Habitual Miscarriage

[jifnif]

Hi, I guess you all read that I miscarried yesterday at 6 weeks.  It wasnt nearly as bad as the first but it hurts my heart just the same.  I had asked the dr if I am now a habitual miscarrier and he said "no"!!! That I would have to have 4 or 5 to be considered habitual.  He said they do nothing for 2nd timers.  Dont your chances of miscarrying go up after two miscarriages??  How many woman have had 2 or more miscarriages and gone on to have successful pregnancies??  Oh, and a lot of people are telling me it is my age, I am 37.  Jeez, is this true too????

[lc1213]

my cousin had 2 miscarriages and now she is pregnant and due in oct.... so its quite possible

and my old neighbor she had a baby at 16 then it died within a few days but went on to have like 6-7 miscarriages and then at 36 she got prego with her son who is 15 this yr...so anything is possible....

[jifnif]

sorry i posted twice...:(

[anxiousmomtobe?]

It is true that over 35 we are more likely to hatch a bad egg, that doesn't mean you will not have a healthy baby.  I had two mc last year at 39 and am now 37 weeks pregnant at 40.  So I know this can happen to you too.  I didn't have any help to get pregnant, in fact we had decided to stop trying due to my age.  Of course that's when it happens.  Some docs will run tests after two mc, some wait until 3 or more.

I hope you feel better soon.

[kierstynsmommy]

I have had 3 consecutive miscarriages and I am now preggo again and I hit 12 weeks tomorrow. Ive had 5 in my life...It is really hard, with each one, it feels like a piece of you dies too. Your time will come, I believe that. Maybe you should just let your body rest a bit and then try again later. Dont give up though, at least you know you can get pregnant! I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Good luck in the future.

[kellym]

Mine goes-Missed Misscarriage-BABY-Miscarriage..... My friend had several m/c before her first live birth and  went on to have 2 healthy children afterwards. Do you think you are going to try again this cycle? Rumor has it you ovulate before your first AF so I've been OPK'ing like crazy. I believe they are getting darker. Tomorrow will be 2 weeks for me. I really hate that we both just went through the same thing. That for sure has to mean the next time is the charm? Maybe it was a sign that neither of us had any symptoms??

[ang79]

I know there is someone who posts on here who has had 5 miscarriages and gone on to have a healthy baby. It is a lof of hearbreak to make it though to eventually end up with a healthy baby, but that reward at the end has to be sweet. I am hoping I don't miscarry this time around also. I have posted good thought messages all over my house to remind myself to think positive thoughts and not negative thoughts. I guess we will see if it works :). I count myself lucky though that all I have gone through is an early m/c and not what my friend has gone though who has had one baby die 10 days after he was born of an extrememly rare heart defect and just had an ectopic pregnancy and lost one of her fallopian tubes. I am not sure I would have the strength to try again after all of that, but she was telling me yesterday that the desire to have kids of her own outweighs her fears and that she will try again as soon as she is healed. I think that is pretty inspirational.

[jifnif]

what is the rumor about ovulating early???  Heck i will be on that.  I was so looking forward to this.  I know we all are, but dang ...it kills me hard!!  i dont opk but I will be bd-ing just for the heck of it.  so sorry you are going through this too!!!  I will be praying for you to get a lil sticky one!!!  :)

[DollChina]

Hey girl, I am sorry to hear that...my thoughts are with you.  I only had one MC so I have no answer but hang in there.
Dolly

[mlb1234]

i had 2 m/c and am now 15 weeks.  my re said to wait for 2 cycles before trying again, we did and got pregnant on the third.  i was also on baby aspirin and extra folic acid to help reduce m/c risk.  i took prometrium after ovulation on th e cycle i got pregnant this time.  after my 2nd m/c they did run a bunch of tests (for antibodies, etc) since the newest research says it is better to test after two m/c than wait for the 3rd.  i don't think your risk changes much after 2.  you still have a very good chance of a successful pregnancy.  good luck!

[kellym]

[mum2beagain]

I had my first child (born @ 32 weeks, he has hydrocaphalus and cerebral palsy) then what I think was a chemical pregnancy, then two miscarriages then went on to have my second child earlier this year, I am 32 and hope to have another child in the next 4 or 5 years. I am afraid of more miscarriages and possibly another premature birth but the joy I get from my children would make me climb a mountain to have another.

Hang in there, best wishes

Jo

[kellym]

I've looked all over the internet. They say to count your M/C as first day of AF. so you should ovulate before your next AF. My OPK's are getting darker, a bit at a time.. but Thursday (tomorrow) will be 2 weeks for me. Your hcg was higher than mine, are they going to monitor it back to zero to make sure there is no left pregnancy tissue?

[jifnif]

yes, i get tested tomorrow morning for the hcg again and i have an appt w/ obgyn at 2pm.  I went for a walk yesterday when i came home to help clear my head and also while doing that i had a big gush.  i did have retained products on the ultrasound so hopefully that gush got em all out.  I feel better today.  :)  Keep me posted with your tww and such.  I will be pulling for you and me too!!

[jennyb473]

I've had 4 mc and no live births - yet - so I cannot attest to whether or not I will be a success story or not.  I do know that if you push your doctor and take charge of your own health care you should be able to get in with an RE after 2 mc - especially with your age.  Without any prior history you are considered high risk at this point simply because you would deliver a baby past age 35.  I would highly suggest taking a little break and finding out if there is a reason for your losses by seeing an RE and getting every test under the sun done.  Let yourself have time to grieve and heal before trying again.  They say you are more fertile after a mc but if you do get pg again and you have been having the same problem with your last 2 you will probably lose the next one as well.  I saw an RE after my 2nd and then thought I knew what he had planned for me and stopped going to him - and then I lost #3.  I kick myself for that all the time - what if what if what if.  I'll never know, but I do know that under my RE's care I made it further with my 4th than with the others, so maybe we are on to something now.  I don't know that I can handle another loss, but am willing to do what I need to do to get myself in tip top shape for it to work before we start trying again so I hopefully won't have to find out if I can handle it again.  My DH and I are going to start ttc after this cycle as long as my RE gives me the go ahead.  Hopefully I will be able to post soon that I am a success and can carry to term after 4 mc.  Good luck you

[jifnif]

i will be thinking of you...thanks for the kind words. :)

[shayla1]

I had a miscarriage in March 06, another miscarriage February 07...am currently 17 weeks pregnant...I thought for sure I was doomed for 3 times in a row.  However they say even after two your chances are around 70% that your next pregnancy will turn out just fine.