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Very confused
by matthew78, Feb 12, 2006 12:00AM
Dear Doctor, your site has been a comfort for me the last weeks, and I hope you can advice me in my very uncomfortable situation.
Over three months ago, I cheated on my long-term gf for the first and last time as I let a street hooker perform oral sex on me. For as long as she performed the bj, I wore a condom. Then I took it off and masturbated myself until I came (while she massaged the testicles).
Four days after the incident, I felt some discomfort in the penis and in the urethra. I went to a dermatologist/std specialist on the sixth day and got checked for chlamydia, gonorrea and other microbes. Nothing came up. However, some days later, the symptoms worsened, and I had severe pain between the anus and the testicles (very strange. However, had no discharge, no pain while urinating, but some pain after). I went to the ER, and a new doctor prescribed 200mg doxyline for one week.
The pain went away, but until this day, I have a strange sensation in that area. I got many other symptoms the following weeks (coated tongue, armpit tenderness, seborroic eczema, acnes, rashes, HSV 1 outbreaks on lips), so I took HIV tests at 3 and 8 weeks, just to calm my nerves. They were negative.
Having made the biggest mistake in my life, I decided to act responsibly, but without telling my gf what had happened. I took the tests to make sure she would not become infected. The doctors told me not to worry, and to resume sex with my gf. Which I did after the first HIV test was negative. I trusted the doctors' recommendations, and considered myself clean. However, after more than three months, I still have a yellow coated tongue, as well as a sensation in the groin area.
What's worse, just about a week after our first intercourse, my gf complained about a funny tickling feeling in the vagina and soreness while having sex. A few nights ago, she started complaining about lower abdominal pain, which she said was not regular stomach ache, but something else. She feels tired, and has had more headaches than she normally has.
The problem is that she thinks it is just something that will pass, while I suspect it being PID.
What should I do? I have been told by three doctors that I am clean, so in theory I should not have been able to pass anything onto her. Both me and her not feeling well suggests otherwise, and I do not want her to become infertile. I therefore want her to see a doctor, without being linked to her condition.
Is it possible to aqcquire PID from a normal bacteria that I could have had in my mouth, for instance?
How does the PID pain feel like? Is it constant, or does it come on and off?
If I do have an ongoing NGU, will it eventually cure itself? I am asking this because the doctors basically have closed my case, and I am not going back.
What do you make of my coated tongue? Is that an std-issue?
I don't know if you can help me, but I know you wish the best for your users at this forum. Please advice me!
Over three months ago, I cheated on my long-term gf for the first and last time as I let a street hooker perform oral sex on me. For as long as she performed the bj, I wore a condom. Then I took it off and masturbated myself until I came (while she massaged the testicles).
Four days after the incident, I felt some discomfort in the penis and in the urethra. I went to a dermatologist/std specialist on the sixth day and got checked for chlamydia, gonorrea and other microbes. Nothing came up. However, some days later, the symptoms worsened, and I had severe pain between the anus and the testicles (very strange. However, had no discharge, no pain while urinating, but some pain after). I went to the ER, and a new doctor prescribed 200mg doxyline for one week.
The pain went away, but until this day, I have a strange sensation in that area. I got many other symptoms the following weeks (coated tongue, armpit tenderness, seborroic eczema, acnes, rashes, HSV 1 outbreaks on lips), so I took HIV tests at 3 and 8 weeks, just to calm my nerves. They were negative.
Having made the biggest mistake in my life, I decided to act responsibly, but without telling my gf what had happened. I took the tests to make sure she would not become infected. The doctors told me not to worry, and to resume sex with my gf. Which I did after the first HIV test was negative. I trusted the doctors' recommendations, and considered myself clean. However, after more than three months, I still have a yellow coated tongue, as well as a sensation in the groin area.
What's worse, just about a week after our first intercourse, my gf complained about a funny tickling feeling in the vagina and soreness while having sex. A few nights ago, she started complaining about lower abdominal pain, which she said was not regular stomach ache, but something else. She feels tired, and has had more headaches than she normally has.
The problem is that she thinks it is just something that will pass, while I suspect it being PID.
What should I do? I have been told by three doctors that I am clean, so in theory I should not have been able to pass anything onto her. Both me and her not feeling well suggests otherwise, and I do not want her to become infertile. I therefore want her to see a doctor, without being linked to her condition.
Is it possible to aqcquire PID from a normal bacteria that I could have had in my mouth, for instance?
How does the PID pain feel like? Is it constant, or does it come on and off?
If I do have an ongoing NGU, will it eventually cure itself? I am asking this because the doctors basically have closed my case, and I am not going back.
What do you make of my coated tongue? Is that an std-issue?
I don't know if you can help me, but I know you wish the best for your users at this forum. Please advice me!
Doctor's Answer
by H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D., Feb 12, 2006 12:00AM
, Feb 12, 2006 12:00AM
You could not have acquired any STD from the exposure you describe. The symptoms you had could not have been related to that event, except for the possibility of anxiety over the exposure or perhaps urethral irritation due to spermicide in the condom.
There are too many causes of abdominal or pelvic pain for me to speculate about whether your GF might have PID. Some causes of such pain are very serious, and she should see her health care provider right away. Whatever she has, it cannot be related to your sexual misadventure. You need not mention it to her or her doctor.
Many things cause coated tongue. A garden variety cold is the most common.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
There are too many causes of abdominal or pelvic pain for me to speculate about whether your GF might have PID. Some causes of such pain are very serious, and she should see her health care provider right away. Whatever she has, it cannot be related to your sexual misadventure. You need not mention it to her or her doctor.
Many things cause coated tongue. A garden variety cold is the most common.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
A net doctor in my country - who like Dr. HHH is also sympathetic and not trying to scare people - claims that there are certain bacterias that condoms might not entirely protect against. These could potentially cause NGU.
My gf and I have been living together for many years, and she has never complained about pelvic pain before. I cannnot imagine that it is a coincidence that she gets these symptoms right after we resumed having sex...
What symptoms did you have imdumb?
I have never heard of any bacteria that a condom would not protect from getting in the ureatha. There are some virus that are skin-to-skin that condoms are less effetcive for. Syphillis, Herpes and HPV. But these would show up as sores or warts, not pain the ureatha. Plus condoms are effetive against these, just not 100% becuase the can infect where the condom doesn't cover, such as the base of the penis. The condom is 100% effetive against things like HIV, Chlamydia and gonnorrea as long as it doesn't break of slip off.
I hade vague and strange feeling in my ureatha near the tip. Not really a burn, just sort of "irriation". It magically went away when I got my negative tests and occupied my mind with other things.
HHH, MD