to old to be sleeping in bed with his father. Second, when his son's around we have to be completely separate, no public forms of affection or touching of any kind. Third, his son speaks likes he's three. My four year-old nephew speaks better than him. WTH! I hate to keep judging, but I’m used to my nephew and niece’s intellect.
I just made my step son’s breakfast, which I have to for bonding purposes. I have to cut up his pancakes put the pancakes with beacon with SODA, what about water, orange juice or milk, on a tray and take it to him in “our” room and place it gently on the floor. Then when he’s done I must retrieve it, really-really-really, can we use the table and how about a real plate and fork.
I love my husband, but I'm in deep pain. I'm starting to resent his son and nephews. They make my world a living hell when they are here. Is this normal behavior?
I miss my husband. I cry for him. I feel like our sick dog last weekend, laying in his filth in the hallway as he, his son and nephews romped the weekend away and intermittently peeked in on the dog. I retreated to my banishment, the basement.
What am I too do, because I don’t see his son being able to leave their bed, which I share with them when he’s not here, anytime soon, and his nephews will always tag along as his sister nor her fiancée are ever around. He has two or three weeks visitation coming up soon. How’s that going to look?
Oh, last week he hinted that his nephew should stay with me during the day and play with the puppy and he will take them home at night, I am off this summer. I DON’T WANT TO BE SADDLED THOSE FRIGGING KIDSSSSSSSS!!!!!! They have parents and its’ not me. I do not want to become a free frigging babysitter for his lazy *** sister.
We argued, or rather her poofed last night, I relinquished to fight another day, preferable the honeymoon, we’re going on with his work wife and her husband. I’m frigging miserable!!!!!!
I cry a lot these days. I cry a lot.
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I had asked my husband, originally, to make the second bedroom his son's room and that when his nephew come over all three can go downstairs and stay, he was mortified that I would cast them in the basement. So, I guess my punishment is banishment to the basement. I didn't think that was offensive. Was it?
I cry every other weekend, as I feel that my husband has cast me aside. I recently bought a rescue dog for them, upon their request. The dog was sick when we got him, he's better now, and his son requested that his two, again unruly, cousins come over again. I requested a break from the cousins, as the small house would be over crowded, coupled with the heat and the romper room that goes on, I didn’t say romper room.
My step son proceed to jump in his father's arms as he lay in bed and his father said as he held him tightly "they, his son and nephews, are the center of my world and if THEY want to be with the dog, mind you the dog is as sick as sick can be, and THAT'S what they get and his word is his bond." We ended up having to take the dog back to the vet as his medication wasn't working. I am no vet, but I think they and his lack of peace had a lot to do with his decline in health. So he needed shots and stronger meds, but his son and nephew had a fun.
It's like romper room when they are here. There are no boundaries. They jump on everything. They use plastic cups and leave everywhere, it 's like a club midway through their visit. He just sits there and plays frigging video games with them, feeds them junk food and then tries to impart wisdom on them. I'm like...Are you kidding me!!!! For real!!!! Give them some boundaries, structure and discipline, then impart “wisdom.”
I'm afraid to bring my four year-old nephew around his son as, intellectually, he will show him up and he will fight him. My husband met my nephew's twin sister and his comment was..."she speaks so clear." I was like cause and 8 year-old! Should not use po po language, WE USE STOOL, FECES!!!!
I feel like my husband and his son's mom are doing such a disadvantage to that kid by keeping him small. The mother uses him to hold onto my husband and my husband to cuddle his "baby boy." HE'S NOT A BABY!!!!
First, I believe his son is way to old to be sleeping in bed with his father. Second, when his son's around we have to be completely separate, no public forms of affection or touching of any kind. Third, his son speaks likes he's three. My four year-old nephew speaks better than him. WTH! I hate to keep judging, but I’m used to my nephew and niece’s intellect.
I just made my step son’s breakfast, which I have to for bonding purposes. I have to cut up his pancakes put the pancakes with beacon with SODA, what about water, orange juice or milk, on a tray and take it to him in “our” room and place it gently on the floor. Then when he’s done I must retrieve it, really-really-really, can we use the table and how about a real plate and fork.
I love my husband, but I'm in deep pain. I'm starting to resent his son and nephews. They make my world a living hell when they are here. Is this normal behavior?
I miss my husband. I cry for him. I feel like our sick dog last weekend, laying in his filth in the hallway as he, his son and nephews romped the weekend away and intermittently peeked in on the dog. I retreated to my banishment, the basement.
What am I too do, because I don’t see his son being able to leave their bed, which I share with them when he’s not here, anytime soon, and his nephews will always tag along as his sister nor her fiancée are ever around. He has two or three weeks visitation coming up soon. How’s that going to look?
Oh, last week he hinted that his nephew should stay with me during the day and play with the puppy and he will take them home at night, I am off this summer. I DON’T WANT TO BE SADDLED THOSE FRIGGING KIDSSSSSSSS!!!!!! They have parents and its’ not me. I do not want to become a free frigging babysitter for his lazy *** sister.
We argued, or rather her poofed last night, I relinquished to fight another day, preferable the honeymoon, we’re going on with his work wife and her husband. I’m frigging miserable!!!!!!
I cry a lot these days. I cry a lot.
This discussion is related to 7 YEAR OLD BOY SLEEPING WITH MOM..
I'm a bit late on this post but anyway...I feel like I'm in the exact situation only it's with my mom and her grandkids--my nephew and niece. I live with her and my daughter and we feel it's an imbalanced situation. My dad just passed away and I've been helping to care for him for the last 6 years. The grandkids come over every weekend and will be here 4 days for the Christmas weekend. Seems like they're just dropped off whenever there's a school break and long holiday weekends. Where are the parents you ask??--working at they're two businesses but with a very flexible and relaxed schedule. Will provide details later if anyone is out there to provide input.
I agree with margypops... you're just gonna have to lay down the law!! If it doesn't stop then you're gonna have to figure out if this is how you want your life to be. Will your husband always put your needs and wants about other things last as well?? You are his wife and he should be on the same page as you. Good luck
You have to get tough, real tough, you have to start laying down some rules and consequences, this isnt good enough, you will be crying forever if you dont, tell your husband that you sleep in your bed, you do not need the nephews there say so tell the parents sorry cant do it anymore ...Its in your hands, stop feeling sorry and stand up and be counted if you dont then you may as well leave ...good luck
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